The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 55 A Happy Marriage Requires Sexual Harmony as Support (1)
Men give love for sex, women give sex for love

Love makes this world vibrant and colorful, and love makes men and women in the world feel passionate and sexual.The world is beautiful but full of madness and evil because of love, and human nature is beautiful but full of temptation and sensuality because of love.Under the holy and beautiful coat of love is naked sex. Men love for sex, and women have sex for love.

Men love for sex.At the beginning of human beings, nature is good.Human beings are benevolent animals. Human nature has self-interested instincts full of desires and constant extravagance. It is a natural law that opposites attract.Men long for women because after entering puberty, they have the instinctive impulse to pursue women when they have sexual and physiological needs.Men need women to dedicate themselves to satisfy their sexual hunger, and falling in love is a reasonable, reasonable and legal way.Because a man likes a woman's lower body, he tries his best to please the woman's upper body, and uses sweet words to win the woman's favor, but in the eyes of the woman, this is sweet-talking love, so, in order to repay the man's sincerity, he expresses his true feelings with his body, for the beloved. Men's devotion without hesitation, this kind of true feeling is actually the innocence of women.How many women have become wives without the protection of legal marriage, willingly raped by men, but in the end they have to taste the pain of losing their virginity alone, and even lose their life's happiness because of it.

Women have sex for love.Women's emotions are rich and delicate, like Sister Lin who is sentimental, sheds tears for falling flowers, and buryes flowers with pity for cleansing and self-love.Sister Lin is sentimental, and she sacrificed her life to get Baoyu's love. This is because of Sister Lin's devotion and true love for Baoyu.Baoyu is also sentimental, but he is wandering around with several girls, even in his dreams.But Baoyu finally came to his senses: without true love, what is the meaning of sex, so he ran away from home and became a monk to show his love and sex.

Back in real life, many women commit themselves to men when they are in love, because when they see the impatient enthusiasm of a man who is burning with desire, they feel that the man really loves her, and she can entrust her for life spouse.As for promiscuous women, they are often teased by men's spiritual and physical love after being cheated; as for promiscuous prostitutes, they only have sex for money, and they also have sex for love.As for the women who have cheated on their girlfriends, it is often not because of their husband's sexual indifference, but because of their husband's emotional indifference and lack of love. They need to find emotional comfort from another man to prove that there are still men who care. Hers, there will be a man who truly loves her more than his wife, and sometimes makes the mistake of thinking he is attractive enough to conquer a man who is not his own enough to take his wife's place and make him hers husband.As everyone knows, she is just a man's sexual partner, lover or "second wife".

A man's love can be distributed to many different women, but a woman's love is only given to one man—her husband.Sex is the basis for a man to love a woman, and it is also the basis for a woman to love a man.

Understand men's sexual language and move towards "sex" marriage
Men and women have the same desire for sex, but they use different sex languages. If you understand men's sex language, women will master the secret to a "sex" happy marriage.

1. Men vent their emotions through sex
Men usually "have tears and don't flick them lightly".And often through sex life to vent fear, pain, pessimism and other emotions.When they are in pain, making love is the only way to make them feel comforted and safe.

But the wife may complain that she is just a tool for the husband to vent, because although the husband relaxes physically, the mental and psychological tension has not been relieved, and the wife will definitely not get more caresses from the husband.

So when you find that your husband approaches you actively when he is depressed, you should try to convince him that he can tell you everything.Tell him you want to cuddle him, then ask him what's making him so anxious, and you'll feel closer and the sex that follows will be amazing.

2. Men put more emphasis on sex
Women value love, while men value sex more.If you want to tie your husband's heart, you need to maintain your lasting sexual charm.You can often tell your husband that you love him and that you are waiting for him through sexy body language.Most men have sexual fantasies, and they always want to innovate in the way of making love. You have to discuss and practice with him.That way, even though you've been married for years, it's still fresh and exciting.Remember, men always have the desire to "try something new".

3. A man wants his wife to appreciate his sexual "talent"

The wife should praise her husband's "talent" more in terms of sex, such as praising him for being mighty and strong.Most men feel that maintaining a strong image is important.If you think he is very capable in sex, he will feel that he is an extraordinary man, and he will be more eager to "show his hands", which may give you a new sexual experience.

4. A man is a different person during and after sex

Many women complain that their husbands completely shut themselves off after making love, and they can’t accept that he who was enthusiastic just now is silent now. In fact, they don’t understand that men do this just to regain control of their emotions.The man thinks that he can fully express his passion only when he has sex, and he feels that he should "return to a man's image" after the matter is over.

5. Read the man's "voice"

let's go to the movies together tonight = then we can do that
let's have dinner together tonight = then we can do that
let's go dancing tonight = then we can do that
may i know your phone number = we can have that soon

This dress is pretty = show off enough

You look tired, let me give you a massage = let me touch you

I love you = now that's ok
I love you too = now that's okay
Let's talk together = first you will faint, and then that

Harmonious Sex Boosts Happiness, Has Health Effects

Sex is a matter of joy for men and women. In addition to human instinct and reproduction, it is mainly to please each other and obtain happiness from each other.In marriage, sex and love are like two legs of a person, and only by cooperating and interacting can we move forward.In addition, recent studies in Europe, America and Japan have found that sex has obvious health effects.

1. Exercise
According to the research of Pennsylvania Medical College, sex life is equivalent to jogging.If you make love 3 times a week, it is equivalent to jogging 120 kilometers within a year, and the heat energy burned is 7500 calories.

2. Increase oxygen uptake

During sexual life, breathing is deepened unconsciously, which increases the amount of oxygen obtained in cells and promotes the functions of various organs and tissues in the body.

3. Increase the secretion of androgen
Dehydroandrosterone is an androgen that men need to supplement frequently. This hormone can make men energetic and masculine.During sex, especially before orgasm and ejaculation, the hormone naturally released in the body is 3 to 5 times higher than usual.

4. Improve the secretion level of estrogen
Estrogen can enable women to maintain a good structure and function of the blood circulation system. Women with regular sex life have much higher estrogen levels than women who have sex occasionally.

5. Protect the prostate

Regular ejaculation can help clear the prostatic fluid accumulated in the prostate, avoid or reduce chronic non-bacterial prostatitis or pathogen infection.

6. Lower cholesterol

Regular sex can reduce the total cholesterol level in the body a small amount, and can adjust the ratio of "good" and "bad" cholesterol to the body.

7. Relieve pain
Sexual life (especially during orgasm) can reduce the pain caused by trauma, joint pain, low back pain and headache, and the endorphins released during sexual excitement and orgasm can increase the threshold of pain tolerance (that is, increase the degree of tolerance to pain) ).

8. Reduce stress
For both men and women, a harmonious sex life is the most effective way to reduce mental stress.It relieves tension and creates positive emotions of fun and satisfaction.

9. Keep Your Mind Young
According to Japanese medical research, proper sex life can help prevent brain aging and promote metabolism, and delay the speed of memory loss.

10. Reduce the occurrence of heart disease and myocardial infarction

Sex life can make the pelvis, limbs, joints, muscles, and spine move more, promote blood circulation, and enhance heart function and lung capacity.People who have a harmonious sex life have a risk of heart disease that is at least 10% lower than those who have a discordant sex life.

11. Reduce the occurrence of skin diseases
Poor blood circulation in the skin can lead to skin diseases such as acne and acne.Moderate sex will speed up blood circulation, make the skin smooth and tender, and thus play a role in preventing and curing skin diseases.

12. Improves the immune system’s ability to fight disease

Modern civilized life, on the contrary, makes people's immune system more vulnerable than ever.Sex life can balance the secretion of adrenaline and keep the immune system in a good state.

13. Promotes good looks
苏格兰皇家爱丁堡医院对欧洲、美国的3500人（年龄从18~102岁）进行10年追踪研究，发现人的外观25%来自遗传、75%来自行为，而“行为”包括三个重要因素：①身体运动；②心理活动；③性爱。因而认为和谐而有规律的性生活有促进美貌的作用。

14. Improves pregnancy rates

According to research, if you have sex less than once a week, the half-year pregnancy rate is only 15%; if you have sex twice a week, the half-year pregnancy rate is 30%; if you have sex three times a week, the half-year pregnancy rate can be as high as 45%. In this case, the quality of semen will decrease, and the chance of pregnancy will decrease instead).

15. Semen helps remove vaginal bacteria

Experiments have proved that there is an antibacterial substance in semen—sperm cytoplasmin, which can kill staphylococcus, streptococcus, pneumococcus and other pathogenic bacteria.But for the pathogens of sexually transmitted diseases such as HIV and other viruses, protozoa, spirochetes, gonorrhea, etc., semen is powerless.

16. Contribute to the prolongation of the life span of both men and women
One of the secrets of the longevity of the Transcaucasian people is a healthy sex life.Someone interviewed a 134-year-old elder of the tribe. It is said that he stopped having sex until he was 127 years old.

It is worth mentioning that the above-mentioned so many health effects of sex between husband and wife are based on the premise of health and order.As for the chaotic and unhygienic sex life, it is another matter, of course it is harmful but not beneficial.Keep this in mind.

Necessary conditions for a harmonious sex life of husband and wife
Whether the sexual life of husband and wife is harmonious or not is closely related to several factors such as the emotional state, sexual experience and tacit cooperation of both parties.Harmonious sex life can lead to a harmonious relationship between husband and wife, and harmony in the family; unharmonious sex life will cause sexual dysfunction in both husband and wife, cause emotional breakdown, and even lead to divorce tragedy.

Harmonious sex life is so important, there are several prerequisites that must be paid attention to.

1. Good health and spirit

Sexual life is high-intensity physical exercise, accompanied by physiological changes such as increased heart rate, increased blood pressure, shortness of breath, muscle movement, etc., which consume a lot of heat energy, so it is necessary to have a healthy body; sexual life is also a complex psychological process, so leaving Not in a good state of mind.When you are in poor health or lack of energy, sexual function is prone to obstacles, and it is difficult to obtain a harmonious sex life.

2. Master the rules and be considerate to each other

Usually, a woman's sexual impulse is in a latent state, and a man should actively mobilize a woman's sexual desire and prepare for caressing before sexual intercourse.Men should gently touch women's clitoris, breasts, nipples and other sexually sensitive areas, make full use of vision, hearing, and touch to stimulate women's sexual desire in many ways, and wait for women to have sexual intercourse before doing so, so that men and women can reach orgasm at the same time or one after another.Men should not fall asleep after ejaculation, but continue to hug women for a period of time, caress fully, and talk to each other, so that women can obtain psychological satisfaction.

3. The love between husband and wife is strong
The fresh love and strong relationship between husband and wife are the prerequisites for a harmonious sex life, but a relationship between the sexes with moral principles must be established in order to promote a harmonious sex life.There are individual differences between husband and wife, such as age, occupation, physique, temperament, education level, personality, ideology, behavioral characteristics, sexual awareness, sexual response, etc., may be different.This requires the establishment of a sincere, loyal, respectful, considerate and equal relationship between husband and wife to make up for it.

4. Both parties are voluntary and equal

Sexual life must be based on mutual consent and equality.In sex life, there is no master-slave distinction between husband and wife. We cannot think that "the wife must satisfy the husband" or "the husband must satisfy the wife", let alone adopt a "coping" attitude.

5. Appropriate time and frequency
Most scholars believe that it is best to have sex before falling asleep at night, so as to have sufficient time to recover; It is even appropriate to feel physically and mentally comfortable and happy.

6. Pay attention to nonverbal communication
Non-verbal communication in sexual life is a kind of silent information transmission, which can make sexual life more imaginative and appealing, and give people the enjoyment of implicit beauty.

Hugs, kisses, affectionate glances, and lingering whispers are all messages of courtship.

When your wife hugs you tighter or her body gets closer to you, it means that she needs more stimulation from you. When she slowly pushes you away, you should also be aware of it.

Predetermine the secret signal, for example, the two parties can put their palms together, and adjust the posture and range of sexual behavior according to the strength of the other party's palms.It is also possible to formulate a sexual signal when the woman's orgasm comes in advance, so that the woman's orgasm can be grasped quickly and accurately, so that both of them can enter the climax period and achieve the greatest happiness of sexual life.

7. Good at eliminating psychological interference
Psychological balance, mutual trust, and sincere love are the primary psychological factors for a harmonious sex life; it is very important to eliminate psychological interference.This must first achieve the psychological equality of both parties.

(End of this chapter)