Calm women are the most elegant

Chapter 18 You think the world is cold, it's not because others bully you, it's because you are not considerate enough (2)
I'm about to get off at the first stop, and I'm going to say goodbye to her before getting off.No matter how you say it, people greeted me first, so I have to return the gift.So I stood up and walked towards the back door.At this time she also got up and came to stand with me.I asked her if she got out of the car too and she said yes.Then she asked how the current security in our community is.Hearing this, I suddenly remembered that she used to be the security guard of our community a few years ago.The door of memory was opened, and I thought of her always sincere smile and kind greetings every time we passed the gate of the community, and her hardworking figure when she often swept the roads in the community.And we often chat happily at the gate of the community.She often compliments me on my beauty, good-looking clothes, temperament, and easy-going people.In fact, she is not bad, about 1.6 meters, slender, handsome, and she has a heroic beauty in a security uniform.I asked her how she was working now, and she said it was fine, but the journey was a bit far.But the salary is high, so far away is nothing.Seeing her serene expression in her smile, I couldn't help laughing.A kind-hearted woman like a chrysanthemum looks ordinary, but when she tastes it, she has a long lasting charm and infinite charm...Sometimes you will find that beauty is so easy, an imperfect appearance, because of a beautiful soul, reflects the The beauty is so breathtaking.

Her enthusiasm and kindness warmed me up for a whole winter.In contrast, my female boss, who dresses herself up like a Christmas tree all day long, is very ugly. Visually, she should belong to the beautiful kind. She is in her 50s, and she has undergone plastic surgery to make her skin tender and tender.But she is mercenary, and she will do everything for her own superiority. She can never say a word of kindness, and always reprimands her subordinates and curses her clients.Thinking of such a woman, I only feel disgust and disdain in my heart.The beauty of this transformed woman is like seeing the moon with the naked eye on the earth. It is unreal. Once you see the bare rocks and barren craters on the surface of the moon with a telescope, you can’t help but lament that there is such a big difference between reality and fantasy. , really startled people.

The eyes are the windows to the soul, and the face is the picture of the soul.A kind heart is better than any clothing, jewelry, or makeup. The beauty it brings is not only from the heart, but also expresses itself, and is enduring and noble.My dear, if you want to be beautiful and handsome, then carefully sculpt your soul.

4.Forgiving others is self-liberation
We always think that tolerance is to take advantage of others and lose ourselves.In fact, being too narrow-minded is a bad thing for yourself at any time.

Intolerance can endanger your health.

Anger is poison, tolerance is the medicine.Negative energies such as victimhood, resentment, hatred, and revenge are too strong, and they will only suffocate you like a poisonous snake.

Intolerance can affect your career development.

Depressed, annoyed, and angry about some gossip and bumps all day long; I always want to talk to someone and argue with the other party; I even always want to get revenge.This will ruin your career and make you lose more and better things.Learn to be tolerant, so that you can maintain a calm and quiet state of mind, and do what you should do.

Tolerance can promote your mental maturity.

Learning tolerance is a sign of a woman's maturity.Tolerant people often have the courage to take responsibility. If they are willing to test themselves, they can find responsibility for their failures and mistakes.Only when a person is calm, can he keep a clear head, find out the reasons for the failure, take effective measures to overcome the mistakes, and finally improve his ability to solve problems.

In short, once you learn to be tolerant and look at the world with a tolerant eye, you will feel that beautiful mountains and clear waters, blue sea and blue sky are everywhere that are pleasing to the eye.Tolerance makes you have a heart like the sea and a mind like the blue sky.All prejudice, hatred, suspicion, and suspicion will eventually become a trickle under tolerance.All difficulties and setbacks will become the motivation to fight for the sky and become the spiritual pillar of a calm life.So, like kindness, tolerance nourishes yourself.

Look at the things around us with a tolerant attitude, treat this diverse and diverse society with a benevolent heart, and receive this world with deficiencies with a generous mind, we will create in others and ourselves. Light of life!The world becomes beautiful and harmonious because of the tolerance between people!
In the United States, there is such a story related to tolerance.

Two lost teenagers go to a California tree farm and mischievously set the forest on fire.They imagined the panic and anxiety of the fire policemen when they put out the fire, and they were very proud.But what never expected was that because of their prank, a fire policeman unfortunately died while fighting the fire.

The police officer who died was only 22 years old.He was burned to death in the jungle after being knocked down by smoke while doing his duty with all his might.What is even more painful is that he lost his father in his early years and was raised by his mother alone.And this was the first week after he started working, and he didn't even receive his first salary...

After finding out that this was a case of deliberate arson, people in the whole city were outraged, and the mayor stated that the criminals must be arrested and brought to justice so that they would accept severe punishment.The police began to chase around, and the photos of the two teenagers who were listed as suspects also began to appear in various places.And all this caught the two teenagers by surprise. Hearing the angry voices from all directions, they fell into deep remorse, helplessness and panic.

In addition to these two teenagers, the media focused more on the single mother of the policeman.But when she uttered the first sentence, everyone was shocked.She said: "I am very sad to see my son leave me, but I just want to say a few words to the two children who caused the disaster-you must be living a terrible life now, and it is probably worse than death. As I, who is the most qualified to condemn you in this world, I want to say, please go home, there are still parents waiting for you at home. As long as you do this, I will forgive you together with God..."

At that moment, everyone was silent. No one thought that the mother who had just lost her son would say such words.What people didn't expect was that one hour after the mother gave her speech, two teenagers surrendered in a hotel in a small town in a neighboring city.

The two teenagers told the police that on the afternoon of the mother's televised speech, they bought a lot of sleeping pills because they couldn't bear the huge social pressure, and they were going to leave this world together.But at this moment, they heard the mother's voice from the TV.They immediately burst into tears, threw the sleeping pills aside, and called the police station...

Now the two reckless teenagers are fathers, and they often take their children to visit the respectable mother, who is already another mother in their hearts.This is how a tragic story ends with a warm ending.But if the mother said something different at that time, then we can imagine that these two fresh lives will pass away from now on, and the mother will fall into loneliness forever.

Tolerance is more than just a virtue, it is simply a magical power to save the world and change the world.Therefore, women should learn to be tolerant.For yourself, for others, for the world.

How to be a tolerant woman?

Tolerance is firstly manifested in not being cynical or emotional in dealing with things.

In life, there are indeed many contradictions and difficulties: rising prices, overcrowded housing, tense interpersonal relationships... It's really hard to breathe.Cursing, cursing, and sulking didn't help, but added a new burden to the tired body.But life is all about bitterness, spicyness, sourness, sweetness and saltiness.There are many unsatisfactory things in life, but people's abilities are limited after all, and cynicism will not change the development of the situation, nor will it ease the relationship.Therefore, we should first conform to the development of the event, and then seize the opportunity of transformation to follow the trend, instead of gesticulating outside the situation.This is an expression of tolerance.

Tolerance is reflected in not demanding others.Everyone has their own thinking, work, study, and living habits.In social life, people always have to deal with all kinds of people. In order to survive and develop, and to succeed in our careers, we must get used to interpersonal communication and be good at getting along with all kinds of people.Especially those who are inferior to themselves in ability, talent, etc. or who have different temperaments and dispositions should coordinate and work with them.Even for people with various shortcomings and defects, we should pay attention to discovering their strengths and respect their strengths.

If you only notice the flaws in others, you can easily isolate yourself.From another perspective, pay more attention to the good points of others, and use understanding, sympathy and love to influence others, so that they can not only recognize their own shortcomings, but also correct them convincingly, so that you will meet friends who trust and love you everywhere. Relationships will also develop well as a result.

To save face for others does not damage one's own dignity, but also can make people feel grateful and respected.

Don't care about small things and don't demand others, it will win you more time and energy.

Being broad-minded and tolerant is the realm pursued by modern women, because generosity and tolerance can bring you too many benefits.

Of course, tolerance is not unconditional. It varies from person to person, from event to time, from place to place. It is not appropriate for a wicked person who repents to be tolerant.The so-called "principle in big things, style in small things" is the attitude that should be adopted.

Being tolerant of others everywhere is by no means a sign of weakness or helplessness in the face of reality.In the short course of life, learning tolerance means that your mood will be happier, and it can become the most attractive wealth in a woman's life.

5.Have you taken into account your own sense of existence
Women are great, but hard work at the same time.For life, for family, for career, for children... Today's women spend most of their time giving, often forgetting their own existence.And this kind of ecstasy, most of them start after they get married.

Some women seem to have fallen into a living hell when they get married. They work hard to make money to support their families, and they have to go home to take care of all the housework.But the man knew that she was very tired, but he never thought of helping her once. He went home after work to read the newspaper, and while reading the newspaper, he urged her: "Is the meal ready? Hurry up, I'm exhausted, I don't want to go home." Go hungry!"

And the woman was cooking in the kitchen with sweat, and her stomach was growling with hunger, and she was reluctant to take a bite of the food after cooking, saving it for her son and husband.

After eating, she endured the tiredness and went to clean up the dishes.

Every day.

It looks like this is the old Chinese way of life for women.However, the lives of women nowadays do not seem to be much better.After reading an article by Bi Shumin "When Do Women Start Enjoying", I feel that a woman who enters the family role really does not have much time for herself to enjoy.The baby's milk pot diapers, after school education, extracurricular training, when the child grows up and flies away from the nest, she has silver wrinkles and loose teeth... Finally one day, the woman suddenly remembered a promise she had made to herself long ago ——In spring, tie a beautiful scarf, go to the grass in the wild, bask in the sun quietly, and listen to the singing of birds...

Yes, just cook a favorite dish for yourself alone; buy a beloved gift for yourself; get together with friends, without having to look at the watch frequently, or take care of the family's dinner... such seemingly simple things are in reality. Unknowingly, they are getting farther and farther away from their own lives. It is no wonder that many women wailed like this: people are middle-aged, and the sea is changing.

There are too many women who often neglect to love themselves when they are generous and devoted to their families.Such a woman always complains that her lover is not considerate, and the world treats herself badly, but have you ever thought about how you are considerate of yourself?If you don't love yourself, how can you ask others to love you?
Therefore, if a woman wants to improve her satisfaction with marriage and the happiness index of life, she must be more considerate and "selfish".

As the wise man said, don't give all the meat on the plate to the children, don't spend all the money in the family on decorating the house and husband, don't put all your energy into work... A woman who loves herself is never measured by other people's standards herself, she has her own values.In life, they do not seek luxury, but advocate simplicity and simplicity. They like reading, listening to music, knitting, cooking... In short, they like to do anything that can add fun to life and themselves.Women who love themselves are good at discovering the goodness and beauty in life. They seldom demand themselves or deny themselves, but face reality calmly and accept it. They are good at adjusting their emotions and often cheering themselves up.They know very well that the pursuit of perfection will make people overwhelmed, and they feel that being such a woman is too tiring!Kind women, after you have completed the important task of caring for your husband and raising your children, it is time to learn to enjoy life.

"Love yourself" is also one of the signs of a healthy and mature life.A mature woman has no time to think about where she is inferior to others.In their view, self-love means constant self-comparison, self-criticism, and self-reflection.They clearly know their weaknesses and shortcomings, their strengths and weaknesses, and their goals and motivations, so they can make use of their strengths and avoid weaknesses, and stay calm when things go wrong.Look at those successful people around us, most of them love what they do, and look at the happy women around us, they are usually a little "narcissistic".When a person likes and loves herself, she will do things according to her own wishes, work hard according to her own ideals, and act according to her own thoughts. Over time, she exudes confidence and elegance from the inside out, even God would find it lovely, how could mortals refuse her charm of happiness?

"Love yourself" is not self-admiration, nor is it self-righteous, nor is it arrogant and spoiled. "Loving yourself" starts with accepting your imperfect self.In other words, accept yourself, affirm yourself, and accept yourself objectively and calmly with self-esteem and self-love.People who love themselves will not feel lonely even if they are alone, because they can enjoy themselves, fully enjoy the wonderful time alone, immerse themselves in their own world, and will not be disturbed by the noise of the outside world, they live peacefully in their own In that piece of heaven and earth.

In fact, happiness and misfortune are sometimes only 0.01 millimeters apart. "Love yourself" can change your attitude towards the world.The ancient Greek philosopher once said: "A person's happiness in life comes from minimizing his dependence on external things." Therefore, I have always advocated "I am relaxed among the deep crowd, and I am relaxed among the relaxed crowd." Happy!" This philosophy of life.So, quickly release your emotions and pressure, and be a happy and healthy attractive woman, and you will soon find that life is so easy and warm!
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