The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 42 Just as you can't lose your temper indiscriminately, neither can you be "Jiao" (1)
After acting like a baby, happiness will run away

As the saying goes, don't go too far, don't go too far in everything, this is definitely the truth of life and things, even if you are acting like a baby."Jiao" who is too hot is unbearable.After acting like a baby, happiness will run away.Next, we quote a woman's self-report to explain this truth in simple terms.The woman in her 30s, named Jasmine, is a music teacher.

"I love my husband very much, and I believe he loves me very much. I also believe that there is no third party between us, but time and time again, we have been hurt by an invisible hand. We have been married for 10 years. At the beginning of the relationship, I was a very delicate girl. He regarded me as a princess. He would find it very sexy when he occasionally lost his temper as a child. He said he liked to hear my coquettish voice, and liked to see me get angry with him alone. look.

Our first quarrel was before we got married, on his birthday, I called him after get off work and told him that I was waiting for him at a certain restaurant and prepared a gift for him.In the end he actually said, huh?I'm on my way home, my family is celebrating for me.I was angry at the time, and I said why didn't you tell me?Why don't you invite me to go with you?All he said was, I wanted to spend time with you tomorrow.

At that time, I was trembling with anger. I felt that he didn't value me or respect my feelings. I asked him to come to me within half an hour, otherwise we would break up.Obviously he was in Wuchang and I was in Hankou, knowing that he would not be able to get through without an hour, so I said that stubbornly.He came as quickly as possible, of course, after the time I set, I thought he would apologize to me with a rose, but he lost his temper with me as soon as he came, saying that I was unreasonable.Our quarrel and cold war lasted for more than half a month.

After marriage, he always gave me a chance to get mad.For example, when he was walking with me on the street, he often had phone calls, and it took him a long time to talk about it. I didn’t like it when I was pregnant, so I asked him to turn off his mobile phone and go to the street with me wholeheartedly.He said I was too domineering.If he answers the phone again, I will go over and grab it.Where can I snatch him, I cry on the street.Many people came to watch that time. He said that I made him lose face, so he let me cry in the street like a madman, and the more I cried, the more I cried.

After giving birth, I am not a person who is patient with the child. The child is noisy and noisy. In the eyes of other mothers, it may be normal and easy to handle. It is not good for me. The child cries and I cry. The child is completely I was so angry that I banged my head on the door and slapped the wall with my hands.Sometimes he is clearly in another room, but he just doesn't come over, and only then comes to help me after I am exhausted and exhausted.Time and time again, the contradictions and resentments between us piled up like this.He called me a shrew, and I called him cold-blooded.

The most recent time was to watch a movie.When we went, someone was sitting in our seat, and I asked others to get out of the way, but he pulled me away, saying that there are so many seats, we can just sit as we please.I refused, saying that he had no principles.The other party said that we just can't get up today, what should we do?Your husband won't help you.My blood surged up, and I said in front of so many people, are you a man after all?He didn't respond, just stood there.I was really angry, I don't know why he didn't speak for me when I was right.On that day, the staff of the theater came in to mediate.We don't watch the movie, and I strongly demand a refund.Coming out of the movie theater, we were all devastated.I am terribly disappointed in our marriage and he is terribly disappointed in me as a wife.

Every time I lose my temper and make a fuss, I also regret it. Looking back and thinking about the things that made us emaciated, it seems that it is not a big deal. I also regret that I hurt myself because of these things. favorite person.However, my requirements are not high, I just hope that when he can, he can focus on me, listen to me, and speak for me. "

In fact, as a woman, acting like a baby to a man is nothing more than wanting him to value herself with actions or words. If he has expressed something, then he should accept it as soon as he sees it. You must know that you need to fight back when you get some good intentions. Like Jasmine, she still doesn't know how to stop after gaining the sweetness, and continues to mess around blindly, continue to act like a baby, it may work once or twice, and her husband may add two more money to please.If you go too far and still don't know how to advance or retreat, it will only make people think you are difficult to serve.After a long time, the husband will lose interest in it and become bored.

Acting like a baby is not a permanent dependence, otherwise the husband will be forced to leave
A woman who never acts like a baby is too cold and hard, which has a negative impact on the relationship between husband and wife.But if acting like a baby is regarded as life, it is a bit too much.What men admire most is actually the kind of woman who is enchanting in appearance and sober in heart.

Acting like a baby is not dependent forever. The so-called husband and wife must support each other in spirit, work and life, so as to maintain the balance of the relationship between the sexes.

29-year-old Feng Chunmei has been married for more than three years, but she still relies on her husband like a child.Usually, Feng Chunmei hardly has any friends, and she sticks with her husband when she gets home from work. From small things like what clothes to wear every day, to big problems encountered at work, Feng Chunmei has to rely on her husband to make decisions for herself.

Once, my husband was on a business trip.At night Feng Chunmei was alone at home, but she couldn't fall asleep after tossing and turning, feeling that there always seemed to be something scary hiding in the dark in the empty room.

Feng Chunmei finally fell asleep amidst her non-stop thoughts. She had a dream. She dreamed that she was out with her husband and a few friends, and encountered a card set up by a group of robbers.Her husband walked ahead and passed safely.But he was attacked and lay dying on the ground, watching her husband leave without looking back from a distance.

Immediately, she burst into tears, cried and woke up crying, her face was full of tears when she woke up, Feng Chunmei hurriedly called her husband.

When the husband who was sleeping soundly picked up the phone and heard his wife crying at home because of a nightmare in the middle of the night, he felt extremely distressed and helpless.With such a wife, how can he feel at ease every time he is on a business trip?
Therefore, every time her husband goes on a business trip for more than a week, not only will Feng Chunmei feel like going to hell, but it will also be a kind of mental torture for her husband. He is always very worried, fearing that something will happen to Feng Chunmei.

Feng Chunmei, on the other hand, must have felt restless. She always felt very insecure when she slept at night, and she was depressed all day long and even lost her temper.When she received a call from her husband who was out of town, Feng Chunmei would cry loudly on the phone, and kept asking her husband to come back quickly.

Not only that, Feng Chunmei's dependence on her husband gradually made Feng Chunmei less enthusiastic about her work.As long as her husband is not around for a minute, she will be distracted, restless at work, and just want to get off work early so that she can return to her husband as soon as possible.This kind of work attitude eventually led to Feng Chunmei's unfortunate dismissal, and Feng Chunmei was unable to support herself, so her financial dependence on her husband became more serious.

In her husband's eyes, Feng Chunmei seems to have changed. She doesn't seek to make progress, doesn't like to think, and doesn't like to work.I seem to be like a tree with dodder flowers tightly wrapped around its body, unable to stretch or breathe, and is in danger of suffocation at any time.

I once asked many male friends: "Two people are trapped on the mountain, and there are only two steamed buns. Do you choose the woman who gives you all the steamed buns, or the woman who insists on eating one with you?" And shrewdly said: "I ate it all, don't you want me to carry her on my back for the rest of the way?" Look, the times are different. Men are not willing to bear everything alone, and no man will be like this forever. Be patient to coax a woman, especially after going from love to marriage, men hope that women will suddenly become sensible, gentle and considerate, instead of being awkward all day long.

"Loving" you means "relying on" you. This is a natural and rightful thing in the hearts of many women.Automatically giving up the dominance over life makes many women unintentionally lose their most attractive light and become men's accessories unconsciously. This is probably the original origin of most women's sad stories.

In our general impression, a woman who is as tender as water and a little bird can always win sympathy and affection.In this society with huge survival pressure, women's self-reliance, self-improvement, and independence are truly excellent qualities that conform to the development of the times.If he relies too much on his husband, once the initial freshness is over, he will find the countless troubles brought by the "delicate girl" to his life, and then his enthusiasm will fade, and he will regard his wife as a burden.

A man likes to pamper his beloved woman, but it doesn't mean he can always let her get what she wants, and willfulness without consideration will drive the man who loves you away one day.

In the hearts of men, women who act like a baby regardless of the occasion are the most irritating
Acting like a baby is a powerful weapon for women to deal with men, and it can make men raise their hands and surrender.However, as a woman, you can't overuse it. In addition to talking about propriety, it also depends on the occasion.A woman who doesn't know how to act like a baby in different occasions is even more annoying when she is angry than when she is cute.

Before getting married, Zheng Shuang often liked to imitate the accents of Hong Kong and Taiwan stars. No matter who she was talking to, whenever she felt emotional, she would always say "yeah!" Cute and fun.

After getting married, Zheng Shuang still talked to people in a silly language. After two sentences, the tone of her voice began to soften, and she deliberately carried an underage child's voice. clear.And every sentence always starts with "renjia", "I don't--yi!", "I'm annoying!" and so on.

In fact, such words are still very pleasant to the husband's ears. After all, it is the wife who is acting like a baby to him, which is an expression of love.However, the thing that gave him a headache was still behind.

Sometimes, Zheng Shuang's husband will take her to some company events, such as anniversary celebrations, holiday parties, dinners, etc., and the people she meets in these places are mainly people who have official relations with him, such as bosses and business partners.

At this moment, what he needs is of course an image of an elegant lady who can make a big scene, not an ignorant little woman.However, Zheng Shuang was unaware of this. Whenever her husband was talking to the boss, she would always walk over suddenly, wrap her arms around her husband's arm, and say coquettishly, "Husband, when can we go back?" Home? I'm so tired, so tired!"

I believe that no man would think that acting like a baby like this is cute, and Zheng Shuang's husband can only feel embarrassed and blush, and feel that it is simply hateful.

Even if women all over the world are acting like a baby to men, this is a very personal matter, and in some more formal occasions, it is somewhat inappropriate.Therefore, women should remember that on such an occasion, acting like a baby will only make people think that you don't know the general idea, and if you want to act like a baby, you should wait until you get home.After all, two people acting like a baby in private is a kind of taste, and of course they are not afraid of embarrassment.

(End of this chapter)