Fall in love with school, no longer tire of learning

Chapter 11 The disease and coping behind the weariness of learning (1)
Are you nervous?

The famous writer Sun Li wrote at the beginning of the short article "Red Cross Hospital" published in June 1986: "In the autumn of 6, my illness seemed very serious, like a ball that suddenly deflated, and I had no energy at all. Now, the color of the sky and the earth has also darkened in my eyes, and I feel that I am going to die, and I am very pessimistic. In fact, this is a manifestation of long-term insomnia and neurasthenia to the extreme." This description can be said to be that of a neurasthenia patient. "Confession" and "Chief Complaint" are just a few strokes, which make part of the thoughts and feelings of the neurasthenia patient vividly on the paper.

"Neurasthenia" as a name for mental illness was first proposed by Beard of the United States in 1868.He believes that neurasthenia is mainly due to excessive physical and mental fatigue, which causes the central nervous system to be stimulated and weakened, which is manifested as very sensitive and easy to fatigue.

Generally speaking, there are 4 kinds of people who are prone to neurasthenia.

(1) People who lack self-confidence.Such people have no confidence in doing anything and are highly dependent.I know a young woman who is already a sophomore in college, but she has to "ask" her mother for instructions on what to wear and what to eat. She has no independent mind and lacks independent consciousness and independent action.She suffers from neurasthenia and often suffers from insomnia.

(2) People with obsessive personality.This type of person is overly perfectionistic and always feels that things are not perfect.I know a middle-aged doctor who studies hard, has excellent medical skills, and enjoys prestige among patients.But he has a "problem" that can't be changed, that is, he has to wash his hands with soap endlessly, lest his hands are not clean and have infectious germs.He also suffers from neurasthenia and often suffers from insomnia.

(3) People with melancholic personality.This type of person is always unhappy at every turn.

(4) People with hysterical (commonly known as "hysteria") personality.Such people are self-centered, pursue vanity, and cannot restrain their desires.

Neurasthenia is closely related to occupation and type of work.People who are engaged in mental work are generally several times more likely to suffer from neurasthenia than those who are engaged in physical work.According to some surveys, college students in physical education colleges rarely suffer from neurasthenia; however, high school students who are preparing to apply for university have the highest incidence of neurasthenia, and it tends to increase year by year as the fierce competition for the college entrance examination increases.From this simple investigation, we can see that neurasthenia is encephalopathy, a disease caused by "excessive" or improper use of the brain, which causes serious brain dysfunction.

From the point of view that neurasthenia is a serious disorder of brain function, it can be determined that in three cases, it is possible to suffer from the disease of neurasthenia: ① If you have been engaged in mental work intensely for a long time, but you do not strive for or cannot obtain brain function ②If you suffer from strong mental trauma, but you don’t fight or get comfort and counseling; ③If you are depressed and sad, but you don’t fight or don’t get warmth and care.In these cases, it is possible to suffer from neurasthenia.

What should I do if I have neurasthenia?One is not to be overly nervous and anxious; the other is to carry out drug treatment and psychological treatment in a timely manner without delay.The best way is to reasonably arrange the time of study, work and life, pay attention to the balance between work and rest, be tight and loose, don't stretch your spirit like a full bow, relax your mind and ease your emotions.Generally speaking, after one hour of intense mental work, you should take a walk and exercise your body. It is best to do simple gymnastics in a fresh air area.Experiments have shown that doing this for 1 minutes can increase endurance by more than 10%, and shorten the time to eliminate fatigue by more than 15%.You see, isn't this kind of rest not only not "wasting" time, but also saving time because of improving work efficiency! ?As for how to prevent neurasthenia, there are two ways to try: ①Maintain a comfortable and happy mood, think freely and let go, and not be troubled by worries; ②Cultivate a good habit of doing sports every day, rain or shine.If you are good at adjusting and stabilizing your own thoughts and emotions, coupled with persistent physical exercise, increasing the alternating process of brain excitement and inhibition, then I can say with full confidence that the problem of neurasthenia will escape from you. Instead of feeling fatigued and drained, you'll feel refreshed and energized.

Be wary of nervous breakdowns
There is a Chinese saying that goes, "A soldier's defeat is like a mountain falling."The meaning is very clear. It is a metaphor for two armies at war. Once one army is defeated, it will often fall apart like an avalanche.It's like playing dominoes. The cards are arranged in a matrix at a certain distance, and as long as one domino is knocked down, a chain reaction will be triggered quickly, and all the dominoes will be knocked down one by one in an instant.

There is a famous battle in Chinese history called "Battle of Feishui".Qin King Fu Jian led an army of 90 to attack the Eastern Jin Dynasty. In the Feishui area, he was defeated by Jin soldiers with only 1/20 of his strength.As a result, Fu Jian and his soldiers were terrified and fled.It's really jittery, and the grass and trees are all soldiers.The hundreds of thousands of troops of the Qin State scrambling to escape in this battle example are precisely the psychological "domino effect".This effect is also common in life.When a team is defeated by others, it is not psychologically prepared for setbacks, and it often loses in a row and fails to recover. This is what people often say is a lack of psychological training.Similarly, when a person suffers a failure, sometimes there will be a "domino effect", feeling that everything is over for him, like a deflated ball, discouraged, and has no fighting spirit.

Teen friends, when you encounter setbacks, failures or misfortunes in something, you should be alert to the appearance of this psychological "domino effect" and prevent it from destroying your spiritual defense.In life, those who are shrouded by the "domino effect" are mostly caused by loss of confidence or lack of confidence, and are often easily intimidated by setbacks and failures.Confidence is a good quality of personality and a loyal guardian of spiritual defense.The firmer and more confident your confidence is, the stronger your mental defenses will be and the less likely they will be destroyed.If you observe carefully, you will find that some people around you are not without ambition, nor are they willing to lag behind and have no enterprising enthusiasm, but they often cannot turn their good wishes into actions and let time pass by their side in vain. Minutes passed by, and in the end, nothing was achieved.What is the reason?The problem is a lack of firm faith.Whenever I encounter setbacks, I complain about my bad luck, and I don’t believe that I can make a career out of it, and I don’t believe in my ability.I advise these friends to "don't wait to turn your youth's head white, and be sad"!
There was a scholar named Liu Xie in ancient China.He lost his parents since he was a child, and his life was very hard.But he has great ambitions, loves reading, and wants to make himself a scholar.When he became an adult, in order to study knowledge, he decided not to marry, and moved to live with monks in the temple, helping the temple during the day, and studying hard at night in the quiet environment of the temple.Several springs and autumns, several winds and rains, persisted for more than 10 years, read a lot of literature and books, wrote a lot of reading notes, and finally wrote my country's first literary theory with the most complete system - "The Literary Mind and Carving Dragons" ".This book is called the treasure of Wenyuan by later generations, and it still has research value.Young friends, Liu Xie's success lies in his good wishes, firm confidence and practical spirit.Later generations once praised and said: "The key to "Wen Xin Diao Long" lies in the word 'heart'. If you can study it with concentration and confidence like Liu Xie, what else can't be done!"

Of course, confidence is not everything.Things will not be less difficult and failure will not come just because you have confidence.Confidence, however, is a powerful psychological motivator that motivates people to forge ahead.Faith is a kind of spiritual power, which can make you despise difficulties, overcome evil, and encourage you to concentrate all your wisdom and energy to meet various challenges.A person with firm confidence is not arrogant in victory, not discouraged in defeat, and can keep a clear head.When a person collapses in the face of difficulties, the first is that the spirit loses its support.The spirit of not breaking down is an important guarantee for the success of any career.

Another important function of confidence is that when you face failure, it can compensate your aggressiveness in time, so that it can be regenerated in a new direction without falling into the magic circle of "domino effect".In short, the compensatory effect of faith can give people courage and inspire new hope.As the saying goes, "There is no light in the east, and there is light in the west", "Water roads are not open to dry roads", and "there is no unparalleled road in the sky".As long as you persevere with confidence, you will always see the dawn of success.

Young friends, the road of life is broad.If you encounter any setbacks or misfortunes in your study or life, you must not blame others, hang your head down, and disarm yourself mentally.Complaints and incompetence, distress and discouragement often go hand in hand.The more you complain, the less you can find a way to overcome difficulties; the more distressed you are, the less courage you have to make progress.The important thing is to cheer up, think calmly, and seek new directions to make up for it.Some people are ashamed of being inferior to others because of their poor brains, while others are pessimistic and disappointed because of their physical disabilities.In fact, there is no need.The ruler is short and the inch is long, so people should not underestimate themselves.There was a black painter in the United States who was quadriplegic, but he was unwilling to spend his days being bored. He was determined to learn painting. He could not move his hands, so he used his mouth to hold a brush to paint. After hard practice, he finally learned how to paint.Zhang Haidi in our country also has severe physical disabilities, but through her own hard work, she compensated for her physical defects and achieved outstanding results.As the saying goes, "Stupid birds fly first" and "diligence can make up for clumsiness".Stupid brains can be compensated by hard work.It is said that Darwin, Einstein, Hua Luogeng, and Zhang Guanghou were not smart when they were young. They all achieved outstanding achievements in their careers through diligence and self-confidence.

In short, failure and setbacks are not terrible. What is terrible is that when encountering setbacks and failures, you lose confidence and your spiritual defense line is destroyed.Believe that people have great potential. The problem is to be good at tapping your potential, develop your strengths, and make up for your shortcomings. Then, you will always find a suitable position in the band of life, so that you can play in the music of life. In, play your beautiful melody.

Anorexia

School weariness is different from common weariness. Its main features are no interest in learning, seeing learning as a burden, taking learning to write as a painful thing, being unable to engage in normal learning activities, often playing truant or absenteeism, serious cause dropouts.There are many reasons for school weariness.From the perspective of external factors, there are mistakes in family education and school education, such as high expectations of parents, improper education methods, blunt attitude of teachers, and the influence of unhealthy social atmosphere; The psychological irritability, excitement, and uneasiness make them unable to calm down and study, and then hate learning.

Dizziness, headaches, and short tempers are common symptoms of school weariness.Anorexia is extremely harmful to the physical and mental health of young people.Many students have a poor learning foundation. Due to various reasons, after many efforts, they only get low scores and failures again and again. future and development.

High incidence of anorexia
Another summer vacation has passed, students have returned to the classroom again, and the rise of school weariness has become a topic that cannot be ignored.We learned from the Third Hospital of Peking University, Huilongguan Hospital, and Yuxinyuan Psychological Counseling Center that the number of adolescents suffering from school-weariness who came to hospitals or private psychological counseling centers for psychological treatment in recent years is on the rise, and accounts for all kinds of mental illness among adolescents. about 30%.

Zhao Chenbin, a psychiatrist at Huilongguan Hospital, told reporters that school weariness accounts for about 30% of various mental illnesses among teenagers, and most of them are adolescent junior high school students.Analysis of the crux of weariness is mainly due to the lack of sense of responsibility of students.

According to Associate Professor Wu Rengang from the Psychology Department of the Third Hospital of Peking University, there are several reasons why teenagers hate going to school, and even suffer from school weariness.

(1) The family does not cultivate students' sense of responsibility, making students think that learning is for their parents, and they do not feel that learning has any important relationship with their own lives.

(2) Parents put tremendous pressure on students, which exceeds the ability of students to bear.

(3) For students who lose interest in face-to-face learning, parents should not rush to criticize, communicate with students calmly, and overcome psychological obstacles with students.

(4) Parents should not arrange everything at home, but pay attention to cultivating students' sense of responsibility.

prodigy suffering from anorexia

Congcong (pseudonym), now 6 years old, already knew how to recite many ancient poems when he was 3 years old.He likes swimming, speaking and calligraphy. He has won many competitions at a young age and is called a "little prodigy" by his neighbors.But because of too much pressure, Congcong eventually suffered from school weariness.

He has shown amazing learning talent since he was a child, and he is called a "child prodigy".But he has recently suffered from school weariness, saying that he doesn't want to go to school anymore.

According to Cong Cong's mother, her son likes the piano, so she and her husband bought him a piano and practiced with him for more than 4 hours every day.The son's piano playing became better and better, and they began to take him to participate in competitions again, and stipulated that he should take a place in each competition. "He later fell in love with swimming, and I specially hired a swimming coach to guide him." Congcong's mother said that before entering elementary school, Congcong participated in many classes such as piano, hip-hop, drum set, and speech.No matter what she studies, she requires Congcong to be at the top of the class, and she is very keen to take her son to participate in various competitions.

The huge pressure made Cong Cong, who was originally very interested in learning, eventually became tired of studying, and refused to go to study classes any more. Once, he even kicked and beat the piano at home.In elementary school, Congcong didn't listen to the lectures at all, and began to find various excuses not to go to school, and his test scores kept falling behind other students.

In desperation, the parents had no choice but to bring Congcong to the psychological clinic for treatment.Li Yanling, Director of the Psychology Outpatient Department of Anshan Central Hospital, said that the child suffered from school weariness. "It can be said that the child's psychological problems are largely related to the excessive pressure from the parents. I hope that the parents can calm down and use the correct method educate children."

Causes of school weariness in children
1. The limitations of learning itself

Learning is a series of complex mental activities, which requires a lot of mental effort.And this kind of thing that requires mental effort is accompanied by a high degree of mental tension, which will inevitably lead to psychological fatigue over time.At the same time, learning is also a long-term cycle, and it cannot be completed overnight.No matter what kind of work you do, after a long time, you will be more or less bored. Students start from the first grade of elementary school and continue to study hard for more than ten years, or even longer.Therefore, the limitations of learning itself make students feel mentally tired, which leads to weariness.

2. Students' learning motivation is insufficient or unclear
In psychology, motivation refers to the internal psychological process or internal motivation that causes and maintains an individual's activities and makes the activities toward a certain goal.The lack of or unclear motivation of middle school students is extremely serious.The reasons are as follows: ①The influence of social unfavorable factors. "Learn mathematics, physics and chemistry well and travel all over the world", and the bad social atmosphere has also entered the school, affecting students' learning motivation. ② The influence of family factors.Affected by their parents and the phenomenon of "upside-down brain and body" in society, some students mistakenly believe that knowledge is not important, and it is not worthwhile to spend money on studying. ③The students themselves are not clear about why they study.Learning is to cope with parents or just to have books to read, but not to have your own ideals and aspirations.

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