no-complaint marriage

Chapter 5 Be a Virtuous Wife (4)
A wife acting like a baby to her husband properly can make the marriage full of vitality at all times.Acting like a baby has no age limit.All women who have a happy marriage know how to arouse their husband's love by acting like a baby.

The sun was setting slowly, and a pair of old people walked slowly on the sidewalk.They walked here every day, about a few hundred meters, to a western restaurant for dinner.

This day, he ordered a creamy mushroom soup, a fried egg, and an exquisite dessert for her.She found that the fried eggs were a little too old, so she pouted her mouth and writhed in her seat.

He noticed it immediately, called the waiter, ordered a new order for her, and then moved the fried egg in front of him.She smiled brightly, like a little girl.

She is 96 years old and he is 86 years old.Yet he is strong and she is delicate.No one can tell the age difference.So when she acted like a baby, she was quite cute.

Back then, he was a son of a rich family on the beach. When he was 16 years old, he ran into a 26-year-old girl on the street. He was stunned by her beauty. He chased her fiercely, broke through all obstacles, and finally married her back home.Originally, she was about to become someone else's bride, but she broke the previous engagement for his love.

Seeing this old couple, I realized that acting like a baby has nothing to do with age, women will act like a baby as long as they are happy.

Many people think that acting like a baby is only needed by men and women in love. In fact, there is no age limit for acting like a baby, and old couples also need to be seasoned by acting like a baby.Acting like a baby can not only make women more lovely, but also easily resolve the contradictions in life. It is the "atom bomb" that softens the contradictions, invincible and invincible.In married life, there are many benefits for a wife to act like a baby properly:

◎Wife acting like a baby just right can increase the EQ of married life
Let the sweetness and tenderness of your pity and my love linger in the hearts of both husband and wife for a long time, and it can resolve the grudges and quarrels between husband and wife caused by daily trivial matters.Reasoning loudly, the effect is often not as good as acting like a baby softly. To paraphrase a slogan: the sky is full of dark clouds, just "spread" it; it is one of the most primitive and effective means when you make material and other "extraordinary" demands on your husband; you can When you do something wrong, you can easily "get away with it" in front of your husband; when your husband compares the quality of his marriage with other people's marriage, he can give his marriage an extra weight , so as to be more satisfied and confident in their marriage; if it is a DINK family, acting like a baby can also transform an adult marriage into a paradise full of childlike fun at any time, so that both husband and wife will never feel lonely; a woman who can act like a baby can make Men work for it.

A woman who can act like a spoiled child can make a man come true easily: "Honey, help me carry my bag, look at his little hands, they are all covered with red marks." "Hubby, I'm tired, go cook, please!" You!" No matter how tired the ordered man was, he would rush into the kitchen.Conversely, if you yell at the man with straight eyebrows: "Hurry up and go to work, I will go to work too, why should I serve you!" Then the couple will definitely quarrel.The same words, said in different ways, have completely different results.

◎Wife acting like a baby can add endless fun to life
For many years, in order to maintain the manly demeanor and establish a "tree" image, men have endured a lot of silence brought by them; they have shouldered the burden of life and experienced a lot of indifference.Through these, we can see that men have a heart that needs comfort.At this time, women act like a baby, gather strong love in their childish words and deeds, and contain love in their naive attitude, so that they can relax and feel happy in the busy life and difficult journey of life, which makes life Loads of fun.

◎Wife acting like a baby properly can bring endless warmth to life
Today's living environment allows men to hide their breathing opportunities, to fight for their careers, for their ideals, to reflect their value, and to make endless contributions to improve their quality of life.Their emotional life is getting paler and their spiritual life is getting more and more empty.How can the mind of a man like the sea be so suppressed blindly, how can it be calm like a dead picture like this blindly?They really need someone to wipe and stir up the waves.At this time, the woman is acting like a baby, with infatuation in her coquettishness, let the lonely and heavy hearts listen to the surge of the waves, and let their souls hidden in the bottom of the sea feel the surge of warm current, then life will be full of warmth.

◎Wife acting like a baby can inject new vitality into life

In today's society, men are still strong in the face of increasingly cruel competition.In order to support the majesty of a mountain, they endured a lot of pain and failure, but they never wrote the pain on their faces, and never brought their loss to their families.But they need a pair of gentle hands to heal the wound and massage the wound.At this time, the woman is acting like a baby, which contains concern, and hides the maturity of a woman in her naive and coquettish voice, and brings out the maturity and demeanor of a man in her childlike behavior, allowing their desire to protect to be brought into play. At that time, they will re-recognize themselves, and generate new motivation, new vitality, and new vitality!Life will also be injected with new vitality.

Look at the right time and act like a baby

According to the survey, most men like their wives to act like a baby.Whenever the wife purses her lips, stomps her feet, blinks her eyes, dances her hands, and looks like pear blossoms with rain, no matter how bad her mood is, she will be willing to bow down.When the wife clenched a pair of small pink fists and slapped her husband's chest lightly and said, "I hate you." Instead of getting angry, the husband would put his wife in his arms with a smile on his face and coax him, saying, "Okay, okay, Don't be angry, it's all my fault." At this time, the wife will lean on her husband's broad chest like a bird.This kind of situation often happens between husband and wife.Of course, there is always a limit to everything, and a woman's acting like a baby is no exception, and acting like a baby out of the limit will become a disgusting affectation or vexatious trouble.Therefore, a woman's acting like a baby must depend on the timing, not whatever she wants.

◎In official occasions, don’t act like a baby

Because the husband takes his wife to some official occasions, such as annual parties, dinners, etc., the people he meets in these places are mainly people who have official relations with the husband, such as bosses, business partners, etc.At this moment, what the husband needs is a wife who makes a big show, not a wife who is not sensible.Just imagine, when a husband is talking to his boss, his wife suddenly comes over, hugs him and talks coquettishly. I believe that no man will think that acting like a baby is cute, but hateful, so acting like a baby depends on the occasion.

◎When your husband is in a bad mood or spirit, don’t act like a baby

Acting like a baby is not suitable in official occasions, but it doesn't mean that in the world of two people, you can act like a spoiled child regardless of time, and sometimes you have to know how to look at each other's faces.When your husband is in a bad mood, you should give him some space. A smart woman will wait quietly by the side instead of acting like a baby at this time, because the husband is very irritable at this time. There will be a big reaction, so she will not act like a baby to her husband at this time.

If the husband is not getting enough sleep, is not in good spirits, or is concentrating on important things, it is best for the wife not to disturb him.

In fact, although acting like a baby is one of women's weapons, if you use it at an inappropriate time, even the highest level of acting like a baby will only attract hate and make him feel that you are annoying.

◎Don’t take sapo as coquettish

A woman who can act like a baby is always very feminine, and her gestures will always make men fall in love with her.Women always hope to get more love from men. This love is like a spring, inexhaustible and inexhaustible.But men seldom talk about the word "love", they use actions to express their love more.As time goes on, gradually no longer say those three words to women, so women begin to wonder if the man has changed and no longer loves herself?Wouldn't it be someone who would think of a way to find a man: Why did you go home half an hour late today?Why didn't you tell yourself you were going on a business trip tomorrow?A woman tortures a man while torturing herself, but the man doesn't know where he is wrong, and this love goes further and further amidst suspicion.

In fact, every woman has been pampered by men as treasures, but women don't understand the tiredness of men, and think that men are born to tolerate women, and even spoiled by pampering, once a man accidentally neglects herself, she will start to live in vain No, such a woman will become less and less cute if she acts like a baby, loses her temper, or even behaves wildly. No man will always have the patience to coax a woman.Especially in married life, men hope that women will suddenly become sensible. Men don’t understand women’s wild behavior and hope he can coax them. They only think that women are not gentle enough and considerate enough. Men have only one thought, and that is to escape.

Remember, men are not your private property, so don't always be self-centered.Therefore, you must have a measure of acting like a baby, look for the right time, and don't be too willful.Acting like a baby can not only make a marriage more harmonious, but also disintegrate a family.

8. Only by being independent can we stand firmer

When it comes to women's independence, people will think of an image of a woman holding high the banner and resolutely fighting against men.This image has been widely promoted around the world, so many people think that is what women are like when they are independent.In fact, women's independence does not lie in fighting against men, but in finding their own position.

Rely on men to a degree

Someone once said that a woman who is a small bird is the closest to happiness!
This is true in reality. Many men like women's little birds and cuddles. They hope that they are trees and women are vines, and let women cling to them, so that they can be like a man, and when they let women rely on them, they will feel satisfied.For a woman, no matter how independent and self-reliant she is, she still cannot change her psychology of longing for a shoulder she can rely on.There is no woman who does not like to enjoy the care and love full of tender emotions.

Women like to be dependent on men, and men also like to be dependent on women, but there must be a limit to all this.A smart woman understands that true happiness is to create a life together with her lover, and she needs to be independent to stand firmer in her marriage.

From this point of view, it seems that there is nothing wrong with women relying on men.However, no matter how strong a man is, there will be times when he is weak, and no matter how hard he is, there will be times when he will be tired.What should they do when they are tired and lost?Are they still as dependable as ever?Will it take the trouble to shelter you from the wind and rain?

Here is a story that can tell you the answer.

He used to love her so incomparably, she was petite and cute, tender and charming.She relied on him for everything, almost couldn't live without him, and he was also keen to take care of her.He always showed the decisiveness of a big man, while she always showed the meekness of a little woman.

He said, she listened; he was satisfied, she was happy.

After the two got married, he discovered that his wife had never made up her mind before. It wasn't that she let him and loved him, but that she had no idea.No matter big or small, she would let him decide, even what fruit to eat and what TV to watch, she had to let him have the final say, otherwise, she would just not eat or watch.She even asks for his opinion on what clothes she wears when she goes out, because she thinks his aesthetics are better than her own.All her preferences follow him.

He is busy outside, she is idle at home.The water pipe in the house was broken, and the gas couldn't turn on. He always asked the property management to deal with it after he got home.Hiding behind his back, she watched happily as the workmen repaired the pipe without breaking a sweat.

"I don't understand" and "I won't" are her mantras, because she thinks he understands everything and knows everything.Even if the sky falls, he will carry it for her, and he doesn't need to worry about it himself.

Under such circumstances, there is only one result, that is, in their love, he takes the initiative and she is passive.Finally one day, he was tired and he lost patience with his wife.When she delicately asked him where he put the newly bought quilt, he shouted: "I don't know!" Then he slammed the door and left.She didn't know what she did wrong.Hasn't it always been like this?
He didn't come back for several days, and she was overwhelmed.I don't know how she will live without him.She was afraid of losing him, but didn't know how to get him.

If a woman is not independent, it is easy to listen to and accept other people's opinions. Over time, it is easy to form a dependent mentality.If you respect other people's opinions while maintaining your own independence and assertiveness, such a woman will make men feel relaxed, not difficult.

Why do you have to rely on him when you can do things yourself?It's fine when he's happy, but if he's not happy, who do you rely on?

spiritual independence
For a woman, spiritual independence is more important, because men live in the material, but women live in the spirit.The spirit of a woman is an alluring world of incomparable mystery and incomparable richness.A woman's spiritual independence is an affirmation of herself.When a woman's spiritual world is dominated by others, the woman is very sad.A woman can build a beautiful kingdom in her own spiritual world, and when she feels proudly that she is the queen of the kingdom, she will find confidence in real life.A woman's spiritual independence is also reflected in her thoughts being dominated by herself, rather than blindly modifying her behavior for others.

Female writers in the 20s, represented by Bing Xin, Xiao Hong, and Zhang Ailing, discovered that the "backer" of men was actually unreliable in their special experiences and hard years. They warned women that they should be independent, Don't always rely on men, otherwise women will never have a place.

Zhang Ailing expressed such a point of view in "Love in a Fallen City": the protagonist Bai Liusu was divorced and stayed at home for many years after being a down-and-out noble family in Shanghai. Target the wealthy businessman Fan Liuyuan.Find a rich man to arrange your own future, this is the essence of this love.

Bai Liusu's shrewdness and rationality allowed her to obtain the protection of marriage, but marriage made her fall into a loveless cage.Relying on marriage means relying on men, and the inevitable outcome of relying on men is: even if you get the guarantee of survival, you will definitely lose the love and dignity that women regard as life.

(End of this chapter)