Fall in love with school, no longer tire of learning

Chapter 10: Reasons for Weariness of Studying (4)
social environment reasons

Generally speaking, today's social environment is good for students' personality development, and our society is more conducive to students' personality development than ever before.The problem lies in education, our education is still "two skins".Our parents and our teachers will all "lie" and say things that go against their conscience.

This is not entirely a matter of the morality of parents and teachers, but the reason why some educational concepts are too conservative, old-fashioned, and outdated.Our educational methods, educational thinking, educational forms, and educational content need to be improved in many aspects.The incompatibility with the cultural environment of social development makes modern education vague and blunt, pale and powerless.

This is an era of rapid development and an era of information diversification.

Many traditional things will inevitably be impacted, questioned, subverted, abandoned, and even replaced by new things in the course of development.There's nothing wrong with pushing the old and bringing forth the new.

Our traditional concepts must keep up with the development of the times.In other words, it is not that the environment is not conducive to the development of students' personality, but that we parents and teachers are not suitable for today's educational environment.In short, our educational philosophy does not match the environment in which our students grow up.

For example, this is an era of rapid development of information technology. Information technology has brought about a revolutionary change, and the use of computers has become a commonplace in life.However, you want students to put down the calculators in their hands and use abacus; you want your students not to surf the Internet, but to read thread-bound books in a regular manner... Does this kind of education still have vitality?
On the other hand, whether it is society, family, or kindergarten, any attitude of avoiding problems is unwise.There is nothing wrong with telling our students about social issues as they really are.

The impact of cultural development

Students' understanding of the world and changes in their psychological conditions come from three aspects of information deposition.These three areas are: family, school and society.

From 2004 to 2007, the central government invested 100 billion yuan in the reform of western education.Among them, revising the rules for children and implementing the "Law on the Protection of Minors" are the high attention and expectation for students as a resource body.

But for now, primary and secondary schools as basic education, the quality of teachers, school equipment, and teaching material resources are the "bottleneck" factors that restrict the development and transformation of student resources.

Judging from the admission line of college entrance examination scores, the enrollment scores of normal colleges (schools) are not very high, and they cannot attract outstanding students, which leads to insufficient teacher resource advantages. It is more difficult to improve.Coupled with the effects of some social factors, such as few opportunities for teachers to be promoted, low wages, and unemployment of spouses, etc., this "bottleneck" will become smaller, narrower, and more difficult to walk through.

The evaluation and recognition of the school by the whole society is based on the ratio of the number of people who are admitted to key middle schools and universities as the only criterion, regardless of how enlightened the students are in the school, how much influence they have, and how much survival they have after entering the society. , Adaptability to measure.

Because of this abnormal social and psychological influence, those who are admitted to key middle schools and key universities are good students, and those who are admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University are regarded as the favored children of heaven, with a bright future, respected by others, and high-quality resources recognized by the society.But the students who have not been admitted to the university are not the resources of the country?Should they commit suicide and disappear?Just think about sitting in a sedan chair: everyone likes to sit in a sedan chair rather than lift one, but if everyone lifts a sedan chair or sits in a sedan chair, what will the result be?This is a question that our society needs to think about.

In today's information age, the Internet, TV, movies, magazines, etc., transmit huge and complex information day and night for their own economic purposes.It is often combined with adult entertainment and learning, and displayed in front of students in a liberalized way of communication.

Because students have limited ability to identify and grasp information, and are more complicated by the influence of the media, they have reference, fantasy, exclusiveness and ambiguity to love, sex, ethics, morality, career, future, etc.

根据有关调查得知：学生“对于目前在学校学习”自己想学的占56%（男女比例各半）；家长要我学的占3%；讨厌这样学习的占9%（其中男生占74%、女生占26%）；对学习无所谓的占17%（男女比例各半）。

Therefore, directly or indirectly affected by the social environment, the fragility, blindness, limitation and instability of students' psychology are fully manifested, which makes students doubt and feel confused about their future.This is a very dangerous psychological phenomenon.

At present, there are too many phenomena of "forcing" others with one's own thoughts.For example, in the perspective of parents and schools, adults often regard students as "replicas" of personal desires, or the performance and implementation of personal goals, and regard them as their own "private property". The comparison between the students, the pressure from all walks of life and their own loss are all implicated or affected the students.

"If one person gets to the point, the whole family (school) is honored!" This kind of slogan and phenomenon is really common.What the society gives students is not a relatively "free space, a sincere environment", but a "self (individual or collective), desire (hope or intention), determination (plan or goal), limit (regulation or sanction), than (contrast or show off)" in the form of a repressive and coercive means to achieve personal intentions.Such a phenomenon, such an environment, how can students be regarded as a resource body?

Due to the impact of the market economy, the material and spiritual life of the society is improving and changing day by day. Coupled with various forms of cultural life, some families have been dissociated and reorganized, resulting in drastic changes in the mood and psychology of students.

According to the survey, 85% of juvenile offenders come from single-parent families and reorganized families, and 70% of the places where they spend their time are Internet cafes.Students "5+2=0" (No matter how rich and progressive the 5-day school education is, once the 2-day Saturday and Sunday rest are added, the students will enter the social environment without restraint, and the educational results of the first 5 days will cause serious problems. 0) sometimes occurs.Students' understanding and judgment of things in the social environment are determined by the amount of "material accumulation".Therefore, the social environment has strong plasticity and inductiveness to students.

interpersonal environment

Many parents always unilaterally believe that the Internet has poisoned students, especially online games, and many schools once advised students not to use the Internet.However, the research conclusions of scholars are just the opposite: Internet addiction is only a surface, and behind it is the deep-seated psychological problems of students.

"Internet addiction is a deformed problem in China. It is a comprehensive reflection of many complex problems in China." The key to this problem lies in education.Our education must keep up with the pace of the times, otherwise young people will not be able to stand it, and our nation will pay the price for it.

The core factor causing Internet addiction is the single evaluation system in schools.In our primary and secondary schools, the core evaluation system is grades.

Teenagers with internet addiction are on the rise
Another reason, according to Gao Wenbin, a scholar of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, is the lack of a frame of reference during growth.Today's children are only in class at school, and their parents pick them up after school, and they don't have time to play with their friends.In school it is 10 minutes between classes.But on the Internet, he suddenly found that he had so many friends, so he turned to the Internet.

There are also problems with the school's curriculum.All the courses of our current school education are set according to the growth law of female students, emphasizing memory and repetition, and there are no competitive and wild things that male students like.In China, Internet addiction is mainly caused by online games, which has a lot to do with it.The game is all about fighting monsters and leveling up, and it provides this kind of competitive, seemingly wild thing, which is very attractive to male students.On the contrary, female students are especially less addicted, because female students are generally not interested in these, and there is currently no content on the Internet that particularly attracts female students.

However, Chinese teenagers all grew up in such an environment, and not all of them are addicted to the Internet. There are individual problems and environmental problems.

Unhealthy family is the leading factor of Internet addiction.First of all, both parents of Internet addicted teenagers generally have at least one neurotic perfectionist.Such parents accuse and criticize students for a long time, which undermines students' self-confidence.In this way, once students make mistakes, they turn to the Internet for comfort.

Secondly, most of the fathers of students with Internet addiction lack function. Fathers played a very small role in the growth of students, failing to show the majesty, strength and security of fatherly love.Many fathers are so busy with their jobs that they don't have time to spend with their students.The father plays a very important role in the formation of the child's control. Once the father's function is lost, the student's self-control will have problems.

Education is the key and cornerstone of a person's healthy growth, and it is a complex and systematic project.A complete, comprehensive and sound education should be composed of three parts: family, school and society.In China, however, the division and defects of education, especially the weaknesses and drawbacks of family education are fully exposed.With the birth and growth of students, the contradictory, one-sided and strangled nature of education can not be ignored in front of us.

In the face of contradictions, if there is no proper solution, then there is only one result, which is the compromise of the students on one side of the contradiction.Students choose to surf the Internet, skip classes, get tired of studying, and even fall in love, all of which are silent struggles—an extreme line that combines reason and impulsiveness.

This kind of polarization is intensifying. On the one hand, students grow up rapidly, and interpersonal relationships such as new environments and new friends are constantly established and stabilized. On the other hand, parents are unfamiliar with students and do not understand them more and more.I often don't see each other, and after meeting, I just say a few polite words in a calm manner.In the end, students become the strangers that parents are most familiar with. What is familiar is the past of the students; what is strange is the spirit and future of the students.

Personality and the role of peers

Psychological research has confirmed that a good personality and emotional state can help students think better and deal with problems.

Students with learning-weary behaviors often have psychological states such as anxiety, sensitivity, depression, and sensitivity. These states often affect the speed and accuracy of thinking, making it difficult for students to develop their own normal levels, reducing the speed of learning and efficiency, and causing problems in class. , Homework and exams lack of positive thinking.

If coupled with the original weak knowledge base, poor physical condition, poor study habits, personality defects, poor ability to be frustrated, lack of self-confidence, lack of motivation and perseverance in learning, it is easy to cause learning lag.

At the same time, weariness is diffuse and contagious.If the partners who often interact with each other are tired of learning, it will have a bad influence on the students.

Their erroneous views, bad psychological reactions and interpersonal relationships, etc., infect the surrounding students, easily pollute the learning atmosphere of the class, encourage students to be tired of learning, and have very serious side effects on students.

puberty love

Students themselves lack learning ideals and beliefs, and the surrounding environment is full of "study is useless". Even if parents have expectations for him, he does not have any pressure or motivation.

At the same time, puppy love is a "good thing" that students can easily find and be interested in, so as to deviate from the learning track.

Puppy love refers to the premature love behavior of teenagers who are unable to support themselves and are much younger than the legal marriage age.This is a controversial concept.Most educators in China believe that falling in love among primary and middle school students is a premature behavior that does not meet their age characteristics and should be stopped.

The characteristics of puppy love behavior can be summarized as four aspects: obscurity, simplicity, difference and instability.Because teenagers often blindly imitate the love of adults, and cannot distinguish the essential difference between friendship and love, most middle school students think that "puppy love is harmless" is just a kind of affection, not for the purpose of marriage.In recent years, a large number of premarital sex, teenage pregnancy and teenage mothers have occurred abroad, which is the root cause of the problem of puppy love.The root causes of puppy love are mainly related to the misleading of social rumors and mass media's promotion of sexual freedom, the lack of correct sex education in families and schools, and early puberty.The development of sexual physiology leads to the awakening of sexual consciousness. Teenagers' sense of mystery about sex arouses their desire to explore and try; parents and teachers' sensitivity to puppy love and blindly stopping them will strengthen their rebellious psychology; in the current information-advanced In this era, middle school students receive a large amount of sex-related information from various mass media, and their field of vision expands dramatically, turning hazy sexual awareness into a conscious pursuit.

Teenagers' puppy love generally goes through the following stages: ① Determine the target.Start to pay attention to a certain opposite sex and think about it silently. At this stage, there may be expressions of eyebrows and glances.Some middle school students' puppy love only stagnates at this stage and becomes "unrequited love". They dare not associate with the opposite sex they like, and they will also form emotional disorders, which will affect normal life and study. ② Take action.Middle school students of the opposite sex write love letters, pass notes, give small gifts, etc., which are expressions of affection for a certain opposite sex.At the same time, there may be dating behaviors, such as going to the park together, watching movies, traveling, etc. ③Frequent appointments.Gradually enter one-on-one relatively stable dating, possibly openly, and it seems that the "love" relationship has been confirmed. ④ Have sex.Although it is a small number, there has been an increasing trend in recent years, especially among students in vocational high schools, technical secondary schools, and technical schools.Because I think I am about to enter the society and I am already an adult, I have relatively more premarital sex than ordinary middle school students.However, because educators are not unified in terms of sexual concepts and educational methods, the definition of puppy love tends to expand, and healthy heterosexual intercourse in adolescence is often labeled as puppy love, which also brings difficulties in education.For example, spontaneous group and collective activities of middle school students are the manifestation of adolescence clusters; mutual help and care between opposite sexes, occasional individual activities; friendship between peers, childhood sweethearts, etc., are not necessarily puppy love.

Many investigations and studies have proved that healthy heterosexual communication in adolescence is beneficial to the physical and mental growth of middle school students, and should be supported and understood.The best way to reduce puppy love is to advocate and promote middle school students to take the initiative to interact with the opposite sex, live in harmony like brothers and sisters, so that their attention and curiosity about the opposite sex can be reasonably satisfied.The problem of puppy love needs further research and exploration.Relevant experts believe that carrying out sex education during adolescence in the upper grades of primary schools and middle schools is the fundamental measure to prevent puppy love.

Other problems are mainly the temptation to be obsessed with the Internet and games, etc., leading to weariness of learning.

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