The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 63 Adjust your emotions to make your husband feel more relaxed after work (1)
Ladies, please be a good wife when you get home from get off work

There is no gender in the workplace, but a happy family calls for women to return.

Some professional women put all their energy on work and have little time to care about the body, mind and life of their families. This is wrong.Professional women must understand that they are not only a "worker", but also a wife and mother, who are responsible for their work and their families as well.

There used to be a TV series called "The Wife", which was popular all over the country.

This is a modern story of "Desire", a story of a modern man longing to find a wife, and Fu Biao and his wife lead the leading roles of the couple in the play.Chen Lingbao (played by Zhang Qiufang) and Xie Jiashu (played by Fu Biao) met and fell in love in college, and got married shortly after graduation.But Chen Lingbao was scorned by her mother-in-law and scolded by her sister-in-law, so she had to endure it for the sake of family harmony.

Under the impact of the external environment, the views of the husband and wife diverge.Chen Lingbao hopes that her husband will bravely join the business world, but Xie Jiashu is content with the status quo and refuses to take risks in the sea.In desperation, Chen Lingbao resigned from the work unit and began to sell medicines in partnership with others.At the critical moment of business failure, she was supported by her husband.Later, under the inspiration of old Chinese medicine practitioners, he developed the health care product "Yishou Soup", and his business developed rapidly. He opened the first health care product supermarket and recruited many relatives. Even her husband resigned and became the vice president.

Due to problems such as product quality and the "body search incident", under the malicious hype of reporters, the sales of "Yishou Tang" plummeted, and it was replaced by another new product "Baxian Drink".Coupled with the betrayal of the ghosts in the company, there were many disputes between the husband and wife, and the final result was that the company went bankrupt, and Xie Jiashu became a fool for no reason.

For her husband's recovery, Chen Lingbao learned to massage acupuncture points, and her husband's condition gradually improved.With the improvement of massage skills, Chen Lingbao had the idea of ​​opening a fitness foot shop. With her care and the help of enthusiastic people, the health foot shop developed from one store to more than a dozen chain stores. Chen Lingbao couldn't help showing a gratified smile... …

Chen Lingbao is an entrepreneur who bravely pioneers his career and is self-reliant.At the same time, she is also a good wife, who has dedicated herself to the family.Her success lies in her ability to switch between these two roles just right.

Women, you must play your role as a woman well. You cannot shirk any of your responsibilities and obligations in family life. You can’t just say that you are an executive and you can bring home your work emotions and certain habits at will. Women must understand that the space to develop a working state is in the office, not at home.

Life is a stage, and every role must strive to perform well.You can't put on airs at home, you have to act in the workplace at work, and in life at home.A perfect woman is a combination of natural attributes and social attributes.In the workplace, you are a professional, and there is no gender difference. When you get home, you should care for your husband and children, and if you understand your position, there is no difficulty in switching.

Strong women are capable, knowledgeable, cultured, tasteful, and self-cultivated. It should be said that they are enviable, respected, and fascinating in many ways, but their advantages and strengths are often double-edged swords. Unexpected negative effects may occur.

Men are born with a masculine desire to conquer, and hope that their women will depend on themselves like a bird.Just imagine, if a man works hard outside and is suppressed by his boss, and when his wife returns home and plays with her personality to compete with the man, it will be very difficult for the man both physically and psychologically. A very painful thing.

Female white-collar workers, especially high-end female white-collar workers, have worked hard in the workplace for a long time and have developed many professional habits. They should try to avoid bringing these habits into emotional communication, and learn to change roles after entering the house.

Some women have worked in agencies or management for a long time or even held leadership positions, and have developed a lot of leadership awareness and leadership temperament, which may be consciously or unconsciously carried beyond 8 hours.Even in dressing, professional women are different from other people, very serious and dignified.But the habitual sense of leadership should not be reflected too much in the relationship between two people in the emotional world, and roles must be changed in time.Because after all, you are not a superior-subordinate relationship. Even if you are, you are equal in the emotional world. Only when you are equal can you have true feelings, warmth, and romance. Only then can you perfectly show that you are not only an excellent and outstanding professional woman, but also a charming woman. Kind, gentle and considerate woman.Otherwise, it can only give people the feeling of being superior and unattainable.

Therefore, women should have more femininity and less workplace flavor when they return home, so as to reflect the charm of being a woman.How can it be full of femininity?In front of men, you might as well be more active and less passive.

Strong women may think that men should take the initiative in emotional issues because they have been in the workplace for a long time and have read poetry and books.As everyone knows, good men are not so easy to take the initiative, because good men generally have strong self-esteem, and it is very embarrassing to be rejected.A woman’s initiative does not necessarily mean frivolity. On the contrary, your enthusiasm may move and inspire the man you like, thinking that you are emotionally gracious to him, and maybe under your active care, consideration, and invitation, he will Quietly made up the determination to stay with you for the rest of my life.

To take the initiative, women need to be more natural and unrestrained, less reserved and depressed.

Due to the long-term influence of the working environment, living habits, and the influence of traditional Chinese Confucianism, strong women pay great attention to their own image. Over time, they have developed a unique temperament of reserve, which may appear as a cold beauty, or as a serious person. Or like a proud princess.If it's at work, these are totally necessary and can even add to your leadership charisma.But in emotion, we must strive to be a "little woman" and show the gentle, charming, natural and unrestrained side of women.

Lean gently on a man's shoulder when you should lean on him, and lean on his chest when you should lean on him. It is also a good choice to act coquettishly, because you have to know that you are so beautiful and outstanding. The man in front of you must be a very good man. Such a man is already physically and mentally exhausted at work, and what he needs after 8 hours is a woman with femininity, not a strong woman.If you still give him the restraint and reserve of a professional woman, it's like asking him to work overtime in the unit and face beautiful colleagues, it's like chewing wax, how do you think he will feel?
Let a door separate the two worlds.As long as you are careful, opening and closing the door properly will make you not only a beauty envied by everyone in the workplace, but also a good wife that your husband can't live without.

Give your husband a smiling face, don't bring bad mood home
After a hard day's work, when you come home and give your husband a smile, the atmosphere will immediately become active.Give your husband a smiling face, give yourself a smiling face, and create a good family atmosphere in order to have a happy family life.

A woman who takes care of herself carefully and faces the world with a fresh and beautiful face every day, then she already has the basic qualifications of a "beauty". If she wants to do a better job, she must not ignore the smile on her face.Laughter is the most emotional in human body language, and smile is the easiest to move people's hearts.

Among all the professions suitable for women, stewardesses are most favored by men. Among the football players of our national team, several famous football stars have married stewardesses.The most masculine man is often the easiest to get lost in the softest smile of a woman.Many men have expressed that they would rather have porridge in a happy atmosphere than eat steak with a moaning, nagging woman.

Yang Liu is my middle school classmate, and we still keep in touch with each other often.As an art editor, she was fine at her job, but as a housewife, she was a bit off.They are often cooking and talking on the phone, cleaning the floor and listening to music. If she and her husband don't have to work at work, it is estimated that they will never be able to catch up.What's more, the key mobile phone is always lost at will, and the master who unlocks the lock knows several.What is incomprehensible is that her husband not only has no complaints, but treats his wife like a baby. I heard him criticize his wife's new mobile phone in the taxi and said: "The function control is cumbersome, and the color is different." It’s too dark, it’s time to change it.” What kind of magic does Yang Liu have, to have such a devoted admirer by his side?
Her magic weapon is the smile on her face. No matter when or where, Yang Liu seldom has a sullen face, like a ray of sunshine, shining wherever she goes.Even if my husband has something unsatisfactory at work, seeing Yang Liu smiling like a flower, he will relax a lot invisibly.With such a comfortable smile at the bottom, even if she makes some sloppy mistakes occasionally, who can bear to blame her?
"Looking back and smiling, Bai Meisheng" refers to the power of a woman's smile.However, it is not limited to this, there is often a solid force behind a woman's smile.It can dissolve all kinds of ice in life in a gentle way, guide you to the light, and appreciate the most beautiful state of life.

A beautiful smile comes from the heart.When smiling, the teeth are slightly exposed, the lips are slightly opened, and the corners of the mouth are slightly curved upwards, which will drive the inner muscles of the face to fully stretch.Therefore, it is often said that a smile is an eternal cosmetic on a woman's face.Known as the "Queen of Table Tennis", Wang Nan has won many awards at the World Table Tennis Championships. Not only has her superb ball skills conquered the audience, but her sweet smile has also left a deep impression on people.If it is said that Deng Yaping's sharp eyes and courageous shouts frighten opponents, then Wang Nan's smile kills everything, and even the audience outside the arena is infinitely fascinated by her.

A smile makes people face peaceful and beautiful. It is a sedative, which can calm the angry people instantly, relax the irritable people immediately, and make the sad people happy again.The smile of an attractive woman, no matter the same sex or the opposite sex, will be infected by her.

If you smile a lot, you will be in a better mood.Repeated expressions for a long time will leave some marks on your face.If you want to do something today for the charm of tomorrow, then you have to try to maintain a positive mood, and your facial expressions will gradually soften and beautiful.The gentlest killing power will always be with you from now on.

Some women think that wrinkles can be avoided by smiling less and moving the facial muscles as little as possible, so their faces are always sullen and their facial expressions hardly change.In fact, this is a complete misunderstanding.With the increase of age, wrinkles will always appear sooner or later, which is independent of people's will.But a dead expression can make you look old now.In contrast, a person with a lively facial expression may still look like a happy and pleasing woman despite having laugh lines under the eyes.

The happiness of a family is based on the happy life of all family members. In a family, the happiness of the wife may not affect the husband, but the sorrow of the wife will definitely affect the husband.Only maintaining a happy mood will add weight to a happy family life.

So, how can I control my emotions, maintain a happy mood, and pass my happiness on to my husband?
(1) Bring your smiling face through the door.No matter how much you have been wronged outside, come in and give your husband a smile.Clear away worries and unhappiness before entering the door.

(2) Don't demand perfection.Some people demand perfection in doing things, and they are almost critical of themselves. They often blame themselves for small flaws, and the victim is still themselves.In order to avoid frustration, you should set your goals and requirements within the scope of your ability, and know how to appreciate your existing achievements, so that you will naturally feel comfortable.

(3) Don't expect too much from others.Many people pin their hopes on others, and if the other party fails to meet their requirements, they will be greatly disappointed.In fact, everyone has their own advantages and disadvantages in thinking, why ask others to cater to their own requirements?

(4) Channel your anger.When we get angry, we do a lot of wrong things or gaffes.It is better to exercise self-control beforehand than regret later.Transfer the anger to another side, such as playing ball and singing, and cultivate a kind of Ah Q spirit.

(5) LOOK BIG.A person who does big things looks at things from the big picture, and only some ignorant people will drill down to small things. Therefore, as long as the big premise is not affected, sometimes there is no need to insist too much on small things, so as to reduce your own troubles.

(6) Temporary escape.When you encounter setbacks in your life, you should put aside your troubles temporarily and do what you like to do, such as exercise, sleep, and reading, etc., and then face your own problems again when you are in a peaceful state of mind.

(7) Find someone to talk about your troubles.Burying all the depression in your heart will only make you unhappy.If you tell your inner troubles to your close friends or teachers, you will feel relieved.

(8) Do something for others.Helping others is the foundation of happiness. Helping others not only makes you forget your troubles, but also can confirm your own existence value and gain precious friendship. Why not do it?

(9) Only do one thing at a time.According to Dr. Qiao Qi, an American psychological counseling expert, the main cause of diseases such as worry and mental breakdown is that patients face a lot of things that need to be dealt with urgently, and the mental pressure is too great to cause mental illness. Do more than one thing at the same time to avoid exhaustion.

(10) Don't compete with others everywhere.Some people are psychologically unbalanced simply because they love competition too much, so they are often in a state of tension.In fact, when getting along with others, harmony should be the most important thing.

(11) Show kindness to people.We are often ostracized because people are wary of us.If you show your kindness at the right time, make more friends and make fewer enemies, your mind will naturally become calm.

(12) ENTERTAINMENT.This is the best way to eliminate psychological stress.The way of entertainment is not important, the most important thing is to make the mood comfortable.

Change the viewpoint of "a man does not flick his tears lightly" from the heart
For a long time, men have been considered strong and capable. They have to bear many social responsibilities, and they have to bear the responsibility of supporting their families. Therefore, men struggle to support the sky that belongs to them, even if they are tired, they can't say it.

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