Calm women are the most elegant

Chapter 2 Pale——True water has no fragrance, the essence of femininity is elegance (1)
To be a woman is to be feminine.

What is femininity?Is it a hot and sexy body, a charming look, a fragrant fragrance, or a gorgeous and shining makeup, and passionate magic?
Do not!Such a strong-scented woman will make a man confused for a while, but it will not make him linger for a long time.

The essence of femininity is light, that kind of light, soft, faint, quiet feeling, the smell is also curling up, the rhyme is curling up, the clouds are as elegant, the fog is as graceful, and it can always make a man feel The eyes are involuntarily full of tenderness, bringing a fascination in the indifferent, and a fascination in the smoky.Such a light-scented woman dresses with a lingering fragrance and scents it with a light cloud and breezy fragrance, making it unforgettable for men forever.

1.Women are like water, real water has no fragrance
Regarding the nature of women, Jia Baoyu said a very expressive sentence in "A Dream of Red Mansions": "A daughter is made of water... I feel refreshed when I see a daughter." Women are like water. of the highest praise.

Since it is water, the highest water should be tasteless, that is, real water without fragrance, which is what Brother Bao said is "refreshing".

The most beautiful woman is usually not the most beautiful, nor the smartest, but the kind of calm, calm, refreshing and simple "watery" woman.They don't stimulate your eyeballs, don't attract your taste buds, don't dazzle your hearing, they only mobilize your senses.They come lightly, go lightly, and get along lightly, giving people a sense of tranquility, peace, freshness and comfort.That feeling is just right, how wonderful, how wonderful.

I have really seen such a woman in a place called "Zhenshui Wuxiang" in the west of Beijing, and I was deeply moved.

In the spring of this year, on a certain Sunday afternoon, a friend from the city visited me on a boring afternoon, so I accompanied him to the Dajue Temple not far from home.The sky suddenly rained, and I happened to see a two-story bungalow facing the street, which stood facing the street like a young man.The outer wall is dark white, eye-catching but not dazzling.A float glass partition separates the inside and the outside, and the herbal flowers in the courtyard are faintly blooming.The four gold powder characters "Zhenshui Wuxiang" on the door are the elegant name of the teahouse.

Pushing open the door, I saw a tall and delicate woman playing with a bouquet of yellow magnolias. She didn't know that I came in until I was close enough to see the sepals of the magnolia flower. free from vulgarity.Sure enough, after a few questions and answers, Shi knew that the flower was cut from the magnolia tree in his yard, and the woman was a low-key painter. "You are the only guest at the moment!", she said with a smile, beckoning me to sit down.After I ordered Mingqian Longjing, I turned around and left, leaving the silence inside the window and the rain outside the window for us who are worried.Looking around, the furniture is made of noble golden nanmu, the dark purple Thai fighting fish in the fish tank on the table is swimming leisurely, and the dahlia in the blue and white porcelain vase is as quiet as a virgin.One meter away is a small curved bar, on which are placed coffee beans in glass containers and coffee sets of the same color. The dark brown is condensed and restrained. It is a metaphor for the inner substance of the master.Everything is simple and eye-catching, just like a hostess dress.She walked over with tea in her hand, wearing a sumac-colored cotton jacket, a brick-red dress, and a pair of Chinese mille-soled cloth shoes.I have to marvel at how elegant and refined this low-key outfit is for her.Faint, so beautiful.

My friend and I sipped tea while she was fiddling with flowers. We shared a common tranquility, which was a little magical in the dark.She chatted with each other, she talked about the origin of the magnolia in the yard, and regretted for us that we could not enjoy the "High Mountain and Flowing Water" played by a certain woman at the tea party a few days ago.It is not difficult to see that everything she thinks and does is far away from livelihood and business, but as a means of integrating into life and interpreting life, unlike my generation who sigh: I often hate that this body is not mine, when will I forget it? Camp?Seeing her feminine frowns and smiles, every gesture of her hand, and her ubiquitous elegance, confidence and calmness, I suddenly feel that life is really good, it’s good to be free and interesting, and that kind of appeal is not It comes from the beauty that is hard to come by, but from the sincere temperament that every ordinary woman can exude, that is the most beautiful!
The rain has stopped, it's time to go.When she delivered it to the door, she smiled again and said, "Come again if you have a chance!" That smile was not as urgent as that of ordinary shopkeepers, it was just a kind of relief that everything came and went.

At this time, the Dajue Temple is misty, rainy, empty, pink and cherry red, which was ignored when I came here.The river under the Pearl Bridge is as lively as emerald jade, and the begonias facing the street are plump and languid, like a beauty in a bath. When a gust of breeze blows, the peach blossoms on the opposite tree may be at the end of their flowering period and cannot stand on the branches. The petals soared out of thin air like this, spun like that, floated like that lightly, and looked at themselves like no one else, as if all their life's talk was whispered in the rain of flowers.The wind stopped, the flowers also calmed down, standing on the wet and sticky street full of fallen flowers, there was no shadow in my heart, I couldn't help thinking: Yes, real water has no fragrance and no trace, a real woman is like her, no fragrance is needed , Cosmetic powder packaging, a look, a smile, already has a subtle fragrance.Real life will not always be strong, it is like water, passing lightly, only a heart full of sunshine can make it reflect the splendor of seven colors.

Later, this woman became a certain gentleman's dream lover.Another year has passed, he is already in his thirties, and he is still single, but he is not in a hurry. He said that he is very blessed to have such a woman, so he doesn't force it.Moreover, if you want to find it, you must find such a faint woman as your life partner.

I agree with his persistence.Because any pursuit of beautiful things must be based on objects, and if the objects here can return to nature, then this kind of beauty will become more real, intimate and beautiful.A good woman should be like this. What she shows is often a love of beauty, a heart of seeking truth, a heart of discarding miscellaneous things, a heart of pure thinking, and a heart of filtering oneself.Only such a woman, who is the most exciting, can reach the depths of a man's soul. What is the best companionship?That's it.

When will you come again?
2.Women are like flowers, like orchids are the best
Women are like flowers.

The treasure of flowers is naturally orchid.Although the peony is beautiful, it is too luxurious to be approached; although the rose is fresh, it has thorns, which makes it daunting.Although peach blossoms are beautiful, they are too enchanting to make people easily slack off.

Only orchids are neither arrogant nor impetuous, neither tepid nor hot, graceful but not pretentious, fragrant but not strong, pleasant and pleasant, exuding a kind of charm in the lightness.

In "Dream of Red Mansions", Mr. Cao Xueqin once praised women with "the temperament is as beautiful as orchid, and the talent is more than immortal".There is a kind of spiritual communication between the good woman and Lan. They appreciate and evaluate each other.A good woman is Lan, she has the same temperament and character as Lan; she has the same confidence and open-mindedness as Lan; she has the same temperament and indifference as Lan; she has the same wisdom and sincerity as Lan.They are silent, you can't feel her existence, but she has been standing steadily, giving people a sense of silence and stability.

I met such a woman when I was discussing business with the leader in Hangzhou earlier. At the negotiating table, let your eyes shine.

Of course, none of these are enough to make you really remember her—what really makes you unforgettable is the temperament in her gestures, the subtlety like graceful words, the skillful and elegant demeanor; The colorful light, the quick and thoughtful response, the calm and calm grasp; it is the very focused expression when she bowed her head to sign, the smooth and confident writing, without losing the bold atmosphere.

Surprised, he couldn't help but marvel: This woman is really Hui Zhi Lan Xin!
In fact, the word "Hui Zhi Lan Xin" was only used to decorate those jasper women who lived in seclusion in boudoirs and embroidery buildings in ancient times.However, I think that today, this word should have two meanings: Huizhi, who has poems and books in his stomach, and quick thinking; Lanxin, who is tolerant, elegant and peaceful.A woman, even if she doesn't have peerless beauty, but if she has such a beauty and heart, there will always be her Zhuge Kongming in this world, right?
Then I thought of a good friend beside me - Yu.Yu is a kind-hearted woman, and also the most beautiful, gentle and considerate woman among all my friends.Jade, who looks petite and exquisite, has a bearing capacity and a broad mind that others can't imagine.

At the age of 30, her father was diagnosed with cancer, and Yu has always had the deepest relationship with her father. At this time, the sad Yu has been tortured by this cruel fact and lost her sense of direction.And just at this time, her husband betrayed her again.Yu did not lose her composure like other women, but quietly negotiated a divorce with her husband, agreeing not to disturb the elderly and children of both parties.Later, she often hid in the bathroom by herself and covered her mouth with a handkerchief, letting her tears flow freely.But when Yu opened the door, she would still show people with a smile.That year, there was a small towel in Yu's purse, which was the only thing she could hold back her tears when she was walking alone on the road or away from her family.

In this way, while Yu comforted his father who didn't know his illness and took him to various state-of-the-art treatments, he also had to take care of his mother and son.Of course, you have to arrange your own work...

Soon, her father left her.Before leaving, Yu had been guarding her father's hospital bed day and night, giving her father a sweet smile every day, even if it was difficult to maintain this smile, she felt that this was the most beautiful gift she gave him in this life.

As misfortunes never come singly, shortly after his father left, Jade's brother was involved in a car accident and suffered serious head injuries.In that cold winter, Yu was like treating her father, guarding her brother's bed day and night.At night, for fear of disturbing her brother's rest, she kept walking barefoot on the cold ground.Under her care, the elder brother gradually became conscious.Even so, after being discharged from the hospital, my elder brother still couldn't speak clearly, and it was only under Yu Rili's patient teaching of pointing at the pinyin chart that he slowly recovered his language function.

In middle age, there are constant family affairs, and Yu has been bearing all these with her weak shoulders.I never heard her complain, and never saw her lose her temper with anyone.On the contrary, she often comforts my friend who is not calm enough.From her, I seem to smell the fragrance of orchids.

Occasionally, we talked about life together, and she, who has extraordinary literary talent, said, how gentle is life?How sad is life?Only love can withstand the wind and rain.Love is a kind of following, it is the reflection of water on the Cangshan Mountain, and it follows you until death.Love makes us brave, we have to go with the flow and accept the cycle of life.

Listening to his words, I deeply feel the slenderness of an orchid-like woman.

Regarding Lan's character, "Confucius's Family Sayings" describes it like this: "Zhilan grows in a deep valley, and it is not because there are no people that it is not fragrant; the king cultivates morality and establishes virtue, and does not change his morals for poverty." People of later generations, no matter how poor you are, As long as you can taste the orchid quality, you can comprehend the legacy of the sage, relieve the resentment in your heart, and restore your confidence in your chest.Therefore, we want to be a Rulan woman, so that our hearts are full of warmth.A woman with warmth is the most beautiful. When a woman cherishes the god of love in her heart, her heart is like a magnolia flower in spring.Even if the spring is cold and the weather is warm and cold, she will not be swayed by the ruthless wind and rain outside.Even if she holds a grudge in her heart and wanders in the rainy alley with an oil-paper umbrella; even in the most dull and boring days, she can turn a person's loneliness into the most pleasant story in the spring.

Such a woman is the external manifestation of Hui Zhilan's heart.Her warmth comes from her self-cultivation, her experience and education, and her value orientation is the choice she made after inner thinking in life.She is skilled and gentle, wise and tolerant, she has her own firm character and principles, she will not yell at you for offending, nor punish herself with other people's mistakes, nor will she be knocked down by secular gossip.She is maverick, unconstrained, and her thoughts are floating on the heights of life.

This is not an easy standard to achieve, but it is not so far away.As long as you are willing to walk on the mountain of books diligently and respectfully, even if your beauty cannot last your whole life, your knowledge is yours; if you do a lot of knowledge, you will see many things, and then your talent and atmosphere will belong to you .

Beauty will eventually get old, but the real charm of a woman is the colorful light where the thoughts flicker.Only this kind of "temperament" really comes from the inside out, no matter how many beauties around you are so glamorous, they can't hold you down.

3.A woman is picturesque, it is advisable to leave blank space and leave it blank

It is said that women are picturesque, so let's talk about painting.

I know very little about painting techniques, but I know a thing or two about the difference between Chinese painting and Western painting.What is the biggest difference between Chinese painting and Western painting?I thought that, unlike Western paintings, which are full of heavy ink and color, Chinese paintings like to leave blank spaces.

The so-called blank space, as the name suggests, is to leave a corresponding blank space in the work.Although the blank space is blank, it is here; the emptiness reveals the author's state of mind.You will see a color contrast and feel the beauty of contrast.Take Ma Yuan's "Fishing Picture on the Cold River Alone" in the Southern Song Dynasty as an example. In one painting, a small boat and a fisherman are fishing. One can only imagine.Such an art of blank space with nothing to beat has a high aesthetic value, as the saying goes, "There is nothing here that is better than something."

This is the beauty of blank space, which is not only a kind of wisdom, but also a kind of realm.

So is being a woman.A woman's life and love are actually like a beautiful painting.A smart woman not only knows how to add color to the painting, but also knows how to leave blank space in the right place to make the painting more beautiful and attractive.Mrs. Li, the concubine of Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty, is such an expert.

Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty created the heyday of the Han Dynasty, and the women behind it are also very legendary. Among them, Mrs. Li is the most worthy of our exploration.Although she is not as good as Chen Ajiao and Wei Zifu in terms of status, she is far superior to these two seniors in terms of influence.She has "three thousand loves in one body", and is the woman Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty misses the most. Liu Che expresses his longing for her in a poem written in the autumn wind.

What is her life wisdom?The key is that she knows how to leave blank.

Since the recommendation of his elder brother Li Yannian (a musician in the Han Palace) at the state banquet, Li's beautiful image of "there are beauties in the north" has entered the eyes of Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty, and he was quickly called into the palace and canonized as "Li Yannian". Ma'am", favoring the harem.Soon after, she became pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. Emperor Wu named him King of Changyi.Such preferential treatment made all the empresses in the palace envious and jealous.

Unexpectedly, the moon will be cloudy and sunny. Mrs. Li has only been in the palace for a few years, but unfortunately she fell ill and became bedridden.Emperor Wu was so sad that he went to see her in person.When Mrs. Li saw Emperor Wu coming, she hurriedly covered her face with a veil, and said: "I have been ill for a long time, and my appearance has been destroyed. I can't see your majesty again. I would like to entrust you with the king of Changyi and my brothers." Emperor Wu said: "Madam is in critical condition. Medicine can heal, why don't you let me see you again?" Mrs. Li declined and said: "A woman does not dress up, and if she doesn't see your father, I really dare not meet your majesty." Feng worships your brother as an official." "Whether you are sealed or not, I will not see you." Emperor Wu said that he must see her, and lifted the quilt with his hands, Madam Li turned her face inward, covered her weeping, and let Emperor Wu call again and again, Madam Li Just sobbing alone.Emperor Wu was displeased and walked away in a rage.

(End of this chapter)