no-complaint marriage

Chapter 10: Be a Responsible Husband (4)
In fact, wives really need the care and love of their husbands.This small request is also the greatest wish and satisfaction of a woman's life, but it is difficult for most women to satisfy this wish.Thousands of years of Chinese history tell us that men give women very little care and love. Especially in feudal society, women are bound by feet and spiritual shackles as soon as they are born. They stay at home and smile without showing their teeth. He often locks up in the backyard, obeys the three obediences and four virtues, silently manages the housework all his life, and serves men carefully.Hand a cup of herbal tea when a man is thirsty, and a bowl of hot porridge when a man is hungry.But no one has ever thought about what a man does for a woman?The wheel of the times has stepped into a new century, and the status of women has reached the highest peak in history.The pace of life is accelerating, social competition is intensifying, and women will face more confusion and challenges.The pain of pregnancy and childbirth in October is something that men will never experience.Housekeeping, especially the upbringing and upbringing of children seems to be the natural responsibility of women. If a man takes care of women more and takes care of housework, he will soon become a "good man".

love is revealed inadvertently
It's very simple for a woman to need a man's care and love. She doesn't ask you to give her much material enjoyment, but wants you to show your love for her in every gesture of your life. That's enough for her to repay you with a lifetime of love.

Yes, many times, your love is revealed inadvertently.You may not feel it yourself as a man, but a woman remembers every word in your heart.

◎ eyes

When a man loves a woman, his eyes can tell everything.Whether the wife puts on a flowered apron and cooks in full swing in the kitchen, or lazily lies on the sofa watching TV after washing the lead, the husband's eyes follow the woman, which is enough to prove the love of a man .

◎ Gestures

Gestures include many things.A friend of mine has a very good relationship between husband and wife. For example, at a banquet, everyone was discussing something enthusiastically, but her husband held a glass with one hand, and tightly interlocked his wife's fingers with the other hand.This detailed action made everyone present feel the love of their husband and wife.

◎ tone

A husband loves his wife. Whenever he makes a phone call, he will simply say two or three greetings, and the tone must be gentle and gentle.Sometimes a man's gentle voice can be more sensual and moving than a woman's.

◎Careful

If the husband is away on a business trip, he will always think of calling his wife to report his safety; he will take care of all the housework when the woman is inconvenient; he will put a few drops in the bath water prepared by his wife rose essential oil; he would buy his wife’s favorite snacks or gadgets when he was shopping in the supermarket with his wife; he would hold his wife’s hand when crossing the road and walk on the outside by himself; When watching TV or surfing the Internet, wash the fruit and put it on the table; before going to bed, he will tell his wife about the interesting things he saw in the company and on the way home; he will wake up at midnight and tuck his wife in a quilt; When his wife bought a lot of clothes but found that the clothes she was satisfied with were not bought and secretly annoyed, he would say in time: "Honey, I think these clothes are very suitable for you. You are in good shape, of course you can wear anything." It’s beautiful!” He would often put a few big tickets in his wife’s wallet from time to time; he would buy a movie ticket one evening after his wife said that he liked a movie played by a certain person, and went to watch an idol movie with his wife ; Occasionally, he will listen patiently to what his wife says, even if he is not interested in cabbage 5 cents or 4 cents a catty; Words... It is happiness for a woman to be cared for by the man she loves, and it is also happiness for a man to be cared for by the woman he loves the most.Because, a man will get more rewards for caring for his beloved woman!

7. Don't just look at the form, look at the inner
Throughout the past and present, when men talk about women, almost the first sentence is: "So-and-so's wife is so beautiful" "So-and-so's wife is so modern"... The implication is that they are envious of others and wish they could have such a beautiful woman. What a beautiful wife!But reality is reality after all. There are not so many beauties in the world. Of course, it is impossible for every man to marry a beautiful wife. But if there are really beautiful women in the world, it is impossible for everyone A man who marries a beautiful wife is satisfied: one is difficult to say, it is impossible to satisfy every man's taste, everyone has a different definition of beauty; "Before" as an excuse, they will still be dissatisfied, because their desires are hard to fill!
Inner beauty is true beauty

Roglin of the United Kingdom once said: "A marriage that only pursues appearance is usually just a vulgar transaction." This has clearly explained to us the tragedy of only focusing on form.

Maybe everyone is like this, the two eyes are used to "looking forward", always thinking how other people should be, how beautiful they should be, but they don't really recognize themselves, thus resulting in the result of "lower eyes but higher eyes" .If you can know yourself and others correctly, don't just focus on the form, but use your own eyes to look at the inner, then you will have new discoveries.

With such a discerning man, one day he will exclaim: "It turns out that my wife is the most beautiful woman in the world. Because of her company, my life is so happy!" Because they have realized that: a woman's appearance The beauty of women has a time limit, but the inner beauty is eternal; the outer beauty of a woman is just some flashy and illusory form, but the inner beauty is her real connotation, which is real and tangible.A woman with inner beauty can be like an ever-blossoming flower, full of fragrance all year round.

Let love "preserve value"

Yang Fan's wife is not a beauty, and with the baptism of years, her face is already full of vicissitudes.She and her husband started from scratch, from nothing to now owning a company of their own, it has really suffered a lot.In recent years, because of taking care of the children and the elderly at home, the husband has been running the company alone, while the wife is responsible for running the family well.She is well-known in the community. She is peaceful, kind, gentle, virtuous, well-educated, respects the elderly, and cares for others... She always finds ways to help anyone in need. She is generous to others, but to herself If you can get by, you don't want to pursue fashion just because you have money.

Life becomes more comfortable, and people's pursuits become higher. Now Yang Fan is no longer the old Yang Fan. He always feels that his wife is too rustic, whether it is shopping or dressing, she is too vulgar!Gradually, he found a "beautiful" little lover, who made him so fascinated every day that he almost forgot that he was already a man with a wife.In his heart, the little lover can spend money without being rustic; the little lover is both romantic and understands life, and can be called a complete modern girl. Compared with the little lover, there is a difference between the sky and the earth.

One day during dinner, Yang Fan's cell phone rang. He glanced at the number, said "Hello", stood up as if nothing had happened, and walked to the living room.The little lover said to him in the mobile phone: "Tomorrow is my birthday, I want a diamond ring." He lowered his voice and said, "Didn't I buy you a ruby ​​ring and an emerald ring?" The little lover said: "You don't know , Diamonds are the most representative of love.” Yang Fan said helplessly: “Okay, I’ll buy it for you, my little aunt.” After hanging up, he felt a willingness to blackmail him knowingly, thinking: Don’t say it, this little girl Things are tasteful, classy, ​​and stylish. I will definitely match the jewelry she wants.Unlike my wife, who is like a country aunt who buys gold jewelry for her. I have already saved up a pile of this gold and that gold, and it is so tacky!

The next night, at a hotel, Yang Fan celebrated his little lover's birthday. During the dinner, he kept serving her vegetables, and her bright red mouth glistened with oil. The right hand shines between meals.He looked at the "glossy" and "radiant" with great pleasure.

A few days later, his wife's birthday came, and Yang Fan took her to a jewelry store to buy jewelry.Unexpectedly, she fell in love with a gold necklace that was thick enough to tie a dog, it was really vulgar.That evening, at the same hotel, he celebrated his wife's birthday.While eating, he realized that the dishes ordered by his wife were all his favorites, and the wife kept adding vegetables to him, asking him to eat more, saying that he would be prone to lack of nutrition when he was running around all the year round. This vitamin supplement , that supplement of iron, zinc... Although he appreciates it, when he sees the gold necklace on his wife's neck, he can't cheer up.

Afterwards, he told his little lover how he felt, and her eyes became two crescents with a smile, and said: "Your wife wears such a thick gold necklace, she looks like a nouveau riche in the 20s?" He thought for a while , Isn't it? I also laughed "hehe".

Soon, Yang Fan couldn't laugh anymore.The price of his company's products plummeted in the market, and those stocks were as cheap as rags in an instant.Misfortunes never come singly, tax problems also went wrong, and the account was frozen by the bank; and his deposits were used for futures... Soon, he couldn't even pay his employees' salaries.He felt as if he had aged several years, and his hair had turned gray a lot.Suddenly, a wad of money jumped into his sight, and it was handed over by his wife.He was surprised and asked: "Where did you get it?" His wife said: "I sold all those gold jewelry, you take it for emergency. I often buy gold jewelry because they can preserve their value. I bought it and saved it." It’s the same as money. Those rubies, emeralds, and diamonds are fashionable, but they don’t hold their value very well. At critical moments, it’s hard to turn them into cash. I save the money of the two of us for urgent needs.”

(End of this chapter)