The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 62 Use your hard work to build a comfortable home for your husband (2)
However, not all husbands are able to rest and relax at home.The reason, the key is that his wife is a woman with a cleanliness.She does not allow her husband to smoke at home, which will fill the air with the smell of stinky smoke; she does not allow her husband to throw away the newspaper after reading it, and he has to put it back where he got it from.It is an anecdote that the husband can relax in such a family!In this way, after a long time, it is bound to cause family conflicts and even induce family conflicts.

Zhao Yanhong is a housewife.The focus of her married life is to keep the house spotless, and even a slight misalignment of the sofa cushions is intolerable.For her husband's friends, every time she visits her house, she always ignores them, because they will mess up the room.She also thinks that her husband is a "king of destruction" (in fact, her husband is very honest in the eyes of people around), and she always thinks that her husband often disturbs the perfect home she has built.

Obviously, what Zhao Yanhong did was very unwise.As a wife, if you make your husband feel uncomfortable at home, it is impossible for him to recharge his energy to fight for tomorrow.

Women, if you have worked hard to clean the house neatly, and when your husband comes home, it will not take long for him to mess up the newspapers he has finished reading, the used wet wipes and other items, don't complain about it. She yells and yells, even kicks her husband's ass with her feet, or hits her husband's back hard with her hands.The correct way is to give a tolerant smile to the husband's behavior, because the home is the only place where they can relax completely, and only wives can provide them with this place.If the wife can't, over time, your husband will easily have the urge to "find another beautiful woman".In fact, many "little threes" are invisibly encouraged by a wife who can't manage marriages in this way.

When furnishing the room, don't ignore his need for comfort and ease

Men also need a woman to provide a safe haven.In the eyes of men, the first choice for a safe haven is home, and home is the place where they can relax physically and mentally.If a woman wants to win happiness from her husband, she must understand that as a good wife, she must create a warm, safe and comfortable love nest for her husband.A smart wife is good at using her hard work to build a comfortable home for her husband.

However, in real life, many women often turn a deaf ear to their husband's need for comfort and ease when decorating their rooms. As everyone knows, this is one of the most urgent needs of their husbands for their home.Many wives like to place thin and long tables and chairs, cute plush dolls, and some exquisite small porcelain ornaments at home according to their own preferences. As everyone knows, doing so is actually depriving their husbands of ashtrays and sports items. , fitness equipment and a place to place newspapers and magazines.

Most men are informal, with convenience and comfort as the greatest principle, and generally do not care about the price.For example, one of my college roommates once bought some cute quaint little ashtrays from Stockholm for their home.As a result, her husband bought five very ordinary large glass ashtrays in the wholesale market and put them in the living room upstairs and downstairs respectively.When guests arrive, they use those cheap ashtrays too, so of course the nice little ashtrays my college roommate bought in Stockholm are "useless".

Smart wives should understand that when your husband damages your hard-earned home, don’t rush into a rage and curse. The reason why he doesn’t suit you so much is probably because your arrangement doesn’t reflect convenience and comfort the rules.For example, if your husband puts newspapers everywhere, maybe your coffee table is not enough or the coffee table is full of other items, he simply can't find a suitable place to put the newspaper.In this situation, wise wives tend to reconsider the way they place their belongings.

Besides, a wise wife will buy a few large ashtrays for her husband when he flicks cigarette ash everywhere; when your husband often puts his feet on your beloved small bench, she will take this footstool to other places , In addition, help your husband buy a comfortable floor mat, and arrange for him a "territory" that belongs to him, where your husband's items are specially placed, such as cameras, collectibles, sports items, fitness equipment, etc.It is the best way for a wife to make her husband feel convenient and comfortable at home.

In short, the family is a husband and wife. When your home needs a piece of new furniture or redecoration, you should ask your husband for advice and make a decision together.You have to give up your beloved vintage sofa in order to buy the rocking chair your husband wants.You may complain, but usually you'll find that he loves home as much as you do—and that home will mean more to him if he has more say in what happens.

In addition to making the home comfortable,

Be a good husband's only private assistant

In traditional thinking, it seems reasonable for a wife to help her husband wash his clothes.

In fact, many men basically hold this view.It’s fine if they don’t want to wash it themselves, and they don’t even want to take out the clothes to dry after washing them in a fully automatic washing machine. Not well.

Chen Xi remembers that when she argued with her husband about washing clothes for family obligations, her husband argued: "All the girlfriends or wives of relatives and friends around me do this. I haven't seen anyone like you. You didn't do much, but You talk endlessly all day long, and you are openly challenging China's thousands of years of historical tradition! Do you know that?"

In fact, there are some things to pay attention to when doing laundry, and it’s not just throwing all the dirty clothes into the washing machine.For example, what should I do with underwear and socks that cannot be washed in a washing machine?

Attractive wives never cover all the clothes, large and small, at home.In their view, other clothes can be washed by the nanny or the washing machine or other people, but the husband's underwear and smelly socks must be washed by the wife herself, no matter how dirty or smelly they are.They will ensure that the husband changes clean socks every day, and they will never let him wear bad socks.At the same time, they will also wipe the husband's leather shoes clean, and ensure that the underwear that the husband will wear has a unique fragrance that has been processed by himself.

No matter how comfortable the comfort zone is, he will feel bored if he stays all day
Apart from sleeping and necessary work, the vast majority of men are active - keen on playing ball, climbing and other outdoor sports.If you want a man to stay at home quietly, he will feel trapped in the "nest" and feel particularly uncomfortable.In other words, no matter how comfortable the comfort zone is, if he stays in it all day, he will still feel bored.

Therefore, a wise wife can't keep her husband at home all day long, but should learn to "sing with the husband" and combine the indoors with the outdoors.

When a man describes his dreary married life with his wife, he often says: "Every night, when I go for a walk or read the newspaper, she doesn't act like a 'husband and wife', but watches endless soap operas. When there is a ball game I like, I spend the evening in the bar or in the office. We don't interfere with each other."

We can imagine how monotonous and dull the love life of such a couple is.When a man comes home from a tiring day, sitting side by side with such a wife, how tormented it will be!

Cleopatra is charming not because of how beautiful she is, but because she can fish.

Cleopatra, the ancient Cleopatra of the Nile, never studied clinical psychology, but she is proficient in many methods of dominating others-especially for men.Cleopatra's beauty is not outstanding, but her ability to share pleasures and special tastes with others makes her invincible.

She knew the dialects of all her vassals, none of her ancestors took the trouble to learn them.When envoys from these vassal states came to pay tribute, Cleopatra needed no interpreters—she spoke to them in their dialect—and won their enthusiastic support.

Mark Antony likes fishing, so Cleopatra, who loves luxury and luxury, doesn't hold a big banquet. She goes fishing with Antony.Once, when Anthony went hours without catching a fish, she made a slave swim down to the bottom, and hung a large fish on his hook, as a joke.Sometimes Cleopatra disguised herself as a commoner in order to win Anthony's favor, so the pair of royal family and nobles went to the poor areas and lower-level casinos in the city to have fun.Everything that Marc Anthony loved to do, petite Cleo loved too.

Cleopatra's beauty may not be unprecedented, but her attraction to the opposite sex is unparalleled.The mystery here is that the two join hands and share all the happiness they can get.

Mrs. Florence Maynard, who lives in a small town in upstate New York, is an ordinary wife.In the first 16 years of marriage, she took care of the housework, but something seemed to be missing.In the end, she finally found that what was missing was the love of her partner.Outside the home, Mr. and Mrs. Maynard had few interests and hobbies in common.Mrs. Maynard took some action to change that.

"One of my husband's main interests was professional hockey," she said, "so my first step was to develop my own interest in the sport. After I figured out what hockey was all about, I found myself interested in the sport." Sports also took an interest. I was just as eager as he was to catch hockey games and keep track of the TV time. Will be sitting at home bored while my husband is enjoying the sport.

"Starting with hockey, I found some other interests, and now I'm sharing the fun with the man I'm married to, who for 16 years was just doing housework for him."

(End of this chapter)