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Chapter 45 Hiding yourself and making others impeccable (4)
Su Buwei knew that if the assassination failed the first time, Li Hao must have been prepared, and it would be almost impossible to attack again in the future, so he ran to the Li family's cemetery, dug the grave of Li Hao's father, and held the dead man's head Take it to the market to show the public.

Li Hao was heartbroken when he heard about this, but he was powerless to stop it.After losing his concubine and his beloved son, and because of his actions back then, the old father who was buried in the ground was disturbed and humiliated. Li Hao was filled with grief and indignation. He repented and vomited blood and died not long after.

Li Hao was cruel enough to put people to death because of a trivial matter back then. He might not have expected that many years later he would suffer the consequences of his own death, causing his family to be killed, his father to be dug up, and himself to die of hatred in the end. He was laughed at by the world. .

As for Su Buwei, the only goal in life is revenge.He lost his father, because he was full of hatred, he only thought about how to put Li Hao to death, and ignored his mother. Since he was 18 years old, he has not performed filial piety in front of his mother, and in the end he never got the chance to kill his enemy with his own hands. Instead, innocent people were killed.How meaningful is his life?
Taking a step back, if Li Hao showed mercy to Su Buwei's father Su Qian back then, instead of harming him, but making peace, then the two might have become friends, and the subsequent tragedy would not have happened.

And if Su Buwei didn't take hatred so seriously, and his way of revenge wasn't so extreme, then his life would be much more positive.

It's a pity that things don't have so many ifs, and personal vendettas ruined the lives of several people. In the end, we can't even judge who wins and who loses between the Su family and the Li family.But it is undeniable that they lost far more than they gained.

Harmony

During the period of Tang Gaozong, after the sudden death of the prince Li Hong, Tang Gaozong made Li Xian the prince.Li Xian was smart since he was a child, and he had the ability to remember books with a photographic memory, which was deeply loved by Emperor Gaozong of Tang Dynasty.Not long after Li Xian became the prince, Empress Wu Zetian's favorite minister Ming Chongyan was killed, and a large number of weapons happened to be found in Li Xian's prince's mansion.Wu Zetian was furious and urged Tang Gaozong to punish Li Xian for treason. Li Xian was not rehabilitated in the end and was exiled to Bazhou.

After Tang Gaozong died of illness, Prince Li Xian came to the throne and was soon deposed. Wu Zetian appointed his youngest son Li Dan as emperor to continue to control the government.Some veteran officials in the imperial court had seen Wu Zetian's ambitions, so they made a memorial to demand Li Xian's vindication, while they secretly gathered forces from various factions of the Li surname, and made two-handed preparations: if Li Xian was rehabilitated, they would go to the memorial to demand Li Xian's restoration. If not, then send masters to rescue Li Xian from Bazhou, gather Langya King to rebel, and directly promote Li Xian to prevent Jiangshan from falling into the hands of Wu Zetian.

Another faction in the court was Wu Zetian's nephews, who hoped that Li Xian would die unexpectedly in Bazhou and never appear in Chang'an again.In this way, they can rely on their relatives with Wu Zetian to exercise power in the court.

Wu Zetian was also very worried when he saw this situation. If he didn't handle it well, the Tang Dynasty might be shaken.In addition, Wu Zetian was unwilling to hand over power to someone surnamed Li, even if this person was his own son.So Wu Zetian called Di Renjie, wanting to hear the opinion of this capable minister.

Di Renjie didn't give any advice in front of Wu Zetian, he didn't even say a few words, but sent a picture written by himself on Wu Zetian's birthday - "peace is the most precious".This picture was framed by Wu Zetian and hung high in the hall. She understood that Di Renjie hoped that she could handle the two factions properly, otherwise the flames of war would ignite.

Wu Zetian didn't know this truth. As a mother, she couldn't bear to let Li Xian suffer, not to mention that Li Xian was probably framed, but this ambitious woman would do anything to remove any obstacles in her way. thing.Besides, the problem is really troublesome now. If Li Xian is pardoned at this time, it will prove that Tang Gaozong sentenced an unjust case.If Li Xian is taken back to the court and imprisoned, there may be problems halfway. Even if he comes back smoothly, as long as Li Xian is in the palace for a day, the ministers will definitely ask him to thoroughly investigate the case of the year and rehabilitate Li Xian , then you will always be passive.

After weighing many pros and cons, Wu Zetian handled this matter with the method of "peace is the most precious".Not long after, Li Xian committed suicide in exile, and it was rumored that it was her order.But no matter what the truth is, this result may be the best. It not only strangled the thoughts of those old ministers who wanted to help Li Xian to the top, but also suppressed the people with the surname Wu who were about to make a move, avoided the bloody war, and kept the Tang Dynasty The stability of her life, of course, also kept her status at the same time, and only then did she truly proclaim herself emperor later.

don't let it come out of your mouth
Facts have proved that it is easy to be involved in the struggle of interpersonal relationships by talking freely about others. Talking about others is tantamount to lowering your own standards.Just imagine how you would feel if you heard others talking about your own right and wrong from other people's mouths.Rumors stop at the wise. While you don’t casually talk about other people’s right and wrong, you might as well be a wise man and let the right and wrong you hear stop at you.

three sieves
The business tycoon Walden intends to invest 1000 million US dollars in a company. After inspecting the company's relevant situation, Walden decided to meet with the CEO of the company before discussing specific investment matters.

The two made an appointment to meet, and after chatting for a short time, the CEO sitting across from Walden began to complain to him that his employees were poor in ability, and that the vice president of the company was narrow-minded and could not tolerate others.

This meeting made Walden make a new decision-to cancel the plan to invest in this company on the grounds that the investment risk was too great.But as for what the risk is, Walden didn't tell the CEO clearly, but we can understand it, because the CEO actually gossips behind his back.As a leader, not only can't deploy and control the employees under him according to needs, but also complains about his subordinates in front of outsiders. This is indeed a less successful leader, and it is very likely that he is not a shrewd decision maker.

A scholar who lived in America mentioned some things in his biography, saying that when he was in the United States and Russia, none of the friends he got along with had ever said bad things about the third person in front of him, but he himself often made this mistake , express dissatisfaction and complaints in front of someone to another person who is not present.

Later, a Russian told him: "In our place, it is immoral to talk about one person with another." Since then, he has corrected this habit.

Not casually telling right and wrong is the virtue of being a human being, and not casually believing right and wrong is the wisdom of being a human being.

Once, a student of Socrates came to him out of breath and said, "Let me tell you something that you may never think of..."

The student wanted to play tricks and arouse Socrates' curiosity, but Socrates interrupted him and asked solemnly: "Has what you want to tell me passed through three sieves?"

The student was confused and shook his head.

Socrates told him: "When you want to tell someone something, you should filter it through at least three sieves in your heart. The first sieve is called truth, then ask yourself, what you want to tell me Is it real?"

The student replied: "I heard this from the street. Everyone is saying that. I don't know if it's true."

Socrates said: "Then you should use the second sieve to sieve it now. If this matter is not true, it should at least be well-intentioned. So is what you are going to tell me benevolent?"

The student bowed his head in shame and did not answer.

Socrates went on to say: "Now we use the third sieve to sieve. Even if the thing you are going to tell me is not so true, it may not be full of good intentions. So is it important?"

The student shook his head and said, "No."

"Since this matter is neither important, nor well-intentioned, and may not be true, then why do you need to tell me? Telling me will only increase our troubles."

The students buried their heads lower.

Socrates continued: "Actually, I just want to tell you, don't listen to those rumors or slander, because the person who spread these words is not out of good intentions to tell you. Since he will reveal other people's privacy, Right or wrong, naturally I will treat you like this."

Misfortune comes from the mouth
As the saying goes, "A good word warms the winter three times, and a bad word hurts others the cold June." Telling the truth will not only hurt others, but may also cause trouble for yourself.

When Zhang Ni first entered the workplace, she suffered such a loss.Director Qian of her department and Li Lin, the leader of the advertising department, did not get along. There seemed to be no major conflicts in the open, but secretly they were pinching each other. It was a trivial matter to form cliques, sow dissension, and frame people in the other camp. Such things have happened to people.Zhang Ni has just arrived here, and she doesn't know these "dark ghosts" at all.

Zhang Ni was able to join this unit because her uncle knew Director Qian well, so Director Qian treated her well.Moreover, Director Qian thought that Zhang Ni was able to come in, at least he had contributed to it, so Zhang Ni should automatically be classified as his own faction.

But Li Lin also admires Zhang Ni very much, because Zhang Ni is young, hard-working and energetic, much like herself ten years ago, so she takes extra care of Zhang Ni.

Zhang Ni didn't know that there was a conflict between the two, so she didn't feel too embarrassed for the time being.Once on a business trip with Director Qian, Director Qian intentionally or unintentionally mentioned Li Lin in front of Zhang Ni and complained a few words, but the content was only within the scope of work, and Zhang Ni didn't take it seriously.Later, during a meal with Li Lin, Li Lin suddenly asked Zhang Ni: "Did Director Qian say anything about me in front of you?"

Zhang Ni thought for a long time, and remembered what Director Qian said when she was on a business trip, so she told Li Lin these words without thinking.Due to the deep grievances, after hearing these words, Li Lin automatically magnified the severity dozens of times in her heart, and then angrily accused Director Qian of being wrong, and talked for a long time.

Later, Director Qian invited Zhang Ni and her uncle to visit her home, and asked Zhang Ni, seemingly unintentionally, "Did Li Lin say anything about me in front of you?"

In front of her uncle, Zhang Ni shook her head in embarrassment, so she had to repeat what Li Lin said.Now, Director Qian was furious.

Later, due to departmental competition disputes, the relationship between Li Lin and Director Qian deteriorated to the point of face-to-face conflict.In order to coordinate the relationship, the company leaders specially asked someone to come down for an unannounced visit, hoping to reconcile the relationship between the two parties.After some investigation, it was found that Zhang Ni was the only one leading the way, and those words of mutual accusation passed through Zhang Ni's mouth, which turned out to be Zhang Ni's "criminal evidence" of sowing discord.

In the whole company, Zhang Ni suddenly became a villain who provoked the relationship between her superiors. In the end, unable to bear all kinds of eyes, she submitted her resignation and left this troubled water.But the lesson is eternal, even though she was not the one who really slandered those two people, but she forgot the truth that disaster comes from mouth.It doesn't matter who said it first, but as long as you said it, it doesn't matter.

Some people are born to be gossips. They are smooth-tongued, super easy to get along with on the surface, and they seem reasonable, and they are also very righteous when interacting. This often lures those who don’t understand them to easily open their hearts to them and tell their hearts. talk.But when they turn around, they will spread the words of other people's hearts with embellishment, making others embarrassing.

How to get along with gossip

There are many gossips in the society, and there are many around us, so what should we pay attention to when we get along with such people?

First, be honest with yourself.

In life, it is impossible not to be discussed at all, and you may even talk about other people's rights and wrongs unintentionally.As far as the content of the discussion is concerned, it is not all bad comments, and there may also be some good comments.As far as motives are concerned, there are good intentions and malicious ones.If you hear right and wrong about you, don't get carried away because you are good, and don't be depressed, even brooding and angry because you are bad.Once the psychology is unbalanced, it is possible to do some stupid things, which is in the mind of the teller.

Second, you must be upright.

It is immoral to talk about others behind their backs. If your good friend talks about others in front of you, you have the obligation to stand up, point out that such behavior is bad, and help your friend get rid of this habit to prevent problems before they happen.Of course, the way of pointing out should not be too direct. When a friend says something bad about someone else, you can add some good things about that person to form a contrast, try to smooth the grievance in the complainer's heart, and also help to quickly change the topic.

Third, keep your mouth shut.

When getting along with people who like to tell stories, never say anything that involves other people's privacy and right and wrong, even if you don't have any emotional color, just state the facts, you should think twice.You can't even talk about things that have a stake in you, this is also to avoid leaving any excuses for tellers.If the other party chatters and you keep silent, or only answer with um, ah, etc., the other party will lose interest in speaking in a short time, so you can also avoid "ear disaster".

"A gentleman is magnanimous, and a villain is always close." A gentleman or a strong man lives for his own goals, he will not care about others' opinions, and he will not talk about others boringly.Only those who are weak will be swayed by the right and wrong discussions around them, and will want to use right and wrong to retaliate against right and wrong and muddy the water.

It's better to go straight than to win by roundabout

"Strategically, a long circuitous road is often the shortest way to achieve the goal." Harry, a famous British military strategist, said.In life, we can often realize that if we want to achieve a certain goal, we can't accomplish it directly, and sometimes, going straight will make things stiff instead.On the contrary, it is easier to reach the other side by taking a detour and dealing with the problem from another angle.

The king wants the minister to die, the minister has to die
During the Qianlong period of the Qing Dynasty, there was a famous orator named Ji Xiaolan, who was quick in thinking and eloquent.

Once, Emperor Qianlong wanted to test Ji Xiaolan to see how capable he was when he was bored.

Emperor Qianlong asked Ji Xiaolan: "Ji Aiqing, what do you think should be the explanation for the word 'loyalty and filial piety'?"

Ji Xiaolan replied: "The king wants his ministers to die, and the ministers have to die. This is loyalty; the father wants his sons to die, and the sons have to die. This is filial piety."

Emperor Qianlong immediately took the words and said, "Okay, then I want you to die now."

Ji Xiaolan knelt down immediately and shouted loudly: "I accept the decree!"

Emperor Qianlong asked again: "Then what method of death do you want?"

Ji Xiaolan said, "I jumped into the river and died."

Emperor Qianlong promised, of course he knew that Ji Xiaolan could not just die like this, his purpose was to see how Ji Xiaolan planned to break this deadlock.

Ji Xiaolan went out and came back in less than a quarter of an hour.

Emperor Qianlong asked with a smile: "Why didn't Ji Aiqing die, but turned back?"

Ji Xiaolan said: "When I jumped into the river, I met Qu Yuan. He won't let me die!"

"How do you say this?" Emperor Qianlong asked.

Ji Xiaolan replied: "I walked to the river and was about to jump down with my eyes closed when suddenly Qu Yuan appeared. He stopped me and told me, Xiaolan, what you did was really wrong. I thought, I jumped into the river back then because the king of Chu was fatuous and could not tolerate a courtier like me, so I had to die. But now the emperor is so wise, why did you die? If you really want to jump into the river, I trouble you to go back and ask Emperor, ask him if he is a foolish king. If he is like the King of Chu back then, it will not be too late for you to die."

After hearing this, Emperor Qianlong burst out laughing, patted the table and said, "Good job, Ji Xiaolan, you really are eloquent."

Even if Ji Xiaolan knew that Emperor Qianlong couldn't really let him die, he couldn't just ask foolishly when Emperor Qianlong gave the order: "Your Majesty, don't you really want me to die?" His escape route was blocked.Once the emperor has said his word, it is difficult to have any room for relaxation. Once the topic confronts head-on, it is difficult for both sides to turn back.So Ji Xiaolan adopted a roundabout strategy, first promised Emperor Qianlong to show the majesty of the emperor, and then used Qu Yuan's mouth to praise Emperor Qianlong as a wise emperor. Mingjun will not easily let his loyal subjects die unless Emperor Qianlong wants He admitted to the world that he was also a foolish king like the king of Chu.In this way, Ji Xiaolan not only saved Emperor Qianlong's face, but also saved herself from the need to die, and at the same time won the king's smile, which can be described as happy.

A little roundabout strategy, in exchange for such a good result, Ji Xiaolan is indeed a talent.

Chulong lobbying Queen Mother Zhao

In 265 BC, the State of Zhao was ruled by the Queen Mother Zhao.Qin State took advantage of Zhao State's unstable political situation and aggressively invaded Zhao State. Zhao State was weak and unable to resist the powerful Qin State, so it had to turn to Qi State for help.The State of Qi agreed to help the State of Zhao to fight the enemy together, but there was a condition that the Queen Mother Zhao's most beloved youngest son, Mr. Chang'an, should go to the State of Qi as a hostage before the State of Qi could send troops.

The Empress Dowager Zhao doted on Lord Chang'an so much that she refused without even thinking about it.However, the situation in Zhao State was critical at that time, and all the ministers came forward to remonstrate, hoping that the Queen Mother Zhao would let go of her personal feelings and put the country first.

As a mother, the Empress Dowager Zhao was reluctant to let her favorite young son suffer. Instead of listening to persuasion, she resolutely told the courtiers: "From now on, whoever mentions that Lord Chang'an is in front of me again If you want to be a hostage, I'll spit in his face." Now, the courtiers didn't dare to mention this matter anymore.

One day, Master Zuo touched the dragon and asked to see Queen Mother Zhao.Queen Mother Zhao knew that he must have come to persuade herself, so she was ready to spit on Chulong's face.Who knows that Chu Long didn't mention this matter, but started a family routine with Queen Mother Zhao in a leisurely manner.

"The old minister has a leg problem recently, and it's very inconvenient to walk, so he didn't come to the palace to see you. How are you, Queen Mother? The old minister is concerned about your health, has your appetite not decreased recently?"

(End of this chapter)