The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 59 "Sex" blessing train breaks down, how to deal with it (1)
Getting your husband to admit "I can't do it" is a terrible thing
"Inferiority", people have heard a lot, but "sexual inferiority" is still a relatively new word.In fact, in modern society, many men and women are suffering from physical diseases, unable to have normal erection or premature ejaculation, etc., which make men unable to hold their heads up. In the incomprehension and ridicule of sexual partners, men are more concerned about sex from the heart. There is a sense of inferiority.

1. Fear of not having sex long enough
There is no standard for the length of sex time. Men often feel that the longer the time, the better. They think that the longer the time, the stronger their sexual function and the higher their sexual skills. At the same time, the longer the time, the more satisfied their wives are. Therefore, men When comparing sexual performance with each other, they often brag about how long they have had sex.In fact, there are two misunderstandings that need to be corrected: first, there is a difference between the time of sexual intercourse and the time of making love. This whole process is the time to make love, and this process can last for several 10 minutes, or even longer.Coitus time is when a man's penis is inserted into the vagina until ejaculation is completed, which is not as long as most people brag about.According to the statistics of American sex researchers, most American couples have sexual intercourse between 5 and 9 minutes.Is there a man who can last for several 10 minutes, or even more than an hour?There may be, but it can be said to be very few.The second is that even if a man can last more than an hour during sexual intercourse, is such a long time really necessary?Men who ejaculate too quickly are "premature ejaculation". There are many men who are worried about "premature ejaculation", but there are no people who are worried about "delayed ejaculation". Ejaculation occurs.If this situation persists, not only can it be diagnosed as "delayed ejaculation", but it may even be suspected of not ejaculating.In fact, a woman's sexual satisfaction is not directly proportional to the length of a man's sexual intercourse.

2. I am afraid that my wife will care about the size of the sexual organs
Men worry about the size of their sexual organs as much as women worry about the size of their breasts. It is not surprising that unmarried men worry about the size of their penis because they have no sexual experience, while married men worry that their penis is too large or too large. There are not a few small ones.

Especially for some newlywed husbands and husbands who have been married for a long time and still cannot satisfy their wives, they are often afraid that their wives will care about the size of their penis during sexual intercourse. Gigantism and dwarfism are rare indeed, as are pathologically long or short penises.

During sexual life, as long as you pay attention to the position of sexual intercourse, it will not damage the sexual harmony of both parties.Therefore, when a sensitive wife notices that her husband is worried about the size of her sexual organs during the sexual life of husband and wife, the correct way is to tell him that this does not have much impact on your sex life. will feel good.This will boost your husband's self-confidence.

3. Worry about not knowing when your wife needs more caress and stimulation
A husband once said to the doctor: "When we make love, my wife usually touches the vulva with her own hands; sometimes, I also use my hands to caress her, but she pushes my hand away. Would she rather be herself? Didn’t I caress her?” From the perspective of the difficulty of a woman’s orgasm, a woman’s self-stimulation is naturally easier to obtain physical sexual satisfaction than her husband’s touch, but making love is a matter for both parties, mutual caressing, mutual Complete the whole process of sexual life together is far more perfect than doing it alone.Therefore, a wise wife should give more guidance to her husband.

4. Fear of not having a strong enough erection
A man's erectile function is affected by many factors: pressure from work and career, heavy life burden, emotional estrangement between husband and wife, etc., will make the penis erection poor, or even without these influencing factors, men over 30 years old will occasionally Poor erection performance occurs.Because of this, many men doubt their own sexual function, and some will blindly take various yang-enhancing and kidney-tonifying medicines to save their "declining" sexual function.In fact, compared with the period of 18-25 years old when men's sexual desire is the most vigorous, men who have passed their thirties will feel that their sexual impulse has decreased, but their ability to control their sex has increased.Therefore, the attitude of the wife is the most important at this time; if the wife speaks of her husband in a suspicious, complaining or mocking tone, it will only make the problem worse.The best way is: choose your husband who is in a better mood, or caress his genitals in the morning when his erectile function is good, or let him perform vaginal stimulation, so that your husband will no longer worry about his erectile function.

5. Fear of wife faking orgasm

In married life, the couple’s sexual response and sexual information can sense and stimulate each other, and one party’s response to sexual pleasure will make the other party feel great satisfaction.Take the husband as an example, if the wife obtains an orgasm during sex, it can make him more sexually stimulated, and it will also give him a sense of pride and accomplishment as a man.However, if you know that the other person's orgasm is just a disguise, it will greatly damage his self-esteem and affect his sexual interest.Just as some researchers believe that a wife fakes an orgasm in front of her husband, just as she says polite words in front of guests, if she does not achieve an orgasm during sex, the wife can explain to her husband: "I am not in a good mood today", or "I am not in a good mood today" I'm so tired, but having sex and physical contact with you is also satisfying." The wife really said it through, and the husband will understand.

Almost no man in the world is completely satisfied with his SEX ability, just as no woman is completely satisfied with his appearance.However, even if a man has erectile dysfunction, he will never admit that he can't. "The weather is wrong", "My wife is not gentle" and other reasons.Getting him to admit "I can't do it" is a hell of a thing.

In Ms. Han's impression, her husband is always confident in bed.Every time he finished, he asked Ms. Han to talk about his impressions.Ms. Han sometimes hesitates and doesn't know what to say, because her feeling is really ordinary.At such times, my husband widened his eyes and said, "Isn't it bad? Why do I feel that every time is so good, every time is better than once!" Ms. Han often complained that the sex time was not long enough and the number of times was not enough. scoffed.Ms. Han thinks that her husband is too conceited and doesn't care what she says, so she jokes more and more about her husband's sexual ability. Her attitude is still tough, but her enthusiasm in this regard is getting lower and lower.

Whether you admit it or not, there are actually many men around us who are extremely sexually panicked.If your husband is such an unfortunate member, what should we do as their closest companions?

Some women keep a respectful distance from such men, and turn around and leave rashly, looking for their own true happiness. This kind of love that quits despite difficulties is not true love.In fact, a man's sexual inferiority complex can be rid of, as long as you use a little method to guide it.You must know that your abandonment will become the root cause of a man’s exacerbation. A man has a low self-esteem in his heart. When he sees his closest people leave him, he will completely give up on himself and be devastated.At this time, the company and encouragement of family members are particularly important.

It is best for women to understand that in bed, a husband is very concerned about his wife's feelings, and his wife's praise is almost all the motivation for his efforts.Therefore, in bed life, if he has some problems, as his wife, you must not look down on him or laugh at him, this is nothing more than adding salt to his wounds.The correct approach is: Encourage him more, change some tricks to let him experience different freshness, arouse his desire, be more considerate to him and guide him, he will be able to come out of sexual inferiority complex and give you exciting moments At night, let you experience the joy of orgasm.

Three main culprits to eliminate the psychological burden of couples
When newlyweds are married, the sexual impulses of both husband and wife are often driven by love and passion, and the sexual experience makes people feel novel and intoxicated.However, after the drunken wedding stage, as time goes by, the sexual passion will quietly decline and be replaced by a contractual obligation under the protection of the law, which leads to the psychological burden of the couple. .

Generally speaking, in real life, there are three main culprits that lead to the sexual psychological burden of couples.If the wives want the "sex" blessing train to run smoothly, they must resolutely eliminate these three major culprits.

1. Asynchronous sexual physiological needs of husband and wife

In the stage of love, the physiological needs of sex have been suppressed for a long time. When the two parties fall in love, the desire for this kind of sexual needs is basically synchronized.But after the marriage relationship is established, the satisfaction of sexual needs is guaranteed, so the physiological differences between each person begin to show.Under normal circumstances, both husband and wife often have certain differences in their sexual needs, and the party with weaker sexual needs will have a psychological burden because they cannot satisfy the party with strong sexual needs.

So, how can we get rid of this psychological burden?

First of all, the party with strong sexual needs should use more gentle and considerate words and deeds to stimulate the love of the other party. Don’t just focus on satisfying your own sexual needs, but pay attention to the appearance of the other party’s orgasm at the same time, and improve your sex skills so that the other party can enjoy sexual satisfaction. happy.The party with weak sexual needs should open their minds and communicate their psychological feelings in a timely manner, and don't suppress them in their hearts, or show boredom, and make the other party annoyed by it.

2. Sexual accommodation in personality differences

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