The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 43 Just as you can't lose your temper indiscriminately, neither can you be "Jiao" (2)
Finally, there is one point that needs to be pointed out.A man in the workplace is completely different from him at home. In these two worlds, their appearance, the way they speak, and even the way they walk are different.The biggest disturbance from women to them is to make private phone calls to their workplaces.If there are really urgent matters, it is understandable.But if men are very nervous at work, if they pick up the microphone and ask about some insignificant things, it may arouse their hearts.

For example, you can talk to him at another time about trivial matters such as leaking toilets at home, paying gas and water bills today, and having run out of steamed buns; you can also wait for him to go home after he got home Re-theory.Otherwise, no matter how charming your voice is and how witty your words are, his colleagues will not envy him for having a lovely wife who is a little birdie. On the contrary, they will snicker: Why is this person so lacking in courage, what a trivial matter, Just got entangled with his wife.

A coquettish woman should have a high EQ and not have a low IQ.If you are not sure about the time and occasion, and lose your composure and disrespect, it is better to please those slightly dull women.

When your husband is in poor health or mood, please be careful when acting like a baby
When a woman acts like a spoiled child to her husband, in addition to absolutely not getting involved in the man's business, when her husband is tired or at a low ebb, acting like a baby is also an annoyance to them.This is also a minefield for acting like a baby.

It is not suitable to act like a baby in official occasions, but it does not mean that you can act like a baby all the time in the world of two people, and sometimes you have to know how to act according to the other person's face.A coquettish woman should have a high EQ and not have a low IQ.For example, when her husband is in poor health or mood, a smart woman will provide him with a cup of tea, a comfortable sofa, a warm embrace, or even a space where no one will disturb him. .

Men play the role of the strong in society.While society gives them more power and responsibilities, it also puts more pressure on them.Home is a warm and relaxing refueling port for men, where they show another side of themselves.

Scene [-]: Mr. Zhang pushed open the door of the house in a low mood, with tears on his face.

"It must be drinking!" The wife is understanding, "People who don't usually like drinking, what's the matter today, there must be something unhappy, tell me!"

"It's a big deal." Mr. Zhang couldn't find his gentle look, he grabbed his wife into his arms, and sat down on the sofa, "I haven't been judged for this year's title!"

When the wife heard about it, she quickly said, "I know my husband's level best, but those people don't know how to do it."

Hearing this, Mr. Zhang's mood improved, and he stood up from the sofa again, hugging his wife and weeping like a child...

My husband has paid too much for writing the thesis. Now that the thesis has not been evaluated as a professional title, it is time to comfort him.The wife handed her husband a glass of water and looked at him distressedly.She knew it was time to be a good supporter and comforter.

Scene [-]: Mr. Cheng, who is over [-] years old, has struggled for half his life, experienced ups and downs, and prepared for hardships.My daughter graduated from university, so I thought it would be good for me to join a unit, which happened to be short of people with this major.I was about to report, but I didn't expect to hear that I had to wait a little longer.After careful inquiring, I realized that I have been pushed!In the evening, my daughter went to a friend's house.When Mr. Cheng and his wife brought up this topic, rough memories rushed in like a floodgate.Facing his wife, Mr. Cheng looked back on the hardships of struggle and the ups and downs of fate, and lamented the family affairs and couldn't help crying, and even wept uncontrollably.

The wife held her husband's head in her arms, shedding tears while smoothing his messy hair.Gradually the husband calmed down.A man does not flick his tears lightly, he is not a caring woman, and he is not destined to appreciate the earth-shattering true feelings of a man's grief.

On the front stage of marriage, men and women play their respective roles. As for the background of marriage, it is difficult for others to see, and men are even more secretive.We are used to positioning men with the image of the front stage, so even those who are lucky enough to walk into the backstage of a man's life will ignore the original backstage image of a man.Men also seem to ignore this side of themselves.Therefore, it is necessary for us to re-understand men.

When your husband encounters something unsatisfactory, please allow him to act like a baby

A survey found that in more than 1000 families of different countries, different races, different educational backgrounds, different age characteristics, and different income levels, there is an interesting phenomenon: the probability of men acting like a baby at home far exceeds that of wives and children.In other words, it is very likely that all adult men in the world have higher vulnerability and comfort needs than women or even children.

Men also like to act like a baby, why is this?In fact, it is not difficult to understand.

Men act like a baby because of their Oedipus complex.Everyone has a vulnerable side, and everyone has a need for comfort.So who is the best person to meet your comforting needs?Mother of course.This is the imprint left on our brains from the beginning of life, and in the future life, my mother will use her actions to strengthen this imprint on us.So a subconscious complex formed: a mother is a person who unconditionally cares for us, nourishes us, and comforts us.We form an attachment to our mother, who becomes the object of our coquettishness.But mothers cannot be with us for life, so we subconsciously regard people who are similar to mothers and play the role of mothers as mothers.This "mother" can be anyone and is not fixed.For example, a daughter can become the psychological "mother" of the mother, and an elder brother can also become the psychological "mother" of the younger sister.Between husband and wife, although sometimes the husband may become the psychological "mother" of the wife, more often the wife becomes the psychological "mother" of the husband.In the division of gender roles, women themselves have maternal characteristics.This difference in gender roles is one of the reasons why men are more likely to act like a baby in front of women.

Furthermore, acting like a baby is a need for psychological adjustment.Although we have repeatedly emphasized the equality of men and women, it cannot be denied that men have always played a powerful social role.When the strong image brings certain privileges to men, it also brings more psychological pressure to men.Men have received this kind of education since childhood: You are a man, and a man must be strong.At home, even in the most fashionable families, it is inevitable to regard men as the psychological center of gravity of the whole family.Many ordinary families even regard men as the pillars of the family. When encountering wind and rain, men are the first to shelter from the wind and rain.You are the strong, and the strong is the social role of a man.However, the role of men is just a product of social culture. Men are not made of steel. They have a vulnerable side like women in their natural nature, and they all have spiritual pain and long for comfort.Moreover, just because men have to play the social role of the strong, they have to bear more life pressure than women, and there are few opportunities to vent in public.People always need psychological self-regulation, so when they return home, men will expose their vulnerable side to their "psychological mother" to obtain spiritual comfort.So it is easier for men to act like a baby in front of their wives.

Therefore, understanding men and being kind to men's acting like a baby is exactly the wisdom of women in facing life.A smart woman is also a witty woman. She will not only consider her own mood and express her own desires, but ignore her husband's emotions.Even if a smart woman cannot share her husband's worries, she will give her husband a full understanding and allow her husband to act like a baby to herself.You must know that the inadvertent delicacy and understanding calmness of a mature and generous woman are the most precious images in a man's mind.

The survey found that the frequency of men acting like a baby at home is even higher than that of wives.When a man acts like a child, it is for the woman to understand his difficulties.Psychologists believe that career is often the capital that men rely on to act like a baby.They have a sense of loss, anxiety, and even fear.In response to this, emotional expert Zhang Yufei's advice to women is: "Please allow your husband to act like a baby."Especially when men encounter unsatisfactory things, they need to do what they can.

Ms. Zhang is a happy woman.When her husband encounters something unsatisfactory in the company, he will put his warm body close to her and hug her without saying a word, and plunge his big head into her arms.Seeing his state, she knew that he was in a bad mood, so she would hug him and talk to him about irrelevant household chores while whispering his head lightly.After a while, he would lift his head from her arms, wipe his face with his hands, exhale deeply, and say, "Well, it's all right!" Usually she wouldn't ask him how he "dispelled his anger", but seeing him From the look of relief, you can tell that he feels much better.She was happy that her arms were a good place for her husband to let off steam.

She likes to see him acting like a baby, every time he acts like a baby, it can always arouse the motherhood and tenderness deep in her heart.In fact, there is a child living in every big man's heart!Once she chatted with her girlfriend and talked about her husband acting like a baby. The girlfriend listened and said suddenly: "A big man acts like a baby with you all the time. Are you used to it? If it were me, I would feel very uncomfortable!"

After hearing this, Ms. Zhang was a little stunned: Don't other men act like a baby with their wives?

Later, she asked many men, and the answer was basically: "Never." When she asked the reason, she always said: "I'm sorry, a big man is sloppy, how can he look like a man?" She asked again: "Then you Do you want to?" The man who was asked was stunned for a moment, and then said: "If one day I act like a baby with my wife, what will she think of me?"

Maybe this is the reason - not because I don't want to, but because I worry that my wife will look down on me.She found that many women's criteria for choosing a mate are: they must find a man who can control themselves and make them admire, and whose taste, income and position are higher than their own.But men are also human beings, with advantages and disadvantages, things they are good at and things they are not good at, and they are even fragile.Why do women always look up and adore the way a man expresses his love?It doesn't matter once you worship, it means that the man you admire has already been set at a certain height by you, and he will try his best to maintain this height in front of you, and he can't even show the slightest embarrassment.After a long time, he will not be able to bear it.

When women are really strong in their hearts and can look up to men, we will not put many of our requirements and expectations on men.When we look for a man, we are not looking for a big tree to rely on, but a partner to walk the road of life together.Share joys and troubles. In this way, he will relax in front of you, remove the mask and burden, and naturally reveal the most authentic side of his character.

A husband who can act like a baby to his wife is cute; a wife who allows her husband to act like a baby to herself is wise; a marriage where a husband can act like a baby to his wife freely and relaxedly is a happy and graceful marriage.

Usually when a man acts like a baby, he will make the following actions. Do you know what they mean?

(1) Tilt your head to one side and hold your face with your hands

(2) Press the cheek, head, hair

(3) Fiddle with your lips with your fingertips
(4) Arms crossed around the chest

(5) Hold your own hand tightly

analysis:

(1) The hands holding the cheeks represent warm arms and chests. When a man holds his head with his hands, he hopes to be hugged and comforted by his lover.

(2) When you find that you have made a mistake, you press your cheeks with both hands without thinking about it. This is an expression of remorse and guilt, and at the same time expresses the hope for tolerance and comfort.

(3) Fiddle with the lips with the fingertips of the index finger and the thumb, indicating that while overcoming the restless and stable emotions, one is seeking relief.

(4) Surrounding the chest with both hands has two meanings, one is to imitate the mother’s coaxing and shaking when the baby is scared to cry; the other is to show a sense of defense, such as not wanting to meet people, wanting to refuse certain things , will also use this action to cut off the intimacy from the other party.

(5) When you hold your hands tightly, one hand represents yourself, while the other hand represents the hand of the person you admire in your heart, hoping to get strong support.

(End of this chapter)