FBI super mind-reading technique: teach you instant insight into people's hearts

Chapter 3 FBI Says: Everything Starts from the Heart (2)
Secondly, this kind of people have a strong rebellious psychology, and the expressionless is just a prickly coat for them to protect themselves and the outside world.If you can't read their true thoughts and just want to approach them forcefully, you will only hurt yourself, and it will only make them guard against you more closely.So the best way is to find their true thoughts, break through their psychological defenses, and let them take off their disguise.

In the end, as long as you are careful enough, you can always find some differences.What we should pay attention to is that sometimes people may become sophisticated after being in the workplace for a long time, and their emotions and anger are indistinct, but we must know that when people face people and things that are related to them, they are It is impossible to be truly indifferent.So as long as you observe carefully, you can always find clues.

Under the terrifying mask of King Lanling, there may be a handsome face, a fiery heart, or hateful eyes... Expressions are always just superficial things, and they may truly reflect people's hearts, but there may also be such a situation , A person's face is obviously crying, but his heart is smiling.If you want to really understand a person, you must remember: don't believe his expression, but please believe that he also has feelings, and there will always be the most real emotions in his hidden heart.Whether you can approach him depends on whether you can approach his true feelings.

Look at a person, just look at the people around him
The world-renowned financial magazine "Forbes" once conducted a survey on making friends with the wealthy people on its rich list.After research, it was found that 98% of the friends of the rich are also rich.When asked if they hang out with friends who are less financially well off, their answer is "rarely".Asked whether they had frequent contact with relatives who were financially disadvantaged, their answer was "occasionally".

rich man's friend is rich

Some people think that the world of rich people is very realistic.Rich people only associate with people in the same circle as themselves, because people in the same circle can create greater benefits for them.Even more distasteful is the fact that wealthy people alienate their less well-to-do relatives and friends, a behavior that is called "reality."

But are rich people really realistic?Yes, rich people are real. A sample survey by Forbes bears this out.Rich people don't like to help and relieve relatives and friends who are much worse than their own economic situation, and they don't like to associate with this type of relatives and friends.However, they are not so realistic at the same time, because they have their own reasons.

Rich people think that everyone who is not successful has reasons for failure, such as negative thinking, lack of perseverance, etc., so they don't like to be with people who are different from their level, and they can't understand why other people can't succeed.And those who don't succeed don't understand what it takes to make more money, and these people often mistakenly attribute rich people to lucky people.It is precisely because of disagreement that rich people cannot associate with people who are far less economically well off than they are.

Secondly, the circles are different, so it is difficult to have a common language.People with less money may criticize a certain brand of bags as being too expensive and buying a yacht is completely unnecessary.Those who are better off view these consumptions and preferences in a completely different light.People with different ideas will naturally find it boring to talk together.Even if people with poor economic conditions try to agree with the "rich people", after all, because they have no personal experience, their words cannot touch people's hearts.

Of course, rich people don't like to help people whose economic situation is much worse than their own.This is very unforgivable in the eyes of people with poor economic conditions. They believe that rich people cannot "send charcoal in a timely manner".But rich people have a different concept. They think that it is better to teach a man to fish than to give him a fish.Frequently paying money to help others does not essentially change the economic situation of others, but instead encourages them to develop a mentality of getting something for nothing.So that's one of the reasons why rich people seem realistic.

It's hard for those who are close to ink not to be black

Rich people only make friends with rich people, because their personalities and ideas are similar, so they are more likely to be the object of conversation.Of course, the reason why rich people don’t want to associate with people with different “Tao” is because they understand a truth – those who are close to ink are black.

People like to socialize with people of their own kind, so to see what kind of person a person is, you only need to look at their friends.Conversely, if you make friends carelessly, you will have the consequences of being close to ink.Rich people don't want to associate with people who are less financially well off because they don't want to be influenced by negative or cowardly thoughts.On the contrary, almost all the people in their circle are hard-working, struggling, even radical people.With these people, they seem to be infected and progress.

In other words, what kind of social circle you are in largely determines what kind of person you are.Therefore, the kind of people or groups of people who are new to the workplace often determine their future direction.

Sun Luo, who just graduated, is a good example.When he first entered the workplace, he became good friends with Zhang Ran in the same department.Zhang Ran is the "old fritter" in the company. The principle of doing things is to do more and make more mistakes, and to do less and make fewer mistakes.Under Zhang Ran's influence, Sun Luo, who was originally passionate, gradually became "smart and safe", and dared not come up with many innovative ideas and suggestions.He would even go out to eat, drink and have fun with Zhang Ran and Zhang Ran's friends every day. After every month, Zhang Ran was a "moonlight clan" and Sun Luo had nothing left.At the end of each month, they would ask each other about their financial situation.When they got the answer that the other party failed to save money, they all felt very relieved.

Later, due to the transfer of departments, Sun Luo and his colleague Li Mingyi gradually became acquainted.When he learned that Li Mingyi has a fixed deposit every month and has a plan for the future, Sun Luo felt very uncomfortable, and even rejected making friends with Li Mingyi.Sun Luo thinks that they are not in the same circle, and he is most comfortable only with Zhang Ran.It is also because of Sun Luo's thoughts that he is destined not to be as active as Li Mingyi. He can only become more and more "black" with Zhang Ran.

Therefore, if you are smart, you should learn to get close to positive people as much as possible, because it is difficult for those who are close to ink not to be black.Of course, if you want to judge a person’s situation, start by observing his circle of friends, because it is difficult for people to become good friends with people who are not in their own circle, which is a psychological dependence on similar temperaments.In other words, what kind of person he is, you can get a rough idea of ​​​​what he is like by observing his friends.

People who like to stand proudly in groups have low self-esteem

Of course, there are still people in our lives who don't like to "mix" with people in our own circle.They are obviously people with good conditions, but the friends they make are not very good.

Zhang Lan's grades in college are not bad, and she can enter the top five in every exam.Many people think that Zhang Lan, who is so outstanding, should make friends with people with top grades, but she just likes to mingle with girls with bottom one and second grades.Many people don't understand. Zhang Lan's explanation for this is: students with better grades are more "fake", but students with poor grades are "true" in nature.

In fact, Zhang Lan doesn't really like to associate with students with poor grades.Zhang Lan's literary accomplishment is relatively good, and every time I chat with them about related topics, these students with lower levels will look blank, and even make jokes about Zhang Guanli Dai.Sometimes Zhang Lan is very disgusted, but more often she enjoys the feeling of being praised by these classmates.As long as Zhang Lan hears them say "You know a lot", she will be very happy.Every time the results came out, she also became NO.1 (first) among the group of friends without any suspense.On the contrary, Zhang Lan will feel pressure when she is with friends with better grades.They will tell Zhang Lan what book they read yesterday, and Zhang Lan will feel as if the distance has widened.Zhang Lan likes to make friends with students with poor grades, because it makes her feel comfortable.

In fact, most people like Zhang Lan have an inferiority complex.They are afraid of pressure and also afraid of competition.They would rather hide in the crowd of average aptitude and become kings than make progress with a group of powerful people.And these behaviors just revealed their inferiority complex.If you happen to be such a person, don't let yourself be indulged because of "comfort".You must know that the eagle will live with the chicken for a long time, and it will not be able to fly in the end, and it will become an ordinary chicken.

There will be no one who does nothing to be courteous
There is a Chinese saying, "If you don't have anything to show courteousness, you are either rape or steal."At first glance, these words seem to outline the despicable and negative side of human nature.In fact, from a psychological point of view, everyone has the psychology of self-protection and self-interest, and there are almost no people who are completely selfless and do not consider themselves.In other words, someone is not going to be nice to you for no reason.If the other party suddenly treats you nicely, you have to be careful.

subconscious selfishness
Psychological "selfishness" is not the same as behavioral selfishness, it is a subconscious psychological reaction of people.The same promotion opportunity falls between two friends, and the same award falls between a husband and wife. Two people who are close to each other will subconsciously hope that the person they get is themselves. This is psychological selfishness.

Others will argue that it is a good friend who wants to get a job, or that they want their partner to win a prize.Because when your friends are happy, you will be happy; if your partner benefits, you will also be the one to benefit.In fact, the person who frankly expresses the hope that the other party will get a promotion is likely to be not the position he dreamed of.When the position and treatment are in line with the standards in their hearts, people will immediately hope that they can benefit.Similarly, when faced with a bonus of 1000 yuan, the wife may feel that it does not matter whether the beneficiary is herself or her husband.But when the bonus is increased to 1000 million yuan, then the wife's thoughts may be different.If my husband had won the bonus, would he have been less generous in giving me the money?Will he abandon me and look for another beautiful object?At this time, the wife's psychological activities will start around herself, which is a "selfish" idea produced by people's awareness of self-protection.

In this regard, American psychologists did an interesting experiment in an open-air swimming pool.They deliberately arrange for different people to drown, and then observe how many people will rescue them.The same is saving people, but it has produced different results.In the one-year experiment, when the gray-haired old man "drowning", a total of 20 people rescued him; when the young woman "drowning", a total of 50 people rescued her.

It is also a "selfless" act of saving people, and people have a subtle "selfish" psychology.Later, psychologists conducted relevant questionnaire surveys on the rescuers, and found that most of the rescuers expressed their expectation for a better development. This is the subconscious "selfish" psychological manifestation of human nature.

No free lunch

Because people subconsciously protect their own interests, the idealized state of "selflessness" is almost impossible.In other words, it is impossible for others to treat you well for no reason. There is no free lunch in the world.If people understand this truth, I believe that 99% of scams can be seen through.

Of course, in addition to seeing through the tricks of liars, we also need to be vigilant against those around us who suddenly pay attention to us.Under normal circumstances, there are two situations for a person who shows courteousness suddenly: the first situation is that the object of the opposite sex intends to pursue him, which mostly happens to single people of the right age;

However, no matter what the purpose is, in the face of someone who has nothing to do, we should still see the motive of the other party clearly before taking the next step.As the saying goes, take others' hands short.It would be embarrassing if you accepted someone else's kindness and then turned down someone else's request.In this case, even if they are unwilling, the person receiving the benefit will try to help the other party to complete the task as much as possible. This kind of psychology is called compensation psychology.Accepting the other party's benefits, I feel indebted to the other party, so I must help the other party deal with things to make up for my psychological indebtedness.

Zhang Bing, who is engaged in purchasing work, has encountered a similar situation.Li Li, a classmate who hadn't been in touch for many years, suddenly showed courtesy to him.At that time, he met Li Li by chance in a large supermarket on weekends.For a while, Li Li was very excited. He suggested that the two of them have a meal. Zhang Bing, who works in a different place and has no friends, immediately agreed.The two chatted for a long time in the restaurant, mostly talking about the past.After the dinner, Zhang Bing was still excited about reuniting his old classmates after a long absence.After that, Li Li went to Zhang Bing every now and then, and gave Zhang Bing some special products.These small specialty products are not expensive, but they comfort Zhang Bing's homesickness very well.It can be said that the enthusiastic Li Li completely moved Zhang Bing.Of course, if there is no follow-up, Zhang Bing will think that Li Li is sincere.

One month later, Zhang Bing discovered that Li Li was the business representative of a certain supplier of the company.Soon, Li Li also asked Zhang Bing to help and accepted them as special suppliers.However, at that time Li Li could not provide the most cost-effective supply solution, which made Zhang Bing very embarrassed.However, forced to take advantage of others, Zhang Bing chose Li Li's company as his company's supplier.

This matter spread quickly, and an anonymous letter appeared on the desk of Zhang Bing's boss, saying that Zhang Bing chose a high-priced supplier because he had collected huge profits from it.Although Zhang Bing did not lose his job because of this, his credibility in front of his boss was greatly reduced.Conversely, looking at Li Li, he paid Zhang Bing to eat and give some small specialties and small gifts. The money did not exceed 2000 yuan, but because he facilitated this cooperation, he received 3 yuan in business commissions.

This example tells us: Never go for a free lunch, because a free lunch often requires a higher price than the original price.When accepting other people's kindness to you, you might as well first see the other person's motives clearly.

Good at taking advantage of other people's "selfishness"

Because people have a sense of self-protection in their hearts, it is difficult to do things that harm their own interests.They have their own self-interest starting point in their dedication, so if we do things from the subconscious mind, things will often get twice the result with half the effort.

The reservoir on the outskirts of M City attracts thousands of swimmers to swim every summer.And this reservoir is an important source of water for the water factory in M ​​City. Therefore, for the purpose of keeping the water source clean and hygienic, the water factory erected a "No Swimming" sign next to the reservoir.But the effect of this is not ideal. The number of people swimming here in summer has not decreased, and the warning signs are useless.

Later, on a whim, the head of the publicity department of the waterworks removed the original warning sign and replaced it with a warm reminder.He wrote on the bulletin board: Your household water comes from this reservoir. For the sanitation and health of you and your family, please protect the water resources of the reservoir.As a result, the number of people swimming in the reservoir has been reduced by more than 2/3 every year.

Look, if you also hope that the other party can do something, change your thinking and express it from the other party's point of view, and it will produce different effects.Good at using people's subconscious self-stance, many things can be handled to achieve the expected results.

body language dating

"How is he such a person!" "I really regret how I believed him so much." Most of these exclamations were made by women.A psychological study shows that more than 82% of women said they had the experience of misrecognition of people, and only about 30% of men said they had similar experiences.Why is there such a huge difference in the proportion of misidentified people between men and women?Psychologists believe that it is because women like to judge strangers subjectively, while men like to judge strangers objectively.So, subjective female friends, hurry up and learn how to understand the other person's situation from the body movements of the date!
FBI agents will hide their hands
Hands are more betrayal than eyes. One of the trainings that intelligence officers of the FBI (Federal Bureau of Investigation) must pass is covering their hands.When they talk to others, they will subconsciously hide their hands or make specific hand movements.

Normally, there are many subconscious movements of the human hand.These actions reflect the person's psychology, preferences and behavior habits to a large extent.For friends who meet for the first time, you can observe their hand movements.People with natural and generous hand movements are usually sincere and upright people.The greater the hands-on range of this type of person, the stronger their tolerance.Conversely, if the other party's hand movements are small, or even a little cautious, it means that the other party's mind is meticulous.People of this type are usually not straightforward. Their inner world is more complicated than most people, and their tolerance is relatively poor.In other words, this type of person is someone who is likely to play tricks.

In addition to observing the movement and magnitude of the hands, you can also observe the date from some specific hand postures.People with hands naturally crossed on the table are usually confident and straightforward.People who tap their fingers on the table during a conversation tend to have a strong sense of self-confidence.People of this type are usually strong, like to persuade each other, and don't like to be persuaded.People who rub their hands together nervously or clasp them often lack self-confidence.People of this type usually lack action and are often hesitant when dealing with things.In addition, people who hide their hands under the table, in their trouser pockets, or out of sight tend to have low self-esteem. He is very nervous and feels pressured.Of course, people of this type are usually a little careful not to be noticed by others, and they are more complicated and not honest enough.

Whether you like it or not depends on his feet
In the process of dating, we not only want to know as much about the other person as possible, but also want to know what the other person’s impression of us is. In the other person’s eyes, whether we are an interesting person or a boring person.If you want to know how your partner perceives you, watch his feet.

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