Fall in love with school, no longer tire of learning

Chapter 21 School Education Guidance (2)
In fact, it is a long-term and systematic educational project to establish a harmonious teacher-student relationship in class management. In addition to paying attention to skills, there is also a spirit of perseverance.But once a harmonious teacher-student relationship can be established between teachers and students, class management will become handy.

In short, there are many ways to do a good job in class management. Practice has proved that a harmonious teacher-student relationship can best mobilize the enthusiasm of students, and it is a good recipe for doing a good job as a teacher.

Cultivate interest and build confidence

interest is the best teacher.After the students who are tired of studying have a new understanding of self-worth, they will immediately start self-practice. The result of this experiment is the key to whether they can completely transform themselves.

We should try our best to create an environment so that students who are tired of learning can cultivate their interest in practice, enjoy the sense of success and fun of learning, and gradually develop good study habits and correct learning methods.

Teachers should carefully discover the good and positive learning attitudes and behaviors shown by students who are tired of learning, positively affirm them, and continue to strengthen them, so that they can accept themselves in a comparison before and after, and realize that they are not hopeless, but I can learn well, believe that I am also a capable, promising, and respected person, and change my concept of incompetence.

Of course, the evaluation of students who are tired of learning must be objective, pertinent, and well-intentioned, and should not be satirical or extreme, so as not to add rebellious emotions.

Cooperate with parents' education

Whether the family environment is good or bad will directly affect the learning and growth of students. Usually, students who are tired of learning are often in a state of loneliness, emptiness, resentment and disappointment for a long time. As they grow older, parents should respect them. Talk to them on an equal footing, instead of treating your children as your own private property and resorting to brutal methods such as beating and scolding.It is easy for students to give up on themselves and produce antagonism.

When criticizing students, we must pay attention to the occasion and scale, focus on incentives, and use less criticism and blame.Any progress in students' learning should be affirmed and praised in time, so that students can taste the joy of success.

Pay attention to the students' learning and change process, communicate more, check frequently, and supervise frequently, so as to create a good environment for students to stabilize their emotions.Pay attention to the details in the process, and analyze with the students the specific reasons for the good or bad grades, how the learning methods are, how to combine learning and play, and then develop strengths and avoid weaknesses, so that students can develop good study habits.

Parents are a sensitive issue

In a survey conducted on children in Beijing, nearly 90% of them clearly stated that they were very disgusted with teachers asking for parents at every turn. Only a small number of students thought that they felt that teachers’ asking for parents meant that teachers still cared about themselves.

When it was mentioned that teachers were looking for their parents, some students expressed indignation: "I hate teachers calling parents the most. Sometimes it is a small thing, but the teacher just likes to make a big fuss, calling the parents to complain, and seeing the parents blushing in front of the teacher." Red, if you keep showing good discipline, I know that I will inevitably suffer when I go home, and the more my parents beat me, the more I hate the teacher."

"I personally don't agree with the practice of teachers asking parents at every turn." A retired teacher who has been engaged in education for 20 years said, "School teachers and parents are equal educators, and they communicate with each other calmly about the situation of students, It is understandable to study students' experience and methods. However, it is not the case that our teachers frequently invite parents."

The teacher pointed out that teachers always invite parents. The first problem is that many teachers have impure motives. This is not entirely for educating students, but sometimes it is more to vent their dissatisfaction with students.What's more, there are bad motives to punish students through the hands of parents.

The second is that the timing of the choice is wrong.Teachers always ask parents when students make mistakes in school and teachers lack ways to educate students.

Again, the teacher didn't get his position right.The teacher blindly emphasizes that it is the responsibility of the parents if the students have problems, and the parents should be responsible, and the parents should handle it. Responsibility has been swept away.Some teachers even reprimand parents as if they were students, which is even more out of the ordinary.

"When students have problems at school, the teachers definitely need the cooperation of the parents." A professor at the Beijing Institute of Education said, "As long as the teachers are not making trouble for no reason, once the teachers ask the parents, the parents should actively cooperate."

The professor pointed out that for a student's education, the parents are the first, and the school is the second.Because, from birth to elementary school, parents have the greatest influence on students; after school, education in school, family, and society is indispensable.

"Teachers invite parents, and parents should not have any resistance." Professor Qiu Shuqi said, "Although the main education of students after school is completed by the school, parents cannot completely push the education of students to the school. Parents have the responsibility and responsibility to educate their children. obligation."

The professor especially recommends those teachers who love to invite parents. Although "inviting parents" is a more effective way for teachers to educate students, the effect will be different because of the different bearing capacity of students and the understanding of parents. Therefore, as a teacher You can approach this problem from another angle, and use flexible methods such as home visits, notes, phone calls, or even emails, and the effect may be better.

lighten the burden on students

Let’s take a look at the complaints of the students:
"There are too many math homework, really a lot. I am in the first year of high school, and I am a student who stayed from the last break. There are really a lot more math homework than last year.

There are many things arranged in one night, books, notebooks, newspapers, tests... endless, the evening self-study is less than 4 hours, and it will be 11 o'clock when I get home, and I don't sleep well.

There are more than 5 homeworks every day, and the mathematics one needs to be done for 2 to 3 hours. Some students only do mathematics in one night.This is really a blow to our enthusiasm.The next day, the students didn't finish the class and the teacher was unhappy. Although he spoke in a pleasant manner, he had to say a few words about us when he talked about a question, which was really frustrating.

I know the teacher is doing it for our own good, so I can't blame her, but my interest is getting lower and lower, what should I do...

In addition, I am a stubborn person, and I like to do my homework in the same way. Sometimes I don’t want to do materialization after finishing political history.

Yesterday, many students couldn't finish their homework. Today, the teacher's homework has been reduced, but the interest is still not great.

I got 47 points in the first monthly exam, basically I don't want to do it.

The second 87, to be honest, my function is not very good, I didn't work hard in junior high school, and my foundation is not solid.However trigonometry is ok.

It was only the third time I took the test with 71. I don't know what the problem is.Materialization is okay, about [-] to [-] points, but I don’t have much confidence in mathematics, and I’m still a little scared...

The amount of homework assigned by the teacher is large, causing students to write their homework very late.Lack of sleep every night makes students listless in class.Parents on weekends let students participate in various remedial classes, regardless of whether the students are interested or not.Parents also require students to score more than a certain number of points in each test. If they fail to meet the requirements, they will be severely punished. "

Like the student above, when the student's psychology and ability are not up to the level and cannot bear it, they will get tired of studying, and some simply run away from home.Therefore, teachers and parents should try their best to reduce the academic burden of students, and teach based on the psychological characteristics of primary school students, so that education can be combined with fun, work and rest.

Help students build relationships
Students are not good at solving interpersonal relationships, and poor interpersonal relationships among classmates and friends are also a reason why students are tired of studying.

Because the students come from families with different cultures, economics and self-cultivation, their personalities are also very different. Some students are withdrawn and not good at socializing, so their interpersonal relationship is naturally poor.

If teachers and classmates are indifferent to them, they will feel more lonely and uneasy, bad emotions, and even world-weary emotions will arise.

Therefore, for these students with personality defects, our teachers and classmates must extend a friendly hand, care for them, and help them.

A teacher's smile, a warm word, and a gentle movement can make students feel warm.Students should help each other, so that every student can feel the warmth of the class.

The focus of counseling is to help students resolve conflicts in interpersonal relationships, guide students to control their emotions on various occasions, learn to understand others, be considerate of others, and correctly resolve conflicts and negative emotions caused by them.

1. Actively encourage students to integrate into the group

According to the survey, 59.6% of students feel that making friends is not an easy task when they think they are in a new group.

When a student arrives in a new class, the teacher should care more about the students, pay attention to the students, guide them to participate in the group, participate in various activities of the class, and learn the ability to interact with peers in the activities, so that students can get a lot from the group. Exercise, for example, let more students take turns to be student cadres, etc., to promote active, active, upward and intimate communication among students.

2. Teach students some necessary communication skills

At the beginning of the relationship, the first thing that comes to mind is the appearance.A healthy and beautiful appearance will be preconceived and give people a good impression.Therefore, it is necessary to educate students to dress neatly and properly.

Communication requires conversation, and everyone likes gentle, polite and thoughtful people.Therefore, it is necessary to pay attention to the polite language of the students at all times, and post these expressions in the classroom.The teacher must first set a good example, step by step, so that students can be influenced by what they see and hear, and develop the habit of good polite language.

There are also skills to learn when talking to people.First of all, you must have a heart of kindness and a desire to get along with others. It is hard to imagine that someone is willing to talk heart-to-heart with someone they hate.In conversation, learn to listen to the voices of others, use your eyes to watch the expressions of others, and carefully grasp all the language and non-verbal actions of the speaker.If you really care about others, you can get others' attention.We should care about and help others with a sincere heart, "If others have a heart, I will save it first."Only in this way can a sincere friendship be obtained.

3. Guide students to deal with conflicts in communication independently
Communication is a matter of two or more people, and there will inevitably be differences of opinion. When there is a conflict among students, the teacher should not arrange it instead of handling it, but give guidance and inspiration in time, so that students can learn to negotiate and deal with problems together, and learn to be calm. Analysis, if necessary, let the students make a role reversal.For students who often have conflicts with others, please ask a psychological counselor to give them professional training.

4. Make friends, but don't forget to be cautious
As the saying goes, "the one who is close to vermilion is red, and the one who is close to ink is black".Because middle school students are in the period of physical and mental development, their outlook on life and world outlook have not yet formed, their ability to distinguish is relatively poor, and their thoughts are more easily influenced and controlled by others.For making friends, it is often based on feelings and momentary enthusiasm.They are full of brilliant descriptions of the future of life, but they don't know that sometimes they will go astray if they choose friends carelessly.Teachers and parents should pay close attention to their friends and understand the ideology, morality and knowledge of their most trusted and willing friends.

5. Give students a moderate amount of space

Although the students are still young and need our care and love, they must not interfere with their interactions.Because in the middle school age group, students are more sensitive, and their feelings become very delicate. Because they pay more attention to the world, they have a strong rebellious psychology.They think that their wings can soar in the sky, and they are eager to fly in the sky. They hate strict discipline and restraint, and they often sneer at the warm greenhouse.Therefore, we must fully trust students and give them as much autonomy as possible so that they can open themselves.Be their friend not instructor.It is necessary to encourage and cultivate their interests and hobbies, encourage their communication, and never give up eating because of choking, hindering their normal communication.

Make students firm "I can do it"

Self-confidence is an essential weapon for a person to succeed. As long as students believe that "I can do it", I think the problems we face will be solved.

Nowadays, many students have difficulty in learning or are tired of learning. There are many reasons for this phenomenon. Many of them are left with lingering shadows because they failed to do a certain thing once or several times. And still can't get out, the teacher's indifference or even cynicism to their failures unknowingly acts as a catalyst all the time, making the students gradually lose confidence.

A young teacher in Shanghai once wrote an article entitled "Approaching the Art Palace of Chinese Teaching", in which he wrote that in a composition review class, a boy was asked to read aloud on the podium, but the student who had a slight stutter was laughed at.

The students in the audience watched him closely, and the classroom was dead silent.In the silence, the teacher suddenly realized that when he first became a teacher, didn't he also experience this kind of embarrassment?So he smiled and said to his classmates: "Since he is not used to speaking in full view, why don't we all lie on the table, don't look at it, just listen with our ears!"

Then he took the lead and walked to the back of the classroom, stood with his back to the podium, and the students also bowed their heads.Finally, a soft shy voice came from the classroom.The voice gradually rose, and there were not many pauses. In some places, it could even be said that the voice was full of emotion. This student finally entered the state gradually. Many students in the audience have already raised their heads and watched in silent approval. he.After the reading aloud, there was a burst of warm applause in the classroom.This applause is not only given to this composition.

Many teachers have encountered the above-mentioned things, but in retrospect, how many teachers can use their educational wisdom in this way to make a stuttering student find confidence in the public.Therefore, we should improve the teaching methods so that students can firmly believe that they can do it.

Teaching needs more wisdom

Why is there such a wide range of weariness in primary and secondary schools in our country?The root cause may be that our teachers lack the wisdom to teach students in accordance with their aptitude.A teacher who lacks wisdom, lacks the ability to analyze problems, and often depends on the answers to solve problems to know the problem-solving method. Because of the lack of effective problem-solving analysis methods, "problem sea" is inevitable, and students feel tired. Inevitably.

If you want students to never tire of learning, then teachers must learn to do three things:
(1) Don't make students feel too tired from studying.

(2) Don’t make students feel that the topic is too difficult. How can students who have no sense of accomplishment never tire of learning?
(3) Don't let students feel that the knowledge they have learned is too advanced and far away from real life.No one will put more enthusiasm into something that he thinks is of no benefit, and he will not do it consciously.How can students not hate learning that has nothing to do with real life?
The actual education system lacks wisdom, and an important feature is that it cannot allow students to apply what they have learned.Learning is learning, life is life, and learning content has almost nothing to do with student life.

But this is not the case. Dealing with life problems is a process of thinking and learning. An effective way of thinking can bring a lot of convenience to deal with life problems. Sometimes even with a way of thinking, there is a way to deal with a certain life problem.

Conversely, the way of thinking in life can often be reflected in students' learning.In high school mathematics teaching, a teacher often associates mathematical problem-solving analysis methods with common thinking habits in people's lives when explaining mathematical thinking methods.Let students often feel that the way of thinking in mathematics is just a refinement of the common way of thinking in life. It's not difficult.A kind of knowledge that students find not difficult and useful to themselves, of course, students will not hate it.

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