The happiest woman who understands her husband

Chapter 66 Dedicate your whole life to tenderness and reduce his tension in society (2)
After marriage, based on the principle of equality, when the wife proposed that the husband should also help with the housework, the husband did not object. The wife also proposed that the husband has the obligation to support the family and asked the husband to pay for the mortgage, utilities, and half of the living expenses, and the husband did not object.

The newlywed life unfolded like this. It was okay at the beginning, but later on, the pressure on my husband was increasing, and he was almost out of breath, and the pace of the two could not be consistent.

Later, the company was very satisfied with her husband's performance and intended to promote him to a higher level. My husband also hoped to relax the family's finances and earn more money. When he expressed his willingness to accept cultivation, the senior management began to hand over to him Many of his important projects, in addition to being so busy working overtime every day, often have to socialize until the early hours of the morning, even on holidays, he also has to play ball with clients to build relationships.

However, as a wife, she still insists on living a stable and elegant life. She doesn't think her husband's career is very important, and she can't figure out why he has to ask for it. She still insists that her husband should take half of the housework, so she often just does The housework she should do by herself even only washes her own clothes and does not wash her husband's clothes. She is used to going to bed after taking a shower, and leads a regular and elegant life every day.

In the morning, the wife gets up to make breakfast, but when the husband wakes up for breakfast, the wife has already left for work.At work, the wife seldom calls the company to care about his health and work status. By the time her husband returns home tired, she has already fallen asleep, even if he really wants to wake her up and talk to her. In a word, I gave up because I couldn't bear it.The days of living together but not seeing each other like this lasted for a while.

Finally one day in the middle of the night, when my husband was silently eating the cold food on the dining table, he suddenly wanted to have someone to talk to, and hoped that someone would sit next to him, express his condolences to him for his hard work all day, or listen to his complaints.Thinking about it, I suddenly felt an inexplicable sense of loss in my heart.He thought that he and his wife hadn't had a good chat for more than a month. Can such a life be called husband and wife?
One night, when my husband drank alcohol, he simply woke up his wife from her sleep and wanted to chat with her, but the wife scolded him for being inexplicable, blaming him for destroying her biological clock, and the two had a big fight .

The husband was angry and sad, and asked his colleagues out for a drink. He told his colleagues that he wanted to find someone to listen to his thoughts, and the colleagues took him to the bar to have a carnival.In this way, the bar became a place for my husband to vent his emotions, and he began to associate with those bar girls who only had money in their eyes, singing and singing every night, and he didn't go home very often.

His wife saw these absurd actions of his, but she was indifferent, and didn't know to examine her own behavior.

For several months, my husband was warned by his boss before he decided not to miss these sensual places anymore.But he and his wife can no longer return to the way they were when they first got married. Although his wife doesn't appear angry on the surface, a deep and wide gap has already been drawn in her heart, which is something that neither of them can cross again. That's right, they turned into two people who looked at each other but had nothing to say.

Finally one day, when the wife woke up in the morning, she found a divorce agreement on the table.

In fact, the reason for the ending is that the wife doesn't care enough about her husband. A woman should know that no matter how busy she is, she still has to step into a man's world occasionally and chat with him.

Even if it is only once or twice a week, or find a day to go to bed early, get up in the middle of the night to eat, eat and chat with your husband, maybe there is not much time, but it is like taking over the glass ball in the man's hand, even if only In a few minutes, the man will regain his confidence and fighting power, and continue to fight for this family.Although this is a very simple matter, it is a very important red line to maintain a happy marriage.

A man is very much like a child. When work is not going well or flustered, he will want to talk to his wife when he gets home, and his mood will naturally improve.Sometimes, when a man takes on heavy responsibilities and pressure, his emotions will also be aroused by anxiety, so they often brag to their wives about how good they are. At this time, if the wife says: "Well! I know you are very good... ...Come on!" The restlessness and impetuosity in the man's heart will naturally disappear, and the fighting spirit will flow out continuously.

Men are actually simple and subtle animals.Because it is simple, it is easy to handle; because it is subtle, as long as you pay more attention, you can detect and understand his heart.

No matter how sore a man's hands are, no matter how much pressure a man has, no matter how frustrated or fearful a man's heart is, as long as there is such a caring wife to cheer him up, the depression, fear and tension will be swept away .

When my husband encounters a trough in life, take the initiative to send comfort

Everyone wants to be comforted by others when they are frustrated.The same is true for men. They are not born strong and resolute, but social concepts force them to maintain a resolute air no matter when and where.Therefore, when men fail in their careers, they will also be depressed, and they also need someone to comfort them.Therefore, if a woman wants to be happy, she must learn to comfort a man. Only such a woman's husband will love her for a lifetime, and the woman will go smoothly on her own happiness road.

After Carnegie married Lolita, life has been very unhappy.Lolita considers herself an aristocrat, looks down on others, and often mocks Carnegie's various behaviors.It was a blow to Carnegie's self-esteem and confidence.

Shortly after their marriage, Carnegie devoted himself to writing The Tempest.But at this time, his writing was not smooth, and he often couldn't continue writing. It would take a long time to write a short paragraph, so he felt very depressed.Sometimes he had to repeat forty times when rewriting a certain paragraph in the article. During this period, Carnegie often felt powerless.

At this time, Lolita not only did not care about Carnegie and comforted him, but also laughed at him.Carnegie ignored her, and she went drinking alone, and she would come back very drunk.When he came back, he would drink like crazy and curse: "Carnegie, you bastard, why don't you drink with me, you only know how to write your novels, go to hell!"

At this time, Carnegie had no choice but to keep silent and let Lolita insult and beat things, or simply go out of the house and write in the parks and gardens near Versailles. Only writing is his real spiritual sustenance.

At this time, Carnegie's heart was lonely, and he could not appreciate the warmth of the family.The expected family life did not show up in front of his eyes. As a result, he missed his hometown even more.

Carnegie faced life's challenges.Bad mood and family disharmony made his work complete in a difficult situation.When he finished "The Tempest", he breathed a sigh of relief.

However, "The Tempest" is a failure, and a total failure at that.He tried to recommend his work to many publishers, but the publishers often refused to publish the work.

This hit Carnegie too hard.At this time, Carnegie's agent advised him to give up "The Tempest" and continue to try to write other works.

Carnegie's mood at the time was expressed in his own words: "If someone hit me on the head with a stick at that time, I would not be surprised. I was at a loss and realized that I was facing a moment of choice in my life. At that time, My heart is really miserable. What should I do? Where should I turn?"

At this time, Lolita still mocked Carnegie, thinking that Carnegie should engage in a more profitable career, and this marriage came to an end amidst Lolita's complaints.

From his own unfortunate marriage, Carnegie summed up the first lesson to be learned in life. If you want a successful marriage, you must find a good spouse, so that you can feel the happiness of family life.

On August 2008, 8, in the men's 17-meter rifle three-position final at the Beijing Shooting Hall, when Emmons shot a 50 ring in the 9th shot, he nodded slightly, feeling very satisfied with his result.Emmons still has a huge advantage of 9.8 rings against No.2. He only needs to shoot no less than 3.3 rings in the next shot to win his first gold medal in the Beijing Olympics.Emmons shot the last shot slower than anyone else. After all the players finished the last shot, he slowly picked up the butt of the gun, aimed, and shot, 6.7 rings!Amidst the audience's bewildered exclamation, Emmons handed over the almost won gold medal to Chinese player Qiu Jian.

Emmons, realizing he missed the gold medal, just stood there, motionless, and stayed there.

As a narrator of Czech TV, Emmons' wife Katerina witnessed the whole process at the scene.Katerina's eyes were full of sadness and said: "This is unbelievable! He has been waiting for this game for 4 years, and he didn't expect the ending to be so unfortunate."

Emmons and Katrina met at the 2004 Athens Olympics.Also in the Athens Olympic Games on August 2004, 8, also in the men's 22m rifle three-position final, also after the ninth shot, Emmons, who was on the No. 50 target, was ahead of No.2 Chinese player Jia Zhanbo 2 However, after the last gunshot, the bullet flew to the No. 4 target.

That year, Emmons also lost the gold medal in the final round. On that day, he hid in a secluded corner and drank alcohol alone.At this time, a blonde girl came over and said to Emmons: "How about a drink? Everything will pass, won't it?" Hearing this, Emmons raised his head and recognized the beautiful girl in front of him. On June 2007, 6, in Katerina's hometown, 30-year-old Emmons and 26-year-old Katerina got married.

Watching her husband repeat the tragedy of four years ago, Katerina came to Emmons and hugged him tightly.Already 27 years old, Emmons buried his head deeply in Katerina's arms like a child, unwilling to leave for a long time.

After a long time, Emmons finally raised his head. What he saw was his wife's encouraging eyes. Katerina held Emmons' head with both hands, looked directly at Emmons, and encouraged him softly: "Honey, you did a great job, you played great up front, you've proven yourself."

"I can have a beer now."

Perhaps encouraged by his wife, a frustrated Emmons walked back to the field, congratulating the other players with hugs and thanking the referees.

At this moment, the audience gave Emmons applause of sympathy, encouragement and blessing.

Four years ago, it was Katerina's consolation that enabled Emmons to walk out of the shadow of defeat. Similarly, this time, it was Katerina's consolation that made her husband summon up the courage again to accept this reality.

When a man struggles in his career, he will fail and suffer. When he returns home unhappy, if he can be comforted by his wife's tenderness, he will work harder.So women's comfort is motivation and self-confidence for men!I hope that women can comfort the man's heart that needs comfort with tenderness and tenderness, so that the man's career can be improved to a higher level, and he can also add some chips to his happy life.

Create a warm family atmosphere, let the family enjoy themselves
For married women, work is no longer the only goal they strive for.In addition to pursuing careers, they will also create a warm family atmosphere as a guarantee for their happiness in the rest of their lives.Smart women know how to create a warm family atmosphere, and try their best to make the home peaceful and happy, and the family enjoys it.In this way, the home belongs to both the wife and the husband, which not only makes the husband willing to "go home immediately after work", but also reduces the husband's tension in society, and gives him the beauty of "home is a warm harbor" Feel.

An American woman columnist suggested that the family environment and family atmosphere created by women play a decisive role in marital happiness.Mrs. Carnegie also felt the same. She reminded: When the husband returns home full of complaints after a busy day outside, the wife should not lose her temper with him.It is best to meet him at the door, pour him a drink, iced wine, rub his feet or wash his face with water.

Maybe some people think that this is not a bit lowered the status of women?In fact, if the lover is a person who is worth paying for him, there is nothing wrong with the wife doing so.But if the husband is always busy and full of complaints, I believe it will be difficult for any educated wife to "persist".If the wife always does this, to some extent, she is pampering the man.It's hard to imagine that a woman always obeys orders and "wins" happiness with the element of begging, which will make her husband feel uncomfortable sooner or later.If the purpose of taking good care of your husband is to prevent him from losing his temper, then you are walking down an endless "tunnel".

Happiness should be established on the basis of mastering one's own destiny. It must not be "I am happy when my husband is happy" or "I am happy when my husband is happy".Women should learn to find a way that suits them, make some efforts for their own happiness, better arrange life for their husbands, and make family life more warm.

Some women always like to compare their husband's income and achievements with other people. This kind of comparison not only makes a man's heart cold, but also compares his health.Some men have mediocre qualifications, but in order not to disappoint their wives, or even to prove that they are "late bloomers", they continue to pressurize after middle age, and do not reduce their burdens in their later years. As a result, they are exhausted and sick.It is conceivable that a woman who waits for her sick husband all day has no energy to experience happiness.Once widowed, what is lost is not only a partner who has been together for many years, but also a spiritual support.

All in all, there is no standard for warmth between husband and wife.Some people think that grandeur is warm, some people think that simplicity and elegance are warm, and some people even think that relaxed and casual are warm.In fact, a warm family environment is an environment that meets the expectations of both husband and wife.Therefore, husband and wife must communicate more.Even if one of them absolutely decentralizes power, the other party must always seek the other party's opinions on every key link.

Then there is the question about the little ones in the family. For children, it is also very important for them to have a free and happy environment.This includes two aspects: one is the individual activity space of the child. Even if the child does not have his own room, he should have his own private area, such as a desk full of children's works, a wall covered with children's paintings, and even a space from the ceiling. His paintings and handicrafts are hung on the wall; second, a warm family atmosphere is very important, it can lay a good foundation for children to adapt, and is closely related to the cultivation of a sound personality and the display of creativity.

how about it?It is not so difficult to create a warm family atmosphere and make the husband and children happy!Come on, wives, hurry up and strive to be a happy happy woman!

(End of this chapter)