FBI super mind-reading technique: teach you instant insight into people's hearts

Chapter 25 The Secret Words of Little Actions (5)
As a result, this veteran has always maintained a calm demeanor, as if he doesn't have any trump cards in his hand.He tried to suppress his excitement, but his feet gave away the secret.Because his feet kept shaking under the table, as if he was about to jump up happily.Unfortunately, his opponents didn't look down at others' feet at all, they only observed the facial expressions of their opponents, and naturally they all lost in the end.

A man can tell lies with his face, but rarely with his feet.If observers can pay more attention to their feet, they will get more useful real information and naturally reduce unnecessary losses.

discover the language of the feet
The feet that are constantly shaking due to excitement are constantly being ignored by people, but after long-term observation and experience accumulation, people have gradually realized their mistakes.Many psychologists have suggested that the importance of feet in nonverbal behavior should be increased.

On both sides of the hospital corridor, there are many chairs for patients and their families to rest. People will sit there and take a rest while waiting for the doctor.A young mother was sitting on a chair in the corridor of the hospital talking to her family on the phone. She told them about her condition on the phone.

At first, her feet were flat on the ground, but as time went on, people around her could see her feet start to shake.This strong trembling caused the row of chairs she was in to shake, and people looked at the lady who was slowly smiling in puzzlement.

By the time she hung up, someone had already guessed that she might know a better treatment option.Sure enough, the lady left the hospital quickly with a smile on her face.Although the people around didn't hear the content of her phone conversation, it can be concluded that she must have received some good news.

Listening to the language of the feet requires keen observation. Whether it is with family members, friends or colleagues, as long as their feet shake happily, it can be determined that they are immersed in happy emotions.

However, the problem that plagues many people is that we can't always duck under the table and look at other people's feet.This seems to block access to the real information conveyed by the feet.In fact, just as the human body is a complex whole, every change will have other related reactions, the movement of the feet is not independent, it often affects other parts of the human body to change.When a person shakes his ankles happily, it is inevitable that his waist and shoulders will also shake, although his upper body will try to keep calm.Observe whether the opponent's shoulders sway slightly, and you can determine whether he is shaking his feet happily, so as to obtain the relevant information you want to know.

When a human resource manager was recruiting new employees, he often analyzed candidates by observing their feet.During a recruitment process, he faced a young girl. When he asked the girl if she would like to go to another city for an expatriate job, he found that the girl's feet started to swing from side to side.This shows that the girl is in a very happy mood, and she is willing to accept assignments, and the girl's answer is indeed yes.However, when the HR manager asked the girl if she would like to go to Shenzhen, her feet suddenly stopped moving and remained still.Although the girl didn't answer directly, he knew that the girl didn't want to go to this city.

So, the personnel manager asked: "Are you unwilling to go to Shenzhen?"

The girl said in amazement: "How did you find out? Actually, I thought the city I was sent to was Shanghai. If it was there, I would be very happy to go there. But I don't have any friends in Shenzhen, so I'm a bit unfamiliar with it, and I don't want to go there. .”

There is no doubt that the feet reveal people's true feelings. They always convey our true thoughts before the face or language. Even if such thoughts are covered by facial expressions, they will also be leaked on the feet.Just like this candidate, her feet told the other person how she really felt before she even spoke.

special swing

All nonverbal behaviors need to be observed and analyzed in a specific situation, and nonverbal behaviors that exist independently of the situation will not have any meaning and lose the need for observation.The same principle should be followed for the observation of foot swing.If a person's feet wobble due to illness or foot disease, it does not represent any pleasant message, but rather an expression of pain.For neurotic podiatrists in hyperkinetic syndrome, their constantly shaking feet are a source of distress, not a display of nonverbal behavior.

In some people or in certain situations, the wagging of the feet does not indicate pleasure, but becomes a sign of restlessness.Observe the middle school students who are in class, they are at the age of hyperactivity, and they always want to get out of the classroom and run to the field to play.During the class, their feet and legs will occasionally shake, and the frequency of this shaking will increase when the get out of class is about to end.If unfortunately you meet a teacher who likes to drag the class, the students' legs and feet will shake frequently, and sometimes even many people shake together, which means that they are impatient and can't wait to run out after class.

The foot guides the direction of the heart

People often say: "The direction of the toe is the direction we are going." This is not just a lyrical expression, but to a certain extent explains the reaction of the feet to our inner thoughts.In daily life, people will unconsciously turn their bodies in the direction of the person or thing they like, and this turning action is often realized through feet.When the body resists this turn for some reason, the foot also turns quietly.To a certain extent, the direction of our feet can be a clue to whether others like us.

feet are clues to intention

Social life requires people to show enough politeness to treat those around them, and sometimes this kind of politeness is not from the heart, but just obeying the social rules.The human body occupies the largest area of ​​the human body, and the face bears the important responsibility of expressing attitudes, so they are always under the supervision of this rule.The foot seems to be an exception, and people's habitual neglect of it makes it appear to be more arbitrary.

During a banquet, many people worry about how to get along well with strangers.Because there will always be guests we are not familiar with on such occasions, how to judge whether others welcome us, whether they are willing to let us join their conversation, whether it is time to leave, is to determine whether to behave properly in this banquet Key factor.

If two people are in the middle of a conversation and a new visitor wants to join them, greet them and the person talking is polite but their feet are not turned towards the newcomer , it means that this kind of welcome is limited to politeness, and they don't want others to join.And if, in greeting, the conversationalists turn their toes slightly so that they can face the newcomer, it shows that they sincerely welcome the newcomer and want him to join the conversation.

It is actually not difficult to become a popular person. Grasping the true attitude of others and then deciding your next move can help us achieve popularity.As a cue of intention, the cues of the feet are always obvious at this time, so the more attention is paid to the feet, the more obvious the intentions of others will be.

feet trying to escape
When people face people or things they don't like, their feet will also be very obvious.As the "protagonist" responsible for escaping, the feet were once the implementers of human beings away from danger. This kind of innate mission allows them to receive the instructions of the brain at all times and stand by to escape.And before the escape fails, the feet will first determine their own route, even if it does not act immediately, it will also indicate the direction.

Observing the words and deeds of lawyers in court can clearly see their attitude.When some witnesses they don't like appear, lawyers have to come forward to discuss with them due to procedural requirements, so as to obtain information.When they approached these people, although they were generally very decent and respectful of the witnesses who were giving their testimony, their feet were always pointed toward the nearest exit, or toward the jurors who supported them.

This is not an accidental phenomenon.Lawyers in court are always trying to restrain their emotions because of their high nervousness, but their feet are out of the control of these emotions, which reflects the lawyer's true preferences.The direction it is heading is the direction of escape, and the determination of the escape route can give lawyers a subconscious sense of security.

An escape route doesn't always make a concrete statement, it doesn't really point to it, and people don't really want to escape or get out of the situation.The orientation of the feet is just an expression of the emotions of the human brain at this time, which means that it does not like the immediate environment.

Hope for a sign of relief

Many people think that the movement of the feet is just a subconscious search for a comfortable placement, or an adjustment to the standing posture.In fact, many times, this subconscious action will more truly express our inner emotions, and adjusting the feet is an important signal released.If the person you're talking to suddenly changes the direction of their foot, or slowly moves their foot away from your side, something has changed in their mood and the conversation needs to be adjusted.

Sometimes the foot changes appear suddenly, sometimes silently during the conversation, sometimes because the interlocutor has other things to do, sometimes because they are tired of the conversation and wish to move forward sooner. end.These messages show that the other party hopes to be relieved in this environment, and it is necessary to change the topic in time.It's as simple as making a conversation that everyone enjoys, and a single tip of the foot to turn to information can make us gregarious people.

A very conversational salesman met his client on the street and approached him enthusiastically.The two of them chatted for half an hour in the noisy environment on the street.Although the process of the conversation was very pleasant, the content of the conversation was very substantial, and there were no perfunctory words, but the salesperson was sensitive to find that the other party had adjusted the direction of his feet.He immediately asked: "Do you have something to leave in a hurry?" The other party said apologetically: "Yes, I would like to continue chatting with you, but I have an appointment with someone else, and it is almost time for an appointment. .”

An empathetic person can grasp every emotional change of the other party and take care of them all, making people feel his keen attention.While getting warm signals constantly in conversation, feet are an honest reflection of what people want.Wanting relief doesn't always come from boredom, and it doesn't mean the conversation isn't going well, it just means the other person wants to go on, but has to do what needs to be done.

Negative Emotions: Kicking and Locking
Making legs tremble is a common movement that people do, and in a stressful environment, the presence of this movement is not enough to judge whether a person is lying or not.Because whether it is an honest person or a dishonest person, they will all have such actions, or completely suppress such actions out of habit.It is important for the observer to judge when these movements occur, or when they cease abruptly.This will provide us with important information to judge the degree of development of negative emotions.

sudden kick

When people have tremors in their legs, the performance of their feet will be more intense, and many times there will be shaking, even in the form of kicking.Because it is at the end of the leg, the foot will amplify the movement of the leg invisibly.Observing the starting point and ending point of a shaking of the foot can let us understand the emotional changes of the other party.

During one interrogation, a senior official who was questioned about the economy kept shaking his feet and rubbing his hands together nervously.This kind of behavior is not of great significance at this time. It is just a natural reaction of the officials to feel the pressure. It represents a comforting tendency, and they are calmed by shaking and stroking.

However, when the interrogators suddenly asked about the source of the money, the official's slightly shaking feet suddenly kicked.The change of this magnitude is completed in an instant, and it stops completely very quickly.It caught the attention of the interrogators.

Although the kicking of the feet does not mean that the official is lying, but at least it shows that at this moment, certain information has greatly stimulated his brain, so that his feet have a strong reaction, and the brain responds to These messages show a clear sense of disgust.This is what causes the sudden kicking of the foot.

Sudden changes in foot behavior often indicate that a person has received some negative information.When the wobbly foot starts to kick, the person is always in a state of unconsciousness, because his brain is too busy processing some information to pay attention to the change of the foot.Therefore, this behavior is considered to be conscious, but also a strong reaction of the subconscious mind.The shaking of the feet in the normal state is the normal expression of the body, and those sudden changes are the betrayal and betrayal of the feet to our brains. It is no longer in a suppressed state, so it appears more real and credible.

Freezing behavior of the feet

When under the pressure of negative emotions, people always hope to use some small actions to soothe themselves and make themselves calm.The wiggle of the foot can sometimes do that, and the brain gets a certain amount of comfort from the foot in motion.And if negative emotions escalate, the brain may cause the foot to wiggle more.However, if at a certain moment, the feet suddenly freeze and no longer make any movements, but quickly stop or return to the ground, it means that the pressure on the brain has instantly increased to an almost unbearable level.

Mood fluctuates because the brain feels pressure, and when the pressure comes from negative information, the reaction of the feet is always more direct.It is human instinct to keep the feet in motion so that the body can move quickly to escape danger or an environment that one does not like.The reason for this instinct to stop must be that the brain has received a greater stimulation.Maybe there was something in the conversation that made his heart tingle, maybe some questions just hit the point that he had been trying to hide.

Letting the feet in motion suddenly stop is an extreme manifestation of the brain's control response.In the face of danger, the freezing response can express people's strong desire to escape or strong aversion. The sudden stillness is sometimes because the subconscious does not want to attract the attention of others.When there was a sudden stillness in his feet, it might be because he was worried that others would find out that something was slowly revealing his true face.

ankle interlock
In the hot summer, women always like to wear short skirts of various colors to keep cool and enjoy beauty at the same time.But watch women in short skirts, and when they sit down, they often turn their toes inward, or interlock their feet.The appearance of this foot movement indicates that they feel insecure or anxious.Similar behaviors tend to occur when people are threatened.Observing those interrogated suspects, it can be found that when they are questioned, they often interlock their ankles, which shows that they are under great pressure at this time.

The ankles are interlocked to keep the feet in a protected state, which shows people's inner expectation for a sense of security.The occasional occurrence of this kind of behavior doesn't mean much, because people are always insecure for various reasons, especially women.This response is normal when the brain feels threatened.But if this movement continues for too long, or occurs repeatedly in men, it should attract the attention of the observer.

Observe the interrogation of suspects who love to interlock their ankles.The foot movement itself doesn't mean much, but liars do it in a special way, locking their feet together at the ankles and keeping them still for long periods of time.This kind of persistence does not mean that they have perseverance, but that they try to avoid attracting attention from others by limiting their movements.

Long-term observations of liars have shown that people intentionally limit their body movements when they lie.Whether it is an arm or a leg, keeping them still as if frozen is almost a common problem of all liars.

If a person does not like to shake his feet, it means that this person is a very self-controlled person, or his living habits will not show this.An interlocking ankle in a person who wobbles is a sign that he wants to feel safe in this way.

language of the knee
Although the knee has a very important physiological function in the leg, it seems to have little involvement in emotional expression.And for nonverbal behavior, the knee is even less expressive, and people never pay attention to it.But in fact, although the knee itself is not good at expressing, it can move the calf to achieve certain actions, or some actions related to the knee can also be classified into the category of non-verbal behavior of the knee.

hands on knees

Some intentional clues in emotional expression can help observers understand the other party's state of mind very well, and the appearance of these clues is often very obvious.Similar to the turning cues of the feet, a person who is sitting in a sitting position suddenly puts his hands on his knees and presses his knees, which is an obvious clue of leaving.

Usually when the hands-to-knees movement occurs, one of the accompanying movements is to get up from the seat.But when the conversation is not completely over, or it is not possible to leave immediately, this action will pause.To judge whether the action of pressing the hands on the knees is a signal to leave, it is necessary to observe other body changes that complement it.Even if they can't move away immediately, people will lean their body forward slightly after the knee press, or turn their body away from the speaker.

When receiving the action signal of pressing hands on knees, a smart talker should immediately remind himself that it is time to end the conversation, even if he does not see the other party's next action.

(End of this chapter)