no-complaint marriage

Chapter 19 Adding some "stuff" to an ordinary marriage (4)
Not many people like to live a serious and serious life, because it will make a marriage too exhausting.

Humor is the lubricant between husband and wife
If you ask 10 women what their ideal man should be like, maybe 8 women will answer that they hope their future husband is a man with a sense of humor.Why is this?In fact, this is determined by the fact that women pay more attention to the quality of spiritual happiness.

If a husband is always serious in the family and doesn’t know how to joke or make fun, then his wife will be very nervous. This serious atmosphere will affect a series of physical and mental health of his wife. In this way, the relationship between husband and wife will change. You have to be careful, and the little family fun is gone.

If the husband is very humorous and can often crack jokes, the wife's emotions will be mobilized, so that the woman will develop the wisdom and passion to manage the family and deal with various affairs. Caused by external infection.

Many people always think that humor is only used outside, and seriousness is enough at home.Actually, this is a misunderstanding.Harmony between husband and wife is the foundation of a happy family, and there should be humor in this foundation.Appropriate humor can make your family full of warmth and make the husband and wife full of happy laughter.

When Zhang Kang's wife was just pregnant, one day, his wife pointed to her belly and asked him two questions, which made Zhang Kang very troubled.

"Husband, do you think our child is a boy or a girl? Can you tell what the child will grow up to when the child is born?"

Zhang Kang knew that these two questions were really hard to answer, and if they didn't answer well, it would make the two of them unhappy.

So, Zhang Kang thought for a while and said, "First, this child must be..." He took a long breath at this point, and his wife thought he could accurately tell whether it was a boy or a girl.But Zhang Kang went on to say: "It must not be a boy, it must be a girl." The second question is also very simple. "If you are a little girl, you will be a woman when you grow up; if you are a boy, you will be a gentleman when you grow up."

Zhang Kang cleverly shifted his wife's question, which made his wife feel very funny after listening to it, and avoided causing his wife's displeasure by answering positively as a boy or a girl. This kind of humor became the lubricant between their husband and wife.

Use humor to defuse fighting

Humor is not exclusive to men, sometimes humorous women are also quite cute, and women's humor can bring unexpected pleasure to both parties.

Some people say that a woman without a sense of humor is like a flower without fragrance, with only shape but no spirit.It's a pity that the glamorous appearance, it seems, is always so short of breath.

Many women like the humor of men, but ignore the humor cells in themselves.A smart woman will never foolishly wait for a man to make her laugh and make herself happy.She would also take a moment of silence from time to time to make those around her happy.

Humor is not purely funny. Humor is a burst of wisdom. At the same time, it is also a lubricant for communication between people and a relaxant for our lives.A woman has a proper sense of humor, but also a kind of mind, a kind of realm.It is easier to make ordinary life seem happy and warm.

When two people get along, no matter how much they love each other, they cannot avoid being noisy and awkward, just like how close teeth and tongue are, there will be times when they bite and get bitten.When there is an awkward situation, instead of lamenting and complaining, it is better to be the first to do it first, to make some jokes with quick wits, to balance the mind, and to make life more warm.

Once upon a time, a couple got divorced.There was a river on the way to the courthouse, and the husband took off his shoes and walked into the water.But the wife stood there looking around, thinking about how to get there.

The husband turned around and said, "I'll carry you there."

After wading in the river, the wife said, "Let's go back!"

The husband asked, "What are you doing?"

The wife lowered her head and said, "I'm divorced, who will carry me across the river?"

As psychology experts say, from a psychological point of view, humor is an excellent defense mechanism.This mechanism can not only free the parties from embarrassment, turn troubles into joy, and change pain into happiness, but also turn fighting into friendship, calm down excitement, return to reason, and enable each other to regain tacit understanding and enhance feelings on a new basis.

Indispensable "Band-Aids" in life

Humor is like a "Band-Aid", repairing the "wounds" between husband and wife in time.

The war that is about to break out can also resolve all contradictions with humor.

My husband likes to stay in bed, and every weekend he has to get up only when his stomach growls with hunger.Usually, even if the alarm clock is set, it takes time to get up.Fearing that he would be late, his wife always dragged him out of bed ten minutes earlier every day.

One morning, his wife dragged him up at 7 o'clock as usual, let him wash up and have breakfast, and pushed him out the door at 7:[-] as usual, and then turned on the computer to start his own work.

After more than ten minutes, the husband came back suddenly.His wife thought that he had forgotten something, so she couldn't help complaining secretly. Such a delay would definitely be late again.

Unexpectedly, the husband sullenly asked his wife to look at the calendar by herself.Only then did my wife realize that it was Saturday and she didn't have to go to work.

My wife is a freelancer and never has holidays. She is used to working day after day, so she often forgets the dates.

Facing his innocent and confused eyes, his wife was apologetic, but seeing his long sleepy face, she was afraid that he would blame herself, so she came to preemptively criticize him: "Don't be unhappy, I won't care about it in the future." You are gone. I call you every day, serve you, and even fail, I am really 'the emperor is not in a hurry and the eunuch is in a hurry'!"

When he heard it, he thumped and laughed out loud: "Ha, are you a eunuch?"

His wife knew that the grievance in his heart had been resolved, but she still forced herself to be angry: "I am an eunuch, who am I afraid of?" He laughed and said in a low voice: "I am the emperor, I am afraid of you, my eunuch !"

As a result, that day, the "emperor" served the "eunuch" well for a day.

Another time, the wife had a meeting with some former classmates, and lost the time while talking and laughing. During this time, the husband called once, but he didn't hear it.When I got home, I realized it was almost 1:[-] in the morning.He sat in front of the computer and watched the news, turning a deaf ear to his wife's return, as if his wife didn't exist.

Although he likes to stay in bed in the morning, he doesn't sleep late every night.It's so late now, and he must have accumulated a lot of resentment because he waited for him to stay awake.But no, you can understand it by looking at his resentful "husband".So, the wife couldn't help but feel a little sorry.

The wife began to exaggerate: "I'm back!" Seeing that he didn't respond, she imitated his tone and said: "You still know you're back?"

"I'm late, forgive me!" "It's okay, forgive you, who made me have a lot of adults!" The wife sang and acted by herself.

This time, he was amused again.He lowered his head, suppressed his laughter, and said to his wife: "There is hot water in the kettle, wash and sleep!"

I remember another time, I didn’t know why I got into an awkward situation with him, and the emotional wife couldn’t help but said to him: “Why don’t we get a divorce.” As soon as the words came out, I felt regretful again. I used to be very taboo about “divorce” Never dare to say this word easily.Now that I say it, I am even more worried that this sentence will anger him and expand the conflict. In order to reverse the situation, the wife added: "After leaving, the house belongs to you, the refrigerator belongs to you, the TV belongs to you, the computer belongs to you, the bed belongs to you, the desk, chair and bench are yours. It's all yours..."

Sure enough, he didn't get angry, but asked his wife curiously, "What about you?"

His wife pointed at him: "I just want you, you belong to me, that's enough."

A gunpowder that was about to erupt was resolved into endless tenderness and emotion in the humor.

In fact, if a woman has more humor, it adds a bit of wisdom to her gentleness.In the humor, you will find that there is an emotional "Band-Aid" unconsciously in your life, which can prevent the emotional inflammation and bleeding between husband and wife, and restore love and happiness to their original state!

Everyone wants to live in harmony with the person they like.Do you really love your significant other?Then give him (her) a little humor!In the relationship between husband and wife, humor plays a unique role. Using humor skillfully can solve many problems, and enjoy the emotions of two people in humor.

8. The truth is plain

When we are in love, we are attracted to each other, and when we enjoy the sweetness and romance brought by love, everything will return to the ordinary, and when we return to reality, we will be entangled in daily life and housework. At this time, we may feel Doubt if love is over.In fact, there is no need to doubt that marriage is like a glass of boiled water, calm and meaningful.

The sweetness of boiled water
The sweetness of boiled water, people who don’t know how to taste it will think it is the most common and bland, but only those who are interested know that this boiled water needs to be savored carefully, because boiled water has also been boiled before, their blandness is not tasteless, but It is "calm and calm"!Isn't the same with many things in marriage?Although it has become dull now, there is a moving movement behind the dullness.

He and she are both workers, the salary is not high, but enough to live.The husband is very ordinary, but the wife is very beautiful and smart.

Have a great time with each other because they go out to watch a movie every month, or go hunting park, or go out supper.As long as the wife wants, the husband will accompany her.The husband follows his wife in everything, as long as the wife is happy, and as long as conditions permit, he never says "no", as if he never has his own ideas.

Once, when they went out for dinner, the wife asked her husband to order, and the husband said: "Order what you like." The wife was a little angry: "You don't have any opinions of your own! Are you a bit useless!" The husband was stunned , sighed: "I'm just an ordinary worker, I can't give you a spacious house and a beautiful car, I just want to give you the best within the scope of my 'capability'."

After listening to her husband's words, her eyes were red, and she hesitated to speak...

There are humble men and women in the world, but there is no humble love. The husband in the story makes us understand that "if you love her, you must give her the best". I think this should also be regarded as the true meaning of marriage!Although they don't have spacious houses and beautiful cars, outsiders will never experience their happiness.

home of love
Plain happiness is like a cup of light and tasteless tea, drinking it lightly but calming the mind.It doesn't need a lot of romance, as long as you have it, as long as you love it, life will be real and beautiful.

The two of them are quite financially struggling. Their combined monthly salary is less than 3000 yuan. They have to buy a house to pay off their debts, take care of their children for the elderly, and deal with many favors, so their small life is not very nourishing.Sometimes the family doesn't add a new dress for more than half a year, and they rarely go to restaurants with their wives and children in style like others, let alone travel everywhere, but their home is full of warmth.

They have a lovely child who brings infinite joy to the family and fills the family with laughter.Every morning, when he opened his eyes and saw that his parents were not around, he got up and squeezed into the big bed. "Who? Who?" His father always pretended to be angry and shouted, "Where's your son?" He laughed and squeezed, and she kept laughing, and a new day started like this.

After the whole family got up, they started to get busy. The two of them had to rush to work, and the son was going to be sent to kindergarten.The child is not at home at noon, so she rushes home after get off work. She has to buy vegetables, cook and wash clothes.In the evening, she picked up her son. Along the way, she held his warm little hand and listened to him happily talking about what happened in the kindergarten and singing new songs. The son always chirped like a happy bird She talked non-stop, no matter what she was talking about, that immature childish voice could always dispel her hard work of the day.After eating, in summer, their family would go out for a walk holding hands. The son especially likes holding each other, always saying happily: "Mom and Dad, we want to be a happy family."

When the weather is cold in winter, when they don't go to the streets, they enjoy the warm time at home.Sometimes when she was still washing the dishes, the father and son would start playing games. She would always smile at the side and see how happy the father and son were, and sometimes they would make them laugh out loud. Always full of the very warm taste of home.He pays great attention to educating his son. He will play a lot of interesting games with his son, and he will also train his various thinking abilities in many ways. He is also very patient when educating his son, which often makes her feel inferior.It is often the son's unreasonable troubles that are easily appeased by his words.Although my son is a little thinner, he is very smart. He especially likes to tell stories and perform. Sometimes when the two of them are very tired, they will feel much happier if they tease him.

They also have two hardworking and healthy parents.Although their parents are both farmers, they are kind and simple. Although they are over sixty years old, they always understand their financial difficulties, so they insist on working in the fields by themselves. The boss said: "Now we can do something, and we should do something to reduce your burden." When the work in the field is not busy, the old man will always come to their house to help with housework and take care of the children.Although their family is not rich, they are very harmonious. They never have the kind of troubles that can never be entangled and the troubles of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Of course, there will always be difficult times in life, and like all couples, they will have small quarrels, but they will always be calmed down because of his tolerance and humor. When she is angry, a hug from him , A kiss can always make her smile.She especially likes to snuggle in his arms, and she has always maintained this habit even though the child is so old.

Their life is very simple, and their happiness is also very ordinary, because she is always so easy to satisfy, she will be happy for a long time because he bought herself a bag that he has wanted for a long time, although that bag is not high-end and expensive; She was delighted for a long time because of the small bottle of nail polish he bought for her when he was traveling.She never asked him to buy her high-end fashion or high-end cosmetics, and never compared him with other men; Don't tell her your troubles, because he doesn't want her to suffer too.

Their family lives an ordinary life. Although they can't afford high-end fashion, they can't afford high-end restaurants, and they can't afford some leisure and entertainment, but their hearts are full of sunshine every day.A simple life, a simple love, but a glass of mellow and fragrant wine.

Although they in the story are "plain" in material life, their marriage and family are the richest.The warmth and happiness of this kind of family is what many people yearn for.

The combination of two people is like a chopstick finding another chopstick. From then on, they depend on each other and are inseparable, sharing the ups and downs, and sharing the hardships of life.The life after love returns to plainness is unpretentious, but it is like a fire, which can give you the warmth of a lifetime.

All the matches that strike are only momentarily beautiful, and all the heartbeats will slowly settle down.

There is no dazzling light, no blazing flame, but it makes you calm like water, makes you comfortable, and accompanies you through countless long winter nights.

All passions will eventually be attributed to a kind of plainness, and wise people are willing to watch this warm fire to enjoy a warm and plain life.

I think this is where love belongs.When you have experienced vigorous love and all kinds of love pain, what you want is nothing more than that.As sung in some lyrics, "The most romantic thing I can think of is to grow old with you. Until you are too old to go anywhere, you still regard me as a treasure in the palm of your hand"...

(End of this chapter)