FBI super mind-reading technique: teach you instant insight into people's hearts

Chapter 27 The Secret Words of Little Actions (7)
Turn around and leave
Putting yourself in a comfortable environment, away from people or things you don't like, is the most basic need of the brain.When there is a tilt of the body to express disgust, the body is clearly stating what the person is feeling.As the level of this disgust increases, the body's desire to escape will become stronger and stronger, and in the end it will turn around and leave.

A memorial hall in Nanjing exhibited some pictures of the massacre during the war, and people flocked here to visit.The expressive movements of the torso of the body are evident in those viewing the exhibits.When they enter the dimly lit exhibition hall, they will walk and stand in various postures.When approaching an exhibit, someone will bend down to get a better look.At the beginning, there will be some hesitation in people's movements, as if they are not sure whether they want to be so close.However, when they saw the brutal acts of militants, the huge impact of the pictures on their brains made them suddenly determined.Someone would straighten up suddenly, even lean back, and then turn around and leave in a hurry.

The act of turning around is a stress response under a strong sensory impact.The brain is deeply uncomfortable with the information it has received, and it is eager to escape from this predicament, and its immediate reaction is to turn around and leave the environment.

When it is really impossible to move or turn your body torso, people will turn their heads so that they can't see what they don't want to see.This action is to make up for the inability of the torso to transfer, and the next best thing is to allow the brain to be temporarily soothed.

welcome with open arms

Because of its fragility and vulnerability, the human trunk is often very sensitive to distance. It will always raise the need to escape and ask the brain for protection.Therefore, in terms of confirming preferences, it can be considered as the most authentic indicator of emotion.In the process of talking and communicating, if someone moves away from the trunk, it can be sure that what is happening now has caused his discomfort or disgust.

bosom of negation

As mentioned above, the torso is home to too many important body organs, sometimes together with the eyes, nose and mouth located above the torso, and the genitals located below the torso, can be included in the scope of protection of the torso.These parts are the most vulnerable parts of the human body, thus increasing the sensitivity of the trunk.When people are in a pleasing environment and with people they like, the torso is unreservedly on display.And if there is a dangerous breath coming, or when the topic of conversation is unpleasant, the trunk will show obvious negative movements.

The negative movement of the trunk mainly takes the chest as the largest display area, sometimes it is a slight rotation of the upper body, and sometimes it is a refusal to turn to a direction that one does not like.

In a business reception, Xiao Li was chatting with one of his colleagues when he suddenly saw the director of another department walking over with a wine glass.He smiled in Xiao Li's direction, looking very kind.Xiao Li and his colleagues also smiled and nodded to him, but when the man walked away, Xiao Li suddenly asked his colleagues: "You don't have any conflicts with him, do you?"

The colleague was very surprised and asked: "Why do you ask such a question?"

Xiao Li said, "It's nothing, I just think you don't like him very much."

Seeing this, the colleague had no choice but to nod and said, "There was some friction between us, and I really don't like him very much. But how did you know? Did I behave very rudely just now?"

Xiao Li smiled and said: "No, your smile just now was very sincere. It's just that when he came over, you turned slightly towards me so that you were not facing him. So I guess you may not Like this guy."

When the colleague heard it, he suddenly realized, and praised Xiao Li for his meticulousness, which he could see.

The negative action performed by the trunk of the body by shifting the orientation of the chest is not limited to distance.Sometimes two people arguing are so far apart that their chests are turned slightly and their bodies are tilted to move themselves further away from each other.This suggests that it is not the physical distance between each other that causes their real discomfort, but the psychological disgust.

welcome with open arms

It is the same principle as the bosom-negating action to express one's disgust. When expressing one's positive emotions, people are very willing to show their bosom.Through the display of the mind, the brain conveys an unguarded pleasure.The welcoming attitude generated by positive factors such as pleasure, security, and comfort is vividly reflected in this action.

A young mother comes home from get off work. When she passes a path and has to meet and pass some strangers, she will inadvertently turn her body in the opposite direction or put her hands in her arms. On your chest, or hold your bag against the front of your torso.However, when she walks into the house and sees her child, she removes everything in front of her that stands between her and the child, and opens her arms to fully reveal herself and wrap the child in her arms.

Fully displaying your own mind makes people look very enthusiastic.In hugging countries, some people just extend their hands to hug each other as a courtesy, while others open their arms completely and let their whole body be on display.The latter is more enthusiastic than the former, and the mental state is also more excited.

Shifting the chest and leaning the body conveyed negative emotions, while open arms were clearly accompanied by positive messages.Opening your arms means that you have complete trust in the person you like, so you can show the most vulnerable part of yourself to the other person.Turning around means that you have to use your back to face those you don't like, which is also a manifestation of defense and resistance.

Categorize people by torso movements
There is an old Chinese saying: "Things of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups." But when a group of people mix together, how to distinguish the relationship between them?
In a crowded meeting room, the hall was full of meeting people, and everyone was arguing endlessly over one issue. Although the harmonious atmosphere was still maintained on the surface, in fact, swords were on the verge of breaking out.At this time, to classify people who hold different opinions, it is not necessary to listen to them explain their opinions from the beginning, but only need to look at their body torso movements to achieve the goal.

When conditions permit, people who hold the same views will develop a sense of intimacy, and they will choose to sit together to form a unified camp.If it is people who cannot sit together, observe their torsos, there will be obvious movements of leaning towards each other or approaching each other.And those who hold the opposite opinion will try hard to control their bodies not to get close to others, and try to lean in the opposite direction, so as to tell others: I don't agree with you!Of course, this expression is often subconscious, which makes it more real.

Although the torso movement can clearly tell the observer the emotional state of the actor at the moment, the observation of it still needs to adhere to the principle of situational judgment.In the same conference room, if a newcomer leans back or turns, that doesn't mean he disagrees with the speaker, it might just be that he's so tense that he's stiff.

Heart Defense Forged on the Chest
For the protection of the trunk part of the body, it is very easy to appear in life, especially in women.Sometimes this movement is patterned with a larger movement such as the crossing of the arms, other times it is just a subtle tidying of a tie.Regardless of the magnitude of the movements, the meaning they represent is the same: People in discomfort use this to create a barrier of self-protection for themselves.

chest barrier

Protecting one's front chest is a conditioned reflex action, because here is the source of all power of our human body-the location of the heart.When you have to face someone you don't like or an uncomfortable environment, building a barrier in front of your chest will become an emergency measure for your brain.Sometimes this measure is achieved with a double-arm action, folded across the chest to form an invisible piece of armor.And sometimes people use other methods, such as putting clothes on their chests, to create a barrier.

Clothing not only has the function of keeping warm and beautifying the body, but in many cases it can also bring a sense of security to the brain by protecting the human body.Women with revealing clothing tend to fidget and cover their bodies subconsciously.And men also need the protection of clothing.During a conversation, if someone suddenly buttons his coat, it means that the conversation or the environment at the moment makes him feel uncomfortable.Because when the temperature is suitable, there is no need to strengthen the warmth, he just plays the role of comforting himself by buttoning up the buttons.When the conversation is over or the environment is gone, he unbuttons it again.At that time, the clothes had become a protective wall in front of his chest that he had built for himself.

The behavior of buttoning clothes cannot be generalized, because in some formal occasions, people have to button up to show respect to others.At this time, clothes and buttons do not play a comforting role, this behavior is only a kind of etiquette.

In the investigation of a criminal case, in order to collect evidence, the criminal police came to the residence of a suspect for questioning.When some related questions were mentioned, the suspect sitting on the sofa seemed to have inadvertently picked up a sofa cushion and placed it on his lap, forming a gesture of hugging the cushion.

This small action may be just a habit in the eyes of ordinary people, but in the eyes of careful criminal police, it represents a very profound meaning.With the sofa cushions as a barrier, the suspect appeared to be more emotionally stable.In another interrogation that followed, he was placed in a chair where no barrier could be found.This time, he completely lost the ability to resist, and quickly confessed all the information he knew.

Breaking through other people's psychological defenses by removing barriers is a common technique in criminal interrogation.Suspects are often placed in chairs without any barriers and illuminated by bright lights, which can make them feel completely exposed and can also collapse their psychological defenses.

The reverse use of heart defense

Protecting yourself by creating a barrier in your chest, thereby separating your own body from other people's bodies, is a negative message.But caring people can make themselves approachable by clearing this barrier, so as to gain the recognition and welcome of others.

Before holding an election conference, many candidates will go to the community and the streets to publicize and get more votes.Observe their dresses on different occasions, and you will know what they want to express.In some formal occasions, these candidates tend to dress very formally, with a suit and tie indispensable.But when they meet with voters, they tend to be very casual. Some people will take off their coats and only wear shirts, some will unbutton the top buttons of their shirts, and some will roll up their cuffs. It looked like an ordinary neighbor that anyone would meet.What do these candidates get by the act of taking off their coats, unbuttoning them and rolling up their cuffs?The obvious answer is that most people feel close to them because of these seemingly inadvertent nonverbal behaviors, even though they don't know why they feel that way.

Just as many people feel inexplicably nervous when confronted by someone with arms crossed and frowning, it is easy to feel a sense of trust when people see someone with their arms open and undefended.The reason why candidates do this is the reverse use of their defenses. They gain the trust of others by removing their defenses, thus winning votes.Just a small gesture can convey a message worth a thousand words.

bowing respect

Although there are many different cultures coexisting in the world, and there will be very different ways of expression in different cultural fields, people can find common ground in different countries and nations in terms of non-verbal behavior.Due to human nature and other reasons, many non-verbal behaviors have similar or identical meanings. Non-verbal behaviors such as smiling and thumbs-up can be understood by anyone who sees them.And bowing is also one of these common non-verbal behaviors, no matter which country people can use it to express their respect.

oriental bow

Among the several Asian countries that pay attention to etiquette, Chinese and Japanese people often bow to show their respect for others or show their humility.A long time ago, when people bowed, they often bent their upper body at ninety degrees. This posture was considered very sincere.

But with the development of the times, the range of bowing has become smaller and smaller. People only bow slightly by bending their waists. Few people bend their waists to ninety degrees.Unless it is expressing very strong regret when apologizing.What is even more regrettable is that bowing is becoming less and less common in China. Except for some special occasions, such as memorial services, bowing will occur, and few people bow in ordinary daily life.On the contrary, the Japanese have strictly inherited it. Now, even young people in Japan often bow, no matter whether they meet peers or elders.

Bowing is sometimes called "bending," which is a pejorative way of saying it.Chinese people think "nodding and bowing" is a kind of flattery, this kind of behavior makes people look wretched, and people who perform this gesture are often of low status or character.In fact, this can only be regarded as a kind of bowing. Most of the time, bowing is an expression of a person's respect and sincerity, and it should be treated differently.

western bow

In Western countries that advocate individuality, bowing is a very solemn etiquette.In the process of social communication, people shake hands to express their goodwill to each other, and bending their bodies slightly when shaking hands is considered bowing by Westerners.And this kind of bending of the body will only appear when meeting elders and very respectable people.

In Eastern Europe, an ancient bowing ceremony is still preserved.When people meet each other, they stamp their heels and bow slightly.This ancient and elegant etiquette only exists in some old people, young people are encouraged to express themselves, few people will treat others with such strict etiquette.

(End of this chapter)