The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 49 Convincing people with "rituals": Which man has no pity in his bones (2)
Most Japanese women do not work after marriage. They will calculate the time when their husbands will get home from get off work, put on makeup and put on the most pleasing clothes in the first time, and show the most beautiful white at the moment when the doorbell "ding dong" teeth and the most perfect smile; at night, Japanese women will put on sexy pajamas in the second time, sprinkle with intoxicating perfume, and look forward to lingering under the pleasant light; early in the morning, Japanese women will Brush your teeth, take a bath, and put on makeup within the third time before your husband wakes up. You must never let your husband see a disheveled yellow-faced woman. The first thing your husband sees when he opens his eyes is a freshly bathed woman in a kimono and holding a silver tray. Beauty, delicious breakfast on the tray with a tempting aroma.This is the whole romantic image of a full-time Japanese housewife.

Chinese men, of course, also desire this kind of enjoyment, but Chinese women don't have the time and energy to create this romance.Their perfect smiles are always for customers, and their time is always for housework and children.Chinese women are very busy, but Chinese men are not blessed.

In order to make up for this shortcoming and let our husbands feel the beauty of being a man, we can refer to the understanding and gentleness of Japanese women. ——The form cannot be learned, let’s look at the content!

The tenderness of Japanese women is divided into three types: the first is language; the second is action; the third is psychology.Japanese women speak very mildly and politely. They generally do not express their opinions directly, but speak strategically, respect others, and consider issues from the other side's standpoint.

Although Japanese men like smart women, they want you to hide your abilities and let men walk in front of you.Therefore, Japanese women are never aggressive, and show their abilities in elegance and warmth, with an intriguing femininity.

Men like Japanese women, the most important thing is that they make men feel superior and powerful.This point is not a problem for busy Chinese women. Specifically, no matter how ordinary your husband is, you have to hold him up.When sweet words are not convincing enough, you can even use some white lies to weave your emotional bond.

Now there are many men who are young and have a lot of money in the world, but your husband is just a poor wage earner.You fell in love with him, not because of his passbook, but because of him himself.Because he is healthy, hard-working, humorous, understanding and yet faithful and reliable.You choose him because you think he is a potential stock, he will get rich, and he will make you live a life of both material and spiritual harvest in the rest of your life.Yes, this is your wishful thinking.But at this stage, he really does not have the ability to buy you a house or a car. For this reason, he often apologizes to you, complaining that he is incapable and makes you suffer.At this moment, no matter what, you have to make up a beautiful lie: "I really don't mind how much money you have."

Perhaps, your husband always feels a little domineering.The outstanding performance is that he always likes to argue when talking with you, and he must compete with each other.Of course, if you beat him down, he will definitely not stop (stop), he will suddenly raise the volume on the road, and compete with you for the performance of a certain character in the movie.At this moment, it is obviously unwise to raise your voice and confront him tit for tat. You need to give the man some face and coax him "you are right, you are quite reasonable".Temporary concessions are only for better access in the future. Men always think that they know everything and control everything, but it is women who really have the actual control. Women can always manipulate the overall situation quietly.So, don't argue with him.

We all hope that the man we fall in love with has well-developed muscles like Schwarzenegger and a handsome face like a Japanese and Korean star, but speaking out will undoubtedly make him sad and ashamed.Tell him that you like his hairy beer belly, because it makes you feel warm like spring in winter.Tell him you love hearing him snore like a grizzly bear at night, it makes you feel safe.If you love him, tell him that you appreciate everything about him and that his flaws are his traits.You love him and he doesn't have to change to be with you.

The essence of a gentle and amiable wife is not to bend down and make some kind of submissive gesture. As long as you can let your husband find the confidence and charm of being a man from you, you are the woman he dreams of.It is worth mentioning that although many people are not surprised by courtesy, there must be a degree of courtesy. Don't make your husband feel like he is receiving restaurant service at home, but let him feel happy and happy in your attentive and courteous care. .

Your respect for him will be exchanged for his nostalgia for you
For many women, in order to maintain the love index for her husband after marriage, she must get rid of the fear, insecurity and idealization of marriage.In short, she must try to accept a man who is not perfect.

The most common barrier to accepting and continuing to love your husband is a lack of deep understanding.Many women find it difficult to maintain a good impression of men because they don't really understand men, and as their husband's shortcomings are exposed day by day after marriage.And women often think they understand men, often from myths or traditional concepts.

In traditional roles, men represent initiative, self-overcoming, and they never express their needs.They keep themselves safe by preventing women from seeing things that threaten their masculinity.What many women don't understand is about men's vulnerability and sensitivity.

These ranges also include fears of helplessness and passivity, of seduction, of dependence, and of not being able to live up to a woman's ideal.Even vulnerable men need to be loved and respected.A man who is truly accepted, understood and liked, what he gives back to women is concern, love and respect for them.Only those stupid women will make the following mistakes that belittle the self-esteem of their husbands, which will make them dissatisfied with their hearts, and even lead to divorce.

1. Do not talk about your husband's "baldness"

If a guy's friends tease him about being bald, he can often laugh it off.But if his wife mentions it, he will feel extremely unhappy, because he has a sense of fear, for fear that he will lose his attractiveness in the eyes of his wife.

2. Don't criticize his mother in front of your husband
Because the mother is the first "opposite sex" that a man is attached to in his life, malicious criticism of his mother will definitely hurt his feelings greatly.

3. Don’t belittle his “romantic views”

Almost all men regard themselves as great lovers. If a wife underestimates his romantic temperament or romantic fantasy, it will be a fatal injury.

4. Don’t make his eating preferences a topic of conversation

The last thing a man wants is to be deprived of the right to enjoy the food he likes, or to point out that his liking for a certain food may cause health damage.

5. Don't praise another man's achievements in front of him
Many men are shallow, and mentioning other men in front of him will make him feel that he is underestimated and deliberately ridiculed.

6. Don't criticize his work

For example, if you advise him to fight for promotion and salary increase or change jobs, he will think that you lack confidence in his ability, ambition and enterprising spirit.

Women should learn to be grateful for what their husbands have done

Meng Yingxin was deeply moved after watching an issue of "Very 6+1": It turns out that a woman should learn to be grateful for her husband's efforts.

Yes, everyone has the desire to be respected, and my husband is no exception.When they get married, accompany their wives to the movies, send flowers on holidays, or even take out the trash for their wives every morning, they all expect their wives to praise and thank them.If the wife takes what her husband does for granted without thanking her, it will undoubtedly frustrate the husband's behavior to please his wife.

In that episode of "Very 6+1", Li Fang was the last contestant to appear, and the song she sang was the classic old song "Friends".To be honest, her singing voice is not beautiful, and her singing level is also very average, but she sings very emotionally, very devotedly, with a flowery smile on her face all the time.It was obvious that she was deeply intoxicated by it.

In the auditorium, her relatives and friends held up a placard that read: "Li Fang, Li Fang, achieve your dreams." Could it be her biggest dream to be on the stage of CCTV?Is finally on this stage today the fulfillment of my dream?I can't help guessing that this is another person who loves singing more than his own life. Although his singing level is not good, he is more than 50 years old and has retired, but he is still persisting.I can't help but salute her in my heart, for her perseverance, for her tenacious perseverance.

But then, her interpretation of the meaning of the dream greatly exceeded my expectations.She said her dream is to find a suitable opportunity to sing a song to express her gratitude to her husband, who has been driving her to and from get off work for more than 30 years of marriage.She is very grateful to her husband for his dedication for 30 years, and now she is finally on the stage of CCTV, singing for her husband in front of audiences all over the country, and expressing her gratitude to her husband through singing. She wrote the words "Fulfill your dreams" on the banner.

When Li Fang sang, there was a police officer listening carefully, his face was filled with a happy smile, his eyes sparkled with tears of excitement, he was Li Fang's husband, he sang emotionally when Li Fang feel the happiness of love.When Li Fang finished explaining the original intention of singing to the host Li Yongshu, the police officer stood up excitedly and confessed affectionately to his wife: "Li Fang, I love you." The wife's thank you song has allowed her husband to pick her up from get off work for more than 30 years All the hard work suddenly disappeared, and all that settled in my heart was sweetness.

In real life, the husband actually serves his wife and the family every day. Many wives don't realize it because they have long been accustomed to these behaviors of their husbands.

For example, I have a friend named Zhang Lili.She often complained that her husband didn't help her with anything, neither changing the baby's diaper nor tightening a loose faucet.However, once her husband went on a business trip to Los Angeles, she was surprised to find that her husband actually did a lot of trivial things for her every day. Only after this trip did she discover her husband's "value", but she did not complain about it. My husband thanked me once.

This case reminds us that, as a woman, don't take everything for granted when faced with her husband's efforts.Some women may take it for granted: "A marriage contract makes him the other half of my life, and he is obliged to do anything for me." Therefore, they accept everything given by their husbands with peace of mind and spend lavishly. The money given by the husband is used to buy fashionable clothes, brand-name cosmetics, and dress himself in a trendy fashion, but he never asks him whether he is working hard outside, what difficulties he has encountered, whether he needs help from his wife, let alone tell him what he has done. A simple "thank you"!

I hope that Li Fang expresses her gratitude to her husband, and it will sound the alarm for some women's peace of mind-the husband and wife should also say thank you, this is the minimum respect for her husband, and it can make him feel that his efforts are worthwhile Let him find the motivation to continue to pay for the one he loves, and let him experience the happiness of being loved in a sweet "thank you".Saying thanks between husband and wife is the best way to care for love and marriage.

Therefore, a smart wife should cherish and encourage any little help from her husband, don't just ask for it with peace of mind, and always say "thank you" to her husband with a grateful heart.If it is really difficult to say "thank you", you can also accumulate your gratitude to your husband little by little and turn it into an act of loving him.Only in this way can the husband be "more and more courageous", the temperature of love will become higher and higher, and the marriage relationship will become stronger and stronger.

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