FBI super mind-reading technique: teach you instant insight into people's hearts

Chapter 2 FBI Says: Everything Starts from the Heart (1)
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is he real or fake
Those who don't know people's hearts run into walls, are passive, and suffer losses everywhere, but those who know people's hearts can easily and gain the upper hand.However, the most difficult thing in the world is to know people's hearts.How to know people's hearts?Where should one start to know people's hearts?Understanding these common senses may be an excellent start for us.

A person's smile does not necessarily mean that he is really happy. Similarly, a person's cry may also contain a variety of information, and a person's emotions are not only expressed through crying and laughing, so it is not easy to really understand a person !
In the story "Zou Ji satirizes the king of Qi accepting remonstrance", Zou Ji's wife, concubine and those who ask for him all think that Xu Gong in the north of the city is not as beautiful as him. Zou Ji believed it at first, but only when he saw Xu Gong the next day did he understand "My wife who is beautiful to me is selfish; the concubine who is beautiful to me is afraid of me; the guest who is beautiful to me wants to ask for me."What a person shows in front of you is not necessarily his true self, and what he says may not necessarily be true.

The same is true for the master and the servant.Mencius taught King Hui of Liang the way to know people, and he especially told him that "it is not acceptable for the left and right to call them sages; it is not allowed for the great officials to call them sages; all the people of the country call them sages, and then examine them, see them, and then use them", That's what he said.Whether it's a compliment or an insult, people sometimes start from their own interests first and do things that don't match their words and deeds.It can be seen how difficult it is to truly understand a person. If we only judge a person based on his momentary speech and behavior, it is likely to deviate from the truth.

Some people say that we can get to know a person by "hearing and knowing people".For example, people who speak fast are usually more outgoing and quick thinking; people who speak slowly are mostly gentle and kind, generous and kind.Also, when people are angry, they speak louder, and speaking weakly is likely because the person is depressed.However, this way of knowing people also requires the listener to analyze carefully and have keen insight.

There is such an interesting story.During the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, Xiang Guozichan of the State of Zheng went out to inspect, and suddenly heard a woman's mournful cry from a distance.The attendants looked at Zichan, waiting for his order to rescue the weeping woman, but Zichan ordered the woman to be arrested instead.The attendants were puzzled and looked at Zichan puzzled.Zichan said: "The woman's crying did not express sorrow, but fear. I suspect there is fraud in it." The interrogation also confirmed Zichan's judgment. It turned out that the woman had committed adultery and murdered lost her husband.

It was Zichan's extraordinary judgment and insight that he could hear the hidden inside story in the woman's cry.However, knowing people by hearing their voices is only an auxiliary means. To obtain important information from a person's voice, we need to master many skills.

Confucius once said that the human heart is more dangerous than mountains and rivers, and it is more difficult to know people than to know heaven.Because the sky has spring, summer, autumn and winter, it is clear at a glance.And what about people?The world is dangerous, and there may be tricks behind the smile, especially from the free and simple ivory tower to the complex and sinister society, facing the intriguing workplace, it is difficult for us to distinguish who is a friend and who is an enemy for a while.

Anyone who has read "Du Lala's Promotion" should have some insights into the fact that it is difficult to know the heart when you know the face.You thought that warm and humorous big sister was a caring person, so you poured out all your grievances and dissatisfaction to others, and within a few days, your private affairs were widely circulated.It can be seen from this that one must not judge a person by appearance alone, because in the real society, many people always wear masks voluntarily or forced to cover up their true hearts.

A person who greets you with a smile may be the "murderer" who stabbed you in the back; a person who quotes scriptures and speaks well may be covering up his ignorance.

In the face of a rapidly changing society, people choose to use "masks" to hide their true thoughts. This is just a way of interacting with people, and there is no right or wrong.The key is that we should not be confused by these masks, and use our own methods to identify and gain insight into the essence behind the appearance, so as to determine our behavior and maximize the benefits and avoid the disadvantages.

They hide just for popularity
It is the survival philosophy of some people to win the popularity of the people by lying.Of course no one will tell you this, and you don't have to, but you must know that you may fall prey to these lies.

I remember a friend in college jokingly said: "Do you know why so many people like actors?" At that time, everyone was talking about it, some said it was because the actors were beautiful, and some said it was because the actors had a colorful life, Some say it's because actors can easily make a lot of money...

After listening to everyone's answers, my friend shook his head: "Actually, the reason why actors are popular is not because they are actors, but because they can act. In life, whether they face many admirers or face their own Whether relatives or relatives, most of the time, they are good at hiding their feelings. They always make people feel that they are so real and natural, so they are easy to be popular."

After listening to my friend's answer, everyone felt a little disdainful.However, in retrospect today, I realized that these words were not unreasonable.Didn't someone once say that life is like a play, the more people who are good at acting, the more popular they are.

We live in society, meet all kinds of people, and experience too much right and wrong. Sometimes we find that the more popular people are, the better they are at "lying".They can always hide their true emotions when needed, just like an excellent actor, even when they are sad and about to cry, they can show the brightest smile to others.

Sometimes we hate this kind of person and feel that this kind of person is too hypocritical, but sometimes, we have to admit that this kind of person is indeed very popular, while those who are really kind are often frustrated.

Regardless of whether this kind of person is hypocritical or not, whether he hides his emotions purposefully or aimlessly, we should first distinguish the purpose of this kind of person hiding his emotions.If they simply don't want to express their sorrows and joys to unrelated people, it can only be said that such people are indifferent people, and this is irrelevant to us.If this kind of person is hiding their emotions for some purpose, then we need to take it seriously.

In December 2010, a movie "The Orphan of the Zhao Family" was being screened in major theaters. I believe many people admire Cheng Ying in it. Staying by Tu Anjia's side for more than twenty years made Tu Anjia really fall in love with his enemy's son.How much courage is needed to hide one's hatred, and how superb acting skills are needed to tell this big lie under Tu Anjia's nose.

Although Cheng Ying's lies were eventually discovered by the treacherous Tu Anjia, we have to admit that Cheng Ying succeeded.He spent his whole life concocting a lie, he spent his whole life hiding his emotions in front of Tu Anjia, and he spent his whole life avenging blood and blood.In life, we will inevitably encounter such people.If there is such a person around us who is very good at hiding his emotions, we need to find out why this person does so.

Secondly, we should also be careful about getting acquainted with such popular people.The more popular a person is, the more likely he is to lie.Because this kind of person is good at hiding his emotions, even if he hates someone or something in his heart, he will naturally show his liking for a certain purpose.Their enthusiasm contains too much purpose and too much unreality, so if we encounter this kind of person, we must either avoid it or learn to "act".

In any case, let us not be fooled by the appearance of such a person.Their popularity is likely to be achieved by lying, and the unpacking of lies may reveal the ugly truth.

If you can't see through their lies keenly, or have a strong immunity to their popularity, then you might as well learn to hide your emotions and learn to "fight fire with fire" to protect yourself.

In life, if you can't be a good actor who is good at hiding your emotions, then you might as well be an excellent audience and calmly watch the performances of people wearing various masks around you. This is not a philosophy of survival.

Pay attention to the other person's unconscious movements
Similar to facial expressions, unconscious movements are also a kind of reaction of human psychology.In front of others, we may deliberately control our behavior and correct our posture so as to cover up our true emotions and not easily expose them.However, the subconscious will suddenly stimulate the brain under certain circumstances, thereby instructing the body to make some actions. Those unmodified and unpremeditated actions reveal precisely the real inner world of a person.

Agatha Outsmarts Outlaws

Agatha is a famous British detective novelist. She has written more than 100 wonderful works in her life and is almost a household name in the UK.Once, Agatha went to visit a friend, and it was completely dark when she returned home.She was walking alone on a path, and the sound of her heels hitting the ground was clear and hollow.Suddenly, a gangster with a sharp knife jumped out from behind her.The gangster put the knife on Agatha's neck and said in a low voice, "Hurry up and hand over all the valuables, or take care of your life!"

Agatha looked terrified all of a sudden, and immediately raised her hand to cover the pearl necklace around her neck, and said tremblingly, "Please, don't hurt me."

The gangster watched Agatha's movements, let go of the knife on her neck, grabbed her purse and rummaged through it.There were only some change and a few cosmetics in the purse, but nothing of value.

At this time, Agatha's hands were still tightly clutching the necklace around her neck.The gangster took all the change in her wallet, sneered, and stretched out his hand to tear off the necklace around her neck.

"Oh, no, please..." Agatha's tone was full of despair.

"Haha, what a beautiful necklace this is. I think you still want to make it clear whether you want it to be damaged, or give it to me intact. I don't have the patience to listen to your wailing here." The gangster said fiercely. With great force, she broke off Agatha's hand protecting her neck, took off the pearl necklace, and left in a hurry.

Agatha's expression became calm. She calmly picked up the purse on the ground and disappeared into the night, as if she had never been frightened or lost anything valuable.

In fact, she really didn't lose any valuables. The pearl necklace that was stolen was fake. It was a gift from the neighbor's granddaughter, and it was worthless at all.The real valuables are the diamond earrings on her ears and the expensive watch on her hand, but the greedy gangsters didn't notice this at all.

Agatha's strength lies in this. She understands that an "experienced" gangster knows how to observe people's unconscious movements, and when a person is robbed, the subconscious movement is often the most important way to protect his body. valuables.She knew that the gangster was watching her, so she pretended to be an unconscious movement—covering the necklace around her neck, making the gangster mistakenly think that it was the most valuable thing she didn't want to be robbed.When the gangster's attention was completely on the necklace, he naturally ignored the real valuables on Agatha's ears and hands.

If the gangsters know how to observe people's real inner activities from the opponent's unconscious actions, then Agatha is probably more skilled. Years of experience in writing detective novels has taught her to understand human nature and understand people's hearts better, and in the end she used the gangsters instead. The "shrewdness" has protected his own property.

Action reveals character
In life, people's subconscious habitual actions often reflect their inner personality traits.

For example, patting the head, this action reflects people's remorse and self-blame.If you ask a friend to do something, and a few days later when you ask how the matter is going, he pats the head all at once, then there is no doubt that he must have forgotten about it.

If the other person's subconscious action is to slap the forehead, such a person is generally outspoken, frank, and compassionate. More importantly, such a person has no scheming, and it is very easy to get out of him.But don't think such people are unreliable, because they are usually very sincere to their friends, willing to help others, and consider others.

On the contrary, if the other person's subconscious action is to slap the back of the head, such a person is usually not very emotional, and is relatively harsh to others.If he is your friend, it means that there may be something in you that he can use.However, such people are not completely unacceptable, at least their dedication and aggressiveness to their careers are worth learning from.

Some people speak with some hand movements, either waving their arms, shaking their hands, or spreading their hands, etc., which seems to emphasize the content of the speech.Such people generally have strong self-confidence and are more decisive in doing things. They are used to modeling themselves as leaders in any situation, with a more bold and outgoing personality.This type of people is honest with their friends, but it is difficult to make friends. They belong to the type of people who have a successful career but few confidants.

Some people are used to cracking their knuckles and making noises when they have nothing to do.Such a person is usually full of energy, even if he is sick, as long as he needs it, he will jump up to do things regardless of his physical condition.They are generally picky about their career and work environment, and if it is something they like to do, they will do it at any cost.Most of such men are "love type", very easy to be emotional, after getting along with the opposite sex once or twice, they are likely to fall in love with each other.

People who wink and wink usually give people an undignified impression.Behaviorists believe that people who are good at using facial expressions and movements to express their feelings are usually more frivolous, lack some inner self-cultivation, and are prone to love the new and dislike the old in love and marriage.But at the same time, this kind of people are very good at handling interpersonal relationships. Although they may be a little arrogant in their hearts, they cover it up very well.In terms of career, they are able to seize opportunities and are appreciated by leaders.

As the psychologist Ryan said, "The various habitual behaviors that people make in their daily lives actually reflect a special corresponding change between the objective situation and their personality."Therefore, if you can pay attention to observe the unconscious actions of others, you will definitely understand their personality.

No expression doesn't necessarily mean no emotion
Whether a person has an expression or no expression can not explain his true psychology. To understand the true state of his heart, one must learn to see through his mask.

Such a situation is often encountered in life. Some people are able to behave calmly and calmly when faced with an event that is clearly enough to make him emotionally fluctuate.We often say that this kind of person has a hard heart, is a cold-blooded animal, and is a person without emotion.But is this really the case?
Humans are emotional animals, and people who seem cold-blooded and hard-hearted also have emotions, likes and dislikes.Many times, they just don't want to express their inner emotions through expressions. This may just be their rebellious psychology of wanting to hide their emotions.

In fact, the more people value their emotions, the less likely they are to express their inner emotions through expressions.Because they may have been hurt because of this, or they may be afraid of being hurt, so they would rather choose to hide their emotions and their fragility.

Anyone who likes Jin Yong's martial arts novels is familiar with Xiao Feng, the great hero in "Dragon and Babu". Even more expressionless in the face of grievances and grievances.But when he really fell in love and lost?His pain is probably incapable of being felt by the amorous Duan Yu or the infatuated Xu Zhu.

People like Xiao Feng, because of their previous hurts and because they are not good at expressing their feelings, even if they have feelings for someone or something in their hearts, they will choose to hide silently because of their rebellious psychology.They have no expression, which by no means means that they have no emotion.

I remember once in a sales training class, the teacher asked everyone such a question: What kind of person do you think is the scariest?In the end, the answer given by the teacher is: people without feelings.

Emotions are always the most fatal weakness of human beings. When a hero is sad about a beauty, it is often not because the beauty is too beautiful, but because the hero has feelings because of the beauty.Wu Sangui was so angry that he became a beauty, not only because of a beauty like Chen Yuanyuan, but also because of the love between him and Chen Yuanyuan.So people without feelings are the scariest.

We are always trying to find the weakness of every strong person, and we can always find it, whether he is a superior boss or a difficult client.This is because people have feelings, but they always choose a mask to hide their true emotions.And when a person wants to hide his emotions more strongly, he will be out of rebellious psychology, and the mask he chooses will be farther away from his true emotions.Just like the calmer the lake surface, the darker the bottom of the lake, the darkest moment in the night is the dawn, the most beautiful King of Lanling chooses the ugliest mask...

So what should we do when we encounter such a person?
First of all, don't be intimidated by their appearance.Although they are cold, but as the lyrics say, "My expression may not necessarily reflect my mood", they are also eager to be understood.They may just set up a psychological defense line for you to prevent you from seeing their truest thoughts.So in the face of such people, try to contact them, break through their psychological defenses, and walk into their hearts.

(End of this chapter)