The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 44 Compromise and concessions are virtues in marriage (1)
A woman showing weakness can give a man a sense of satisfaction
Usually, men have a natural desire to protect, and they also hope that women are weaker than themselves, so that they can be needed and relied on.Therefore, most men like women who are gentle and show weakness.The existence of husband and wife is based on gender. The masculinity of men and the femininity of women create a perfect combination. It is a man's instinct to protect women and show their strength, and it is only natural for women to be weak at home.The purpose of women showing weakness is to give men the opportunity to cherish, care, protect, and care about. This feeling will make men happy and satisfied, but many modern women ignore this point.

"I have been relatively independent since I was a child, and I love my husband very much. I don't want to trouble him or worry about his hard work, so I take care of him like a child..." said a successful female entrepreneur.but you know what?An omnipotent wife is not what men yearn for. In such an environment, men often don't feel depended on, trusted and needed. He even feels that he is not important in this family.In the Korean drama "Life in Roses", there is such a plot, the reason why the male protagonist abandons his wife and finds another lover is: "You are very strong, it doesn't matter without me; but she is too pitiful, she can't live without me!" Explain that feeling needed and depended on is very important to a man.

In our lives, we often see many strong women who are successful in their careers, but the end result is that their families are broken, and they are alone and alone.A successful woman once said angrily: "I am busy working outside every day, but he takes the money I earn to raise a 'second wife' outside! I can't bear this kind of thing, so I got divorced!" In fact , this lady is a woman who loves to show off her abilities too much, she never shows weakness in front of her husband, and even wants to overwhelm her husband everywhere.He commands many men inside and outside the company, and when he gets home, he commands his own husband.All I come into contact with in the society are celebrities. Looking at these successful men, and then going home to see my husband, I really feel like I hate iron for being weak.Over time, I felt that my husband was not pleasing to the eye no matter what, and my husband couldn't bear it. He couldn't get dignity and warmth from his wife, so he went outside to find tenderness in the emptiness.

A woman's "weakness" in marriage is a very powerful weapon. It has no edges and corners, but it can smooth out the edges and corners of a man.It will immerse men in gentleness and easily resolve conflicts. It is more appropriate to use "softness to overcome rigidity" as a metaphor for women's "showing weakness".Showing weakness is just a means, showing strength is the goal. A woman who can really show weakness is actually a strong man who can control men.

In modern marriages, it is no longer just men who are economically dominant. Some women have higher social status, education, and income than their husbands. If they meet a husband with a stronger traditional concept, a smart woman can use "show weakness" to show her weakness. Balance the other party's psychology, put away your edge at home, treat your husband peacefully, and face life with a normal heart.A real big man, although he doesn't say anything, he will understand his wife's grievances in his heart. The more his wife "shows weakness", the more he will love her more. Hell's difference.

From a psychological point of view, public opinion will favor or even favor those who appear to be weaker. Women’s weakness will often win widespread support from public opinion, even if divorce or family breakdown is caused by problems between the two parties or even the woman. , women can get more support from public opinion.Therefore, smart women are women with a strong heart and a weak appearance. Such women are often more likely to have a happy life.The more a woman is good at showing weakness, the more mature her heart will be.On the contrary, the superficially strong woman actually cast aside the best natural weapon that the society gave her, and made herself passive.

Life at home will inevitably lead to bumps and bumps. When a smart wife finds problems in the family, if she can learn to bow her head in marriage life and know how to show weakness in front of her husband proactively and in a timely manner, all disputes and contradictions can be resolved, and the family on the verge of disintegration can be resolved. Marriage, regain the original sweetness and warmth.When women learn the tenderness of bowing their heads, men will be intoxicated in the charm of "the tenderness of bowing their heads the most, like a water lotus flower that cannot withstand the cool breeze".

Of course, a woman showing weakness is not weakness, let alone weakness, it is just a little wisdom to make the family more beautiful.Showing weakness - as the name suggests is to show one's own weakness.Women should learn to show weakness, but also be good at showing weakness, downplay their own light, and fully respect each other.This kind of showing weakness is not real weakness, but a kind of self-confidence and calmness to take the initiative to grasp life. A slight weakness makes a deep happiness, and a man will feel happy like a king, because he remembers that there is A home that needs his protection, and a woman who needs his care, his heart will stay in his kingdom forever.Men don't like women who are too strong. A woman who is too strong makes men feel less warm and it is difficult to share happiness with her.

Yang Lan said: "When to be strong and when to show weakness is a woman's love and wisdom." It is said that women are like water, and water is the weakest, but it can wear water through rocks, so women should learn to use softness to overcome strength, and be weaker in front of good men more loved.Women's "weakness" should be "showed cleverly and wonderfully", just right is the best policy. In the eyes of men, women's tenderness, vulnerability and obedience are actually a kind of strength.

In front of men, women must always show weakness, and always be vines entwining big trees. Only in this way can they show the majestic stalwart of a man, satisfy their masculine vanity, and let them experience the feeling of pity, pity, and heroism. The thrill of saving beauty.

Women who make "small sacrifices" will get more

Many times, women make some "sacrifices" and concessions on small things, which will make men feel happy, and thus willing to make concessions on certain things. "Women make small sacrifices first" is also the secret to a more happy marriage.

The reward of being willing to give up some favorite wives is more worthwhile than those "small sacrifices".Mrs. Olga Cabablanca used this method successfully.

Mrs. Olga Cabablanga is the widow of Mr. Josesur Cabablanga.Her husband was once a Cuban diplomat and an internationally renowned chess champion.Like many men of extraordinary ability, Mr. Cabablanca was a very stubborn man.But their marriage was very happy and successful because he had love, romance and mutual respect.

Olga Cabablanga brought her husband a lot of happiness, so her husband often gave up some original persistent opinions to win her favor.How did she do it?It's just a "small sacrifice".

When Mr. Cabablanca is in a bad mood and doesn't want to talk, she leaves him to think alone, without provoking him with nagging words; she would have liked the dance, but her husband prefers to stay at home most of the time , so she willingly forgoes some social gatherings; if her husband doesn't like what she's wearing, she immediately changes into something he likes.

The most important thing is that Mr. Cabablanca loves philosophy and history, but Mrs. Cabablanca only likes books that are easy to read.However, she still carefully read her husband's favorite books.She did it, as she put it, "to catch up with his thoughts, and to appreciate and follow his conversation."

Olga made some sacrifices for her husband, was it worth it?Just listen to the following developments.

Mr. Cabablanca had thought that gift-giving was a very ridiculous and pretentious thing to do.However, once on Valentine's Day, he blushed like a schoolboy and gave his wife a large and beautiful box of chocolates, which was a deliberate attempt to show his love to his beloved wife.She was indescribably happy that her rational husband would give her such a completely irrational gift.Since that time, giving gifts to his wife has become one of Mr. Cabablanca's greatest pleasures.He once paid a staff member to work two hours of overtime to package a small bottle of perfume in a series of boxes of various sizes, just for the pleasure of watching his wife's face when they opened them.

A wife who brings happiness to her husband will also get happiness from her husband. This is the truth in relationships.And to make a man happy, it is only necessary to make him feel comfortable and give him a free will to do what he has to do.For a woman, whether she can get her husband's love is a very important thing in her life, so even if she has to make some sacrifices for her husband's happiness, this sacrifice is very meaningful.

Take the initiative to put on a "strike" gesture after a quarrel

People say that "it's not a real couple if they don't quarrel", which makes sense. It's normal for two adult men and women with independent personalities to spend their time together under the same roof.Stumble a few words when you have nothing to do, but it has the effect of deepening understanding and exchanging feelings.It's just that some women are used to "grabbing the top", and the same is true between husband and wife. Every time they quarrel, they must use their language talents to prove that they are absolutely right and their husband is absolutely wrong.This is a bit over.

One of the biggest wastes in the world is repeatedly arguing with people—the waste of your house is doubled by arguing with your husband. The result of the argument is that both parties believe that they are absolutely right.If you lose, of course you lose, and if you win, you still lose, because arguing won't win him over.

If you refute your husband so red-faced and speechless, is it a victory?No, he doesn't talk, he just thinks that a big man is not worthy of being serious with his wife, and what's more serious, he will think you are unreasonable and don't want to waste any more effort.Think about it, is a small argument more important, or your long-term relationship is more important?

What's more, most of the quarrels between husband and wife are not a matter of principle. Some women even think about it, and they can find new topics from their husbands at any time.The following scenario, I believe everyone is familiar with:
"Honey, I love you very much," said the husband, "but you have to stop finding fault with me, you're driving me crazy. I bet you'll find out what's wrong in less than a minute !"

"Okay, let's gamble!" replied the wife.After a while, the wife suddenly said, "It's really hot here, why don't you always turn on the fan?"

"Ha!" exclaimed the husband, "I know, you'll find out a mistake in less than a minute."

"Well," the wife admitted, "how long did I last?"

"30 seconds."

"30 seconds? Fuck you!" the wife yelled, "Didn't I tell you not to buy foreign watches?"

This is the fuse. How far this war will spread depends on the mood of the two of them.The most serious thing is to find out all the scandals and wrong things that both parties have done since they fell in love and got married, to prove that your vision has always been bad and my choices have always been reasonable.Then the dispute turned into a cold war, one bedroom and one living room, treating each other like a cloud of air.

A wise person has long said, "There is no winner or loser between a husband and wife, either win-win or both lose." Ordinary couples wake up later, but there is always a time to recall: what is there to quarrel with?Anyway, isn't he or she the closest person to him?The remaining problem is how to save face and reconcile as before.

Women generally wait for men to speak first, of course there is nothing wrong with it, a man coaxing his wife is his chance to show his love and demeanor, we should give him the best.It's just that men are also troubled and tired, if one day the wife takes the initiative to express her willingness to reconcile, it will bring another kind of surprise to your life.

There are many ways to strike.Some women choose to act pitiful, hiding under the covers and crying to make him soft-hearted, but if it is their own fault, it is too much to pretend to be pitiful with confidence.Some people choose to say irony, for example: "Since we often quarrel, why not break up!" Preemptively, he is not willing to part with you, so naturally he dare not be angry with you again, but if he talks about breaking up so casually, he talks too much. I will never trust you again.

When a woman seeks peace, she should use a woman's method.Do you have some clothes that zip or button in the back?After a quarrel, he sits silently in a corner of the house, you can walk up to him, turn your back to him, and say to him: "Can I trouble you to zip my zipper up for me?" or: "Can you help me?" I button it, but I can't." You're just asking him for help, a man must have this kind of gentlemanly demeanor.Generally willing to zip up for you, he will not be angry with you again.

Men like soft things rather than hard things, so how can a wife not make him love her even more when she gives him a step up?

Just in time to pull the reins of the Cold War

(End of this chapter)