The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 61 Use your hard work to build a comfortable home for your husband (1)
A wife must remember that comfort is a man's greatest need in a home

I believe that most women have no objection to giving their husband a comfortable and beautiful home, but the question is, what kind of family life do men most yearn for?Women may not know that their habit of pursuing elegance, advocating perfection, and appreciating spotless cleanliness is often an injury to their husbands that makes them laugh and cry.

The following short story may be a bit exaggerated, but after laughing, it can still give us some inspiration.

The wife said to Shen Kai who had just returned home from get off work: "My dear, listen, we should make our home more comfortable."

Shen Kai asked puzzledly: "What do you mean?"

The wife enlightened me and said, "We have to repair the house and wipe some of the furnishings. Don't you like to be tidy? You give me the 3000 yuan you saved for buying a tram, and I will take care of everything."

Shen Kai is still hesitating, but his wife is already imagining a beautiful home in the future:
"First of all, the walls have to be painted every color, not the same. The curtains vary with the color of the wall, like the one at Mr. Lee's, German. We sell the rug to the thrift store and buy a big Persian Carpet. If you like, you can sleep on the floor like the Japanese. Tiles the walls in the bathroom up to the ceiling so that you feel comfortable as soon as you enter the door... The kitchen floor is covered with imported linoleum so that, with A damp rag will clean it up. The parquet floor in the house is painted with Polish varnish, like Mr. Yang's. The brightness can last for a year, and if you take good care of it, it can last for three to five years."

"Uh-yes..." Shen Kai said.

"You save the money for the tram. Take some of my salary and save it. You save a little more. How comfortable it will be at home! Let's buy a pair of stylish sofa chairs. Go home , Sit on such a chair, and the fatigue of the day will disappear immediately."

A gentle hand wrapped around his neck, all doubts disappeared in an instant, and only one word flashed in his mind: comfort.Comfort - this is a strange, loud, wonderful, tender, colorful word.

A few days later, several masters came, and the great repair project began!The interior of the house gradually changed its appearance, shining like the moon above, and bright like a mirror below.Comfortable!

On the first day of a comfortable life, the husband comes back from get off work, and the wife warns him: "Honey, be careful! Don't slam the door... Keep the shoes in your hand, here, that's it, it's better to wrap the shoes in a newspaper." so that the dust does not fall on the Persian rug."

The next day he said, "Why are you holding the doorknob with your dirty hands? You know, it's new, and I've powdered it."

"Ouch, don't touch the wall—it'll get dirty!"

"You're stepping there! Don't you see the polish on the floor?"

Before long, things get more and more:
"Hey, dear, it's time to cut off from your friends. Isn't it enough for you to walk on the parquet all by yourself..."

At last the comfort was at its peak: "My God, what a mess you've made of your bedroom! No, you might as well not come in at all! Good night, dear! You'll spend the night in the porch!"

A wife who is obsessed with cleanliness is often unbearable, because she thinks that a spotless home environment is more important than anything else.And for your husband, what should his favorite family environment and atmosphere be like?Two words: comfort!
Since it is usually the wife's job to decorate and furnish the home, she must remember that comfort is a man's greatest need.Slender tables and chairs, overly delicate wool fabrics, and piles of small decorations may be charming in the eyes of women, but these things are annoying to a tired man. He needs a place where he can freely move stretch the body.

Women, you might as well ask yourself: "Am I, in the name of cleanliness and elegance, always restricting my husband's nature of liking freedom and forcing him to flee?" Take a good look at your own behavior.A wise wife knows how to give her husband the comfort he likes, instead of imposing her own wishes on her husband.When your husband really loves the home you built, he will love the wife who created it all for him.

Keep the room orderly and clean, don't be a messy lady

If happiness comes knocking on the door, women, especially married women, must keep the room orderly and clean.Any husband hopes that his home is clean and tidy. For a man, he can be informal, but others can't, especially his wife and his home.

If you leave the breakfast dishes in the sink unwashed until dinner, the bathroom is full of waste, the bedroom is not tidy, and the time for eating is not accurate, and the quality of the food is not particular, in the long run your husband will Definitely going away from home.

Of course, for a well-cultivated husband, occasional irregularities can be forgiven, especially when cleaning at home, he will eat leftovers without complaint, when you encounter some problems that must be solved immediately , Husband will also help with housework to solve your troubles.

However, keep in mind that this kind of thing cannot happen very often.

Psychologists have found that those women who don't love cleanliness are basically people who cannot manage and restrain themselves.If you pay a little attention, you will find that many women who love to "play" her house is as messy as a pig's nest.

Such a woman is easily seduced, has little judgment and willpower, and is always easily caught by bad men, without any design or sweet words to coax her.She doesn't even care about sex, and her private life is chaotic. Think about it, how can such a woman be happy.

This kind of women who don't love cleanliness and have no willpower are basically impossible to have a happy marriage and life. On the road of marriage or life, their willpower is weak. Once they encounter difficulties, they will simply run away and don't want to go. face.Such a woman, even if she is lucky enough to meet a good man and have a good marriage, will eventually destroy her family and her own life because of her inability to restrain herself.

Of course, modern women always dress up neatly and beautifully when they go out. It is difficult for ordinary people to see the clues. However, flaws can still be discovered.

There was an old man who was a thrifty and practical worker. He knew the principles of life and cherished the fate of a family.When he was young, he married a beautiful wife. This wife didn't like cleaning or doing housework, but the old man loved her very much, so he married her.After only three years of marriage, two sons were born.But one night, the wife actually found the man she was secretly dating, and then took advantage of his absence to rob the family of all the money and gold jewelry, and wanted to leave.

Unexpectedly, when she was about to leave the house, she accidentally kicked a chair and woke up two sleeping children. The children found that their mother was going out and cried for their mother to come back, but she grabbed the money and gold jewelry without looking back. Running out with that man, no matter how sad the child was crying, the two sons just looked at their dearest mother and cruelly left them and ran away with other men. It is the cruelest torture.

In this way, the old man lived alone with the children, and he took care of the two children while working until the two children grew up.

To be honest, this old man can be regarded as a good man. Any woman who marries him will not worry about food and clothing for the rest of his life, and he will definitely not be wronged.But unfortunately, he unexpectedly met a woman who was easygoing.

Therefore, a woman who has no willpower, does not like to do housework, and does not like to be clean will never have happiness in this life.Later, when the old uncle's child grew up, one day his wife came back to them, dirty and skinny, crying that she had been beaten by her third husband, and now she was divorced again, with no money on her body. , Now I just want to come back and spend the days of reunion and happiness with the children.

When her children thought about what she did back then, they refused to forgive her at all, and allowed her to cry and make noise, and insisted on not letting her go home, so she could only leave in despair.

Psychologists also found that women who like to do laundry and housework can be seen as a sign of health. Why?In fact, if you have done housework such as washing and cleaning every day, you know that it is really annoying and tiring, especially the clothes have to be dried, ironed, folded and put away.Therefore, a woman who is born weak is sometimes not because she is lazy, but because she just can't wash and fold clothes easily and neatly, let alone cleaning, cooking and doing housework every day.In other words, a woman's love of cleanliness is an important factor in her health.

In addition, we can also see from this place that those women who often do their own laundry have received solid family education.Because psychologists also said that although whether you like to wash clothes or dress yourself is related to your personality, the teaching and training of your parents since childhood is the biggest reason.

Most of these women who have been well-trained since childhood have a good fate.

Smart women know how to keep their duties, know how to be diligent and thrifty in housekeeping, so they will have a lot of children and grandchildren when they grow old, and they will have no regrets in their lives.Only those stupid women who are short-sighted and greedy for immediate enjoyment will come back to cry and kneel to win sympathy when they are old, just like the old uncle's wife.This is what people usually say: "Poor man, there must be something to hate."

Therefore, a woman who develops hardworking and clean habits from an early age can manage a clean and orderly home after she grows up to be a wife.

If you have not received this kind of education since childhood, and have not developed the good habit of thrifty labor, don't be discouraged, because it is never too late to start, no matter how old you are now.In fact, the biggest beneficiary is yourself if you develop the habit of loving cleanliness and cleaning, because a woman who loves cleanliness will have a happy life, and a woman who does not love cleanliness will rarely be happy.

Don't use your own cleanliness standards for the family to ask him
As social competition becomes more and more fierce, men face more and more work pressure, which makes many men face the problem of physical and mental exhaustion.After a tiring and tense day for them, home has become their most desired place to relax and rest.

(End of this chapter)