Calm women are the most elegant

Chapter 21 In the face of love, how to avoid chaos (2)
In fact, falling in love is unfair, there will always be one party who loves more and pays more.Love is selfish, and it will inevitably be divorced from possessiveness, dominance, and control.I think maybe every friend has encountered wishful and irrational love. It may be that you love desperately, or someone loves you infatuatedly. No matter who is in love with whom, the person who loves more will always I care more, the more I care, the more I pay attention, I worry about gains and losses, and I am suspicious, so I have a lot of unbelievable behaviors, such as always calling to ask the itinerary, and the man is always worried about socializing outside. Also keep calling to interrogate who he is with, go home and check the man's cell phone, and when the man answers the phone, he will ask whether the other party is a man or a woman.In this monitoring state, the loved one is very embarrassed and uncomfortable.The more you don't turn back, the more he feels like sitting on pins and needles. For such a love, in the final analysis, it is a kind of helplessness and a kind of sadness.Although your love is true love, blindness and irrationality will make the result embarrassing, and the result is very unfavorable. It not only creates a burden for the loved one, but also hurts yourself. In the end, it is nothing. .

Some naive women think that as long as you exhaust all your love, you can attract him, get him, and hold him, that is really a big mistake, love cannot be forced, fate, understanding, tacit understanding, tolerance , happiness, are indispensable.Yes, knowing each other is the fate of two people, but fate is not equal to love, let alone tacit understanding and understanding. "I understand you" is not such an easy sentence, please don't say it casually, because if you really understand a person, you will not say it, but do it, and let her be moved in your actions.If you say it, it will make him feel that you are pretending and doing it deliberately for him to see.It is a kind of happiness to be understood by a lover, but it is a kind of sadness to be entangled by a lover!

If you really love someone, then give the other person a happy and peaceful environment, and don’t disturb or even destroy his normal life at will. When a person stubbornly and extremly says how much he loves the other person, he will do ridiculous things for him. Just writing a blank promise, only immature people would do that.Love comes from the heart, it is involuntarily thinking about the lover, it is a decisive action, not words, let alone a guarantee.

There was a popular saying: I love you, nothing to do with you.Love this sentence so much, and end it with this.Your first responsibility is to make yourself happy, and only when you are happy can you make others happy.

4.Do’s and Don’ts in Love

Falling in love is a path that every girl must go through. Not every time she falls in love, she will enter the palace of marriage. When in love, women are often dazzled by love.Especially in today's open society, it is not as conservative as before. When the relationship is right, women will not grasp the scale of dedication and openness, and will suffer a dark loss in the game of relationship between men and women.What should we pay attention to when clearing the road slowly?What you need to know most is what a woman in love can't do.

[-]. Don’t act too smart

Men like stupid girls, so that they can look good.Sometimes when he asks you a question, even if you know the answer, you have to pretend not to know it. When he tells you the answer, you have to look at him with adoring eyes and say, "You are so smart, why am I so stupid? Don’t you know?” In that way, the boy will be very happy in his heart.Occasionally pretending to be confused will play a very good role in relationships.If a woman is too smart, a boy will feel pressure and a sense of urgency.When a woman pretends to be stupid, a man will be very proud.

[-]. Don't be suspicious
In love, many couples break up because of suspicion and suspicion.Trust each other when you are together, don't always ask: "Do you love me?" "You don't love me as much as before!" such a problem.Blindly questioning and doubting will make a man very tired, physically and mentally exhausted.Don't quarrel over a little thing. Nagging every day will make a man very annoying. For example, when he doesn't come home on time or the phone is turned off because of socializing or unexpected accidents, you can express your dissatisfaction in a tactful way. After you explain the whole story, continue to doubt and suspect him according to your little thinking.Remember, smart women never express their suspicions directly.You have to know that any man wants to have a relaxed atmosphere when he is in love, not always in a state of war readiness.

[-]. Don't lie easily

For whatever purpose, never deceive him.As the saying goes: "There is no impenetrable wall", once your lies are seen through by him, no matter good intentions or not, he will lose trust in you.As time goes by, love fades away, and each other will get tired of each other.Even if you are still in love, he will feel insecure about you because of your deception. Even if he doesn't say it, he already thinks so in his heart.

[-]. Don’t be too stingy

As a woman, you must first understand what type of woman your love partner likes, and then develop accordingly to impress his heart.Basically, men like girls who are generous and generous.For those who care about every day, a man will never like this type of woman unless he is himself.You can not be generous, but you must not be too stingy. You must not ask him not to contact any women. This is something that a man cannot do. Even if he loves you again, there is no way not to contact women in society. other women.Smart women never haggle over small things, and of course they are unambiguous about big things.

[-]. Don’t always turn over old accounts
Men or women, no one wants to be poked in the back.The past is in the past, everyone has been young and frivolous, and will inevitably make some mistakes, but since it is the past, and you have chosen to forgive, then you should let go of those unbearable past events, there is no need for anything to happen The thing is to show everything that happened before. If things go on like this, the relationship will come to an end one day.

Six, don't be endless

This request has two meanings. First, don't nag him, just say what you have to say.The second is that when you are angry, don't make endless noises.Women can play a little temper, but men's patience is limited, you need to know this.They are not afraid of a woman with a small temper, and some even think that a woman with a small temper has personality, but they are definitely afraid of a troublesome woman, and they prefer a girl who is easy to coax and laugh.

So don't make endless troubles without reason, and stop playing petty temper.

[-]. Don’t Dedicate Yourself Too Prematurely

Today's society is very open, not as conservative as before.When the relationship is right, a woman will give herself, thinking that this is a must in life.In fact, this is also understandable, but if you give yourself too early, men may treat you as a casual woman.Remember that women should respect themselves and love themselves.When dedicating yourself, please consider, is he worthy of your devotion for him?Have you considered the consequences of the devotion?
In short, women must not be dazzled by love. No matter how much you love him or how affectionate you are, you must grasp the principles and not break the bottom line.Only in this way can we protect ourselves in love.Even if the relationship ends, all is not lost.

5.After falling out of love, don't take revenge on love, and don't abuse yourself

Regarding the separation and reunion of love, we often say a word: it’s easy to get together and easy to part.

But how many people can actually do it.

The love principle of most people is: I would rather bear him than let him bear me!
In the love field, everyone can't stand a little disrespect, especially the little boys and girls who are deeply in love.

Frustration does not distinguish between men and women, and all the things between men and women are all for the word "love".

There are often reports in the media: a girl ruins another woman’s beauty by turning on her rival because of bad love; The paper is full of absurd incidents, and people have to sigh: Love is really harmful!

A woman consulted me like this: "My boyfriend broke up with me, I hate it so much! I don't know how to get rid of the suffocation in my heart! I don't know how to get revenge on him!"

I told her, die this heart.After all, it is someone you have loved. If you treat him like this, it can only be said that you have never truly loved him.

Of course, women's hatred is not without reason.Because human nature is like this, although it is said that there is always a relationship and a relationship, everyone hopes that the right to "break up" is in their own hands.

What I want to say is that love is not a leadership relationship, but a cooperative relationship.Don't always think about whether you can become the number one master in love. Such a love attitude is destined to not have a good ending.Take revenge on anything, don't take revenge on love. When you get old, you will find that if there is any most beautiful memory in life, it is love.Recently, many middle-aged friends around me have tears in their eyes after listening to the song "The Year in a Hurry" by the queen Faye Wong. Recalling the romance back then, whether it was intoxicating or abusive, they are all precious.Those who hate don't hate anymore, those who love still love.

If you insist on revenge, then I tell you, the best revenge is to treat yourself well and forget about him completely.

After a relationship breakup, women who are more ruthless will take revenge on each other, and women who are weaker can only abuse themselves. Bad emotions must be vented, so they will do a series of behaviors that do not respect themselves, such as self-mutilation, getting drunk, going on a hunger strike, and overeating. .These women are so stupid.You have no reason to hurt yourself, because even if you do this, you will not get the other party's change of heart, and will only make the other party happy to leave you, because you are such an emotional extremist, at most you only get some sympathy from outsiders.So dear friends, there is really no need to do this. Don’t punish yourself with other people’s mistakes. Your life belongs to your parents, not to those who hurt you.

That being said, how many women, especially emotional and infatuated women, can let go after being hurt by love?I just hope that you don't sink for too long, don't "muse yourself" too much, and hope that you can save yourself wisely.As the section "To Friends Who Are Broken in Love" says: "Since you know you are broken in love, you must give up immediately."If you simply let go and never care about him again, he will gradually feel that you are noble and respectable.This is also your only chance to win his favor.

It is better to retreat and form a net than to envy fish in Yuanyuan.If you've been able to forget him, that's fine.If you are not convinced, you can also turn grief and anger into strength and work hard in the direction he admires and admires—whether it is knowledge, career, or money.In the end, let him look at you with admiration and make him feel sorry for himself.Climbing high and looking far away, you can see the sky as far as you can see. By this time, with your achievements and height, it is very likely that he is no longer within your sight.

Of course, if you really can't forget and can't let go, then you might as well choose "dancing solo" and "watching", and don't have any accusations, any complaints, any expectations, let alone let him notice, don't give him any hope. With a burden, your heart is like still water, tolerant, and you can cherish, recollect, and bless silently.Just like a sentence I saw in a magazine: "I can finally love him unscrupulously, and it has nothing to do with him." This sentence is so intriguing and full of realms!
6.He may not raise your mouth, but he must "raise" your heart
As in the title, the previous one raises you without quotation marks, of course you understand that it refers to the man's financial ability.And the last "nurture" refers to the degree of harmony between your body and personality.In the words of the trend, it means whether your life interests are on the same "channel".

A man's "support" to a woman is definitely not as superficial as he is willing to throw money at you.He is more thoughtful than you, and can imperceptibly enhance your inner self in daily communication; sometimes you get into a dead end, and he can make you open your heart naturally; His hotness; if your character is like the wind, and he is just like the fire, the wind borrows the power of the fire, and the fire borrows the power of the wind, and you rely on each other to achieve a win-win situation, which can also be interpreted as the fusion of energy and equality.

I have wrongly estimated the lives of others.I have a female classmate in high school who has no characteristics. When I was secretly worried that she would not be able to marry, she was already married.When I was worried that both of them were not very good-looking and how to live with mediocre abilities, her face became more and more radiant.Moreover, there is a particularly beautiful daughter in the family.And look at the man walking beside her, no matter what his appearance or demeanor is, you have to envy him. This man has special energy. He "raised" an ugly duckling into a "white swan" and gave birth to a baby Beauty blank.

This also indirectly answers another question, why some people become beautiful after marriage, while others become ugly.

(End of this chapter)