The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 50 Wisdom is like a fool, let your husband favor your "stupid" (1)
A woman who is smart but always pretends to be stupid is the best way to win the love of her husband
The kind of man that people despise the most is the so-called "a wimp outside, a hero inside the kang".That's right, it doesn't matter if a good man can't make great achievements, what kind of hero is he if he shows off his prestige in front of his wife and children?The same is true for women. In modern society, men and women get equal pay for equal work. It is normal to have some strongman demeanor in the workplace, but at home, you still have to maintain your true nature as a woman.Those who know the beginning and the end are clever, and those watertight logic will be saved in front of my husband.

Men are most afraid of women who are too scheming and too sharp.No matter how mature a man is, he also hopes that the woman he loves will be tolerant and understanding to him, and he also hopes that she will have a childlike innocence and be able to get along with him foolishly and truthfully.With this kind of "stupid" woman, men feel safe and warm.

Women can be roughly divided into three types: the first type is really stupid, with low IQ and EQ, and men don’t like it; the second type is smart girls; the third type is smart, but often pretends to be stupid.Men generally like the third type.Men have self-esteem, and women who play dumb can take care of this feature everywhere. When a man is satisfied with his self-esteem, he will love this woman very much in the end; men are prone to make some small mistakes, and women who play stupid will turn big things into big things with a tolerant attitude Small, trivial matters, the man who made a mistake will be grateful to her.

Zhang Jun, a young man who works in the R&D department of a joint venture company, explained the fundamental reason why "stupid" women are so cute:

"I have a hobby: playing cards. When I am free, I invite my girlfriend and another pair of confidants to go to the tea house, and play 2v2 to upgrade.

The worst thing is, my former girlfriend who graduated from the Department of Mathematics is very good at playing cards, she is aggressive, and she is not forgiving. It's very embarrassing in front of me.Originally playing cards was for relaxation, but after giving her a stir, it turned into doing homework, brainstorming, and thankless work.Later, we broke up, of course not because of trivial things like playing cards, but as you can imagine, her self-confidence and sharp personality will also be reflected in other things, so I had to run away.

Now that I have a girlfriend, I still go to play cards together when I have free time, but the atmosphere is different now: I occasionally make mistakes, and my girlfriend will smile tolerantly or make faces; Pass me the password.If I won the cards, my girlfriend clapped her hands and cheered again; Her door.So I sometimes lose on purpose!There are many other stupid things about her, for example, she would spend a whole day making birthday cards for me instead of spending a few minutes in the store to buy them; for example, she is very good at dressing up, but never let me go shopping with her, she said When two people are together, they must do what both of them are willing to do.I also especially like to see her smile, it is a sincere and bright smile, compared with those girls who have a deliberate or sly smile in their smiles, it is so stupid that I can't help but cherish her deeply. "

On many occasions, most women take everything extremely seriously and lack a sense of humor.In fact, an overly serious expression can easily make others keep a distance from you.

Personal communication with family and friends is different from the workplace, and being too serious can make people feel boring.Try to put on a smile to show that you enjoy relaxing and accept humorous expressions.The pure qualities of a woman are definitely an advantage in the eyes of men, and it is also the best motivation to urge them to work hard.

Never misunderstand men!The "stupid" of silly women that men like definitely does not refer to IQ.Such a woman will become unattractive to men over time.The "stupid" girl that men like is the kind of girl who looks silly but has a good heart.Men always have self-esteem or vanity, so those women who pretend to be smart and very revealing can't catch men's hearts; but women who are wise and stupid can charm men and get a good fate for a lifetime.

In short, if a woman wants to hold on to the happiness of marriage, she must understand one thing: No matter how smart and capable, she will eventually fall in love and get married. It is not a good thing to show her smartness when getting along with men. .Shrewdness is too much to be seen on the outside, revealing a sense of pride or oppression, which will only make men feel threatened and insecure. No matter how beautiful and affectionate such a woman is, it will only make men stay away, and naturally there will be no What happiness to talk about.

Smart women can play dumb to the fullest
Men like stupid women. Don’t blame men for not thinking ahead and avoiding the pressure brought by smart women. This is actually because men are already tired from working hard outside. They need a peaceful haven as a home. It's not too tiring to fight wits and courage with smart women.

Of course, the "stupid woman" we are talking about here is not really stupid, but pretending to be stupid-this is the real smart woman.Such a woman will not show that she is smart everywhere, especially in the family and in front of her husband. If it is not a critical matter, it is better to pretend to be stupid on purpose.

"Playing stupid" is sometimes a kind of mind, a kind of calmness and generosity.A woman who can play "pretending to be stupid" to the fullest is a real smart woman.

There are many women who are always at home, waiting for their late husbands. Sometimes they know that his late return is not a kind act, and they turn a blind eye to it. They think that this silent "" Waiting and dedication" is the only expression of love.Actually otherwise, the woman's long-term "silent devotion and waiting" will also make him complacent and forgetful. This way of life has created a person who does not love his family without doing anything. After all, the outside world is very exciting.Such a woman looks smart, but she is actually stupid.

And a really smart woman knows how to love and maintain her husband and marriage. If she loves him, she should give him as much room for activity and development as possible.However, don’t let his freedom go too far. At the right opportunity and occasion, deliberately pretend to be stupid, give him appropriate restraint and appropriate pressure to pretend to be stupid.If he really made a mistake and refuses to accept criticism or advice, he will not be eager for success, take a step back and continue to play stupid, and wait for the right time to talk.Because, she understands, being stubborn will not only fail to solve the problem, but will hurt the relationship instead.Such a woman may seem silly, but she is actually the smartest.

A truly smart woman will not be the vine that clings to a man, nor the grain of sand that clings to the corner of a man's clothes, because the ultimate result of doing so is the greatest loss in life, and will eventually lose her self and self-esteem.How can a person who can't even run his own family well have a good foothold in society!

Women's imagination is inherently stronger than men's, and most of them have richer EQ thinking than men.But on the flip side, being too rich is not a good thing.If a woman has nothing to do all day, her brain will easily have a strange hallucination, and she will easily have an inexplicable irritability, because many boring things are produced in imagination.This is a self-imposed cage, self-enclosed, self-seeking troubles, seemingly smart, but actually stupid, ignorant, and lacking in self-confidence.

In life, I often see or hear those boring people who like to talk nonsense, spread rumors, and tell stories. It is imagining how to spread this out of nothing as news. People who spread gossip like this are extremely irresponsible and willing to be vulgar slaves. Such people are both sad and hateful.Little do they know that if they are too smart, or even so smart that they show their bones, they will be misunderstood by their cleverness, pretending to be clever, and getting burned.

In fact, this kind of person does not understand the virtues of being a human being at all. She herself is a person of right and wrong, a person without cultivation, ignorant, and stupid. This is the failure and sorrow of being a human being.I don't know that sometimes using this life in this world will lead to the opposite of the original intention and the result.

Such people, instead of imagining boring things that hurt others and themselves all day long, it is better to think about how to enrich themselves, improve themselves, and how to make their mentality truly healthy and happy. Only then can they gain the respect and recognition of others Only then can we become a truly magnanimous, open-minded and open-minded person.

The mountain does not explain its height, and it does not affect its towering clouds; the sea does not explain its depth, and does not affect its accommodation of hundreds of rivers; the earth does not explain its thickness, but no one can replace its position.Women don't explain their wisdom, if you live with great wisdom and foolishness, you will not become a thorn in the side of others.

In life, we often have the idea of ​​wanting to explain something.However, once it is explained, it is found that any explanation is so pale and weak, and it will even get darker and darker.Therefore, being a man does not require explanation, it becomes the choice of a wise man.In today's society, when getting along with others, women must also learn to keep a low profile!

Being a low-key woman is a kind of character, a kind of posture, a kind of demeanor, a kind of self-cultivation, a kind of mind, a kind of wisdom, a kind of strategy, and it is the best posture to be a human being.As the saying goes, "Those who want to succeed must be tolerant of others, and then be accepted, appreciated, and admired by people." This is the foundation of human beings.If the foundation is solid, only then will the luxuriant growth of leaves and branches, having achieved great achievements; if the foundation is shallow, the branches and leaves will inevitably wither, and the wind and rain will not be restrained.And being a low-key person is an excellent posture to strengthen the foundation of the world in society.As a little woman, being low-key can not only protect oneself, blend in with the crowd, and live in harmony with others, but also allow people to accumulate strength, sneak quietly, and achieve our women's career without showing the mountains or revealing the water.

Learn to be a low-key woman, that is, not to be noisy, not to be pretentious, not to be artificial, not to pretend to moan, not to be hypocritical, not to get involved in right and wrong, not to be disgusted by others, not to be envied by others, even if you think you are full of talent and ability than others If you are strong, you must also learn to hide your clumsiness.Only complaining that you are underappreciated is just a superficial behavior.Just like someone said, a woman with real taste will not easily tell what brand of perfume she uses.A wise woman should pretend to be stupid appropriately.

To be a low-key woman is to look at everything in the world with a peaceful mind.As the saying goes, if you don't make a big show, you can make a blockbuster. It can make people live in poverty and be open-minded when they are humble, and it can also make people stay profitable when they are prominent, without arrogance or madness, and be a real low-key gorgeous woman.

To be a woman, you must be as wise as a fool, and you must be "smart and stupid" at the same time!We must carry out "smartness and stupidity" to the end, so that we can always maintain and have a young, open-minded and tolerant heart. When we should be smart and sober, we must never pretend to be stupid. When we should pretend to be stupid, we must not be smart.Don't be disturbed by troubles, not tired by human affairs, only in this way can you have a happy life.

If You're a Strong Woman, Practice Saying "I Can't" to Your Husband

It is often said that "a good woman makes a good man", which is true, but what kind of woman is a good woman needs to be explored carefully.Being gentle, kind, virtuous, magnanimous and other good qualities is not all that a good woman has. Those good women who can influence men and build men must also have the ability to perceive the world and the wisdom to understand men's temperament.

There was a work-student who was learning to paint. His life consisted of working in a small shop at night and painting during the day.I don't know if he has the talent for painting, but he himself has always been full of energy and hope.Later, he did not know where he found a talented woman who graduated from a prestigious engineering school, and they got married.The girl is beautiful and dignified, has temperament, good temper, quick mind, and is very reliable in her work. She can be called a strong woman.

Everyone envied him because he married a good wife.But after a while, he gradually tended to be absent from work, and his work became looser and looser.Later, I didn't know why I didn't go to work, and I stopped doing it without saying hello.

People thought he was concentrating on painting, so he had to give up his working time.But everyone was wrong, in fact, he was idle at home with nothing to do, just wandering around all day.It's almost like that woman's lover, no, he is simply "eating soft food".

To say that the wife is really a capable woman, not only did not complain to him, she still went to work diligently in the company, but also took care of the housework in an orderly manner, and her life was quite stable.However, during this period, the man's enthusiasm for painting seemed to have disappeared, and he only knew how to wander around and cook a meal occasionally.A year later, he took his wife back to the countryside.

Thinking about it carefully, the reason why he became like that has something to do with his wife who is a strong woman who takes care of everything.She worked tirelessly to arrange everything properly, without relying on her husband at all, completely playing the role of a man, which made her husband, a real man, not like a man.A man who doesn't look like a man will often forget the responsibilities and qualities he should have as a man. At this time, it is not surprising that the man becomes a wimp.

Because women do not depend on men, it makes men depend on women instead, unknowingly killing his potential.

A woman treats her husband as a big tree, so that her husband has the strength to forge ahead. Because of her "weakness", the husband can't bear to let his wife suffer a little bit, so he will make himself work hard for his wife Go forward and create the best environment for her, which is also a kind of love for your wife.And a woman who is calm and never shows weakness will make her husband feel that his wife does not need his own efforts and work hard for her, so, slowly, he will lose that passion and achieve nothing up.

It is really harmful and useless for women to insist on everything.If you're feeling burned out or on the verge of breaking down, here's a revolutionary piece of advice for you: Practice saying "I can't."

If you think it seems silly to keep saying "I can't," that's no surprise.Usually wives who love power are energetic, stubborn, and will stick to it no matter the cost.She's shrewd and capable, never showing a need for help, and usually won't admit to being disadvantaged in any way.However, when she really needed her husband's help, her husband suddenly found the opportunity to become a hero and knight, and win his wife's eternal love and gratitude.He wants to be heroic, and has a much greater drive to earn pride than to do things passively at your beck and call.When he's trying to win your love rather than fleeing your wrath, he's doing things with the utmost care and thoughtfulness.

Please remember that a woman must be full of feminine gender characteristics to be like a real woman.Women are born to be protected and loved. If you are not willing to accept such a role, you can of course take the initiative to share the responsibilities of the family. It is worth noting that it is enough for you to share your own half!
When women are not like women, don't blame men for not being like men.

If you are willing to work hard all day and be irritable everywhere, you can do anything; but if you want to get along with your husband, have more disposable time and opportunities to relax, then you really can't carry everything on your shoulders. own shoulders.From now on, pay special attention to the things that tend to irritate you, and then admit that you can't do such things.

Women should not take over the affairs that belong to the husband
Nowadays, there are a lot of capable women. They give orders in the work unit and take charge of their own affairs. They are also busy at home. No matter how big or small they are, they are all on their shoulders.But this kind of dedication, the husband does not necessarily appreciate it.So the woman was wronged: I put my heart out for this family, why does he still have so many opinions?

In married life, it is not enough to have a good character of hard work and hard work.Men have different personalities, tempers, and self-cultivation. For women, when you choose marriage, you must at least have an understanding of your husband, and have the mentality and ability to be a wife that meets your husband's requirements.Not all men like and adapt to the life of reaching out for clothes and opening their mouths for food, which will seriously damage their man's self-esteem.Marriage is a tango dance that needs two people to dance together.If you only dance to the beat of your own drum, it is inevitable that you will not be stepped on by the other party, or step on the other party's feet.

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