The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 58 Sex is an art, but also a skill (2)
What fascinates men more than body language is women's soft words of love, the so-called spiritual flirting.

Why does a gentle look from a woman when she is in love make a man have endless aftertaste?

When you feel love at first sight with a person of the opposite sex, it is actually the result of spiritual flirting, and this kind of flirting is infinitely stronger than the magnetic field generated by physical flirting.The first thing about spiritual flirting is appreciation.Admiring the man you love produces more hormones than touching him a hundred times.

When you appreciate a man, you must look at his eyes full of charm and tenderness, which will make all the cells of the man feel comfortable and useful, and then the brain will feed back a result to him—he is a great man, and he wants to conquer you.Once the spiritual flirting comes into play, the man is like drinking the sweat medicine, unable to control himself, and will soon be captured by the woman's soft and soft jade.

The fatal feature of spiritual flirting is to put a man in a state of high arousal, arouse the other party's long-lasting excitement for you, and keep the man's passion for love at all times.

Therefore, being affectionate will always be more memorable to men than topless breasts.

To be a woman with a spring heart, it is best to be as gentle as the spring breeze. Wherever it goes, the glaciers turn into water, the grass turns green, and the men also come back to spring with dead trees.

Psychologists point out that learning to flirt is helpful for self-development, allowing people to release their "self" in a short period of time, and over time they can overcome their timid personality and enjoy better interpersonal relationships.A woman who is good at flirting is sexy and lively. Not only does she feel like a fish in water in the relationship between the sexes, but she is also more proactive and able to overcome setbacks and difficulties in life.

Don't reveal private details to your husband easily
Every woman will give full play to her neat and tidy nature in her girlhood.They change clothes and take a shower almost every day, and they always look in the mirror over and over before going out.The breath of a girl is the smell of flowers and fruits under the sun.When she grows up, after being someone's wife and stirring spoons in a pot with him for years, she tends to loosen up with intimacy.Even today, when the economy is developed and the material is abundant, there are many women who face their husbands with old undershirts and stockings after taking off their fancy clothes.

Some husbands will enjoy this image very much and think it is a manifestation of the intimacy of two people. If he is a big and sloppy man, he will also feel impatient with the exquisiteness in his wife's bedroom.But for most men, they subconsciously hope that their wives will always keep the tidy and beautiful appearance when they first met, and women who also keep a personal distance from their husbands at home are more likely to arouse their long-term desire.

Some women think that since they are married to their husbands, they no longer need aesthetics.For example, they don't bend the corners of an apparently embarrassing subject.She urinates in front of her husband, or doesn't shy away from their menstrual tissues, etc.Some husbands may not care about these, while others may be sensitive.

Generally speaking, men are more particular about the performance of their partners than women.The root cause of the wife's vulgar or unattractive behavior is that she doesn't care.Sex life is a very complex function and can easily be disrupted.And actions such as peeing can cause many men to feel their pre-existing sexual desires diminished.

In a psychological interview, a man once said that because he saw some sanitary napkins contaminated by menstrual blood in the toilet, he could not experience pleasure in sexual intercourse with his wife for several months.You might think that these are small things.But life is made up of little things, and many marriages break down because of not paying attention to little things.

The relationship between husband and wife is the most intimate of all relationships in the world, but this does not mean that a married woman can have no scruples. Your cleanliness in your private space is a sign of self-esteem and respect for him.

Know when a man likes his wife to take the initiative to approach
1. In a dark corridor

Just had a nice party, your elevator stopped.After 11 o'clock at night, two people need to climb to the 20th floor.There was no one in the dark corridor, why didn't you take the initiative to attack him at this time?You are a female ghost in the dark night, and also a delicate sister Lin.

I lay on his back, unable to walk anymore, and asked him to carry it on his back—of course it was only for a short distance.

Remember, don't make loud noises, so as not to affect the neighbors when you come back late.But the more nervous he acted, the more his blood was racing.Wouldn't it be easy to capture him?
2. He does things that make you happy
He is very concerned about the high blood pressure of the mother-in-law and the birthday celebration of the father-in-law. He often comes back early, like a family man, and makes you a bowl of wife soup.Maybe he doesn't care about getting your sex, but he does turn you on, so the best way to reward him is to give him a hot SEX.

Hold him tenderly and tell him that he touches you.Sometimes a man is like a child who needs to be praised, and in a mood of excitement and affirmation, he gets the best candy - the reward of sex.Then you just wait to see how he bravely shows his strength and majesty!

3. When he is in a bad mood
He came back, sat on the couch and smoked morosely.

He was scolded by the leader of the unit, and he encountered something that didn't go his way.This night, he behaved so depressed.Please hug him like a mother, and then give him the best physical comfort.Remember, men sometimes need sex to relieve stress.In a kind of ecstasy, they will vent their sadness and frustration.He may be used to taking the initiative, but he was in a bad mood that day.So, let's take the initiative today.

4. When your menstrual cycle arrives

Remember, this is talking about menstrual cycles, not "periods."Experts have found that sex also has cycles, sometimes high tide and sometimes low tide, in a month, it seems to ebb and flow.Are there days when guys act like a monkey and crave sex, are there days when you're restless and anxious about everything?Or even open flames for no reason?

The best extinguisher might be the caress of his tender body.If he is a careless man who doesn't understand anything, then instead of training him inexplicably with a dazed face and not knowing what's wrong, you might as well just take his hand and walk into the bathroom or bedroom.

5. He's the nerd with his head down
Don't think that when he is studying hard, all his thoughts are really put into the book. The handsome scholars in "Liao Zhai" seem to be studying hard in the ancient temples in the mountains, but they are all looking forward to the red sleeves. In the middle of the night, a vixen suddenly came to his side with rings jingling.Therefore, in the middle of the night, when he is studying hard in the study, you might as well give him a massage and shoulder-beating at the right time when you bring in a bowl of love soup.He is tired, you tease him, there is no man who does not immediately desire to return to the real world from the boring book.At this time, you are his vixen, the best way for him to relax.

6. When You Are Really Wrong
He didn't do anything wrong that day, and you insisted on making trouble with him because you were in a bad mood; when you ridiculed him that day, you used the sharpest language, and you thought it was too much afterwards.You got pissed off by your boss in the office and insisted on making him a punching bag...

In this case, why don't you go over, hug him, and show him that you are wrong?There is no final winner in the conflict between husband and wife. Whoever turns around and admits his mistake first will be the angel.Please be that angel for once, because you love him.Sex is often the best fire extinguisher for marital conflicts.

Women's initiative is the slogan of the times, but the times have evolved for thousands of years, men are men after all, and women are women after all.Look at the male lions on the African continent, they always feel that the female lions are not easy to chase, and they will radiate the bravery and vitality of the males.Lions are aggressive, and the less they get, the more flavorful they will be.

How to Say "No" to Your Husband When He Asks

In addition to life, work, and children, there is also sex between husband and wife.Due to the natural gender differences between men and women, men's sexual requirements are stronger than women's.In addition, for women who have formed their own small families, their own work, children's study, and the family's eating and drinking are all real problems that they have to face every day when they open their eyes. Naturally, there is no time to take care of others.Relatively speaking, men's minds are more direct and simpler. In the bedroom, their enthusiasm may burst out at any time.

If there are differences, there will naturally be discordant notes. The most common scene is: a man happily takes a shower and goes to bed to have some tenderness with his wife. Unexpectedly, his wife gently pushes him away, turns over and gives him a hug. Icy back.Unharmonious sex is enough to endanger the happiness of marriage and family warmth.Statistics from Weiqing, the country's first divorce consulting company, show that [-]% of divorces are caused by extramarital affairs, and [-]% of the extramarital affairs are directly related to the sexual disharmony of the couple.

For almost all men, the "sexual" repression and setbacks they suffer are quite serious. He may suspect that his wife does not love him, he may suspect that he lacks charm, and he may not dare to make demands in later life.It is quite humiliating to be denied "sex" by one's dear one, and what is worse is that he has no idea why and no compensation.If this kind of experience keeps happening, it may be the reason why he "can't hold his head up" in front of his wife in the future, and it may be the fuse for him to throw himself into another woman's arms to express his affection.

When wives encounter a situation where they want to say "no" to their husbands, they must pay attention to communication skills and strive to "reject him without hurting him".For example, before the wife pushes her husband away, she can make some preparations to be gentle with the other party. She said: "You have been working hard recently. You have to work so hard during the day and you have to take care of your family. You are also very considerate to me..."

Of course, how "meaty" or "deep" each person refers to varies according to the relationship or habit of the weekdays.Or unrelated compliments like: "Your tie is so cool today."

After letting the other party taste the sweetness, slowly turn the conversation away and make a clear rejection.

"Hey! I'm so sorry, I'm depressed today and I really don't want to do it; I know you really want to and haven't done it for a long time, but if I force you, you will be disappointed, and you may become less fond of doing it in the future... "

It must be very unpleasant to be poured into this basin of cold water for the excited partner. Apart from disappointment, he still has two things to alleviate: one is full of sexual desire, and the other is anticipation for tonight.

Therefore, compensating the other party and providing other options are also obligatory for intimate partners.There are many ways to relieve sexual desire. For impulsive men, helping him masturbate may be a simple and clear method; some men can sleep very sweetly by embracing tenderness and enjoying the "warmth of motherhood"; some men are more "noble" , Get up and listen to classical music or drink a glass of alcohol to sleep better.

What is more important is to give him another expectation, tomorrow, the day after tomorrow or this weekend, where we will go on a date, we will drink and watch videos after the child falls asleep... This promise must be "definitely" and "absolutely fulfilled". It was "maybe try again tomorrow", and the day after tomorrow happened to meet again, causing a more serious "second injury".This approach is quite obvious, first thank the other party, and at the same time explicitly refuse the request.Finally, substitute other options.Between lovers, there will always be choices that are acceptable to each other. After a moment of depression, the other party will immediately have brighter expectations, thus dispelling the frustration.

Rejecting your husband will definitely cause short-term damage. However, if you warm the other party with "gratitude" beforehand, and then compensate the other party with "another choice" afterwards, the damage of this rejection will be close to invisible.So, if you really don't want tonight, think about how to say it first, and reject the other party well, not only can you avoid unpleasant memories, but also create a broad road for a more interesting sex life in the future.

Women have the right to control their own bodies, but if you desire a happy and harmonious married life, then no matter whether you are in the mood or not, you should maintain sex with your husband at least once a week.Why do you want to give up physical intimacy with your husband?Don't forget, this is a very important part of living a good life.Accepting your husband's sexual demands will make him feel loved by you.

Agreeing to have sex with your husband doesn't mean you can't make your own demands.You can also suggest lighting candles in the bedroom, or letting an enchanting aroma fill the room, or suggesting a special sexual position or listening to a piece of music first.In short, he will be happy to fulfill your request, because he always wants to give you happiness.

(End of this chapter)