FBI super mind-reading technique: teach you instant insight into people's hearts

Chapter 26 The Secret Words of Little Actions (6)
Similar to the action of pressing the knees with both hands, there is another action involving the knees that can also be judged as a clue of the intention to leave, and that is the "starting action".When a person suddenly raises his stationary foot, assumes a preparatory posture for starting, lifts his heel, and puts his body's weight on the sole of his forefoot, it means that he is ready to leave.Often the beginning of contraction of the knee area is the beginning signal of this intention.

Other actions involving the knee

Changes in mood are an important reason for guiding changes in nonverbal behavior.When people are in a state of excitement or comfort, they often appear more relaxed, their bodies are more relaxed, and their body movements appear smooth and natural.And when people are under stress, nonverbal behavior can also appear to be variable, always in tension.The knee can control the leg muscles to make our calves and feet respond to reflect changes in inner emotions.

In the eyes of happy people, the world looks very beautiful. Many times they seem to be a little light, and their bodies will become relaxed in spiritual experience, and their body language will also appear to deviate from gravity.Pleasant people always like to cross their calves, which is the knee's resistance to gravity.By acting against the direction of gravity, the knees seem to express a sense of confidence.Watch people who talk about their accomplishments, or who are complimented by those around them, sit with a relaxed posture, accompanied by calf push-ups.

body lifting

Speakers, teachers, or storytellers always use some body language to enhance their language appeal.Elevating the body is very common on them, and when these movements appear, they are also when they are emphasizing certain points.Strictly speaking, the elevation of the body is not completely done by the knees, because it requires the cooperation of the feet and legs.But there's no doubt that the mid-leg knee plays an important role in this movement.

Emphasize the main points of what you are saying, sometimes accompanied by gestures.Usually the appearance of hand gestures will be a deliberate movement, but the elevation of the body is often unconscious.It appears repeatedly during the speech to assist the speaker's key remarks.To a certain extent, the elevation of the body also deviates from gravity.Because the direction it wants to point to is the sky, the human body seems to want to escape gravity and the ground.

For people who are in a low mood, it is difficult to raise the body.Especially in patients with depression, it is almost never seen that they have calf or toe lifts and body elevation.

Get your legs and feet in a good mood

When the mind and brain are in a very happy state, the human body will have many matching behaviors.And being in love is a typical situation in which the human spirit is in a happy state. People in love often have some behaviors to express happy emotions, which are usually appropriate exaggerations of ordinary emotions.For example, people who are happy in life will always have the same reaction as those around them, that is, keep the same actions as others, and this behavior will be particularly strong in men and women who are in love.

foot behavior in love
People who are in love are very relaxed, and their foot movements will appear to be very relaxed.Women often have some small movements to reveal their mood at the moment, such as playing with gadgets in their hands, such as slight shaking of their feet.When they remain seated, the females also show the movement of playing with the shoes with their feet.And if their pleasant emotions suddenly disappear, these actions will also disappear instantly.

In a restaurant, everyone is guessing about the relationship between the man and woman at the next table.I saw them leaning towards each other and talking cordially across the dining table. Some people thought that they got along well and should be relatives.But as the dinner progressed, there were some interruptions in the conversation, and the two men leaned back in their chairs, and the conversation between each other seemed to become much less.Based on this, someone suggested: They may be negotiating, you see they start to confront each other, and they don't like each other, otherwise they won't keep their bodies away.

But one thinks that this pair of men and women must be lovers.Everyone hurriedly asked him the reason for his judgment, and he said: "You are only paying attention to the part above the table, but I have been paying attention to their feet under the table. Their feet are very close. If it is not a very harmonious and intimate person, There's no such movement. And as they move their bodies away from each other, their feet touch each other and they start rubbing against each other. None of them flinches. It's clear that these two are connected, as they feet."

After a while, the man and woman finished their meal and were about to leave. The man wrapped his arms around the woman's waist intimately, proving that they were indeed a couple.

By observing people's non-verbal behavior, even without hearing any verbal cues, you can accurately judge the emotional state and relationship of others.If a man and a woman sit straight and are very polite to each other, no one will think that they are lovers.And even if two people in love appear strange on their faces, the movements of their feet will reveal their relationship.

Legs and feet that convey positive emotions

Observing the movement of your legs and feet can make you more at home in human interactions.And a person who always raises his eyes to the sky will naturally miss all kinds of opportunities to understand other people's thoughts, and those subtle movements can't remind him.When facing some major decisions or needing advice from others, choose the time when the other party is most happy to communicate, which will produce twice the result with half the effort and help you achieve your goals faster.

In a sitting posture, the feet lock the ankles with each other, which shows a person's nervous state; while in the standing posture, if a person's legs are crossed, it also seems to be a locking action, which has a greater meaning. Are not the same.To make a seated leg-locking movement requires force from the thighs, knees, calves and ankles, and the tension of the muscles is a direct response to the tension of the brain; Both legs (at least the one responsible for the cross) are required to be stretched.During the whole process, except for the muscles responsible for maintaining standing, other parts are in a relaxed state.

When getting off work, colleagues wait for the elevator together, and usually talk about some plans for getting off work. Watching movies, gathering with friends, going to bars and other activities are everyone's favorite choices.If you want to invite others to go with you without being rejected, it takes a certain skill.Among the crowd, Xiao Li can always invite others to go with him, while other colleagues are always rejected.Someone asked Xiao Li for advice: "Why do you always get a date? What's the secret?"

Xiao Li said with a smile: "It's actually very simple. I just know the timing of the appointment. You see, the people waiting for the elevator now have different postures. You just need to choose those who stand with their legs crossed, and it's easy. It is easy to succeed, because they are generally in a good mood, and the proposal of going out to play fits their minds, so they will not refuse others."

Standing with legs crossed is not an option for formal occasions, which are generally more serious and depressing.Also in an elevator, a person rides with his legs crossed because he feels so comfortable.But if someone else came in the elevator at this time, he would immediately gather his legs and stand upright.When you are with strangers, crossing your legs rarely occurs, because the brain is often full of guard when analyzing information from strangers.And when standing with familiar friends, this standing posture will appear frequently again, because the brain has enough trust in this person.

Mystery of Footsteps After Shaking Hands
Shaking hands has become an internationally accepted etiquette for people who meet for the first time or have just met.In just a few seconds, people can convey emotions through contact, supplemented by the observation of nonverbal behavior, and they can fully understand the mental state and attitude of the other party.For people who meet for the first time, the information conveyed by legs and feet should be the primary object of observation, and they will reveal the other person's first feeling towards you.

Etiquette experts tell us: The correct handshake etiquette should be to look directly at each other, and then shake hands sincerely.During this process, eye contact should be maintained and can be accompanied by greetings.After the handshake is over, it's time to step back and start talking.This process seems simple, but in fact there is a hidden mystery. Through a short contact, a person's quality and the atmosphere of the conversation between the two parties have been revealed.

The key to judging the atmosphere and attitude of the other party after the handshake lies in the legs and feet: if the other party stays in place after the handshake, it means that he is very satisfied with the current position of the two parties and is also very happy. Conversations can start right away.And if the other person steps back or moves away after shaking hands, it means that he doesn't really want to stay here or have more conversations.Among old friends, the most common thing is that after the handshake, the two parties not only did not retreat, but also moved forward. Maybe it was just a small step or just a foot movement, but it already showed that they wanted to talk and get along with each other, and very pleasant.

The feet are the most trustworthy in the whole meeting process. If the other party keeps smiling, but his footsteps move back, the observer should understand that the distance is too close at this time, causing the other party to be dissatisfied.If you want to keep each other comfortable, you should give everyone space to create a good atmosphere.In the workplace and social situations, mastering such small skills can make you blend into the crowd faster.If there is something that needs the other person's help at this time, you should ask it when the other person is moving forward, and he will definitely lend a helping hand to you in a happy spirit.

character from gait
Because people have different personalities, they also show very large differences in body language, and this difference is difficult to quantify, and can only be felt through the observer's feelings.For a familiar person, we can recognize him from his gait; for a more intimate person, we can even distinguish him from the sound of his footsteps.This elusive but very obvious signal is so interesting that people like to start from this direction to guess the personality of people they don't know well.

walking posture and mood

In film performances, actors always use exaggerated techniques to interpret situations in life.Chaplin, the most famous superstar in the mime era, used his unique walking posture to attract the attention of others, and he also used this unique gait to show the character's personality.When he walked out with his legs crossed and wobbled with the soles of his feet, although this character could not speak, he would make everyone laugh.

A person's walking posture is very different under different emotional states.The language of "bouncing and coming" often appears in the composition of primary school students, which is also a vivid description of the happy state of mind in life.

Many people like to answer their mobile phones on the road. On the sidewalk, you can often see busy people rushing while answering their phones.But their pace often does not maintain a uniform pace, and it will speed up and slow down according to the content they are talking about. Sometimes they will even stand still for a long time on the side of the road, and sometimes they will run wildly.

Walking posture is a very important part of non-verbal behavior, which can tell the observer the state of the person's mood swings.

When a person in a good mood suddenly hears a piece of bad news, the change in mood will be directly reflected in his walking gait: the pace changes from easy to heavy, maybe he will speed up his pace, as if he wants to run away immediately, maybe he will slow down Steps, as if the feet are too heavy to lift.

different personalities, different gaits

People with a very anxious personality will not walk slowly; while people with a more stable personality will rarely walk in a hurry.A person's gait has a lot to do with his mood and environment at that time, and also has a more direct relationship with his experience and personality.

If you want to quickly understand others, in the case of non-verbal communication, most of the information comes from the eyes of the observer and the behavior of the observed.And gait is an important part of manners.The mastery of gait in stage theater performances is very vivid. When you watch the performances of Peking Opera actors, you will find that the walking posture of an official is completely different from that of a thief.One is walking around with a belt in his hand, not in a hurry, showing a calm demeanor; the other is in a hurry, his feet don't touch the ground, and his steps are broken and hurried.These are the artist's summary and refinement of various stances in life.

In the workplace and in everyday life, people's gait is less dramatic, but there are clues.By comparing different stances, we can quickly understand each other's personality characteristics.It is difficult to have a specific measurement standard for this kind of comparison, and it comes more from "feeling"-the experience we have accumulated through careful observation of life.

notice changes in gait

A sudden change in a person's body language can quickly reflect his inner emotional changes.This quick response is often faster than language, sometimes faster than the brain, and the limbic system of the brain issues instructions to form a conditioned reflex.Therefore, this response is often a major breakthrough in uncovering secrets.

On the streets of London, some experienced policemen always dress up as plainclothes to arrest criminals hidden in the crowd. They can quickly find people with criminal intentions through the difference in people's gait.Because these people always choose to walk on the inner side of the sidewalk, and when they walk aimlessly, they are not as clear as ordinary people.When their gaze suddenly finds a spot, their gait will change rapidly, speeding up or slowing down.These changes will draw special attention from the police.

Similar experience is not only possessed by the police. When a person walks on the street and suddenly changes his gait, it often arouses the vigilance of the people around him.The brain will immediately generate an instruction to protect itself. A woman may grab her backpack in a hurry, and a man may take out the cigarette in his mouth and stare closely at the person whose gait is changing.This is also an intuitive response. People can understand the reason for the other person's gait change through observation, so as to deal with the person's next actions more effectively.

Like it or hate it, the body tells you
As a vital part of the human body, the torso seems to be ready to flee from whatever makes it uncomfortable.These things may be threats from the living environment, provocations from others, people or things that annoy us, or a sudden attack from the sky.The trunk's response to the presence of these things is sometimes very pronounced, and sometimes very subtle.Therefore, the observation of the torso also needs to be more detailed.In fact, there are many non-verbal behaviors in life, as long as you are more patient and careful, you will definitely discover something.

fear of danger
In the process of evolution, human beings have continuously enhanced their ability to avoid danger, because whether it is a natural disaster or an attack from other animals, it may cause damage to life.Although with the development of society and technology, many dangers will no longer appear, but the reflection of danger is deeply imprinted in everyone's subconscious.

On the school playground, a group of boys are playing football happily.They fully enjoyed the pleasure of the recess activities, but they didn't notice that there were two people walking and chatting beside the playground.Suddenly, a boy shot a shot, but the football flew towards those two people.Because they kept their heads down, neither of them saw the ball flying over.But when the ball was about to hit one of them on the head, he slammed to the side and avoided this accident.

Most of the dangers appear without warning, so preventing danger requires extra attention and reaction speed.When the soccer ball flies towards the unsuspecting person, he has no idea that he is in danger, but when the ball flies close, the brain quickly issues instructions to tilt the body to avoid.This reaction is so quick that you don't even think about it.The limbic system of the brain seems to set up a protective shield outside the human body, and responds as soon as it receives information.The trunk of the body bears an important responsibility in this process, and its inclination and avoidance are also the best protection for oneself.

When encountering danger, whether it is a flying football or a stick, or a car that suddenly bumps into it, the body will react quickly to avoid it.And when many evasion actions are completed, people don't know what they are avoiding. Only when people are out of danger, will they pay attention to what was flying before.

stay away from haters
When we meet someone we don't like, we may continue to smile on our face, but our body will respond very honestly.Watch guys who chat with people they hate tend to lean their bodies away from them.Some people think they're doing it to see better, but it's really just the body trying to get away from the other person.

Living in a crowded city, many people have to get along with strangers frequently. Whether it is an elevator or a subway, this situation is inevitable in public places.Leaning away from others can be very noticeable when people in the same environment don't like you.

The people in the elevator always try to stand farther away in order to avoid getting too close to people.And some people who appear on the subway will also become objects that everyone avoids.If there are so many people in the subway during rush hour that they have to stand next to them, the people next to them will lean slightly to keep themselves away.Even if this kind of distance has no effect, the crowd will still push them together, but this small action can soothe people's psychology.

To a certain extent, the act of leaning to increase the physical distance between oneself and others can be thought of as territorial expansion.When the space belonging to oneself is expanded, the brain will feel that the body has arrived in a safe environment. Even if this is not the case, the appearance of this action is also expressing this wish.

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