FBI super mind-reading technique: teach you instant insight into people's hearts

Chapter 42 Hiding yourself and making others impeccable (1)
Have you paid attention to the psychological details that 99% of people ignore?
Have you heard about that lesser known side of the human psyche?

Will you use stealthy psychological tactics to quickly turn enemies into friends?

Observe people in the subtle, observe people in the invisible,
Hiding yourself and observing others is the way to success.

bluff is okay

There are no flowers on the tree, but we can decorate it with paper-cut decals to make the tree look like it has flowers.People who don't look carefully will generally not notice that it is a fake flower.Similarly, in dealing with people, when the situation does not allow you to show your true face or original state, it may be a good way to bluff, pretend to be non-existent, and hide your true thoughts.

Zhang Fei Changban Poke Cao Jun
For Zhang Fei in the Three Kingdoms, many people know his bravery, but few people admit his strategy. In fact, he is a brave and resourceful person.

At the beginning of Liu Bei's army, he fought Cao Cao many times, but he was defeated.Later, Liu Bei defected to Liu Biao, who ruled Jingzhou separately.After Liu Biao's death, the situation in Jingzhou was unstable. Cao Cao wanted to take the opportunity to annex Jingzhou and eliminate Liu Bei, so he led his troops south and reached Wancheng in one fell swoop.Liu Bei was unable to resist, so he had to lead his troops to retreat to Jiangling.

Because there were ordinary people accompanying them, the retreat speed of the large troops was very slow.Cao Bing was so brave that he chased Dangyang and fought a battle with Liu Bei's troops.Liu Bei was defeated and fled in a hurry. He ordered Zhang Fei to be in the rear and intercept the pursuers.

Zhang Fei only brought dozens of cavalry. If he fights recklessly, there is no possibility of victory at all, but the military order is like a mountain. Could it be that they surrendered without a fight?

Zhang Fei didn't seem to have the word "surrender" in his mind, but how can one defeat a hundred?In a crisis, he suddenly thought of a good way.He ordered all his cavalry to go into the woods, cut off branches and tie them behind the horses, and then galloped through the forest, dragging the branches on the ground and raising dust, as if a thousand troops and horses were passing through.But Zhang Fei himself rode his black horse with arrogance and arrogance on the Dangyang Bridge alone.As soon as the pursuers arrived, seeing Zhang Fei's aura, they were stunned first, and then saw the dust flying in the woods behind him, and even suspected that there was an ambush, so they chased rashly, wouldn't they be in an ambush?
Seeing Zhang Fei's calm face, Cao Cao thought twice and chose to retreat.In this way, Zhang Fei actually deceived Cao Jun by relying on the bluff of dozens of people, and won Liu Bei the opportunity to retreat.

Li Guang's suspicions escaped from the tiger's mouth
Li Guang, a famous general in the Western Han Dynasty, was once a figure that the Huns avoided and feared. He successively served as the prefect of Shanggu, Shangjun, Longxi, Beidi, Yanmen, Daijun, and Yunzhong.

Once, Emperor Jing of the Han Dynasty sent an eunuch to learn combat skills from Li Guang.The eunuch led dozens of cavalry and found three walking Huns on the road, so they stepped forward to attack.As a result, the three Huns shot the eunuch with arrows and killed the cavalry accompanying him.The eunuch fled back to Li Guang. After Li Guang learned of the situation, he immediately led more than 100 cavalry to chase the three Huns.Li Guang ordered the cavalry to surround him from the left and right, and he himself took arrows and shot them to death. In the end, he shot two dead and captured one alive.When the soldiers tied up the captives and were about to return to the camp, they suddenly found a large number of Huns cavalry in the distance, numbering as many as several thousand.

The Xiongnu army also found Li Guang and his party. Fearing that they were sent by the Han army to lure the enemy, they quickly went around the mountain and formed a formation against the enemy.

Li Guang's subordinates suddenly saw dozens of times more enemies than their own, they were a little frightened, and wanted to turn around and run away.Li Guang stopped them and said: "We are far away from the main force now. If we just turn around and run away like this, the Huns will definitely catch up and we will be wiped out. But if we stay here, the Huns will die." You will think that we are the bait of the army, and you will definitely not send troops rashly."

So Li Guang ordered his subordinates to go straight forward, and did not stop until they were less than two miles away from the Huns' position.Li Guang ordered everyone to take off their saddles and rest on the spot.

This order made everyone feel very embarrassed, untied the saddle, if the Huns suddenly attacked, wouldn't it be too late to escape?However, Li Guang comforted them with confidence and said: "Those Huns have figured out that we will go back. They have already made preparations to ride horses and chase after them. Now we don't want to go, and we have to rest in such a relaxed place, so that we can go back." They didn't understand the situation, and they believed that we were a decoy force."

Sure enough, the Xiongnu army couldn't figure out the purpose of Li Guang and his party, so they stayed still.When it was getting dark, the Xiongnu army still did not dare to attack, and the stalemate lasted until midnight. They thought over and over again, fearing that the Han army was ambushing nearby, and they would be ambushed in the dark, so they all retreated.

In this way, Li Guang led more than a hundred of his subordinates to wait until dawn the next day, and returned to the camp calmly.

If Li Guang hadn't stopped to rest with bluff, but turned around and fled according to his first reaction, he might have died long ago.He calmly confuses the enemy, conceals the truth about the shortage of troops, and only then wins a glimmer of life for himself and his subordinates.

Bluff can also be called "flowering on the tree", which makes it difficult to distinguish the truth from the fake.When you are in a weak position, it may be useless to argue or fight hard.At this time, you can use some external forces or certain factors to hide the real situation, make yourself look strong on the surface, and make the other party confused about the truth, so as to be able to win by surprise.

Wisdom in circles
The shortest straight line between two points is beyond doubt in the mathematics of right and wrong, but many things in life are often not black and white, which means that choosing a straight line may not be the easiest, and it may be full of difficulties and dangers.Sometimes, it's easier to walk around in circles than to accept the challenge of obstacles.

How to give Tiche

During the period of Song Gaozong, Liu Zhengyan and Miao Fu launched a mutiny, forcing Song Gaozong to abdicate and let the Empress Dowager Longyou listen to the government behind the curtain.After the local army got the news, there was an uproar, and they met King Qin.Liu Zhengyan and Miao Fu were terrified when they heard the news.In order to protect the emperor, Prime Minister Zhu Shengfei lobbied Liu and Miao, hoping that they would surrender. The exchange condition was that the emperor would make them local officials and give them the power to command the army.

After the agreement was reached, the imperial court kept urging the two to set off to take office. One of their subordinates, Zhang Kui, came up with an idea to ask Song Gaozong to grant a tie contract as proof.

After hearing this, the two went to Zhu Shengfei's house with the letter of petition, asking Zhu Shengfei to handle the matter immediately.Zhu Shengfei immediately called his servants to serve him with pen and ink, and asked Emperor Gaozong of Song Dynasty to allow him to grant the iron deed, and ordered his officials to quickly search the allusions to see how people handled such things before, so that they could be handled in the original way.Seeing that Zhu Shengfei was so committed to this matter, Liu Zhengyan and Miao Fu were very happy, so they went back with a smile.

The next morning, Fu Su, Miao Fu's attendant, approached Zhu Shengfei and said, "Yesterday we received a notice of approval to grant iron deeds to two generals, Miao Fu and Liu Zhengyan. This is an extraordinary ceremony. , can it be held today?"

Zhu Shengfei took the notice from Fu Su and called the officials to assist him.Everyone came to see this notice, suddenly Zhu Shengfei looked around and said, "I asked you to check the allusions, have you found out how it was done before?"

Everyone replied: "There is no precedent to investigate."

Zhu Shengfei asked again: "Then make the iron contract according to the previous method, do you know how to do it?"

Everyone replied: "I don't know."

Zhu Shengfei said again: "In this case, can we give them an iron contract?"

Everyone laughed, and Fu Su laughed too, saying: "I got it." After saying that, he went back to report.

After going around in a big circle, Zhu Shengfei seemed to have said something, but when he thought about it carefully, he didn't seem to say anything.The beauty of his detours is that he did not refuse the illegal request of the two traitors face to face, avoiding a direct conflict.Just imagine if he dealt with this issue straightforwardly, I am afraid that both parties will be unhappy, and the purpose of protecting the emperor may not be achieved.

Talking around in circles is sometimes considered hypocritical, but let’s think about it from another angle. Straightforwardness is not suitable for everyone. For example, when criticizing others, who can accept that the other party speaks about themselves in a bad way? ?Even if it's the truth, I'm afraid it will feel bad.So for some difficult problems, learn to go around in circles so as not to hit a snag.

slap you twice

During the Jiajing period of the Ming Dynasty, there was an honest and upright "Geishizhong" named Li Le.Once, he found out that there was cheating in the scientific examination, he was very angry, and immediately wrote a memorial to Emperor Jiajing, asking Jiajing Emperor to send someone to deal with it strictly, but Emperor Jiajing ignored it.Li Le was not reconciled, and directly confronted the emperor, quite forceful.Now Emperor Jiajing was furious, he ordered Li Le to put a seal on Li Le's mouth on the grounds that Li Le had committed the crime of exposing his fault, and ordered that no one was allowed to break the seal.

Keeping your mouth shut, not being able to speak is a trivial matter, not being able to eat is more serious. This is tantamount to a death penalty for Li Le.

At this time, an official standing next to him strode up to Li Le. Without saying a word, he slapped Li Le's mouth fiercely, scolding loudly while slapping him: "Your words are what you deserve!" Those two slaps were so strong that they broke the seal on Li Le's mouth in an instant.

This official scolded Li Le for his talkativeness, so Emperor Jiajing had nothing to say.In fact, this person is Li Le's student. At the critical moment, he "flattered" the holy will and saved his teacher.If he didn't go around this circle, but directly pleaded with Emperor Jiajing, Emperor Jiajing who was angry at that time might even punish him, and there would be no chance of rescue.It is precisely because he cleverly made a circle, seemingly standing on the side of Emperor Jiajing to condemn Li Le, but in fact he was opposing, and such opposition could make Emperor Jiajing have nothing to say. It seems that Li Le's this Students are much smarter than teachers in dealing with the world.

question in circles

There is a well-known female reporter in Italy named Oriana Farage. She can achieve achievements that many people cannot achieve, which is inseparable from her skillful questioning in circles.

Once, Farage was ordered to interview South Vietnamese President Nguyen Van Thieu.Nguyen Van Thieu's experience is quite strange, and he was once commented as "the most corrupt person in South Vietnam" by the outside world.Farage wants to know what Ruan Wenshao thinks about this comment.But if he asked directly, Ruan Wenshao would definitely not tell the truth.For this reason, the clever Farage dealt with the questions in sections, went around in a circle, and achieved his interview purpose in a tortuous way.

Farage first asked Nguyen Van Thieu: "You were not born rich, but poor, right?"

Ruan Wenshao admitted with emotion, and began to describe with emotion the poverty he faced in his childhood, and how he became a talent through his own efforts.

Farage then asked: "Today, you are extremely wealthy. You have your own real estate and bank deposits in London, Switzerland, Paris, and Australia. Is this the case?"

Ruan Wenshao denied it, but the road ahead had already been paved. It was impossible for him to say that he still had nothing, so he could only selectively confess his "little family property".As for whether Ruan Wenshao is corrupt or not, maybe we don’t need a direct answer. Just look at the list he made, and you will know a thing or two.

Farage successfully concealed his real purpose in the interview. First, he used an almost adoring tone to make Ruan Wenshao smug, exposing his change from poverty to wealth, and then pointing out his asset status sharply, making him feel helpless. There is no way to retreat, but to respond.

It can be seen that talking in circles is an art. In many cases, its power is huge. It not only allows you to hide your true inner thoughts, but also allows you to get the answers you want.

When you are weak, you might as well be hypocritical
When you get along with gentlemen, you can be open and frank, when you get along with villains, you should keep a certain distance, and when you get along with people who want to harm you, the more thoughtful the better.In life, you will always face some unfavorable situations. The more you see the situation clearly, the more effectively you can avoid disasters.Learn to be hypocritical, pretend to deal with it, and hide your true thoughts in order to keep safe.

The Ghost of Daze "Deputy Snake"

"Eastern Zhou Dynasty Chronicles" records such a story: Qi Huangong, the monarch of Qi State in the Spring and Autumn Period, once encountered a strange thing. Once, he encountered a ghost while hunting beside the Daze. After returning home, he was depressed and lay down. I can't get up.The prime minister, Guan Zhong, was very anxious, and looked around for an expert, wanting to know what kind of ghost Duke Huan of Qi had encountered.Later, a man with lotus quails came to the door automatically, saying that he knew who the ghost Duke Huan met was.

Let me first talk about what this "Hanging Quail with Lotus Lie" means.Lotus hat means wearing a bamboo hat; hanging quail means wearing tattered clothes.It was such a shabby-looking person who confidently talked to Duke Huan of Qi.

Duke Huan of Qi asked him, "Are there really ghosts?"

He said: "Of course there are. There are 'Wangxiang' (a water monster in ancient legends) in the water, '峷' (a beast in ancient legends) in the hills, and 'Kui' (a beast in ancient legends) in the deep mountains. There is a dragon-like beast), there is a 'Wandering' (a worm in ancient legends) in the wild, and there is a 'Commissioned Snake' (a snake in myths and legends) in Daze. They are all ghosts with different shapes, and each is in charge of its own territory. "

Duke Huan of Qi continued to ask: "Then describe to me how you behave like a snake."

The man said: "This snake is as thick as a wheel and as long as a long shaft. Its body is purple and its head is red. It hates the sound of thunder. Every time it hears the sound of thunder, it will raise its head and stand up." , standing still. It is very difficult to see a snake, and those who see it will definitely be able to dominate the world."

Duke Huan of Qi was so happy, he stood up immediately, and said vigorously, "This is exactly the ghost I saw." His voice was loud and he didn't see his previous sickness at all.

This is the legend about the ghost of Daze, "Wui Snake". Using it to explain "Xu Yu Wei Snake" can be intuitively understood as using illusory ghosts and gods to deal with people, talking nonsense, and pretending to be perfunctory.

Perhaps this shabby man with a lotus lily hanging a quail clearly knows that there are no ghosts in the world, and the so-called ghosts are nothing but human hearts.So he spoke in the direction that Duke Huan of Qi wanted to hear, emphasizing that only those who will dominate the world in the future can see the ghost named "Commitment Snake". He also supported Duke Huan of Qi's ambition with the theory of ghosts and gods.

Whether Duke Huan of Qi really saw a ghost, no one is sure, but Duke Huan of Qi said that he saw it, and no one dared to refute it.Because of this, this poor man knew that as long as he told the truth, even if it was a lie, he would not be punished.So he put Duke Huan of Qi in a unique position. Why did Duke Huan of Qi see this ghost but no one else?Because no one else is qualified to see it.In the end, those who "falsely and submissively" were rewarded generously.

When dealing with people, we all hope to face them with a sincere attitude and hope to get a sincere response, so that we don't need to guess people's hearts, and we don't have to bother to think of strategies or calculations.However, things in the world are often not as expected. As the saying goes, "When water is clear, there will be no fish, and when people observe it, there will be no disciples." It is impossible for all aspects of life to be clear and flawless.Sometimes, in the face of a situation that is not good for you, it is a good thing to learn to be hypocritical and submissive.

Hypocrisy and obedience to preserve life
The attendant of Emperor Ming in the Eastern Jin Dynasty was called Wen Qiao. He was scheming, had a sharp eye for people, but was very gentle with others. He was deeply loved and relied on by Emperor Ming. He would consult with him on all important matters.

The general Wang Dun supported his own self-respect, so he hated Wen Qiao for being trusted by Emperor Ming, so he went to the emperor to ask Wen Qiao to be appointed as his left Sima, intending to wait for an opportunity to get rid of Wen Qiao.

Wen Qiao is a smart person, and he knows Wang Dun's thoughts well. In order to avoid the disaster of killing himself, he knows that he must take action.During his tenure under Wang Dun, he was very courteous and attentive. He not only cared about the affairs of Wang Dun's mansion, but also often offered some useful strategies to Wang Dun to cater to Wang Dun, which made Wang Dun feel bad about himself. Good impression.

Not only that, but he also consciously made friends with Wang Dun's only confidant - a man named Qian Feng, who often asked Qian Feng for advice, and complimented Qian Feng's knowledge and conduct as "unmatched in the world".

Qian Feng knew Wen Qiao well, knew that Wen Qiao was very famous, and people praised Wen Qiao for his ability to read faces because of his knowledge, so his compliments on Wen Qiao were very useful, and he gradually relaxed his guard against Wen Qiao. And he often speaks well of Wen Qiao in front of Wang Dun.

Seeing that his cronies also appreciated Wen Qiao, Wang Dun naturally let down his guard slowly, and even began to trust Wen Qiao.

Soon after, Danyang Yin resigned, and the post of Danyang Yin became vacant.Wen Qiao then said to Wang Dunjin: "Danyang is very important to Kyoto. It is comparable to a human throat. It must be managed by a very capable person. If the person sent is not suitable, I am afraid it will be difficult to be a great leader. .”

Wang Dun asked Wen Qiao what he meant, and Wen Qiao recommended Qian Feng.

Afterwards, Wang Dun asked Qian Feng the same question again, because Wen Qiao recommended Qian Feng, whether it was out of face or their personal relationship, Qian Feng recommended Wen Qiao in turn.This is just in line with Wen Qiao's original intention, he is eager to leave this dangerous place as soon as possible.

Wang Dun thought about it, and finally decided to recommend Wen Qiao to the court as Danyang Yin, and told Wen Qiao to secretly observe the movement in the court and report to himself at any time.

Wen Qiao's date was approaching, in order to prevent Qian Feng from persuading Wang Dun to recall him as soon as he left, he pretended to be drunk at a banquet to annoy Qian Feng on purpose.The two started fighting at the wine table, and it was Wang Dun who finally came up to persuade them to pull them apart.Seeing Qian Feng's indignant expression, Wen Qiao knew that he had achieved his goal.

In a blink of an eye, it was the day of parting, and Wang Dun personally saw Wen Qiao off.After a while of reluctant farewell, Wen Qiao took a step forward, and suddenly he turned around and knelt on the ground to kowtow goodbye to Wang Dun. With tears in his eyes, he repeatedly expressed his reluctance. He went out and turned back three times, as if he wanted to be with his dearest relatives. Life and death were like farewell, Wang Dun was so moved that his eyes were a little red.

Sure enough, as Wen Qiao expected, just as the sound of his carriages and horses disappeared, Qian Feng said in front of Wang Dun: "Wen Qiao is the emperor's favorite, and he will betray our plan after leaving. This person has a great relationship with the emperor." There are so many clues, it is really unbelievable.”

(End of this chapter)