The Subconscious Mind and the Sixth Sense

Chapter 27 How Strong is the Psychological Radiation (3)
Low self-esteem is a negative self-evaluation with obvious generalization characteristics.If a person thinks he is inferior in some respects, he will also feel inferior in other respects.Again, low self-esteem is characterized by sensitivity.People with low self-esteem always suspect that others look down on them and say that they are incompetent behind their backs. They usually regard some irrelevant remarks and behaviors as others' contempt for them, and their inner inferiority complex will increase day by day.If a person with low self-esteem sees others whispering, he will suspect that he is talking about himself; when he hears other people's unintentional jokes, he will think it is mean.In addition, low self-esteem has a masking character.People with low self-esteem are afraid that others will know their shortcomings, so they always try their best to cover up their shortcomings, are ashamed to ask others for advice, and would rather keep their doubts in their hearts, and are afraid of exposing their weaknesses in the inquiry.

People who have been shrouded in inferiority complex for a long time will not only affect their physical and mental health, but also set up negative psychological barriers for their behavior.Keep hinting to yourself: "I can't do this well, I can't do that..." When the subconscious gradually accepts negative information from the subject, it will react to the consciousness.

Generally speaking, people with low self-esteem lack initiative.When he encounters a failure, it will aggravate his inferiority complex, causing a vicious circle.In addition, inferiority complex will seriously hinder the development of personality.When we can't see our own strengths, we can't know our untapped potential, we are sensitive and suspicious, and we can only become a person who is depressed, unwilling to make progress, and lacks ideals and pursuits.

Some people say that self-confidence is the pride of the relatively weak, while inferiority is the sorrow of the relatively strong.The strong cannot be superior in everything, and the weak are not useless; the big man has his weaknesses, and similarly, the small man has his pride.

US President Nixon once did absurd things because of his low self-esteem, which ruined his great political future.

In 1972, Nixon ran for re-election.With outstanding achievements in the first term, the vast majority of political commentators are optimistic about Nixon, predicting that he will be able to defeat his competitors with an absolute advantage and be re-elected as the President of the United States.However, although the outside world is very optimistic about Nixon's re-election campaign, Nixon himself lacks self-confidence and has yet to get out of the psychological shadow of his failure in previous campaigns.Driven by this subconscious, he accidentally made something that he regretted for the rest of his life.

Nixon sent people to sneak into the Watergate Hotel, the headquarters of the opponent's headquarters, and installed bugs in the opponent's office.After the incident, Nixon blocked the investigation and shirked responsibility.Although he won the presidential election, he was forced to resign because of the "Watergate Incident".

In fact, everyone has different levels of inferiority complex. Human beings are a contradictory combination of self-confidence and inferiority complex. No one in the world is perfect. Only advantages and disadvantages constitute a complete and real person.

A person who can fully understand himself will definitely find his own shortcomings, and when he compares his own shortcomings with the advantages of others, he will naturally feel ashamed, and a feeling of inferiority arises spontaneously.Based on this, it can be said that self-confidence without inferiority complex is not real self-confidence, while self-confidence of confident people is based on a comprehensive understanding of themselves, which is rational inferiority complex.

If a person has no sense of inferiority, what he has is not real self-confidence, but arrogance.True self-confidence is based on low self-esteem, and it is low self-esteem that enriches self-confidence. To some extent, low self-esteem leads to success.

From this perspective, inferiority complex has taught us a lot.Because of low self-esteem, we never thought about expressing ourselves, and always feel that we are not good enough, so we are humble; Under the guidance, we will always try our best to do our best; because of low self-esteem, we are humble... Low self-esteem allows us to keep learning, choose to be low-key when dealing with others, and low self-esteem also allows us to constantly correct our shortcomings.From this point of view, low self-esteem is not a bad thing and can be used as a driving force for success.Although this feature of inferiority complex does exist, not everyone can correctly understand it.In the minds of most people, low self-esteem brings people more negative effects.

One morning, when the gardener came to the garden, he found that all the flowers and trees had withered, and the garden was full of decay.The gardener was very surprised, and asked an oak tree at the gate of the garden, "What is going on here?"

It turns out that because the oak tree is not as tall and straight as the pine tree, it feels world-weary and does not want to live anymore; the pine tree hates itself for not being able to bear fruit like the vine; The beautiful flowers bloom like that; the morning glory is also very distressed, it sighs that it does not have the fragrance like lilac.Even the other trees in the garden are downcast, complaining that they are not as good as others.Only one grass grows green and lovely.So the gardener asked it: "Why are you not depressed?" Xiaocao replied: "I am not discouraged at all. Although I am not important in the garden, I know that the garden needs not only oaks, pine trees, vines, peaches, etc. Trees also need the existence of grass, so I absorb the sun and rain contentedly so that I can grow up every day."

Once there is an inferiority complex, people often start from doubting their abilities until they are unable to show their abilities, or they are not good at communicating with others to self-enclosed.People with low self-esteem can't see the hope of life, can't appreciate the joy of life, and dare not look forward to a better tomorrow.Therefore, it is imminent to get rid of inferiority complex and let us stay away from the harm of inferiority complex!How can we get rid of inferiority complex?You should learn to do the following things.

1.give yourself a hope every day

There are many things in the world that we cannot predict.Although we can't grasp every opportunity, we can control ourselves; we can't control the impermanent weather, but we can adjust our mood.Give yourself a hope every day, let go of your state of mind, and before you know it, your inferiority complex will go with the wind.

2.divert your attention
Ignore your own shortcomings and past failures, and turn your attention to the things you are most interested in and are best at.The sense of accomplishment you get will strengthen your self-confidence, dispel the inferiority complex in your heart, and relieve psychological pressure and tension.

3.stay away from negative language

If you often talk about some negative self-descriptive terms, such as "I'm just so incompetent", "I can't do it", "I'm destined to fail", etc., you will only feel more inferior in the long run.However, if you change these sentences into "I must make a change", "I can do it", "I will win this time", often say to yourself, or write them down and post them in a place where you can easily see them in the room, it is also the same. A good way to get rid of inferiority complex.

4.The magic weapon of smiling can be used in the face of adversity

Life is full of variables, and adversity will not remain the same.The adversity you encounter today will nurture future success.Adversity can not only temper our fortitude, but also make us think deeply about life.When encountering adversity, smile and tell yourself: "An occasional failure does not represent a total failure. Only by giving up trying will you be sure to fail forever." Learn from the experience of failure with a smile and meet the next challenge.

5.Reshape self-image from past successes
When you are troubled by inferiority complex, you might as well dig out your past successful experiences to nourish your beliefs.Get the image of failure out of your mind and emphasize your success.A series of successes runs through the image of a successful person.It can send hints to your subconscious mind - you are a capable and successful person, and you can direct a successful life.

6.have a correct assessment of yourself
Write down your interests, hobbies and specialties on paper one by one, even if it is a trivial thing.At this time, you will find that you have many strengths, and hold an objective and rational attitude towards your shortcomings and past failures, and deal with reality with a positive attitude.In fact, whether a person has value or not does not require any deep thinking. If someone needs you, you have value; if you can do things, you have value...

Therefore, you can choose one thing that you are most sure to do first, and then do another thing after you succeed.Every success will strengthen your self-confidence, and subsequently, your inferiority complex will continue to weaken, and a series of successes will make your self-confidence increasingly perfect and tend to be consolidated.

There are many people with low self-esteem around us, maybe, including myself, but some people may not be so lucky, do not know how to get rid of low self-esteem, and make the most courageous self-transcendence, so they have been suffering from low self-esteem .

For a long time, Mary felt that she was not beautiful enough to walk with her head up.One day, Mary went to the jewelry store and bought a green bow. The owner kept praising her for wearing the bow. Although Mary didn't believe it, she was very happy because no one had praised her before.Mary couldn't help raising her head, because she was eager to let everyone see, so she didn't care when she bumped into someone when she went out.Mary walked into the classroom and met her teacher head-on: "Mary, you look so beautiful when you look up!" On that day, Mary received many compliments.She thought, it must be due to the bow, but when Mary took a look in front of the mirror, she found that there was no bow on her head, and she might have lost it when she walked out of the jewelry store.But Mary knew that she would never need a bow again.This is not a fictional story. This little girl named Mary grew up to be a famous host of HBO (full name "Home Box Office", a cable network media company headquartered in New York, USA).

When you let go of your low self-esteem, you gain a whole new awareness of your inner potential.Finally, we end by quoting the famous success master Dale Carnegie: "You should firmly believe that you are unique in the world. You should accept yourself, accept yourself, and believe in your potential. You and I both have such potential, so Don't waste time worrying about being different. For better or for worse, you've got to till your soil; for better or for worse, you've got to play the strings of your life."

Emotional Investing: Maintaining Harmonious and Balanced Relationships
[To establish a harmonious interpersonal relationship, one should "follow what one likes" rather than "follow one's own needs"! 】

A Japanese psychologist once said that 99% of the stress of modern people comes from interpersonal relationships.A good psychological quality is a necessary condition for people to carry out social activities.On the contrary, if our mental state is not good, we will form some barriers and barriers, which hinder ourselves from making friends and adapting to society to a certain extent.

The subconscious is like a recorder, no matter what kind of imprint is left on it, it will be faithfully recorded.This feature of the subconscious mind plays a vital role in establishing and maintaining a harmonious and balanced relationship with other people.

There are two sentences in the "Bible", one is "No matter what you want people to treat you, do to others, for this is the teaching of the law and the prophets", and the other is "Do not judge others, lest you be judged. For as much as you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you measure, it will be measured to you."In layman's terms, if you want others to treat you the way you should treat others the same way.

As far as the subconscious mind is concerned, it has no human subjective emotions in it, neither sympathy nor revenge, it does not consider anyone, it just objectively presents the true thoughts in your heart.

Interpersonal relationship in a popular sense refers to the relationship between people to face and deal with. Interpersonal attraction or interaction is the essence of interpersonal communication, and the source of interpersonal attraction is the expression of subconscious needs.

Someone put forward the "subconscious need in the mirror" when dealing with interpersonal issues.That is, treat yourself in the mirror as the object of communication, make full use of your advantages in appearance, language, expression, behavior, temperament, thinking, etc. to attract him, meet his subconscious needs, and finally achieve your communication purpose.

To have a good interpersonal relationship, you must first clearly understand the subconscious needs of the other party. The reason why many people suffer in interpersonal communication is largely because he adopts "following his own needs" instead of "following what he likes".

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