no-complaint marriage

Chapter 33 Growing up in the Dilemma of Marriage (2)
One winter day last year, I attended a friend's wedding reception. There are more than 20 fellow villagers who don't usually see each other, but I saw them all that time, and I was very happy in my heart. I slowly gained a "massive amount" between pushing cups and changing cups.I was a little drunk, but still sober, so I hurried home.Looking at the watch, it was already 9:[-] in the evening.The whole street lights are blooming, shining with a little cold brilliance.

Walking to the side of the square, I took a rest on a stone bench, when suddenly a person jumped out of the green forest and walked towards me.When I took a closer look, it was a short man. Could it be that he wanted to plot against me?Before I had time to think about it, I used Jiu Xing to punch him with my fist.The other party walked away and said repeatedly: "Dude, don't get me wrong, I'm not a bad person!" I wondered and asked him why he followed me.He murmured, "Dude, I want you to do me a favor!"

He took out a 1 yuan coin and stuffed it into my hand, "Please go to the fifth lamp post ahead and find the shoe shiner to polish your shoes. I'll wait for you here!" Seeing his mysterious look , Suspicion popped up in my mind, but the short man insisted that he meant absolutely no harm.

I am also relatively bold by nature, thinking that I am such a smart and big man, I am afraid that you will not be able to blackmail me.Following the direction he pointed, I walked over carelessly and saw the lady, she was under 40 years old.I sat down on the armchair, stretched my legs, and said to her in a low voice: "Shine your shoes." Maybe it's because of alcohol, this is not my usual style, I usually don't like to let people shine my shoes .

The shoe shine lady was very quick, and the shoes were polished in a short time.After receiving the 1 yuan coin I handed over, the lady dusted off her clothes, straightened her waist, and buried her head in picking up the toolbox: "Oh, well, the family is in a hurry, and we have to go back!"

I walked to the stone bench in the square again, and the man was really still there.He said "thank you" to me and got up to leave.I stopped him: "Why do you want to do this, why don't you dare to go with me?"

"It's nothing, I'm hiding here because I'm afraid my lover will see it!" I was puzzled again: "Then where is your lover?" The short man pointed to the lamp under the fifth lamppost. The lady said softly, "It's the one who shined your shoes just now. My wife was laid off not long ago. There is nothing I can do. There are two children at home. They need to study and live!" He continued: "I came to pick her up half an hour ago, but she said that at least 25 pairs of shoes need to be cleaned every day, but more than half an hour later, she only cleaned 24 pairs. Thank you!"

After saying this, the short man trotted all the way to another street, then turned back, and walked towards his shoe-shining lover from a distance...

It is not difficult to see that although the husband and wife in the story have a difficult life, the conditions are very difficult, and they are experiencing life experiences, they gave an answer to reality with their true feelings: what they gained from the ordeal was not despair, but true love!

Marriage is like a boat in the ocean. No matter when the weather is calm or when the waves are turbulent, two people need to join hands and work hard in the same direction. It’s just that when the wind is down, it tests people’s endurance, and when it’s against the wind, it tests people’s endurance. That's all.

In short, in the future married life, when encountering hardships, if the husband and wife can fight side by side instead of leaving the responsibilities and burdens to one person, and experience the true feelings in the hardships, it is also a kind of blessing for the husband and wife !
4. No matter how hard the day is, the heart is sweet

Just like a person's life cannot be smooth sailing, marriage also faces some "little episodes" from time to time, and it is precisely because of these "little episodes" that marriage is no longer plain, but full of color and more memorable value , It also makes people in the marriage know how to cherish this marriage that has gone through all hardships and rewards.

When a couple faces obstacles in life, they can support each other and encourage them to walk through together. This is a kind of happiness.Maybe this kind of life is very difficult, difficult, and bitter for the people in it, but their hearts are sweet.Because they are not alone, but go hand in hand.They don't have to be afraid of the wind and rain ahead, because they can always be together.

Take a look at this happy couple around us, and you will also understand:

On the floor where I live, there is a sunny garage on the first floor, which is more than 20 square meters. At first, it was a convenient garage shared by several companies. Later, due to discord between several companies, they refused to pay the rent, and were rented out by the property management of the community. A migrant worker riding a tricycle into the city.

The migrant workers left early and returned late, and after staying for a few days, they brought their wives from the country into the rented room.It didn't take long for the originally empty and deserted garage to look like a home.The wife of a migrant worker has set up a vegetable stall in front of the garage, and there are quite a few customers. The vegetables she sells are not only fresh and cheap, but she always has a smile on her mouth, and her service attitude is particularly good.

Suddenly one day, firecrackers were crackling downstairs in the community. When I went downstairs to join in the fun, I found that the sound of firecrackers came from the door of the migrant workers' house. People were talking and laughing around there. A convenience store that sells daily necessities, rice oil, soy sauce and vinegar.The migrant worker couple blushed with excitement, the man kept passing cigarettes, and the woman smiled and distributed candies to the children and women. It turned out that this migrant worker couple was going to live here for a long time.

Since the convenience store opened, it has formed a fixed sales group.Their smiles and sincerity keep winning people to their little shop.Migrant workers have long since stopped riding tricycles, and he has become the busiest person in the community.If someone ran out of gas, he would carry it upstairs and complete the installation. Although the hard work fee was three to five yuan, he worked tirelessly.The migrant worker also hung up a signboard for repairing bicycles and electric vehicles in front of the convenience store, twisted a screw, and tightened the brakes. When someone came to ask how much it was, he smiled honestly and shook his big oily hand: "Spend some money!" Er Xiaoli, what money are you talking about?"

Migrant workers are as busy as a spinning top in the community every day. Although they are surrounded by people who wear suits and ties and drive expensive cars to work, the men have no inferiority complex and still happily carry gas tanks up and down the stairs every day, or clean The range hood; the woman of the migrant worker is also dedicated to running a small convenience store, as small as a bag of soy sauce or a bottle of vinegar, as long as someone sticks out her head on a tall building and shouts, she will send it all the way up with a smile.In the afternoon, the women in the community were free. They gathered in front of the convenience store to play mahjong or cards.When no one came to the store to buy things, migrant women would come over to watch the fun, but she never complained about her man because she envied their life. She felt that the man was extremely happy to work so hard to support the family.

One night, my electric car broke down and I asked migrant workers to fix it.It was summer, and the migrant workers repaired my car topless, sweating profusely after a while.The woman came out after finishing her business, and after wiping off the man's sweat, she fanned the man and handed him the tools he needed.After the man repaired the car, he looked up and saw that the woman was packing up tools for him with sweat on his face, so he said distressedly: "You look tired, take a rest, take a shower and sleep, tomorrow you will be busy again! At this time, the woman said indifferently: "Drink a glass of beer to cool down first, you are much more tired than me all day, you should take a shower first, and I will wipe your back after a while!"

Seeing this, I really understood the mystery that although they are not as rich as the rich, they live a sweet life.Their love is clear and does not contain any impurities. In contrast, their love moves me even more.

Later I heard that the couple of migrant workers not only bought the garage they rented, but also bought a flat in the community to take their children to school in the city.It sounds incredible at first, but when you think about it carefully, it's no wonder that people like them who know how to manage their lives don't live a better life!

It is said that "poor and lowly couples are sad for everything." In fact, for the bottom-level people who know how to manage their lives with love, happiness and smiles, no matter how poor their life is, they can manage their lives happily.No matter how hard the life is, the heart is as sweet as honey. That kind of sweetness comes from the heart, and outsiders will never feel it if they don't empathize.

Some people say: "Happiness is your own feeling, happiness is relative. There is no absolute happiness in this world, only a heart that refuses to be happy." What is happiness?It has been pursued and longed for by our generation after generation. However, what is true happiness cannot be explained by a specific definition. It is only illusory and ethereal, and only the person concerned can deeply appreciate and comprehend it. of.Happiness and happiness are just a feeling, and it is a feeling in one's own heart. People who don't know the truth will only comment on the surface, but who really understands the reason for a person's happiness?
You know, no matter how difficult life is, as long as you have confidence and perseverance, you are not afraid of bad days!Moreover, the sweetness tasted in the midst of hardships will never be forgotten in one's life.

5. Adversity makes us know how to cherish

We can often see such couples who hug each other tightly during adversity, but after the adversity passes, they seem to forget the difficulties and tortures at the beginning, and completely forget the true feelings of being together through thick and thin at that time.Instead, I feel that life is uneventful and lifeless.

In fact, since this is the case, it is better to let the marriage experience adversity all the time. Why are people so forgetful?They become picky in every possible way when they are in good times, but they can understand and support each other in times of adversity.Wouldn't it be better if everyone cherished each other because of the decades-long struggle with their significant other in difficult times?Don't wait until everything is lost to know how to cherish, but learn to cherish in adversity; after the adversity passes, you can grow up and know how to cherish!

There is such a story that makes us know how to cherish:
After 10 full years of marriage, there is no longer any impulse and interest in the relationship between husband and wife. Zhiguo feels more and more that his heart towards his wife is almost a kind of procedure and obligation, and he begins to tire of his wife.Especially when the unit newly transferred a young and lively girl, who launched a crazy attack on him, he suddenly felt that she was his second spring.After much consideration, he decided to divorce his wife.Her heart seemed to be numb to her husband's disappointment, and she agreed to him very calmly, and the two walked into the civil affairs department together.

The formalities went smoothly, and after going out, the two of them were already independent and free people.For some reason, Zhiguo suddenly felt empty in his heart. He looked at Xinrui and said, "It's getting late, let's have some dinner together."

Xinrui looked at him: "Okay, I heard that a new 'divorce hotel' has been opened to hold the last dinner for divorced couples, why don't we go there and have a look?"

Zhiguo nodded, and the two walked into the divorce hotel silently, one after the other. "Mister and Madam, good evening." As soon as I sat down in the private room, the service lady came in, "What do you two want to eat?"

Zhiguo looked at Xinrui: "Order."

Xinrui shook her head: "I don't come out often, so I don't know much about these things, so you should order." "I'm sorry sir, madam, we have a rule in the divorce hotel, this meal must be ordered by the lady who usually likes to eat the most. Dishes, the husband orders the lady's favorite dish, which is called the last memory."

(End of this chapter)