Calm women are the most elegant

Chapter 10 You are troubled, not because the outside world is too noisy, but because you are not calm enough inside (1)
You are angry because you are not generous enough;
You are depressed because you are not generous enough;
You are anxious because you are not calm enough;
You are sad because you are not strong enough;
You are melancholy because you don't have enough sunshine;
You are jealous because you are not confident enough...

All these things, "it's not the wind, it's not the banner, it's the heart".The root of every trouble is within oneself.Therefore, every time troubles appear, it is an opportunity for us to find our inner weaknesses.

1.Don't worry about age, time will only make a woman's soul more transparent

Women have been "difficult" with their age all their lives. At 20, they feel that they have grown up. At 30, they feel that they are too old. At 40, they feel that everything is too late. At 50, they feel that they are old.

Women are afraid of old age, but they are actually afraid that they will lose their beauty, and they are afraid that no one will love them.When Lin Daiyu buried flowers, there was a famous saying: "Once the spring is gone, the beauty will grow old, and the flower will fall and the person will die." This expresses the fear of women about the loss of beauty.However, a woman is not always young and beautiful Athena, the giant wheel of time will always cruelly grind out messy wrinkles on that smooth face, making the originally tight and elastic skin wrinkled into ripples in the lake.One year spent similar, each year is different.It's just that flowers have a new look every year, and women's beauty will only fade year by year, so there are "both roots and flowers, beautiful flowers and tinsel, and Jinping people are jealous".

In fact, a woman who really understands life should not avoid numbers. When a string of characters imprinted with charm is presented in front of a woman, a woman should fill the number with full thoughts.Numbers are actually afraid of women.They are just a code name, and a woman is a dynamic movement.If you are a mature and high-quality woman, then time will only make your life more textured and your soul more transparent.Speaking of which, I have before my eyes those ageless beauties that have captivated generations.

2014 seems to be a year of twilight for the beauties. Lin Qingxia is 60, Zhao Yazhi is 60, and Pan Hong is also 60. Are they really going to call it a day?No, they have been beautiful all these years, and they will continue to be beautiful.

Lin Qingxia is a well-deserved "big beauty". This title has been followed since her debut. Not only fans love her, but even her colleagues in the entertainment circle regard her as "the lover of dreams".Qiong Yao said: "I have never met a second woman who can compare with Qingxia." Zhang Shuping also said: "Brigitte Lin will be beautiful when she gets old." Yes, she is 60 years old this year, but she is still beautiful.

Brigitte Lin from Taiwan and Zhao Yazhi from Hong Kong.Beauty will always be late, but for Zhao Yazhi it is an exception.Her beauty is quiet and elegant, calm and virtuous, and has left a screen classic for generations.This year also turns 60, but no one will forget her as an elegant and beautiful "white lady".

There are more than ten thousand kinds of styles, the most popular is Chu Hong.The delicate and glamorous Zhong Chuhong is the most glamorous one among Hong Kong sisters in the past.She is taking the sexy route, but no one thinks it is gaudy.Regarding her resume, I have already introduced it earlier. In 1991, she married Zhu Jiading, an advertising talent, and they fell in love with each other for 16 years. Until her husband passed away, there was no negative news.Now 54-year-old Zhong Menghong said, because the traces of time itself are the most real beauty.

After hearing these beautiful declarations from real beauties, is the heart that was originally tense due to age less relaxed?

darling, you know what?It is not age that makes a woman grow old, but lack of passion.I have said this sentence many times.Often, it is the lack of passion that first makes us lose our young and fresh heart, and then our appearance also ages.The passion that burns like a fire is the most dazzling, most touching and precious bundle of all the rays of youth. How can we lose it?It is passion that brings our lives into the fullest state of incandescence.Nothing can make youth last longer than passion, and youth is actually the season of passion in life.

Passion is also Liu Xiaoqing's life insurance secret.

To say that Liu Xiaoqing is ambitious, it is better to say that she has always been passionate and super confident. Few people can show her confident look on her face in her 50s, but it is this indomitable character that makes her Life is so extraordinary, although the pure smile in "Little Flower" can no longer be seen on her face, people still long to see this woman who binds life and art together on the screen.

In fact, all things have passion, and because of passion, they are more beautiful and elegant.Flowers are the passion of plants, wind is the passion of air, sun rays are the passion of dawn, waves are the passion of rivers, thunder and lightning are the passion of clouds, galloping horses are the passion of grasslands... As the spirit of all things, how can there be no passion ?
But many women in their 30s do experience the following symptoms in their lives:
Walking on the street, you will be called aunt by young girls and boys from time to time; when you have your hair done, the barber will suggest that you dye your hair because there are a few gray hairs; in the work unit, you will feel sour when you see young women who are full of vigor; socializing On the court, no one is chasing you for your phone number; at home, your husband no longer calls you "dear" or "baby"... A woman who used to be beautiful and beautiful is going through the "30-year-old" After "Hall", I suddenly feel that once the "age" passes, the charm will be greatly reduced!So I was very disappointed.

In order to help thousands of women overcome the fear of "oldness", here I will give you some advice.

[-]. Believe that the most beautiful time is now.When women are about to cross the threshold of youth, they must eliminate the psychological panic of being old and overcome the sense of stagnation. They must not look back and try to recall the lost youth, but must look forward and learn to concentrate on reality and the future.Every time you look in the mirror, tell yourself: This moment is the youngest I will be from now on.

[-]. Women should set new goals in life for themselves in time: career, family, hobbies, social activities, etc., and formulate their own short-term and long-term plans.Only by believing that your tomorrow will be better, can your soul stay young forever, and you will always maintain youthful creativity and passion!
30. Face aging with appreciation.I really like what a 30-year-old actress said, "What makes me happy is that I played such a child-like role at the beginning, which gave me a lot of space. Everyone still treats me well. The reason for my interest is that I have been changing for several years. In Hong Kong and Taiwan, the company packs a newcomer, and then changes the packaging to change the image. I don’t have the ability to change the packaging for myself, so I feel that any setbacks are the road I have to go. After all, I have not fully grown up, so I am still eager to mature... If I am really mature, I may be afraid of getting old. This process is very interesting. Whether it is acting or real life, I feel happy. I don’t want to pretend to be someone Let me show you this look. In fact, every age has beauty at every age. I am 30 years old, and I am beautiful at 40. Even if I am 40 years old now, I still think [-]-year-old women are the most beautiful." Hope this sentence Words can provide you with some spiritual comfort.Hope these little tricks can help you.

2.Don't worry about your appearance, the number of people who rely on their beauty to get ahead is negligible

I never cared too much about my face, as long as it has no injuries, the mirror rate is probably the lowest in the world.What about the figure?Whether it is tall or short, it doesn't matter, let alone it doesn't matter.This may be because he knows that he looks mediocre.Nowadays, some people who can be included in the class of handsome guys and pretty sisters are often overwhelmed by their appearance.As if my face was sorry for the world, so I cut my double eyelids, had my nose augmented, and changed my skin.It seemed that his posture hurt everyone's eyes, so he lost weight, had breast augmentation, and did "thigh tibial amputation" surgery.As a result, disfigurement for beauty, anorexia for slimness, and disability for heightening are really soul-stirring.

Honey, no matter you are white, rich and beautiful or short and poor, you don't have to worry about your appearance.

You must know this "ugly woman".

She is straightforward and stubborn by nature, because she likes to sing, she has to sing for more than ten hours a day, and her family calls her to eat, but she can't let her stop immersed in music.

With outstanding musical aptitude, her vocal range is as wide as the sea, and her loud treble sounds like an eagle soaring in the sky.When she was a soldier, she thought she could be a literary soldier, but in the end she only became a communication soldier.

No one denies her musical talent, and no one can ignore her beautiful singing voice.But everyone is more willing to be an audience than to be her audience.All this is because her personal image is not so good-looking, her figure is too fat, and her appearance is not sweet.

When the idol group became popular, almost everyone turned their attention to those singers with devil figures and angelic faces.No one was willing to offer her the chance to sing on stage.Although she sang far better than those so-called singers, her fat body has become a fatal injury and a "block" in her acting career, and it has also become a deep pain in her heart that cannot be shaken off.

She tried to lose weight, but subtracted, subtracted, without success.Later she thought: If you are fat, just get fat. I just want to continue singing. One day, the audience will accept me.

After making up your mind, the persistence behind it really tempers your will.Years reincarnate, flowers bloom and fall, and her high-pitched singing never stops in the past few years.

Insist on giving her a chance.In the early 90s, Hong Kong artist Or Shouliang came to the mainland to perform a performance of flying over the Great Wall and the Yellow River.She was fortunate enough to participate in a theatrical performance during a test flight.

When Ke Shouliang started the car for a test flight, it stopped suddenly.He turned around and asked the staff around him: "Whose singing is this?" Someone told him it was from an unknown singer.Ke Shouliang said: "Her singing is very powerful and gave me courage and strength..." In this way, she was able to become a participating singer when Ke Shouliang officially flew over.

It was also during that much-anticipated flight that she had the honor to meet a CCTV director.Under the recommendation of the director, she met Zhang Yue, the host of Half the Sky, a woman who is also not beautiful but extraordinary.Zhang Yuehui has a keen eye and is impressed by her talent.At the invitation of Zhang Yue, she participated in the then Half the Sky program in 1997.Seeing that the topic was "Don't Worry About Your Looks", she, who was strong, confident and sensitive, was once very embarrassed and wanted to quit, but because of her feelings, she finally bit the bullet and finished the program.As a result, it rose to fame and was well known to the majority of TV audiences.

Her life has changed dramatically since then. In 1998, her first solo album "Snowy Light" was released and became an instant hit. Her title songs "Hometown" and "Snowy Light" dominated the pop music charts.Then she sang classic songs such as "Qinghai-Tibet Plateau" and "Beautiful Myth", and her status in the music world began to flourish!After becoming famous, she was a little impetuous and swollen in her heart: Don't you all look down on me and think I'm fat?Am I not famous yet? !But this mentality subsided after half a year.Because she realizes that thinking like this is very dangerous and will end up losing friends and viewers.In the past, if she heard or witnessed entertainment reporters scribbling about her and her friends in the literary and art circles, she would even have the idea of ​​punching those reporters.But now she has learned to tolerate: entertainment journalists also have to eat and support their families, and they don't necessarily want to do this in their hearts.Years of tempering have taught her to be tolerant, understanding and caring about other people's feelings.

Now her name is familiar to everyone, and her singing voice has flown all over the world and has been widely sung.Han Hong—relying on her super strength, perseverance and unremitting efforts to interpret the fairy tale of an ugly duckling turning into a white swan.

Looking back on the bumpy road to success, Han Hong said that the title of the program "Half the Sky" that year was "Don't worry about your appearance". "Who is worried about appearance?" Today, the high-spirited Han Hong said with a smile.Look, this is her chic after success.

However, too many women are still worrying about their appearance, they directly equate beauty with good life.It is said that many female college students now have a "sharp weapon" attached to their job resumes: the perfect ID photo.This kind of cumbersome procedure, similar to taking wedding photos, can make job seekers look white and handsome.Although expensive to shoot, it is highly sought after.

This is not a big deal, in order to obtain a pleasing appearance, some brave people go into beauty parlors, spend a lot of money, and go to war on their faces.

Can the perfect ID photo really "add weight" to job hunting?Is it really better to look good than to learn well?Can you really get a good job with good looks?

In fact, the employers are not satisfied with the perfect ID photo taken at a high price.What people look at is the "hardware" on your resume: work experience, education status, etc.As for photos, it’s good if you can see them clearly, they don’t need to be particularly beautiful.

It is true that a good appearance will be icing on the cake, it can catch people's attention and gain an advantage in a short time.But the job is long-term, and the quality of the job seeker itself is more important.

Appearance is formed innately. Applying for a job through plastic surgery reflects the lack of self-confidence of the job seeker.Personal charm comes from three aspects: appearance, ability and personality.Even good looks fade with time.Good ability and personality are the most important long-term factors affecting personal charm.Therefore, in order to establish a good image for job hunting, it is understandable to make some efforts in conversation, etiquette and clothing, but it is not advisable to stick to plastic surgery to change the appearance.

To paraphrase a common saying: gold always shines.There are 360 ​​careers in the world, and those who get ahead through "beauty pageants" are almost negligible.Performance does not depend on appearance, wages and bonuses are regardless of beauty or ugliness, and appearance has nothing to do with law and order.As for some employers who have bad intentions and judge people by appearance, plain appearance is a bit less dangerous.As for marriage, you are a beauty, as evidenced by "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder".As for trying to win the glory of your husband and wife with your beauty, and stealing other people's deposits, cars, and villas, it is even more useless. Even if you succeed for a while, what awaits you may not be happiness.The face of a beautiful woman is like currency in a period of hyperinflation, and it depreciates faster in the eyes of men who judge people by "sex".

Thinking about this, why worry about appearance?Appearance is given by parents.It is absolutely personal and makes the world colorful.As long as you have all the five sense organs and your body is healthy, you are a blessed person. Why bother to worry about your appearance?Knowing this, you can apply a little makeup, or you might as well turn your face to the sky.

3.Don't worry about the body, the aura is the key
We see women of all ages worrying about their bodies.Either I feel that I am fat, or I feel that my breasts are not big enough, my waist is not thin enough, my legs are not slender enough, my hair is split ends, my skin is dull, etc.

Many of them are already very beautiful and have a good figure, but they are always too demanding on themselves.They often struggle with whether to eat dinner or not, regret having eaten a piece of chocolate or a cup of ice cream, and privately regret that their curves are not beautiful enough.

Some women can't stand it anymore, so they go for surgery, breast enhancement or plastic surgery.

Some people say that women spend a lot of time and money fighting with their bodies all their lives.Is this a woman's nature?

In fact, this is a trap set by the commercial society. My sister has been in the fashion media. This society creates new concepts and trends through fashion magazines, various press conferences and celebrity endorsements, which arouses women's dissatisfaction with their bodies. Then stimulate them to spend.If that's not enough to make up their minds, tell them that men like this.

Little fool, you have not questioned: is this true?

(End of this chapter)