The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 6 Play tricks in love and hunt down the good man you like (1)
Use "help" to hunt good men
Countless romances have been established with the help of you coming and going.

Women make small requests, which will attract the attention of the person they like and win favor, and slightly burdensome requests can increase the favorability.However, the size must be strictly grasped.

A psychologist once did such an experiment. He told the participants in advance that "this is an experiment about the effect of knowledge rewards", and they can get bonuses for answering questions correctly, ranging from 60 cents to 30 dollars.In the experiment, some experiment participants were really given bonuses.When the experiment was about to end, the experiment executor sincerely made a request to the winner: "I used my own money for this experiment, and now the experimental funds have been used up, and we still need to carry out the following experiment, so can you please You return the prize?" Most accepted and returned the prize.

Those who participated in the experiment went to the office to fill out the survey report after the end, and one of the questions asked in the form was "favorability to the experiment executor".Here we can compare the differences in the favorability of the people who are asked to return the bonus to the executor (this is the real purpose of the experiment).

The results of the experiment prove that the person who returns the bonus has the highest favorability with the executor.And the person who returned the $[-] liked the executor more than the person who returned the [-] cents.

It can be seen that making a small request can attract the other party's attention and win goodwill, and a slightly burdensome request can increase the goodwill, because people who help others are happier themselves and have goodwill towards the person they help .Of course, excessive requests will definitely be rejected, so we must grasp the degree of request.

If you love him, ask him for a favor. This will not only give yourself a chance to fall in love, but also bring you one step closer to him and one step closer to happiness.

Use "scheming" to hunt good men
When a woman finally meets the ideal man, she usually cherishes it very much, but cherishing it is not enough. How can you make him stay by your side willingly and make other competitors fearful?May wish to use a careful machine, try the following methods.

[-]. "Expose" the relationship

Let everyone know that the two of you are lovers, let him ride the "tiger" hard, and he can't back down!For example, when meeting with his friends, call him by his nickname or your special nickname, or even call him "husband" intimately, or help him adjust the buttons like a good wife; Complain to him or your friends: "Hey, he is really like a child. He only knows about work and career every day. Without me, he doesn't know how to take care of himself." While talking, he looked at him with infinite love ; Occasionally call his company and tell his colleagues to remind him to take medicine and add more clothes.He has to work overtime, so he asked his colleague to convey it on his behalf: "I'll make a midnight snack and wait for him."

In this way, if he dares to form a new love, he may be charged with the accusation of rebellion, abandonment, and ungratefulness, and become the target of public criticism. Can he bear it?In addition, another advantage is that you can use the openness of intimacy to exclude dissidents, prevent other people from coveting, and cut off his way to find another object.In this way, he has no choice but to obediently walk into the wedding hall with you.

[-]. Give gifts from time to time

Buy him some small gifts from time to time, and at the same time, you can attach your confession.For example, you can buy him a scarf and say to him: "I am like this scarf, I will always surround you!" Or buy a fluffy dog ​​for him and say to him: "I am like a puppy I will always guard you loyally!" Or send a beautiful doll and whisper in his ear: "I hope our baby will be so cute in the future." His heart will definitely soften a little bit.When his bed table is covered with all kinds of small gifts from you, he can't even miss you.

[-]. Contact at least once a day

If he receives a text message from you every afternoon, won't he feel very happy?Maybe you will meet at night, but you will maintain this habit anyway, even if it is only a few words.This text message has become the emotional link between you, letting him know that you still miss him in your busy schedule, what could move him more than this?This practice is very common among lovers who are in a strong relationship, and they will not let each other lose contact, not even for a day.The pace of life in modern society is tense and the work pressure is heavy. It is very likely that two people will not be able to see each other for several days. Whether it is phone calls, text messages, or emails, it is nothing more than expressing: Although we cannot meet, our hearts will always be together.

[-]. Leverage to fuel the flames
The so-called "unity is powerful", you might as well use the strength of your relatives and friends to jointly promote the further development of your relationship.For example, you can please his parents, win over his relatives, and let them urge him: "I'm not young, and I'm not going to start a family soon, let's have grandchildren early." He: "I heard that your good news is coming soon, when will you have a wedding?" Or pretend to be infatuated with the sun and watch him, so that his friends can't see it and put pressure on him: "She is a good woman Let’s marry her early!” In the caring eyes and inquiries of everyone, he will definitely agree to your marriage proposal “at the request of the audience”.

[-]. Raise your worth

If your lover thinks that you will be his person, or thinks that you are a "unpopular product" that no one is chasing, maybe he will not know how to cherish you.Then, give him a little "crisis awareness"!Tell him through a friend: "Someone is chasing your girlfriend hard." Or, intentionally or unintentionally, act like you are annoyed by being chased, fabricate some "love encounters", hire a "rival in love", and show that you are chasing after you. The plot of fighting and entanglement created the illusion of "bidding" and stimulated him to "grab the bid".After he tries his best to defeat the fake love rival, he will cherish you even more and regard you as a treasure in his palm.Just like the warriors in ancient Europe, in order to win the hearts of beauties, they would not hesitate to meet in a duel to have a showdown.Only love that has been tested can last forever; only through turbulent struggles can the fruit of marriage appear sweeter and more precious.

In order to hold him firmly in your hand, you must master these little tricks.Properly raise your social status and keep surprising him, are you afraid you won't be able to catch him?

6. Keep a calm mind
Few people only love once in a lifetime. Nine out of ten loves end in breaking up. We should treat reunion and parting with normality.Without anyone, life has to go on.It's easy to get together and get together, don't "cry, make trouble, and hang yourself", this will only make yourself very pitiful.

With these scheming tricks, it will be easy for a woman to capture the prince's heart, and she will be one step closer to happiness.

Use "telling" to hunt good men
When two people get along, many conflicts are bound to occur. At this time, how can a woman hold the prince's heart tightly in her own hands? You might as well use the method of "telling".

In fact, when two people with different life backgrounds are together, conflicts are inevitable. If you are unhappy, you must speak up.Only in this way can the contradiction be eliminated in the bud.

After all, everyone is an independent individual with an independent personality and persistence.Because of this, everyone will behave differently, and be uniquely discovered and valued in the vast crowd.If you are a person without personality, it will be easy to be ignored by the world.

At the beginning of the relationship, both of them were exploring each other's personality, life attitude, and living habits.Although we always say verbally, "Love is to tolerate everything about the other person", such aimless tolerance can only be achieved during the passionate love period and blind love.

We can't expect the other party to have a complete grasp of us from the beginning and know our various preferences.Because of this part, it takes time and communication to understand.The process of dating is the process of groping for each other.If you find that the other party has advantages that you like, you should praise him with all your strength, and if you find that the other party has shortcomings that you cannot accept, you should also communicate rationally.This is an important goal of dating.

Let the other party know that it doesn't have to be accepted by the other party.Maybe the other person accepts it, maybe it doesn't, but in any case, you need to speak your mind.Tell your unhappy things directly or tactfully, and let the other party try to accept or try to get along with you in harmony.

A lot of relationships start out great, but never end.Some people say that this is "combination because of misunderstanding, separation because of understanding".In fact, this kind of regret does not need to exist, as long as you express yourself completely when you are passionately in love, and try your best to adjust your pace while the other party is still hot.

Even if the love will be overwhelmed, in order to ensure the long-term relationship, we can't blindly accept all the unhappiness in getting along.Say all the unhappy things, like you don't like drinking coffee, you don't like shopping...it doesn't matter, the important thing is that you must say it.

Don't insist on putting on a smile every time you are obviously uncomfortable on a date, so as to maintain a good atmosphere on the date.If you do this, you may wait until the love period is over, all the annoying things become more annoying, and even people become annoying, then you can only go to break up.

Speak it out, no matter how happy the other party is, see how the other party handles it. If he handles it by evading or ignoring it, then you can judge the score of the date in your heart; And improve, then even if you may encounter greater disagreements in the future, you may start from this model and deal with them one by one.

In the end, there will be very few fights between you, because you have figured out how to deal with this disagreement with each other from the beginning of your relationship.

Therefore, in love, we must keep some of our own ideas, whether it is advantages or disadvantages, everyone has them, we don’t have to rush to change something for the other party, because maybe the shortcoming we think is just what the other party appreciates of cuteness.But we have a responsibility to let the other person know what we like or don't like, what we accept or don't accept.Only in this way will we become happier and better off.

Use "untied" to hunt good men
The greatest misfortune of women is to misunderstand men. They always think that being attached to him, caring about him, and protecting him is to love him.As everyone knows, many men do not want to be owned by women. At the beginning, they will feel that this is a kind of concern from women for them, but gradually, men will feel that this is a wall in their hearts, blocking them to death up.So, of course, like being imprisoned in any kind of prison, they have only one thought—to escape.

Next, we combine several specific cases to explain in detail why "untying" can hunt good men.

[-]. Don't make me feel guilty

Liu Dong is a loyal, gentle and considerate man. He loves his girlfriend very much and has always taken care of her in every possible way, but now he has the idea of ​​breaking up with her from time to time.He said painfully: "Our relationship is very good, and there is no third party, but her love makes me feel too heavy." She would ask several times a day: "Do you really like me?" What's terrible is that she often uses details to measure the relationship between them. For example, if she asks her if she wants sugar in her coffee, she will immediately become sad, as if she knows him so well, but he is so indifferent to her. He didn't even notice whether there was sugar in it, which made him very guilty.

Generally, men think that love is not the whole of life. If you love too deeply, too selfishly, or too possessively, it will only make both parties feel exhausted and painful.

Women should realize that loving a person is not to possess him. Healthy love should be natural and easy. Give a man more understanding and tolerance. He will cherish you more because of your wisdom, and you will be happy because of it .

[-]. Leave me alone for a while

Guan Chunmei's husband has always been depressed recently, and lost his former excitement and enthusiasm in front of her. When he returned home, he either watched TV or buried himself in video games. Guan Chunmei also ignored him when he talked to him. happy?why you are not feeling happy?He just said casually: "It's okay, just leave me alone." This made Guan Chunmei very unhappy, she felt sorry for her husband and didn't know what to do.

Men think: women are good at details, like to communicate, like to ask questions, and even love to dig into dead ends.Men, on the other hand, often feel that those are men's own affairs, and women don't need to make a fuss to ask about them, because men's affairs need to be handled by men themselves.

Women should realize that this is a kind of psychological decompression method for men-to hide their bodies in their own "caves" and face them alone.The reason why men hide themselves in "caves" instead of sharing and communicating with others is that they have an idea in their subconscious mind: they don't want to admit that they are weak and be pitied by others because of their weakness.So he hid in his "cave", like an ostrich buried its head in the sand.The purpose is to find a solution to the problem without asking people for help.At this time, a smart woman should learn to respond to all changes without changing, don't interfere with him too much, and let him find a solution to the problem by himself.

[-]. Don't take me too seriously

(End of this chapter)