The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 65 Dedicate your whole life to tenderness and reduce his tension in society (1)
Being too arrogant to your husband will only make him nervous
We often lament that "beautiful women are unlucky", which seems to be an inescapable curse. Many beautiful women have a bad fate, but usually it is those ordinary-looking women who get a happy marriage.

Many times, we will see such a situation, some handsome and successful entrepreneurs or politicians, standing next to a short and fat woman, this often makes everyone surprised, do not understand how these outstanding men are What's the matter, there are so many beauties in the world who don't choose, but marry such a woman who can't go out.In fact, as everyone knows, although men love beautiful faces, ordinary beautiful women are too high-minded, and they never want to lower their posture. At the beginning, men can accept it, but after living with such women for a long time, what they see when they return home is A man who looks "high-spirited" will not be able to bear it, and he can't wait to escape as soon as possible.

When a man and a woman meet for the first time, he will be attracted by her beautiful and generous appearance, elegant and refined temperament, and love at first sight often happens under such circumstances.But what about living together for a long time?A pleasing appearance, after all, cannot represent the ups and downs of life. Men's hearts are beginning to turn to those women with flesh and blood who can bring them happiness in life, instead of just being satisfied with admiring a picture of a beautiful woman.

In this ever-changing world, anything can happen, including Camilla, a single mother who came from a humble background and worked as a waitress in a nightclub with a 4-year-old child by her side, and finally was able to walk through the gates of the British royal palace and become the successor. The next princess after Anna.

In the eyes of the world, no matter how you look at it, these two people are not a heavyweight opponent.Diana, the rose of England, was one of the most glamorous women in the last century. She was young, beautiful, noble, and generous. Almost wherever she appeared, the public would be overwhelmed by her unparalleled elegance.It can be said that for many years, the name Diana was the symbol of perfection.Looking at Camilla in turn, her appearance and beauty are not even close to each other. When Diana bloomed in front of the world like a flower, Camilla was already old and entered middle age.But it was this seemingly inconspicuous woman who defeated the goddess Diana in people's minds and completely shattered the illusion of fairy tale marriage in the century.How did Camilla do all this?

No matter how many places Diana is better than Camilla, there is at least one thing that she will never be able to compare with Camilla, and that is her understanding of Prince Charles.In fact, no matter how noble and rich a person is, he is also a human being, and he also has the weaknesses and emotional needs of ordinary people.Young, beautiful, maybe a deadly weapon to attract people, but those are just external conditions, what really matters is whether you can satisfy his heart.

As an heir to the British throne, Charles has been under the spotlight since he was a child. His every move has been noticed by people, but few people care about his inner world.This is a person who grew up in solitude. This is a person who has an extremely respected status but has never been truly cared for by his parents, relatives, and friends.Perhaps it was due to the age distance, or perhaps the differences in personalities between them were too great, it was difficult for Diana to understand all of these.

Camilla was different. When she met Charles for the first time, she was already a mature woman. She knew how to deal with this extremely noble but sad young man. She knew what he needed most. what is it.She never seemed to take the prince's status into her heart, she took the initiative to talk to him, and her words and deeds were very natural, never pretentious or pretentious.In her presence, Charles got what he had dreamed of for a long time: he could finally relax himself completely, without being bothered by any external things.It was this that made Camilla walk into the prince's heart at once and became his "best friend in this big world".What also attracted Charles was Camila's unique sense of humor.She is very fond of joking, no matter what matter or topic, as long as it is said through her mouth, it will immediately attract bursts of laughter.In fact, on the first day they met, Camilla was able to make Charles throw his head up and laugh, and has continued to do so ever since.And this is undoubtedly very important to Charles, who grew up in loneliness and depression and shouldered too many responsibilities.

We all like Diana and sympathize with Diana, but it is undeniable that a woman like Camilla is more likely to capture a man's heart.

Prince Charles' entanglements with these two women are typical, and similar stories are all around us.

There are many beautiful and refined women, but they are often losers in emotional wars. The reason is that they are as beautiful as they are beautiful, but they lack a sense of human fireworks. Men can't find warm and pleasant feelings around them. , so they chose to escape.

Therefore, we want to remind those women who have poured affection into their marriages and expect to be favored by their husbands, if you are a beautiful woman, don't take it lightly, let alone be arrogant because of this, because what men like and need most is the kind of A woman with warmth; if you are not confident about your appearance, don't be discouraged. A beautiful temperament is also attractive enough to win a happy marriage for yourself.

Women, don't forget that your nature is "tenderness"

Women, don't forget your own nature, that is tenderness, and a woman who understands tenderness will have a happy life.

"Woman, thine name is weak." This famous quote from Hamlet has been spread and recognized all over the world.

No matter how strong a woman is, at the beginning of a relationship, what attracts a man most is a woman's gender essential characteristics, a pure and natural man's pursuit of a pure and natural woman, and the most primitive and pure mutual attraction between the two sexes.The femininity of a woman is the best embodiment of this original feeling.

A man's manly heroism is most likely to be inspired by a woman's weakness, incompetence, and helplessness, and silent tenderness is better than a thousand words of nagging.This is also the reason why many capable, hardworking and successful women do not understand that parasite-like incompetent women are favored by their husbands.When a man is aroused with feelings that resemble paternal love, he pampers his wife as he pampers his daughter.

A truly powerful and ferocious woman is precisely a tender woman, whose power lies in her softness and kindness.These are two aspects of absolute contradiction, but they are also a harmonious unity.Tenderness, killing people invisible, is a woman's unique weapon, and coquettishness, eroded between the beds, is a woman's unique skill to conquer the world.Women are so delicate that countless heroes bow down.Throughout the ages, how many heroes have lost themselves in the land of tenderness, surrendered to the pomegranate skirt, and did not hesitate to destroy their future and reputation?A tender woman is the real tiger.

Is there any man in the world who can face the tenderness of a woman with a heart as hard as a subway?Even a hard-hearted heart will be turned into soft fingers by you.Indeed, in the face of a woman's warm and soft words, who can not be moved?

Which man, facing the shyness and sweetness of a woman, doesn't flock to her, and his soul is blurred?Even if you are a hero, you can't escape the slender fingers of a woman.Over the past 5000 years, how many major national events have been settled by the bedside?Women in the world have always been gentle and kind.Jia Baoyu said: "Daughters are made of water." The smooth and greasy skin of a woman is soft and boneless, which makes men intoxicated again and again; Repeatedly lingering and forgetting to return; even the tearful tears of a woman deeply cut into the deepest part of a man's heart.

The ultimate goodness of a woman comes from her soft heart, which is accumulated inside and overflows outside.When you meet the weak, you can't help but cry with sadness; when you see a small animal being injured, you always take care of it carefully.

Hey, we have to sigh, women are amazing; women are not easy to mess with!A woman has no sword in her hand, no sword in her heart, but a sword everywhere.The most powerful thing about women is that they can arouse men's strong desire to commit suicide.Men are willing to accept it. This is a question that even God can't answer, but it just shows that even God, the old man, has succumbed to the tenderness of women, and he seems helpless.

Women, murdering men with tenderness, pave the way for their own happy life.

Husband came home and lit a "tender" lamp for him
Rousseau said: "The most important quality of a woman is gentleness." Marx believed: "The most important virtue of a woman is gentleness." The beauty of gentleness is the most basic feature of a woman's beauty.Whether in the workplace or in family life, smart women seldom rely on strength, and more than 99% rely on the wisdom of using softness to overcome strength.When the husband comes home after a day of work, light a "gentle" lamp for him, and speak softly to him. In addition to being able to overcome rigidity with softness, it can also reduce the tension in the husband's work.

Gentle women have a special charm in life, they are more likely to win people's love and affection.A gentle woman is more like a continuous drizzle, moistening things silently, giving people a warm and soft feeling, which is fascinating and long-lasting.The greatest sorrow of a woman is the loss of tenderness. If she loses tenderness, she will lose her feminine taste.

Once, Queen Elizabeth and her husband, Prince Albert, talked condescendingly. Prince Albert was a little displeased. He went into his room alone and locked the door behind him.After a while, he heard someone knocking hard on the door.

"Who?" he asked.

"I, please open the door to the Queen of England." Queen Elizabeth replied arrogantly.

But there was no movement in the room. After a long time, there was another knock on the door, this time the sound was much softer.

"Who?" asked the prince again.

"It is I, Victoria, your wife," said Queen Elizabeth softly.

The door finally opened.

Gentleness is a woman's unique magic weapon, gentleness is a man's sweet killer, and gentleness is also a precious quality that a woman should have.A bunch of looking back is gentle, an exhortation is gentle, a caress is gentle, a smile is gentle.Gentle like fog, it adds a haze and romance to women; gentle like wind, it can wipe away all the melancholy and worries in other people's hearts; gentle like rain, it can moisten all thirsty hearts.If you want to be more charming, more perfect, and more attractive, you should maintain or discover the gentle endowment unique to you as a woman.For a man, tenderness is like wine, drink only one drop, and you can savor it for a lifetime.As a woman, don't show your strength in front of a man, or even reprimand him loudly.Speak softly and softly, and he will obediently become your prisoner.

"Tenderness is like water, and the wedding is like a dream" is so intoxicating.Maybe it's just a look, just a silent smile; maybe it's just a gentle hand stretched out; maybe it's just a low call, a burst of whispering... For a man, tenderness is wine.

Unfortunately, many women don't know that gentleness is a unique strength of women, and they don't know that gentleness is a weapon that can overcome rigidity. They are afraid of losing their status in the hearts of men. In order to maintain this status, they often abandon Gentle, domineering over men, and frequently yelling loudly, showing the roughest side of a woman.

It is conceivable that such a result will only be counterproductive.A paper marriage contract cannot keep a heart forever, and no love will last forever. Marriage is originally a land full of fallen flowers after brilliant flowers, and it is inevitable to become dull and tasteless.But marriage can be managed, as long as you put your heart into it.And your tenderness is the most powerful weapon to maintain your marriage, just like a slender hand, with just a gentle support, no matter how strong a man is, he will be conquered.

Care more about your husband, don't always let him be the single pillar supporting your marriage
Once two people get married, there are a lot of minutiae to worry about. The husband is already exhausted physically and mentally because he has to work hard outside.After he returns home, as a wife, she must know how to care for her husband, and don't always let her husband independently support the pillar of marriage, otherwise her husband will get tired easily, and the marriage will be prone to crisis.So, what about a happy marriage?
A philosopher once said that marriage is like a glass ball. When you first got married, you held your eyes with your hands and did not dare to blink, but after a period of marriage, you began to feel that your hands were heavy and your eyelids were weak. It will fall and shatter.Many people get married after going through untold hardships, but often get divorced because of a little "variable". This is the reason.

The so-called troubles here represent small things that do not involve personal principles. For example, the man was transferred to another place or demoted by the company, and the woman parted ways with him from then on; Loans and children's tuition fees, talent fees, the woman cried and clamored for a divorce; there were also rich men who suddenly fell ill and needed someone to take care of them, and the woman also clamored to run away.

In the real world, the so-called marriage and happiness cannot withstand a little "turbulence".But it is not difficult to maintain a long-term marriage, that is, when the hands of a man holding the glass ball are numb, if a considerate and mature woman immediately takes over, let the man's hand rest for a while, and then take the glass ball. Let her rest, such yin and yang cooperation will naturally make the marriage endless.

That is to say, no matter what troubles arise, as long as you are a wife or girlfriend, you can reach out to hold the glass ball at a critical moment, let the man take a rest, as long as he is determined to stand up again, and solve the problems one by one , you can give the ball to the man again, so that the marriage will naturally last for a long time, and the principle of a happy marriage is actually that simple.

But in real life, many women can't do this. They only think of themselves, the comfortable life they deserve, the shopping budget they deserve, the status they deserve, and everything they deserve.Once these things that I should have suddenly disappeared, I would try my best to blame my husband for deliberately destroying or being worthless, but I never thought about whether I should also do my best for this family.

There is a couple who have been married for more than three years. They have a happy marriage that is admired by everyone. It can be said that they are talented and beautiful, and they are well-matched.Both of them are office workers, the husband is a cadre of a listed company, and the wife is a civil servant.Because the wife's commute time is relatively fixed, so the husband moved the house to a place near her work, and everything was considered for her.

(End of this chapter)