The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 5 If you want to paint a picture of happiness, you must resolutely stay away from inferior men (2)
But having said that, there are also quite a few women who conquer the world by relying on their faces. They use their innate resources to kill all the men and bow their heads.They know how to manage themselves at a young age, and they don't waste the good time of life.But, don't forget one thing - there is no such thing as a free lunch!Without paying, there is no gain.If you get rich clothes and good food, you must pay your youth and body.

In short, as a woman, you must not let men's tricks confuse your mind, and then act as a man's business card.In the face of unreasonable demands from men, you have the right to say "no" anytime and anywhere.

Violent men - men who beat women are not good men
Jia Baoyu knows that women are made of water, and they are meant to be used for pain and love. However, in reality, some men hold their women in their palms when they are happy, but they can almost beat his women when they are mad. half dead.The type of husband in the TV series "Don't Talk to Strangers" is a nightmare for many women.

Taplin is a well-known international marriage guru.He used a very humorous way to teach single women the "Choosing a Mate".One of them is that "men with violent tendencies" and women should never touch them.

If your boyfriend has a bad temper, tends to be violent, is prone to violent mood swings, or is prone to chronic depression, sooner or later he will use you as a target for his anger and even hurt you.Even if he doesn't treat you that way, your life will revolve around his immaturity and uncontrollable emotions.You have to live with this self-punishing relationship for a long time.When some women talk about dealing with this kind of man, they are quite proud: "Only I can deal with him." That is a portrayal of a "spiritual toilet" relationship, not a portrayal of a healthy adult relationship.

Taplin also pointedly pointed out that the relationship between healthy adults is based on mutual respect, and both parties benefit from the relationship: material, spiritual, and self-esteem.

So, how can a woman know whether the other party has violent tendencies?Consider the following questions.

1. What does he do when he is angry?
No matter how trivial your dispute is, he's constantly threatening to throw things, hit walls, break things, hurt you, etc.This is a red flag that shows his lack of self-control.

2. Was he cruel to animals or was he violent toward others?

You should watch to see if he agrees with the idea that it is acceptable to use violence to get something.

3. Is he trying to control you?
Does he behave in ways that seem out of concern but interfere too much with your freedom of life?For example, governing how you dress and how you live your life, perhaps even to the point where you feel like you can't make decisions without him.

4. Has he ever hit you?
No matter how he apologizes afterwards, once he hits you once, he has broken the taboo of the relationship.

5. Does he value your opinion?

The abuser's low self-esteem often leads him to want to control the will and actions of others in order to enhance his self-esteem.He is often self-centered, ignoring your opinion and your right to choose.

6. Does he approve or approve of you pursuing your own interests?

The low self-esteem of the abuser often makes you feel threatened by your pursuit of personal ideals, making you unwilling to pursue your own interests, growth, and development.

7. Is he polarized?

Emotional polarization is a reflection of personality immaturity: when he is in a good mood, he is kind, but when he is angry, he is quite violent and cruel.

8. Did he come from a violent family?
Children who grow up in violent families often learn to use violence to solve problems.

In addition, with regard to violent tendencies, some men can see it from their words and deeds, but some men hide it deeply, and once they break out, they cannot be restrained.Next, we will teach you a few tricks of facial appearance. If the following conditions are met, the violent tendency of this man is obvious.

1. Curly hair
Those with curly and hard hair are more stubborn and rude, and are born to cause trouble.Those with a short tone and a hoarse voice all indicate a lack of endurance and are easy to move rough.

2. Messy eyebrows and protruding brow bones

Eyebrows are the heart.If the eyebrows are particularly obvious in the facial features, not only thick and thick, but also there is no space between the two eyebrows, and they are connected in a line, then most people with such eyebrows have violent personalities, vicious methods, and a strong tendency to do things.And people with messy eyebrows are easy to discriminate between right and wrong, unreasonable, indiscriminate and just add fists and kicks.In addition, people with protruding eyebrows are impulsive and prone to trouble, while people with scattered brows are more emotional and difficult to deal with things rationally.

3. Three white eyes, protruding eyes

People with triple white eyes have very small eyeballs, and when you look straight ahead, you will see whites on three sides. They are generally more selfish, and most of them disturb unreasonably and want to save face.If you add the whites around your pupils, it is even more unreasonable. When you are dissatisfied with the reality, you will often resort to force. As the people around you, you are most likely to suffer.If you add protruding eyes, you will be arrogant and impulsive.In addition, people with protruding eyes almost jump out of their sockets when they are angry. Most of these people are irritable, have low self-control, and are prone to violent fights.

4. Evil eyes

The right eye is big, indicating that he loves to bully his wife.The eyes are fierce and suffocating, which means that they have a strong personality and are always arguing with others.Those with red tendons in the eyes often have a lot of anger and have a strong and irritable temperament.

5. Lonely Peak

People with a high nose bridge, if there is no meat on the cheekbones next to the nose, they are called "solitary peaks and towering peaks" in physiognomy. They are often self-centered, narrow-minded, relatively selfish, not good at communicating with others, difficult to get along with, and will make people rude. Feeling unreasonable, and doing things more viciously.

6. Cheekbones exposed
The cheekbones are protruding and tall, but there is no flesh covering them. This kind of person has an extreme and fiery personality, and his heart is generally mean.If the cheekbones are protruding horizontally, they are very vicious and have a strong desire for revenge. They are easy to beat people to solve problems, and generally show little kindness and no righteousness.

7. Narrow forehead
People with flat foreheads and narrow foreheads are generally not too broad-minded to accommodate others; and the main fortune is not very smooth. If you are in a bad mood, you will inevitably blame others.

The man who eats soft rice - do you love me or my money

I once read an interesting article. The title of the article seems to be "The Glory of the "Ruanfan Era"", which roughly says: There used to be a tradition in European upper class society. The posture helps those talented cultural people, and those cultural people have to rely on these "rich women" because of the pressure of life. Therefore, compared with men, they and the ladies constitute a kind of "soft food" Relationship.

Among the ranks of "eating soft rice", the author of the article listed some great names such as Rousseau, Tchaikovsky, and Balzac; There are Mrs. Hualong and Mrs. Meck who fascinate people. They played multiple roles in the process of interacting with the former-mother, lover, and of course the most important roles of "bank cash machine" and "life consumption card" .

Madame Vallon, she was a 18-year-old widow when she met 28-year-old Rousseau.It is not surprising that the young Rousseau fell in love with her. The mature beauty of his wife made Rousseau do all kinds of stupid things in love: kiss the bed she slept on, crawl on the floor where she walked, and eat the meat spit out of her mouth... … all of this is nothing more than a normal love reaction.The one who really amazed us was Mrs. Vallon.After thinking about it, the lady decided to use her body to guide Rousseau's lust, and she turned this lingering into a sex education class.Behind Mrs. Hualong's behavior, there is naturally a set of morals different from our traditional "Daughter's Book".

Mrs. Meck was also a widow, and her late husband left her a considerable inheritance, which allowed her to finance her music career.Mrs. Meck had been in contact with Tchaikovsky for 13 years, with more than 1100 correspondences, and remitted 6000 rubles to Tchaikovsky every year.However, Mrs. Meck and Master Chai belong to the type of "spiritual friendship". The wife only confines her love for the master to the letter expression, and tries her best to avoid face-to-face meeting with Tchaikovsky.This is of course a completely different form of expression of love from Mrs. Hualong.

However, in Chinese history, eating "soft rice" is not very acceptable, which has something to do with women's status and space for activities.Usually, the Chinese generally believe that men should earn more money than women, which is like at sunset or under the cover of night, a man primitive should carry back a wild boar, and a woman primitive should carry back A few fish are enough to prove the strength of the ability to obtain material, which can be used as another criterion of male sexual characteristics.If you can't earn more, that's okay, but you have to look like a man, work with your hands, and comfort your dignity.Engaging in labor is a man's bottom line. Once he gives up this responsibility, it will be very suspicious whether he is still a man.

When you meet a man who "always asks women for money", you have to clearly understand that he just treats you as a bank that can overdraw money and feelings infinitely.With you, whatever he needs, you will give him.It is good to be able to love unconditionally, but the premise must be that your basic conditions have been met.

What's more, men have masculinity in their bones. Even if you are the pillar of the family and earn enough money, after a long time, he will feel that he can't hold his head up in front of others.Then, he will vent his inferiority complex in various ways: criticism, abuse, anger, what's more, he will look for a girlfriend with a lower status than himself to satisfy his self-esteem needs.

Of course, saying this does not mean that we encourage women to find rich men.However, think about it, if a man can't even earn money to support his family, then even if he gets married, it is impossible to maintain it normally.You will be his feeder, that's for sure.

Ang Lee, graduated from New York University with a major in film production in 1983, is an internationally renowned director and a leading figure among Chinese directors. He has been devoted to film work all his life and has directed countless classic films.The first film "Pushing Hands" he directed won the Best Film Award at the Asia-Pacific Film Festival, and won three awards in a row at the Golden Horse Awards, which is an outstanding achievement. "The Wedding Banquet" in 1993, "Sense and Sensibility" in 1995, and "Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon" in 2000. In 2005, he directed the gay cowboy epic "Brokeback Mountain" and made Ang Lee the first Asian director to win the best director Oscar.At the same time, "Brokeback Mountain" also won the best adapted screenplay and best composition awards.

After graduating from Ang Lee University, he began to wait in the United States for 6 years, relying on his wife, who is a drug researcher, to work outside to support the family.Every day at home, besides reading a lot, watching a lot of movies, and writing scripts, he also takes care of all the housework, buying vegetables, cooking and taking care of the children.After finishing dinner every evening, he and his son excitedly waited for "the heroic mother hunter to bring her prey home".

After winning the Oscar statuette, Ang Lee and his wife went shopping in the Chinese area. A woman from Taiwan said to Lin Huijia, Mrs. Ang Lee, "You are lucky. Sir, I still have time to accompany you to buy vegetables!" Lin Huijia robbed him: "Did you make a mistake? I took the time to accompany him to buy vegetables today."

Ang Lee said that when he was poor, he was supported by his wife, but now as a director, he shows off his power outside, and when he goes home, he does mind exercises, cooks, and "begs" his wife to scold him.It's easier to calm down if my wife repairs it, it's a balance.

Li An has been raised by a woman for six or seven years. Although he is his lover, these six years must be unforgettable to him.

In other words, for a man who has a family and lives, what is terrible is not that he will be soft for a while, but he is afraid that he will be soft for his whole life.A man who eats his wife's soft food always lacks a sense of dignity unless he has no choice, and a professional soft man who only eats a woman's soft food is especially harmful.The difference, woman, you must see it clearly and clearly.

A man with personality problems - he can't give you the happiness you want

Drug abuse, alcoholism, impulsiveness, gambling, and constant imprisonment, these vices are easy to perform repeatedly on the stage of a man's life, and the situation is good and bad. A woman who establishes a romantic relationship with a man who has these vices, whether it is love life or Married life will be a mess, because the last wrong thing these men do will always disrupt the normal rhythm of their lives.

There are some women who like to save people, daydreaming that he will turn his prodigal son back one day.The truth is, these guys apologize and make excuses like a regular thing, every time they beg you to stay, they swear he'll change his mind and be a better person next time, but in reality he's just a "giant in words, dwarf in action" That's all.

For selfish men who don't consider other people's feelings, women should not easily provoke them.A man who is stingy and sloppy is acceptable, but a selfish man is absolutely unacceptable.Putting yourself first in everything, never considering other people's feelings.If you want to spend your whole life with such a man, you must think clearly.

If you want to pursue the picture of marital happiness, then the man who plays "carrot on the stick" is also untouchable.Usually, this type of man is often outstanding, or very charming, or rich, or possesses certain power or influence... In short, there are many things in them that women dream of.

This type of man not only knows this, but also very cunningly plays the "carrot and little donkey" trick with you.If your other person always puts something that tempts you in front of you, but you always seem to be chasing a mirage and never get that thing, then you are that little donkey who is dominated.As ugly as it sounds, the truth is that you're in it, enjoying it, and not knowing that you're just someone else's plaything.

Therefore, a woman should keep her eyes open, and once she senses that a man is playing this kind of trick, she should swing her sword to cut off her love and find another man.

(End of this chapter)