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Chapter 28 The Secret Words of Little Actions (8)
The multiple meanings of bowing

A simple bow can carry many meanings.People bow when they express respect to those who are older and of higher status than themselves. This is an affirmation of others and a display of self-cultivation.

In ancient China, courtiers bowed when discussing work with the emperor.After the discussion, the courtiers bowed before leaving.At this time, the bow does not end with just one bend, but keeps bending until the emperor leaves or the emperor himself leaves the sight of the emperor.If the person who wants to leave is a courtier, he will always face the emperor, basically maintaining the posture of walking backwards.Such a rigorous bow is unique in the whole world.

The etiquette and rules of China's feudal era were complicated to the limit.Through this gesture, the courtiers expressed their respect for the emperor, and even more awe of power.

Although people in European countries seldom have similar actions, in special cases, there will still be a very solemn bow.During World War II, General MacArthur was respected by servicemen throughout the United States.When he left the United States to serve in the Philippines, army generals acknowledged his exploits by bowing.One of the officers walked backwards out of the general's office after bowing. In the footage of the documentary, this scene was very shocking. The officer used this action to express his admiration for the general.

anger expressed in the chest

In the consciousness of all primates, the chest is a strong symbol of self-awareness, and they seem to write their dignity, self-confidence and power on their chests.Gorillas in zoos always show their chests raised to show their authority and territorial possession.And this consciousness also exists in the human brain. When human territory or authority is provoked, they will also express their anger by puffing out their chests.

anger and threats
Let your chest stand up, and the completion of this action requires the cooperation of multiple parts of the muscles and bones, the most important of which is the straightening of the spine and the expansion of the chest cavity, followed by the raising of the head.The key to getting the full range of motion done is to stretch the body and expand the space the body occupies.This shows that the action of puffing up the chest represents a person's self-confidence, and only confident people will make such an extended action.

Boxing champion Ali is an eternal star in the world of boxing. He not only dominates the boxing world with his outstanding boxing skills, but also wins the respect and love of many people with his personality charm.Before the start of each match, boxers will use some actions to deter the opponent and boost their momentum.This action of overpowering the opponent contains a lot of threatening meanings, warning others to be careful.What many people do is push their chests out, or two people's chests collide.

Ali's demonstrations are similar, he always puffs out his chest in a look of contempt, accompanied by low-pitched growls from some throats.However, while threatening the other side, Ali always made himself very funny. He used some other actions to attract the attention of the audience, make them laugh, and increase the enjoyment of the game.Don't think that these ways of distracting will reduce Ali's deterrence. His dismissiveness will actually increase the psychological pressure on the other party.

Although there are few scenes as intense as a boxing match in life, the action of puffing up the chest to express anger often appears.Children's ability to control their emotions is far less than that of adults. Observe those students who quarrel in the school playground, and they often puff up their chests to express their dissatisfaction with others.Sometimes this kind of chest-puffing action even develops to the point where the shoulders are raised, indicating that their inner anger is growing at the moment.

heaving chest

The chest cavity bears the heavy responsibility of breathing. Through the expansion and contraction of the chest cavity, oxygen is inhaled into our lungs and supplied to the human body.This is one of the most important factors in the survival of the human body, so it naturally receives intense attention from the brain.In daily life, the movement of the chest cavity is not too obvious, and it realizes its own operation with subtle expansion.If a healthy person suddenly has a large rise and fall of the chest cavity, it means that the brain must have found something wrong.

At the door of the operating room of the hospital, a group of people were waiting anxiously.A pregnant woman who had just been sent in had dystocia. Her husband and parents felt very nervous. Although relatives were around to comfort them, they were still restless.In desperation, everyone had no choice but to let them all sit down and relax on the back of the chair.But the husband's chest kept rising and falling, as if he had just finished a long-distance run, and the loud breathing made the people around him feel his pressure.

Finally, good news came from the operating room. The pregnant woman gave birth smoothly, and the mother and child were safe.The husband jumped up excitedly, and the ups and downs in his chest gradually disappeared.

In people who are under great pressure, the rising and falling of the chest is very easy to appear.The chest cavity absorbs more oxygen by expanding its range of motion, because the brain's ability to sense danger is greatly stimulated, making it have to be in a state of combat readiness.Maybe it is for escape, maybe it is for fighting, in short, in the analysis of the brain, there should be very important things happening immediately, so more oxygen needs to be inhaled through the chest cavity to prepare for the next action.

stretched body

Pushing your chest out to show your chest is sometimes accompanied by other actions, such as stretching other parts of your body to show your legs or arms.For people who remain seated, the act of raising the chest and extending the body often creates a posture of reclining, as if they were lying on a chair.This action appears very domineering and disrespectful.Observing the chest movement alone can't really understand his intentions. Only through overall observation can a correct analysis and judgment be obtained.

There was a mother who felt very troubled about children's education, because her son had become very rebellious since he entered adolescence, could not listen to anything, and always opposed his parents.The mother said: "When I was talking to him, he often made a very disapproving look, spread his body and leaned against the back of the chair, which made me very uncomfortable."

The mother felt this way because of the disrespect conveyed by the son's gesture.Education experts reminded her: Once a child has this kind of body stretching behavior, he should stop immediately and ask him to sit upright.If he doesn't do what you ask, then you sit next to him, make him feel threatened, and he will naturally sit up straight.

Letting one's body stretch out is originally a comfortable non-verbal behavior, but in some occasions, it becomes an act of ignoring and questioning authority.Such behavior is not to be encouraged in young people.While being alone can show any kind of comfort, stretching and puffing out your chest in a business meeting can be uncomfortable for others and viewed by your boss as an intolerable provocation.

Shoulder Emotions That Can't Be Ignored
In many studies on non-verbal behavior, the information on the shoulders is often ignored, which will make people miss a lot of useful information invisibly.Now with the deepening of observation, more and more attention is paid to the shoulder, and people find that the information it conveys is also very rich.

shoulder retraction
When describing a person who is timid and timid, people often say: "a cowardly person." This word seems unintentional, but it reveals the true meaning of a non-verbal behavior very vividly.People who are in a negative state tend to shrink their heads.The main performer of this action is the shoulders. Through the lifting of the shoulders, people seem to be able to hide their necks in the body, and then let the head be covered by the shoulders.Although this effect will not be achieved, this action has revealed the intention of the brain.

People with shrunken shoulders often lack self-confidence.This action occurs when a person is under great pressure, as if trying to hide himself.

At the performance summary meeting, the boss asked the employees to talk about their work, and those employees who performed well always talked freely and fully showed off their achievements.And those underperforming employees tucked their shoulders in, raising them as the pressure escalated.

The shoulders are tucked in and held high, as if trying to bring them as close to the ears as possible.What this action reveals is a sense of vulnerability, anxiety, and emotional depression.The shoulder retraction behavior that occurs in adults under social pressure is more pronounced in children.Children with unsatisfactory grades always shrug their shoulders because they are afraid of being blamed by their parents after the exam, as if they want to escape this predicament.

shrugged shoulders
Quickly shrugging one's shoulders is an uncommon movement among Asians, but it occurs frequently among Westerners.With the integration of cultures, many European cultures and living habits have come to China, and this action has also appeared in many Chinese people.Shrugging your shoulders is a behavior that goes against the direction of gravity, and some people define it as a sign of confidence.Although this action is very simple, it also has different changes, and different information is hidden in the changes.

The company's customer service quality has been unsatisfactory. For this reason, the boss held a meeting to ask everyone to discuss.He asked one of the customer service managers, "Have you heard any complaints from customers?" The customer service manager shrugged his right shoulder and said, "No!" Everyone knew he was lying.The behavior of shrugging his right shoulder already showed that he was very nervous and eager to disassociate himself from this matter.

Shrugging one shoulder and shrugging both shoulders have different meanings.When people shrug one of their shoulders, it is often to cover up something, so when it occurs, it means that what the person is saying is not credible.And for an honest man, he would shrug his shoulders quickly and in unison let them defy gravity at the same time.Because he feels no discomfort and is confident in himself.Sometimes people in some Western countries express helplessness by shrugging their shoulders.When there is nothing you can do about a problem, this shrug is saying, "I did my best, but I'm sorry."

clothing and nudity

In modern society, people pay more and more attention to their own image, and some people even advertise image as an important ability and resource.In the eyes of psychologists, the display of images also belongs to the category of non-verbal behavior. People form impressions on others through the shaping of different images.Image nonverbal behavior includes clothing and decoration, and sometimes nudity without clothing is also a kind of it.

Clothing reveals secrets

As the saying goes: "A man depends on clothes, a Buddha depends on gold clothes." This fully demonstrates the important role of clothes for people.No matter what era people are, they always have a very strong desire to observe and compare people's clothing.Appropriate clothing can add a lot to a person, while unsuitable clothing can change people's impression of him.Dressing well is not only to attract the attention of others and leave a good impression on others, but also to show your good spirit.

Clothing seems to have little to do with the human body, but it also reflects a person's emotional and mental state.Through clothing, you can get a glimpse of a person's personality and form a preliminary impression of him.Clothing in modern society has undergone unprecedented classification and development, both texture and style have reached the peak of history, and there are many categories, but it does not increase the difficulty of people's identification.Many people can judge others by their clothing.Because social status, economic ability, personal taste, etc., will be reflected in clothing.And those who wear certain clothes express their attitudes in this way.For example, fans who wear team uniforms express their fanaticism through the non-verbal behavior of dressing.

Because of the secrets revealed by clothing, people are also accustomed to positioning others through clothing, resulting in clothing having a great impact on a person's image.

Seeing people in sloppy clothes, many people will stay away from them, because they think that such people have no ability and status; People must have a lot of background.And this phenomenon of "taking people by clothes" exists on a large scale in daily life.

Because clothing shapes judgments so strongly, it becomes understandable and necessary for people to choose their clothing carefully.However, if one draws a conclusion based on clothing alone, it will be very one-sided, and it is likely to draw wrong conclusions.On the streets near Buckingham Palace in London, people often see some young girls walking around wearing exquisite and expensive Armani fashions.If you therefore assume that these people are high-class people or aristocrats, you are very wrong.They are just the maids of Buckingham Palace. Because of the particularity of their work, the brand clothes in the eyes of ordinary people are just their work clothes.

bare signal

Contrary to wrapping one's body with clothing, various behaviors of naked body often appear in life.These behaviors have different meanings depending on the context.

During the hot summer months, many people choose to wear thin, bare-skin clothing to keep their bodies cooler.And some people who wear expensive clothes, in order to protect their clothes, will also expose their skin on appropriate occasions.Although all these situations are exposing the body, there is not much meaning in non-verbal behavior.It’s the nudity that comes under the euphoria that’s worth noting, and catching on to the information they contain allows us to speculate about what’s going to happen next.

At the gate of a community, two young men had a dispute.A person who wants to go out accidentally bumps into a person who wants to come in at the door. It was originally a trivial matter, but the irascible young men refused to give in to each other and ended up arguing.

When the quarrel escalated to a certain level, everyone around could smell the smell of gunpowder.One of the young men suddenly unbuttoned his shirt and quickly took off the shirt.Someone in the crowd exclaimed: "It's time to do it!" Sure enough, the two immediately fought together.

The act of taking off the clothes, which occurs in specific situations, serves as a cue of intention.Through this clue, we can infer the intention of the perpetrator of this action: he can no longer control his emotions and wants to escalate the conflict.If you find that the other party has such actions during a quarrel, even if you just take off your hat, you should immediately draw attention to avoid further aggravation of the situation.

(End of this chapter)