Fall in love with school, no longer tire of learning

Chapter 14 Student Self-Guidance (1)
don't bother yourself
Every young person will have troubles, and they are all kinds of troubles."The Sorrows of Young Werther" written by the great German poet Goethe just talked about the troubles of young people in love.

In addition to the troubles caused by love, marriage and family, young people will also encounter all kinds of troubles in work, study and life in the long journey of life.Sometimes these troubles are "cutting constantly, and the reasoning is still chaotic", entangled your mind and upset you; sometimes they are like moths, gnawing at your mind endlessly, making you fall into the abyss of pain, powerless Extricate yourself.

Most of the normal troubles "happen for a reason", and you will always find the reason for the trouble.Except for the mentally disturbed, normal people don't get upset for no reason.However, from the perspective of mental health, most of the so-called "troubles" are found by themselves and "take care of". Therefore, troubles have a strong "subjectivity" and can be prevented and avoided.

Why do you say that troubles are mostly "self-inflicted"?Anxiety is a subjective emotional experience.For example, what annoys you may not cause the same emotional experience of annoyance to others; conversely, what annoys others may not necessarily cause you the same annoyance.The famous American writer Mark Twain, who is good at writing humorous novels, once said: "I know a lot of troubles. But most of them never happened!" That is to say, why bother to think about troubles, why bother to ask for troubles?

The things people are upset about are often things that didn't happen, or things that didn't actually happen.You can think about it, if a person is in a dangerous situation, will he think more about what he thinks is troublesome?If a person is busy doing one thing, he will not feel troubled, it can also be said that he "can't care about" troubles.Therefore, troubles can be avoided and eliminated.I advise young friends not to develop the thought habit of "what if... what will happen to me?", and not to waste your mental energy on situations that you are not prepared to deal with or do not need to deal with.

The past has passed, "all the past, let's look at the present".The future has not yet happened, so why learn to worry about it!The road to the future starts from where we stand now.Please don't let regret, remorse, guilt, and sad negativity corrupt your soul; don't worry about the future and sleep restlessly.I advise you to be an optimistic optimist and a realist who faces reality; get rid of all kinds of negative emotions, detach yourself, and be practical, you will feel that time and energy are not allowed to be there Taste the taste of troubles all the time.

If I advise you, please remember that there is a "forgetting" link in memory psychology. You can forget your troubles, erase them from your memory, and don't let troubles follow into a habit. When you are used to When you are constantly worrying, you don't have to worry about the habit of worrying, let it go, it will disappear by itself.You may respond to such a piece of advice to me with a bleak smile and say: "Ah, I just can't forget it!" Yes, there is such a law in the psychology of memory: intentional forgetting is very difficult.For example, we want to forget something intentionally, but we often just remember it.

You may have had this experience: people advised you to say "forget about him!"So what to do?Of course, I won't advise you to "find another new love"; you can put your energy into other areas and divert this "unforgettable" person.Because the road of life is long and broad, there are too many tasks waiting for us to make contributions, and time is extremely limited, if you are repeatedly disturbed by troubles, it will make you miss car, even missed the last bus, and this train will take you to the road to success.

How to get rid of troubles?From the perspective of mental health, there are two effective methods for reference.

(1) Write down the things you think trouble you one by one, analyze and deal with them.For example, if it is a matter that must be decided, you might as well write down both the positive and negative reasons, and then consider how to deal with it.If this happens, I do this; if that happens, I do that.

If it is possible to put it into practice immediately, it is better to do it immediately.The most unwise way is to procrastinate blindly.For example, if you decide to write a letter, rather than spend a night of worrying about it tonight, write it well that night so that you can get a good night's sleep.Don't waste your energy in vain, and use it as a hindrance to life, but cherish your energy and turn it into the driving force of life.

(2) Don't shy away from things that might annoy you.Face up to troublesome things, think about them calmly, and work hard to solve them.For the predictable things, determine a practical solution; for the unforeseen things, be mentally prepared to meet them with full enthusiasm and full confidence.

Say, for example, that you are going to climb a mountain.Before you get to this mountain, there is no need to think too much about it. When you really reach the foot of the mountain, you will often find that there are paths for climbing that you can't imagine. "The mountains and rivers are full of doubts and there is no way out, and the willows are dark and the flowers are bright and there is another village." Lu Xun wrote to Xu Guangping in 1925: "But I have never encountered a place full of thorns and nowhere to go. There is no such thing as a poor road, but fortunately I did not encounter it.”

Someone once did such a psychological experiment: Let two groups of people who are happy and sad read a story about a winner and a loser.It turns out that people who are happy are most concerned about the outcome of the winner, while those who are sad are most concerned about the fate of the loser.So the researchers concluded that pessimistic people tend to underestimate the value and significance of everything that happens to them; most of the things they recall are sad, which makes them more decadent, melancholy, boring.Therefore, I say that each of us should cultivate the faith of optimism, and don't ask for trouble.Only in this way can we completely get rid of negative troubles.

Happy reading

In the past, there was no way to boast, and now there is no limit to thinking.

The spring breeze is proud of horseshoe disease, seeing Chang'an flowers in one day.

This is a poem "After Enrollment" by Tang Dynasty poet Meng Jiao.The meaning of the poem is: the unhappy mood in the past is not worth talking about, but now I am free and carefree, my heart is full of infinite associations, and my thinking is quick.In the pleasant spring season, because of my complacent mood, I feel that the horse runs very fast. In one day, I can see enough flowers and beautiful scenery in Chang'an.

The poem writes that when people meet happy events, no matter what they do, they will be so excited, think lightly, act quickly, double their energy, and forget their tired emotions.We call this long-lasting emotional state state of mind, also called mood.

Moods can have a variety of causes.After the announcement of the important entrance examination in the student days, those who passed the exam are happy and happy; those who fail the exam are dejected, which is another kind of inner feeling.Some of them are easy to solve difficult problems after studying through their own hard work, and their grades are successful. The teacher praises them, and the classmates cast envious eyes, so they are naturally happy.Students who have repeatedly failed in their studies are depressed all day long.Teachers and students get along harmoniously, partners are like-minded, understand each other, help each other, and give people joy and comfort.

In nature, different seasons of warm spring, blooming flowers, continuous rain, high temperature and scorching heat, clear sky, fruitful fruits, and heavy snow will bring people different moods of joy, dullness, relaxation, and joy.

Good health makes people energetic, full of enthusiasm for learning, doubles their efficiency, excellent grades, and shows a happy mood.Frail and sickly, lethargic, unable to lift up the spirit, the mood is full of pessimism.

In addition, a person with lofty ideals, beliefs and world views, no matter whether he is in adversity or prosperity, will "not be happy with things, not sad with himself", always full of confidence, persevere in progress, and maintain an optimistic mood.Zhang Haidi, with lofty ideals and strong beliefs, overcame high paraplegia and misfortune in life, and is an optimistic and enterprising person.

A joyful, happy and positive state of mind inspires people, makes everything go well, and all difficulties are out of the question. It is easy to do everything and has a more enterprising spirit.The negative mood of pessimism and disappointment makes people listless, depressed, and feels that things are counterproductive everywhere, and even vent their anger on others, causing interpersonal tension.

Adolescents are the best time to learn knowledge and develop abilities. Maintaining a happy, optimistic and relaxed state of mind will enhance people's memory, activate thinking, give full play to their psychological potential, and make learning more effective.

The Vedas, a scripture taught by Indian Brahmanism, has 4 volumes, and the third volume alone has more than 3 words.The teaching allows the monks to have a super memory in a relaxed and happy state of mind, and remember these 15.3 volumes of Vedas.

A person's state of mind is good or bad, but also affect people's thinking and judgment.

The famous German chemist Ostwald received a paper that Betsius asked him to review and recommend one day when he had a toothache and his wife was about to have a baby.At that time, he took a rough look and felt that the paper was full of nonsense, so he threw it into the wastebasket.Two days later, his toothache was cured, and his wife gave birth to the baby safely. The chemist was very happy.At this time, when he found the paper on ionic solutions and reread it again, he was so surprised that he immediately wrote to a scientific journal to recommend this paper with new ideas and important value.Betsius was later awarded the Nobel Prize for this discovery.

The emotional characteristics of teenagers, especially young students, are strong and unstable.It is often when encountering happy things, you will be elated, unable to help yourself, and difficult to calm down. If you are slightly unsatisfactory, you will be downcast, frowning, and unhappy, which will affect your study and affect your health.Teenagers should understand their own emotional characteristics and maintain a healthy state of mind.

To maintain a good and healthy state of mind, you need to treat setbacks correctly.There are always ups and downs on the road of life, and there are always difficulties, failures, and even misfortunes in study, work, and life.What should we do in the face of ups and downs and setbacks? ①Facing setbacks bravely, as Lu Xun said, "Meet the tragic doom with a smile, and deal with all misfortunes with a hundredfold courage." In the face of the upheaval of life and the loss of his beloved son, Marx still insisted on "my career Although not prominent for a while, it will exist forever, and noble people will shed hot tears in the face of my ashes in the future" to engage in the greatest cause of mankind with optimism and courage. ② Learn lessons and see the light from lessons.When Einstein studied the unified field theory in his later years, he was not discouraged because 99 methods did not work, but saw 99 gains from 99 failures.This kind of broad mind and optimistic attitude inspires people to forge ahead from another angle. Difficulties and setbacks are just stepping stones on the road to development.In this way, joy, happiness, and eternal happiness will belong to you.

He who conquers himself is the greatest
As the saying goes: "People are valuable with self-knowledge." The so-called self-conquerment is to overcome one's own shortcomings and weaknesses, so as to achieve the purpose of enhancing one's own strengths, restraining one's own shortcomings, and making up for one's own deficiencies.

Psychology believes that in order to overcome the ego, one must have a clear self-awareness.Self-awareness is a person's understanding and evaluation of his own situation and behavior.For example, the status quo of one's own ideals, wishes, hobbies, knowledge and ability, strengths and weaknesses, advantages and disadvantages, temperament, personality, morality, and style.You must have a true understanding of yourself, so that you can adjust your thoughts and behaviors at any time, cultivate your moral character and style, exercise your will and character, increase your knowledge and talents, overcome your shortcomings and weaknesses, and make yourself better. Personality is constantly improved and developed to better adapt to changes in the surrounding environment and the needs of society.

A good sense of self is one of the important signs of a healthy personality.Nowadays, some young people tend to be blindly complacent and arrogant when they get a little achievement;All this shows that they lack correct self-awareness and cannot evaluate themselves and others objectively and fairly.A person who is capable and enterprising should constantly introspect, check his own deficiencies, and have the courage to correct his own shortcomings, only then can he make great progress.Everyone knows that there was a famous realist poet Bai Juyi in the Tang Dynasty of China. It is said that he was very smart since he was a child.He studied diligently, was sensitive and eager to learn, read until his mouth became sores, and wrote poems until his elbows became calluses. He became famous when he was young.But he is never complacent, and his creative attitude is very serious.Every time he composes a poem, he has to revise it repeatedly, and some poem drafts have been changed beyond recognition by him.He not only corrected it himself, but also often asked others to help him correct it, in order to keep improving and improve the quality of his poems.People in the Song Dynasty once recorded such a short story about him. Every time Bai Juyi wrote a poem, he would read it to an old lady first. After reading it, he would ask: "Do you understand?" on the notebook.If you say: "I don't understand." You must modify it until you are satisfied.This story shows that although Bai Juyi was a famous great poet, he was never conceited, and he was not ashamed to ask his subordinates in order to obtain poetic clarity and common sense.

Conquering yourself requires not only strict self-discipline, but also a truthful evaluation of yourself.If self-evaluation is too high, one will be subjective and arbitrary, arrogant and complacent; if self-evaluation is too low, one will be weak, inferior, and lack originality.As the saying goes, "If you are full, you will lose, but if you are modest, you will benefit."Of course, overcoming yourself does not mean that everyone should be a modest gentleman, be wise and protect themselves, and keep things at peace.On the contrary, overcoming oneself is precisely to better develop oneself, improve oneself and realize oneself, and become a person who has achievements and pioneering spirit.

So, in real life, how can we overcome ourselves in order to improve and develop ourselves?

(1) Set yourself a goal of being a socialist newcomer, as your ambition for self-development and the yardstick for measuring yourself.The construction of socialist spiritual civilization requires the cultivation of a new generation to meet the needs of socialist modernization.This newcomer should have healthy personality qualities, such as lofty ideals, noble morals, enterprising enthusiasm, selfless dedication, and the spirit of dedication to the people.Only in this way can we not be discouraged in the face of setbacks, not look back in the face of difficulties, and make achievements and contributions in our own studies and jobs.

(2) Believe in the value of self-existence.That is to say, in study and work, we must constantly discover new self through self-denial.Believe in your inner potential and the value of your own existence. "Born man must be useful." People always use their own ideals to transform themselves, constantly sublate their own shortcomings in practice, make up for their own shortcomings, strive to realize their own ideals, and update their own image.For this reason, people will continue to enhance the transparency of self-awareness, tap their inner potential, and constantly cause conflicts, struggles and divisions between the old self and the new self, the real self and the future self, and thus a great explosion will erupt. Driving force to promote self-development and realize the value of self-existence.

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