no-complaint marriage

Chapter 11: Be a Responsible Husband (5)
What his wife said made him feel like he was struck by lightning. With such a virtuous wife, how could he never understand her heart? Three months later, the dark clouds over the company's head dissipated one after another, and the company saw the light of day again.However, there are two words that linger in Yang Fan's mind, that is - preservation of value.He asked himself: "Gold preserves its value so much, so whose love can preserve its value like gold?" He thought: "Although my wife is not as beautiful as my little lover, she can share weal and woe with me. Whenever I drag my tired body from outside , when I walked home exhausted, what I got was comfort. But the little lover would only try to get more benefits from me. Ask me for a sapphire bracelet..." All the actions of his wife and his little lover appeared in his mind, and after that he cut off contact with his little lover without hesitation.

The next year, his wife's birthday came again. This time Yang Fan gave her a gold ring and engraved four words on it: Wife is like gold.

Things with eternal value do not show themselves too much. Gold is like this. It is not as fashionable and lovable as rubies, emeralds, and diamonds. It is not as gorgeous as rubies, emeralds, and diamonds. Like a diamond, it has many forms. It can only be yellow gold, but it is eternal and always valuable.Real "collectors" like to collect gold, and no collector collects rubies, emeralds, and diamonds because of their dazzling appearance.Because they know that although gold is not beautiful, it can preserve its value; rubies, emeralds, and diamonds are beautiful, but they can only be popular for a while.

Yang Fan did not lose this piece of "real gold" in the end because he discovered that only his wife's love can "preserve its value".In fact, it is not only their love that preserves value?The real value lies in the inner beauty of his wife, in the unfading heart that is not eroded by the complicated outside world.

May all the husbands in the world discover the unique inner beauty of their wives and not be lost by the gorgeous colors.As a husband, if you have a pair of eyes that are good at distinguishing between form and interior, you will find more beauty in your wife that you have never cared about.The beauty of a wife exists in every detail of life, in daily necessities, oil and salt, and it is precisely these that make your marriage an evergreen tree.

8. Appreciate the "family flower" from another angle

Since ancient times, generations of poets and poets have liked to use flowers to describe women, and each generation has left a famous sentence that shines through the ages.Literati like to use flowers as metaphors for women because women are naturally beautiful like flowers.

"House Flowers" and "Wild Flowers"

Flowers can be divided into domestic flowers and wild flowers.To a man, domestic and wild flowers are like wife and lover. "The orchid that enters the house will not smell its fragrance for a long time." The aroma of "family flowers" often permeates through the years, and the aroma will continue to weaken over time.Although there is no change in essence, men have gradually lost their enthusiasm for women, the temperature in the past no longer rises, and the beauty of the past is no longer delicate and charming.And "wildflower" is gorgeous and full of fragrance, which can easily satisfy the stimulation that men seek.Over time, in a man's heart, "family flower" has no place, because his heart has been occupied by the coquettish "wild flower", and his mind is full of shadows of "wild flower".

Why are "wild flowers" often more attractive than "house flowers"?
Men say: they love "family flowers" because of a feeling; they love "wild flowers" because of a mood. The beauty of "family flowers" is due to the nourishment of love; the beauty of "wild flowers" is due to natural irrigation.

But the man didn't realize: Although the "wild flowers" are beautiful, they are only temporarily gorgeous, and the "house flowers" are only temporarily "not smelling their fragrance", not that the fragrance of the flowers is no longer there!If you change the angle and look at "family flowers" from a different perspective, you will find that "home flowers" are the ones that last forever. "Home flowers" are not inferior to "wild flowers", but more Charming! "Family flower" is what a man needs most.

Only by comparing can we see the difference

I remember a story that was very touching:
The woman is a physician in a hospital, and her husband is the boss of a prestigious company.When they were young, they were also very difficult, because they had no fixed place to live, so they had to migrate in twists and turns like migratory birds.

Later, he resigned and went to sea.He said that he would give her a dream house: a small villa near the mountains and the sea, with a small garden, because she likes to grow flowers... and everything after that, the dream has been fully realized.He succeeds, and as their career progresses and the years pass, their relationship darkens.

It's not that she didn't know that he was surrounded by clouds of beauties, and she even knew that he fell in love with one of the most beautiful girls.

It was her birthday that day, and he held the most luxurious birthday party for her in the most luxurious hotel in the city.He feels guilty and wants to make it up to her.Taking her to walk in the magnificently decorated hotel, he could see that she was uncomfortable, she was too unsuited to such an occasion, all these years, she has been doing her job conscientiously and taking good care of her beloved family, and seldom socialized with him.

Looking at everything about him, she asked him suspiciously, is it all his?He nodded. They have been married for so many years, she never knew how much property he had, and never asked.

After the banquet, she saw the car parked in front of her house. It was a birthday present from him, an imported Japanese Nissan car, a mobile phone and a passbook.He said that for what she had given him over the years, nothing he gave her seemed too light.As long as she wants, he will promise her.

She didn't have the joy that many women experience when they receive a gift.He just shook his head and said, "I just want you and my son."

At a late hour, he finally said, "I've given you so many presents, can you give me one too?"

She was puzzled at first, and then suddenly understood that he gave her such a birthday just to let her give him back his freedom.So she choked up and said: "I will give you, I want to give you happiness, but if you are not happy, then I will give you freedom."

At the end, she said: "If you insist on giving me a choice, then I want a gift: I want you to give me 15 days. We have been married for 15 years. I want you to give me 15 days to be with me." Take a look in the country where we got married, that's where we started, and that's where we're going to end."

He said yes.Instead of driving, they crowded buses and trains.After finally arriving at the county town, he didn’t have a car to go to the countryside. She asked him to walk, so he had no choice but to follow, but he, who had been used to cars and elevators for many years, was gasping for breath after walking a short distance, his back was sore and his back hurt. .

She said: "I remember that time when I suddenly fell ill and had a fever in the middle of the night. You walked alone for several hours at night to buy medicine for me. We are not old now, can we not walk anymore?"

He couldn't help feeling a little guilty.

Walking on the small roads in the country, there are always boys on bicycles leading girls across the bumpy roads.The girl wrapped her arms around the boy's waist, pressed her face against his back, and hummed romantic country tunes, just like they used to.He and she looked at each other, and they both understood how moved they were in each other's hearts.

Life in the country is very monotonous, no phone calls, no meetings, no contracts, no meals, she still quietly leaves the meat for him to eat as before...

He recalled many past events. For 15 years, they have gone through many poor years together.When he got married, he had nothing. He only spent 30 yuan and walked around to his grandmother in the country to get married.They sat together under the old locust tree and hummed so many country tunes, and he once promised how many things he would give her.When all this has been realized, he feels that he is about to lose her. He doesn't understand how he made everything like this.

The music from the neighbor's old tape recorder made his eyes moist, and he suddenly felt that he couldn't do without her.At that moment, he suddenly understood a truth: a lover is like a pop song, she will only make you intoxicated for a while.The wife is the old song that is deep in my heart. No matter how the years change, no matter whether the youth is still there, the eternal love will not change.

Except for her, no one in this world can love him so much, and his son.How excited was that girl when he promised to marry her after the divorce, and how much material commitment he would give her.Can he still spend only 30 yuan to marry a wife who never cares about money with him, but spends his whole life loving him like he is now?cannot.

Back in the city, he said to her: "I've thought about it, you may not be the best, but you are the most suitable, I want to stay!"

With tears in her eyes, she smiled happily.

The husband in the story was hesitating in the choice between "family flower" and "wild flower", but in the end he did not lose "family flower" and chose "wild flower" because he truly realized the gap between the two.He knows that although "wildflowers" can give him temporary comfort, it is not permanent.At the same time, he also discovered from another angle that "home flowers" can replace "wild flowers", but "wild flowers" can never have the charm of "home flowers".

Indeed, there is a big gap between "home flower" and "wild flower":
"Jiahua" is like a Cantonese barbecued pork bun with an ordinary appearance. The surface is not good, but the good taste is all inside; "Wild Flower" is like a beautifully decorated moon cake. Although the price is expensive, it is not very delicious. If you eat too much, you will get bored.

"House flower" is like boiled water, although it is tasteless, it is the drink most needed by the body; "wild flower" is like red wine, which tastes very foreign, but it is neither thirsty nor full.

"Family flowers" are like popular shops in prime locations, the more you use them, the more valuable they become; "wild flowers" are like computers, the entry price drops by half, and the more you use them, the more expensive they become.

"House flower" is like a piggy bank, although men often put money in it, there is a stable return; "wild flower" is like a slot machine, men stuff a lot of banknotes into it, and maybe they don't even hear a thank you .

"Family Flower" is like an abacus, and often teaches her husband to calculate carefully; "Wild Flower" travels all over the world, making men have the urge to spend high at any time.

"Family flowers" are like infrared rays, although they are nagging but full of sincerity; "wild flowers" are like old squids, smiling but full of ghosts.

"Jiahua" has to cook the meals that he is willing to eat for her husband every day. She doesn't have to eat them herself, but she has to let her husband eat more; while "Wild Flower" requires a man to treat her to dinner every day, and she will choose what she likes. Yes, eat as much as you want, and don't care about men.

When a man is sick, "Family Flower" will stay up all night vigil for him with tears in his eyes, wishing to cut some of his body to make medicine, so that his illness will be cured quickly; while "Wild Flower" will not worry about his illness What, I will only send a bouquet of fluffy flowers, and complain about the delay.

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There are many advantages of "house flower" that men will never get at "wild flower".If a man savors the "family flower" carefully and appreciates the "family flower" from another angle, he will find that the "family flower" has already conceived the fragrance of "wild flower" in it!It's just that her way of expression is reflected in the minutiae of life. Men who don't pay attention think that "family flowers" are rustic and vulgar, not as delicate and romantic as "wild flowers".In fact, this is more than what you see on the surface!
The folk saying "'family flowers' are not as fragrant as 'wild flowers'" should also be revised, otherwise how many marriages will be ruined by this sentence?As long as you look at "family flowers" from another angle, you will find that "wild flowers" and "home flowers" are not comparable at all. If you compare "wild flowers" with "home flowers", isn't that blaspheming "home flowers"?

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