no-complaint marriage

Chapter 23 Love manifests itself in every detail of life (4)
All these things were accepted by her husband one by one, so Yan Bo not only became at ease, but also tried every means to supervise her husband.If he wanted to watch martial arts movies, Yan Bo said it was a waste of time and forced him to watch cooking shows; if he wanted to cook more for one meal, Yan Bo would gently remind him that meals must be fresh to be nutritious , In the end, he had to cook according to the amount of two people; sometimes when there was less food, the husband would let her eat as much as possible first, and if the husband didn't have enough food, he would eat with steamed buns dipped in vegetable soup.Yan Bo felt that it was all love, and he should "accept everything as ordered", never thinking about her husband's feelings.

One day, her husband joked with Yan Bo: "Do you think I'm an apron husband? It's time for us to talk." Yan Bo replied with a hippie smile: "We have food and drink, so happy, everything we talk about is love." I wanted to make my husband happy, but my husband said to her solemnly: "Can you tell me what time you will be home? I also need to plan when I cook. I have to have time to prepare. I can't let you eat cold dishes." Seeing that her husband was unhappy, Yan Bo quickly admitted his mistake: "I'm sorry, I know you work hard every day, but we just have dinner, what plan do you need, it's not about rushing, and if you miss the time, you will die." The husband said: "You It's unreasonable!" Yan Bo got angry, grabbed his arm and yelled: "I come home late to improve our quality of life, if you don't want to cook, we will eat separately!" After hearing this, the husband was very angry and went out I took a walk.

Later, because her husband had to work overtime continuously, Yan Bo decided to go home and cook. From shopping to cooking, every link was very particular. However, the food was fragrant for a long time, and her husband had not returned yet. She sent two or three text messages to him. , The reply I got was: "I have to be busy for a while." "I will go home soon." "I will go home soon." How long is a while?How fast is it?How long is it now?Yan Bo was simply confused by him.When her husband came back, Yan Bo yelled like a cannonball: "How long is a while? How fast is soon? How long is it?" The husband smiled and replied: "Wife, aren't these all your catchphrases? I just Give you the text message you sent me as a 'rebate', don't you think it's 'familiar'?"

At this time, Yan Bo realized the annoyance that his domineering brought to her husband in the past.

It can be seen that to understand and love each other, you can only understand it by personally experiencing what he does for you.For middle-aged couples, learning to empathize with small daily things and recognize their "true face" is the easiest way to keep their marriage fresh.

Now, every weekend, Yan Bo "drives" her husband out of the house and cooks for herself, giving him a delicious meal and the sense of superiority of being waited upon by his wife.

As the saying goes: There is no frying spoon that does not touch the edge of the pot in life!Living at home, it is impossible to solve all trivial housework with love alone.Disputes and quarrels are common, and a marriage without conflicts is a bit unrealistic.

How to face these quarrels and collisions?Some people choose to remain silent, while others choose to speak clearly. This has a lot to do with each person's personality and gender.

I found an interesting phenomenon that most of the people who choose to remain silent are men, while those who have to speak out are mostly women.This may be an understanding bias brought about by gender differences.

Many men think that most women are making trouble out of no reason. Since they can't tell clearly, it's better not to say it. Arguing a few words will lead to more intense quarrels. Avoiding the serious and taking the light is their usual method.

And most women think that men should give way to women.They often make noise over some small things. The mentality of women doing this is nothing more than wanting more care and consideration from men, but women rarely ask men in this way, and they often adopt devious tactics.

In fact, the way of a good husband and wife lies in communication, mutual understanding and understanding between the two parties, clever use of one's own mind, and the use of some little women's unique tact and skills to resolve conflicts between each other.

A good husband will comfort his wife when she is in a bad mood.He knew it would be easier to talk about the issue with his wife at another time!
As a wife, you should also learn to empathize, learn to be considerate of each other, and it is not easy for a husband.Compared with women, it is more difficult for men in social life now!What he has to bear is not just pure feelings and emotions, but a responsibility to the family and marriage.Society has higher requirements on men than women, so men are more afraid of career failure than women. Chinese people have always said that when a man has a family, he has the responsibility to support the family. Even if he is tired, he will not speak lightly.And when a woman is tired, she can give up lightly, and no one will laugh at you. What's more, marrying a good man is like marrying a long-term meal ticket. A man is a woman's lifelong reliance, but a man can only Rely on your own strength to conquer women and the world.Not having a successful career is often a man's biggest regret.A smart wife should learn to let go of her hand at the right time, and don't hold him too tightly!Of course, it is the wife's prerogative to act like a spoiled child, but you must master the timing and don't overdo it!
There is no right and wrong in the conflict between husband and wife, and there is no right and wrong when they make mutual concessions; there is no one who wins or loses in the relationship between husband and wife.

8. Have a pair of eyes that are good at discovering
True love and happiness are all around us

Many times, people always complain about everything in life, family misfortune, marriage misfortune, lover does not love themselves enough... Many times life is not as we imagined, but we never have a pair of eyes that are good at discovering.If you have a pair of eyes that are good at discovering, you will be surprised to find that the "beautiful scenery" - true love and happiness are all around us.

Legend has it that on the cold snow mountain, there is a kind of green grass with a frozen teardrop hanging on each leaf. If you are lucky enough to find it, you will know where your true love is.

After a couple has lived together for several years, the woman feels that her husband no longer loves her as much as before, and everything seems to be flat now.

Therefore, the woman decided to go to the mountain to look for the legendary ice tear grass. Her husband advised her not to go, it was too dangerous, but the woman seemed to have made up her mind and must go.Her husband was very helpless, so he asked to go together.

That night, her husband went to the park.

About to leave, the man puts on a down jacket for the woman and asks the woman, "Are you sure you want to go?"

"Yes!" said the woman firmly. "Okay, let's go..."

At the foot of the mountain, her husband gently adjusted the woman's hat: "Do you want to go up? It's dangerous, aren't you afraid?"

"Don't be afraid!" The woman was still so determined.

"Alright then, the road is slippery on the mountain, hold on to my hand!"

On the mountainside, the man looked at her shivering in the snow, and hugged her tightly: "Let's go back, see how cold you are..."

"I... won't go home!" The woman's temper was very stubborn.

"Okay, come on, I'll carry you on my back!"

On the top of the mountain, the man took off his coat, put it lightly on the woman's body, stroked the woman's face, which was purple with cold, and said, "How about going back? If you go back now, you can still get home before dark, so don't look for it anymore." , There is no such grass at all.”

"No, look for it again, and you will find it!" The woman was still so stubborn.

"Okay, let's look for it again..."

A blizzard came, and the woman panicked, and the wind made her unable to open her eyes.In the panic, the hand holding the woman was suddenly loosened, and the woman lost her direction, only feeling a force constantly lifting herself up...

The woman woke up and found that the man was gone.The woman sat powerlessly on the ground and cried. She finally realized how self-willed she was and how ridiculous her behavior was... After a long time, the woman stood up and suddenly found a green grass under her feet. There are a few crystal clear ice beads hanging. "Ice tear grass!" The woman called out.She picked up the grass, called the man's name, and looked for him everywhere...

The woman is saved, but the man is missing.

Women will never know that under the ice tear grass, there is a pair of hands that still have residual warmth.At the moment when the blizzard came, the man exhausted all his strength to lift the woman up, the woman was saved, but the man was buried underneath... and the so-called ice tear grass was actually picked by the man from the park of.The ice beads on it are women's tears.The woman doesn't know that the true love she wants to find is always in front of her, but she doesn't cherish it.

Although this is just a legend, it reveals a truth to us.

In fact, true love has always been around us, existing in ordinary people, ordinary time or environment, but we don't have a pair of eyes that are good at discovering it.We only discover it when certain occasions bring it to light, and that's rare, so we seldom discover true love, as happiness is all around us and we're still looking for it.

true love is so ordinary
We need eyes that are good at discovering true love and being good at feeling everything around us, so that we will find that there is so much true love and it is by our side.Cherish what we have, discover happiness, and feel true love. Each of us is actually a hero in a fairy tale, but we are relatively ordinary, so our love will not be as earth-shattering as they are in the story.

He is an external employee of a public institution, and his job is similar to others, but his salary is less than half of others.She is a salesperson in a small company, and she is busy and busy every day.Originally, they both had good jobs at home. In order to be together, they disregarded their parents' objections and came to a prosperous city in the south. Still so miserable.

Their lives are very ordinary and hard. In comparison, their classmates are much better than them, buying a house and a car.Whenever there is news from a classmate, she always feels a little bit of sadness.Sometimes she thought, if she also stayed at home, then her life must be similar to those of her classmates.

One day, the typhoon named "Pearl" on TV was about to make landfall. Early in the morning, she hurried to work, while he didn't have to go to work. He went to work and went back home.As soon as she walked to the door of the house, she called and said to go home to get something and eat at home at noon.He was very happy when he heard that, because she often socialized outside and the two of them sat together very rarely, so he immediately prepared the ingredients for cooking. He thought of spicy rice noodles, which was her favorite food.When they were in college, they often went to the snack bar to eat spicy rice noodles. The two of them touched their heads and were often sweating profusely. They were still very happy and enviable.So he was going to buy ingredients. At this time, the typhoon had given him a warning, and the whirring sound was really scary. He bought the ingredients, made rice noodles, picked up the umbrella and went out again.He was going to pick her up at the station, because he knew that she wouldn't know how to take a taxi, not to mention the rain and the wind, even if there was hail and strong winds.He took the umbrella and walked out of the stairs. As soon as he went out, the umbrella was blown over by the strong wind. He folded the umbrella and rushed into the wind and rain. When he was about to arrive at the station, he received a message from her saying that she had boarded the train Yes, the traffic is very heavy, and I may not be able to eat at home, so I want him to send things to the station.

From the message she sent, he could feel her irritability. She was indeed very irritated. She was struggling to move forward despite the heavy wind and rain. After finally arriving at the station, she had to squeeze the bus. Wet people and rain gear have almost no place to stay, but there is still a traffic jam, and the long queue of cars can't be seen at a glance.She thought again that her life was like a car queue, with no direction and no goal, and she thought about whether her love was also like the trees on both sides of the road, shaken by the wind and rain in reality fall?She began to doubt the tenacity of her love.

She got out of the car very angry, and when she looked up, she saw him. His whole body was already soaked by rain.Seeing her, he hurriedly opened the big sealed bag. There were two sealed bags in the big bag, one contained the materials she wanted, and the other contained a thermos bottle. After he opened the thermos bottle, it was Spicy rice noodles, a fragrance filled the moist air.She was stunned, although the strong wind was still raging and the torrential rain was still pouring, however, she only had him in her eyes, everything around her disappeared, only he stopped by her side.

They were in the howling wind, under the pouring rain, he and she were eating spicy rice noodles head to head in the uncovered station, a string of tears flowed down the cheeks into the bowl.

It's another new day, and people are talking about the typhoon that raged yesterday. Fortunately, the typhoon didn't actually make landfall, otherwise the city would suffer.But few people know that in this city, there is a pair of ordinary lovers who found their true love because of yesterday's bad environment, because of the bowl of rice noodles in the storm.In the lives of ordinary people, there are many touching true loves, and true loves appear in the most inconspicuous places.

Without a keen ability to capture, without a pair of eyes that are good at discovering, you will not find the true love in life.True love is very ordinary, it is included in every bit of life, a move, the ups and downs that we have gone through together... The happiness of two people is manifested in this moment.

"Don't Complain" Proverb
There are too many temptations in life, reality needs love and bread!Romantic emotions are illusory, while married life is real and flat, but it is also a kind of happiness.It depends on how you manage your marriage in the ordinary. As the saying goes: "A good life is adjusted." As long as you can manage it, you can have a happy life.

Living a dull life for too long often loses its joy and makes you feel numb and dull.If you want to keep romance and passion in your marriage forever, it is better to use your own love and unique creativity to create a little surprise for your lover.In this way, not only can life be more fun, but it can also make him cherish you more.

A happy family is built with care. Marriage is a long process that needs to be watered and nourished by the husband and wife, instead of simply leaving it to time to test its "flowering period" or to let it grow on its own. off.

Smart couples always know how to deal with the little things in marriage, and always make their love full of romantic warmth.Grasp the direction of love, let love sail to the romantic distance in a balanced way with your own control, so that emotions will never be tired!

Getting along with men and women is an art, and small things are the link that connects this art.Don't think that only big things are big things. In fact, there are never small things in love.Everything you do is born of love!
Marriage is to put love into life, open one eye to see each other's strengths, and close one eye to ignore each other's shortcomings.In marriage, it's more about learning to be the right person than finding the right one.

(End of this chapter)