Calm: Be a calm woman

Chapter 28 A Stormy Face—A Calm and Calm Woman Facing the World with a Calm and Unfazed Attitude (1)
Life is never a smooth, blissful journey.While pursuing happiness in life, every woman has to endure the pain and trials brought by life. Unsatisfactory life always disturbs women's heart lake again and again, making women wander between darkness and light, and tour between peaks and valleys.At this time, only those calm women can be fearless, calm and unhurried, able to accept the test of life freely and freely, and become more elegant and calm in the test after test.

There are always setbacks in life
Many women always live in the past or the future, but alone do not enjoy the present happiness.The past has passed, and the future cannot be grasped now. Only the present life is the most real.Enjoy the present life, you will be happier and happier.

In the face of disaster, we have no choice but to accept the reality.Whether a person is truly happy does not lie in those gentle and polite blessings, but in whether he bravely accepts the suffering and misfortune he faces.

Mrs. Nellie Covington of Jackson, Mississippi, used this wise act to cope with the loss of a loved one.

All the while, Mrs. Covington took care of her three seriously ill children.But after the children recovered, the family doctor told her that her husband had a serious heart disease and that something might happen at any time.

"I'm so worried!" Mrs. Covington wrote to me. "I can't sleep at night. I lost fifteen pounds in no time. If I continue like this, I will have a nervous breakdown. In one sleepless night, I asked myself: What good is this worrying about? Towards dawn, I began to plan what I should do.

“My husband has a good hand and can make furniture. So I told him I wanted him to make a nightstand. He said if I could design it, he could make it. The next day, I showed him my For several afternoons, he was busy working on this bedside table. I noticed that he was very happy while working. Later, when some friends saw my small bedside table, they liked it very much. They begged me to My husband makes a few for them too."

"At that time, my husband and I planted some vegetables and flowers in the small vegetable garden. We always went to the garden to pick some fresh vegetables, and then put them in baskets and gave them to relatives and friends. We tried to help others. Really When there was nothing else to do, we spent hours discussing how to design the orchard of our dreams."

"At one o'clock in the afternoon, my husband passed away suddenly. At that time, I realized that the happiest year of my life was the year I dreamed of with my husband. Fortunately, I didn't let myself live in fear all day long. In the face of misfortune, I did everything I could."

Faced with the misfortune that her relatives may leave at any time, Mrs. Covington used extraordinary courage to make her husband live a happy and meaningful life in the last year of his life.They experienced that unforgettable year together, and the love between them also left an unforgettable memory for her.

Helping others and sublimating yourself is one of the most effective ways to resolve pain.There is a woman in Wisconsin who is a role model in her community, not only coming out of her own pain, but also comforting others who are in pain like her.Her son was a World War II pilot who was honorably killed in action at the age of 23.As a mother, she is in excruciating pain, but she says she doesn't need sympathy.She said: "I know many mothers who never know what happiness is. Their sons are either suffering from cerebral palsy or mental illness, physically disabled, and unable to serve the motherland. There are also many women who hope to have a son, but Just can't wait. My son is amazing and I have spent these happy and happy days with him for 23 years. The fond memories of him will stay with me for the rest of my life. So, I God has to obey, and now, all I can do is make sure that the sons who are serving in the military don't have to worry about their mother."

That's exactly what she did.She worked tirelessly, visiting military families or visiting soldiers.As a mother with a mature personality, she puts all her energy into helping others.She is so busy that she has no more time to savor her pain.

Life is not always a joyous, blissful journey, and no joy lasts forever.The course of life is sometimes bright and sometimes dark; sometimes it is at the peak of life, and sometimes it falls into the trough;If we dare not face up to setbacks, then setbacks will not disappear because of your evasion.Frustration is an inevitable stop in the journey of life. People who really grow up will bravely accept the test of life, and get up wherever they fall.

People who refuse to grow up often choose to quit like this. When he encounters unsatisfactory things, he will hide and sulk.

Meyer Simon in Connecticut once told me a story about a boy who did not surrender to his fate.

When Simon was in college, he had a roommate named Jack, a very likeable boy who was obsessed with theatre.This is how Simon described him: Jack is charismatic, full of energy, and maybe he has makeup oil in his blood!In college, Jack worked behind the scenes of every stage play, sometimes making cameo appearances.At the annual gala, he is one of the important directors, and he is also the drummer in the band.After graduating from college, he worked in a TV production center, and later, he became an independent producer.He gave his heart and soul to television like he was born to do it.

One day, a friend called Simon to say that Jack had passed away.It turned out that Jack suffered from an incurable disease, which is very rare.In fact, he knew very early that he was suffering from this incurable disease. Even when he was in college, he already knew that he could live for at most a few more years.Simon recalled: "I can often recall Jack's enthusiastic smile, his love for work, and his spirit of never admitting defeat made me realize a spirit, a spirit that will never admit defeat until the last moment!"

Jack's zest for life was an inspiration to everyone who knew him.Facing the misfortune that fate brought him, he chose to face life bravely and positively.

In life, whether it is you, me, or everyone around us, they may face such tests in the journey of life.

An old question that has been asked countless times: "Why me?" To this question, there is only one answer: "Why can't it be you?"

God is not kind to anyone in this regard.When people enjoy the happiness of life, they also have to bear the pain in life.Tribulations in life are impartial, and people have the same chance to meet it.Whether it is a monarch or a beggar, a poet or a farmer, when the hardships of life befall them, they suffer the same pain.Young people, or people who refuse to grow up, feel bad about it and hate suffering because they don't understand that suffering is just a part of life, as normal as births, deaths, and taxes.

Therefore, when we still have time, we should cherish life more and enjoy what we like to the fullest.

Life is hard, only by being calm can you avoid getting hurt

In the long life, almost no one can spend it smoothly.The ups and downs and setbacks of fate are destined to accompany our life, and how to face them is what we can make our own choices.In the face of frustration, some people choose to complain, escape, and let it destroy their own happiness; Happiness.In fact, how we face unhappy endings is largely determined by our choices.What kind of attitude you choose to face hardships, you choose what kind of life you have.

Regarding the misfortune in life, a senior psychologist once said: "As long as we accept the misfortune and try to adapt to it, then we have successfully taken the first step to overcome the misfortune."

Ms. Elizabeth not only has a healthy body, a good job, but also a nephew who was brought up by herself and who regards her as a mother.In Elizabeth's opinion, her nephew was the most outstanding young man in the world, unmatched by anyone.Recently, her nephew responded to the call of the country and went to the North African battlefield, which she is also very proud of.However, the battlefield is not only full of glory, but also full of blood and death.When she was proud of her nephew, a telegram caused the building of happiness in her heart to collapse.It turned out that the telegram was sent by the Ministry of Defense, informing her that her nephew George had died in battle.Under this huge blow, Ms. Elizabeth was heartbroken and did not want to believe that all this was true.In grief, she lost confidence in everything, even lost the courage to live.It was not until the appearance of a letter that the miserable second half of Ms. Elizabeth's life was changed.

One day, when Ms. Elizabeth was sorting out her nephew's belongings, she found an envelope.It turned out that this letter was written by the nephew to comfort Ms. Elizabeth when her mother had just passed away.The content is as follows:
"We are all as sad as you, but I believe that you will be able to face all this with strength. I have always regarded you as my example. Because you once told me that no matter what difficulties we encounter, we must Face it bravely."

Lady Elizabeth read the letter many times, tearfully, as if listening to her nephew.She firmly believed that, in the dark, this must have been arranged by her nephew, who was encouraging her to face all this bravely.When the sun rose, Ms. Elizabeth resumed her previous life. She once again devoted herself to work with full enthusiasm and began to care for her relatives and friends around her.She wrote in her diary: "My dear George has left me. I have to accept this fact. I know that he wants me to live happily. For him, I want to be happy too!" Because of losing the company of her nephew, in order to pass During the difficult time, Ms. Elizabeth began to develop her own hobbies and was happy to care for those who had difficulties in life.Today, her tolerance and fraternity have enabled her to have many good friends, and her life is no longer lonely.

Humans are emotional animals, and when we encounter something, our emotions will pour out like opening a floodgate.At this time, do we let the torrent of emotion carry us adrift, or try to use reason to overcome emotion, so as to control our own destiny?Many times, we will feel very annoying. In fact, it is not the external objects that make us feel upset, but our inner restlessness, so everything we see becomes annoying.If we can properly adjust our mind and control our emotions, our mood will be improved.

Ms. Helen, like many female friends, often feels irritable and even doesn't want to work.However, whenever this time came, she never let herself go, but forced herself to write a draft, and then revise the draft when she felt inspired.It is because of this that she can maintain a good working condition and always work hard.The reason why Ms. Helen can succeed in writing is precisely because her reason overcomes emotion.

A lady typist works in an oil company in Tosha, Oklahoma. At the end of each month, she has to fill in various statistics on a printed report about oil sales. It is considered the most tedious job.In order to improve work efficiency, Miss Typist decided to compete with herself every day.In the morning, she counted the number of forms that needed to be filled out, and then in the afternoon she forced herself to work hard in order to break her previous record.The next day, she tried to break the previous day's record.As a result, she not only greatly improved her work efficiency, but was also far ahead of her colleagues.It didn't take long for her to finish processing the forms she needed to fill out.Although her boss didn't notice her progress, let alone reward and praise her, she maintained her interest in the work, turned a boring job into a job she was happy to do, and drove away Fatigue at work.Because she finished her work ahead of schedule, she has more leisure time, which saves her mental and physical energy and makes her feel extremely happy.Isn't this a kind of harvest?When there is no need for competition, the typist also adopts a pretending way to treat her work, that is, she changes her bored attitude towards work, pretends that she likes this job very much, and thinks that she can get paid from the work she likes, As a result, I completely changed my mentality, turning myself from being bored of work into a love of work.Gradually, she found that she really liked her job, and she got better at it and got better grades.If things go on like this, the leaders will appreciate the conscientiousness in any position, and naturally there will be more hope for Miss Typist's career.Why not do it?

Not only at work, but in many aspects of life, if we cannot change, we can all change our mentality first.Only with a good mentality can we turn passive into active and get the opportunity to change our lives.

Take control of life and live in the moment

Emerson once said: "Man is the product of thought." Indeed, in this world, no one can make us happy except ourselves.As early as 300 years ago, the great poet Milton discovered this truth.Milton wrote in the poem: "The heart is your own palace. It can be a beautiful heaven in hell, or a terrible hell in heaven."

Ladies, when you think you are happy, you are happy; when you feel miserable, you are truly miserable; and when you feel helpless, you are afraid.This is not alarmist talk, because scientific research has confirmed that sick thoughts can really make people suffer from diseases.Therefore, in many cases, those terminally ill people are not reborn by virtue of advanced medicine, but because their unwavering and positive beliefs have changed their destiny.

A great psychologist once said: "People always think that actions are governed by feelings. This is not correct, because actions and feelings actually go hand in hand. If people often control actions with ideas, then they can indirectly Control feelings." In fact, this psychologist wants to tell us that even if we can't change our emotions immediately, we can change our actions first.Once our actions change, our emotions change with them.

When life encounters setbacks and ups and downs, complaining not only does not help, but often makes things worse, so we can pretend to be happy, and immediately speak and act in a happy way, so that our emotions will really change .As long as we understand this truth, we will no longer be unhappy about the things that have happened and cannot be changed, but we will be able to calmly face the gifts of life and actively face all the sufferings.

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