The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 48 Convincing people with "rituals": Which man has no pity in his bones (1)
Courtesy is to married life what oil is to a motor

Some people say that being courteous to married life is like engine oil to a motor, so a smart woman must be courteous and courteous to her husband and not be a "savage girlfriend", because it will scare away your good man.

In real married life, many women know that being unreasonable is a cancer that devours love and marriage, but unfortunately, many times we are not as polite as we are to strangers when we treat our own family members.

For people we don't know, we don't interrupt his words easily, without permission, we don't open friends' letters or peep into other people's privacy. Let your emotions out.

As Dorsos Dix said: "It is very surprising, but certainly true, that the only people who say nasty, hurtful things about us are people in our own family."

This will undoubtedly cause a great degree of harm to the family, and in severe cases, it will even split the relationship between each other.Therefore, smart wives will not do such things that are not good for themselves or others. They will consciously cultivate courteousness and courtesy to everyone, especially when they treat their husbands and their family members. Plus, because your respect will be exchanged for your husband's spiritual comfort, and he is nostalgic for you.

The famous Russian writer Turgenev is famous all over the world. He once said: "If there is a woman somewhere who shows great concern for me not coming home after dinner, I would rather give up all my genius and talent." All writings."

It can be seen that men look forward to marriage.Therefore, if a smart woman can treat her husband with courtesy and courtesy, she will be able to firmly grasp his heart. So how to show such courtesy and courtesy?Generally speaking, start from the following aspects:

([-]) Give help and greetings to the husband when he comes in and out of the house, which includes helping him put on and take off his coat, helping him organize his appearance, wishing him well when he goes out, and saying hard work to him when he returns home.

([-]) Don't yell at your husband for his mistakes, it's better to sit down and discuss and analyze.

([-]) Take good care of her husband's daily life and master his living habits.

([-]) Praise and encourage your husband's words and deeds frequently to keep him full of energy.

Although it is not surprising that many people are courteous, courteousness must also be measured. Don't make your husband feel like he is receiving restaurant service at home, but let him feel happy and happy in your attentive and courteous care.

Rudeness and disrespect can easily destroy the beauty of love and marriage

When they are in love, they are polite and polite to each other, so they are always in a good mood when they are dating.After getting married, some women will think that they are "one of their own", so why do you need to be polite?You may even feel that being polite will alienate the relationship between the two.In fact, on the contrary, just like the "hedgehog effect", getting too close will only stab each other.Some women's approach is wise and smart. They will not discard the politeness in the love area forever, but will bring it into the marriage and bring it to their later life.

In fact, politeness occupies a very important position in our future married life, which is like the principle of "cold lips and teeth".Manners are like an open door, which reveals the flower that grows inside the door.I believe that any husband is most afraid of shrews, shrews, and gossips.

Fu Yan is not "smart" enough in this regard.

Fu Yan's husband suffers from stomach problems. Once it was time to eat, her husband was still reading. Although she felt sorry for him and cared about him, she made soup for him, but when she asked him to eat, she said, "It's still time to wait." What? I don’t know if I have a stomach problem? Eat quickly, and be careful not to get stomach cancer.” One sentence made her husband’s face turn livid, thinking that this woman actually cursed me to get stomach cancer...

The two had a big quarrel over this sentence, and Fu Yan felt wronged afterwards.In fact, if she could be gentler and more polite, she would say to her husband: "Come and eat, your stomach is not good. I made you soup today, which is very good for your stomach." The meaning of the two sentences is the same, but her husband But it will be moved, and the previous sentence will only make my husband extremely annoyed.

Treating people politely and speaking kindly are important conditions for communicating the relationship between husband and wife.A wife should be polite to her husband, and her words should not be harsh or cold, so as to dampen the relationship.

Let's compare the two sets of discussions:

First group:
Zhigang: Did you hear that?Buy me a shirt after get off work today!
Yumei: Don't you want me to take care of you?

Zhigang: Hey, I don’t care, what are you doing?

Yumei: If you can't take care of it, you just can't take care of it. Can you control what I do?
Second Group:
Zhigang: Can you buy me a shirt when you get off work?

Yumei: OK, I will try my best to buy it for you.But I'm afraid it won't work today, because I'm too busy and have to work overtime.sorry!

Obviously, the second group of conversations was cordial, harmonious, and polite. A "please" and an "excuse me", courteous questions and polite answers will make Zhigang happy and Yumei satisfied.

If the wife speaks inappropriately, it will cause the husband's psychological sting, and if it goes on for a long time, it will inevitably frustrate the relationship.So, how can a wife speak without hurting her feelings?

After getting along for a long time, it is inevitable that there will be times when the husband and wife do not go well.When the husband goes home to vent his anger when he encounters annoyance outside, the wife must not "eat an eye for an eye with an eye for an eye".At this moment, the wife has to do two things: one is to be patient; the other is to say what she wants.

You know, the emotional barriers between husband and wife are often caused by small things at first. Don't those couples who parted ways start to "divide" from small things?
When Lu Yunlong lost a piece of clothing on a business trip, his wife He Qizhu comforted him and said, "It doesn't matter, just be more careful on business trips in the future. I'll go to the street on Saturday and buy you a 'makeup' for you, okay?" How could Yunlong not be moved?If He Qizhu had said mercilessly, "Look at you, you daredevil, why didn't you lose your head when you threw this and that?" What would Lu Yunlong think when he heard such unpleasant words?Losing something made me feel uncomfortable, but when faced with He Qizhu's anger, I'm afraid he would retort.Some wives are used to giving orders to their husbands at home, always saying "you can't do that" or "you have to do this", without any room for negotiation. This is a disrespectful behavior.When the husband is in a bad mood, these words often become the fuse of "war".If you say in another tone: "Do you think this is okay?" "You can figure it out! This is just my opinion." Instead of causing a quarrel because of your impoliteness, it is better to use a kind Words, which not only maintain the husband's self-esteem, but also make it easy for the husband to accept your opinion.

Rudeness and disrespect will destroy the fruits of love and the beauty of marriage.Do you recall that when you received any visitor, you were always more or less polite than your family?You will never interrupt someone who is talking, "My God! Why are you repeating the same old tune again?" And you will never open letters without permission, or spy on others privacy.

But when you find out that someone closest to you has made a mistake, even if it is a small mistake, you may openly curse.This is how many men gradually develop a estrangement from their wives. One husband said: "I don't understand why she often loses her temper over trivial things? It's really unbearable."

It's hard to imagine that the people who say those harsh and hurtful words to me are often people close to me.We are always easy to forgive others, but we are not willing to forgive those around us.Most women think that the distance between each other will be closer when they get married, and there is no need for politeness at all.Therefore, in real life, there are so many women who often show their power to their husbands, but they have never been harsh to their colleagues or friends.

In fact, the closer the distance, the easier it is to hurt each other, just like the two hedgehogs warming each other, they always stab each other when they are too close, but they can't feel each other's warmth if they are too far away.The same is true between husband and wife. We must grasp a certain degree, we must be caring and considerate to our husband, and sometimes we must be as gentle and courteous as we treat friends and guests.

As a wife, if you can treat your husband as tolerantly as you treat other people, how can your relationship become increasingly alienated?
If your wife ignores how unforgivable your husband is when he makes a mistake, and firmly chooses a considerate and courteous attitude, then how perfect, happy and happy your family will be.

Ladies, when you put on your wedding dress and are led into the wedding hall by a man, you have to collect all your beautiful visions about love, not to say that your love is over, but that your love It has just begun, and this kind of love that has just begun needs more of your respect, understanding and tolerance.

The way of marriage is actually the way for two people to get along. Smart woman, when you want to get angry with your husband, you might as well treat him as your friend or guest.Then you will find that your politeness makes the thorns on your hedgehog not only not hurt the person closest to you, but makes him feel the temperature of your body.So, in his eyes, you are still the beautiful angel before marriage, but more mature and feminine than before.

Before marriage, a woman is an angel who does not eat fireworks and only understands love, but after marriage, a woman suddenly becomes an ordinary person who worries about food, rice, oil and salt all day long. Before marriage, the husband is responsive, and after marriage, you must be responsive. This is like taking a fairy from The sky was thrown into the mortal world, which made her unacceptable and unable to adapt.In fact, marriage is not only a transformation of a woman's identity, but also a psychological test.If you think that this man who sleeps with you and is intimate with you is your own family, and you can treat it as you like with private property, then you are wrong, a smart wife will treat her husband like a guest, Be polite.

Make a gesture of obedience and let him enjoy God's favor

As early as the 20s and 40s, men’s longing for a happy Datong world was: live in a Western house; use a Chinese cook; marry a Japanese woman.Houses and cooks aside, today, those Japanese and Korean actresses with single eyelids, soft-spoken, and polite manners are still men's dream lovers.

What is so good about Japanese women?It is said that the most classic picture is this:
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