Calm women are the most elegant

Chapter 25
That day, he got drunk and told her: "You are the only woman he has truly loved in this life, and I want to stay with you forever, and I will never love anyone else." Gentle and sweet, she believed in him and believed in every word he said.

She married him.

After marriage, she loves him more than herself. When he is in trouble, she always helps him analyze everything, gives him ideas, and finds solutions; when he is confused, she enlightens him and tries her best to bring him Give him joy, pull him out of the gloom into a happy embrace time and time again; when he is frowning because of the pressure of work, she helps him decompress, tells him stories, tells jokes, until his face blooms. A happy smile... She gave up all her ideals for him, and only wanted to live an ordinary life with him.She warmed him with her heart, her affection, and melted him with her love.They were happy and deeply immersed in the warmth of love.

But an accident carved a deep rift in the hearts of the two lovers.She hadn't heard from him for several days. She was anxious and missed him day and night, but she couldn't contact him in any way. She was flustered and prayed in her heart again and again that nothing happened to him, definitely not.Whenever night fell, she would sit quietly by the window and wait for his news. Her heart was so disturbed that she couldn't restrain herself, and her tears had dried up. She could only look at the shining stars in the sky foolishly, thinking over and over again that they were in love with each other. Every day together.

One day, her good friend called her and told her that she saw the man with another woman and they were very close.When she heard the news, tears fell gently. She guessed that something must have happened without any news from him these days, but she didn't expect that their relationship would change.She hung up the phone numbly, picked up the photo album, looked at the familiar photos, and looked at the familiar figure in the photos, she choked up.

Three days later he called her and told her he missed her.She didn't expose him, as if nothing happened, because she loved him, she chose to be tolerant.In the evening, as usual, she prepared dinner for him and waited for his arrival.He came and took the initiative to tell her what had happened these days. He told the woman that no one could replace her in his heart, and that he only loved her in his life.The woman believed him and gave him a chance.

Two months passed, and once, he told her he was going on a business trip.But that night she saw him on the street entering a hotel with his arms around another woman's waist.He also saw her, and he wanted to explain something, but he couldn't speak.She was very calm, she didn't cry or curse like other women, she just gave him a faint smile, turned and left.That turning around is a lifetime.At that moment, tears flashed in his eyes, and he knew at this moment that he was wrong, he missed a woman who really loved him and loved him.The matter has come to this point, and he has no way to undo it, and he still said to her: "You are the woman I love the most in my life, even if we are separated from each other, I will miss you forever." But this time, she was no longer tolerant.Resolutely walked out of his world...

Although a calm woman cherishes marriage and love, she is not a fool who forgives blindly.They know where the bottom line is, and know that men don't care, and the world is in chaos.They give men freedom, but they don't let them run amok.

They are well versed in movement and stillness, knowing when to shoot and when to let go.In other words, they are tolerant and tolerant, but they will never tolerate adultery.In the following three situations, they will come hard.

[-]. Never tolerate adultery

"She and I are just playing around, and I still love you!" This sentence is a man's favorite reason. Maybe most women will think, men are always confused for a while.He still has feelings for himself, why should he give up his man to other women.Maybe some women still think that men are like that, as long as he still loves his family, physical cheating is nothing.But wise women don't think so. They know that repeated indulgence will only lead to another betrayal by the man. Men who make this kind of mistake rarely stop their horses from the brink. Forbearance will only make him feel that this is just a trivial matter, far from the point of "must not do it again".

There is an old saying: Once unfaithful, a hundred times will not be tolerated.Women should be more determined, don't let him have a chance to turn back, since his choice is cheating, don't let him have a chance to come back to you.

[-]. Never overflowing with maternal love

Some men are mature, stable, reasonable, and have a good career outside, but they seem to be a different person when they come home, lazy, dependent, and emotionally fragile.A man's excessive demand for love is often the result of a woman's petting.When the wife's maternal love is too excessive and she regards her husband as her first son, the man will quickly adapt to the role of son.It's a pity that this is a mother-child relationship without blood ties. Once the "mother" can't treat him as carefully as before for various reasons, he will feel left out, and even go outside to find warmth, and he doesn't feel at all What's wrong.Such a bad man will tire a woman to death.Smart women have long seen through the inferiority of this kind of man. In order not to be a poor woman who was dumped, they restrained their overflowing maternal love from the very beginning.They will act coquettishly, show weakness and stupidity, and inspire men's fatherly love.These days, whoever acts as an elder will be unlucky.

[-]. Men are never allowed to drive up prices

A man with a successful career is easy to play?In fact, the man is still the same man, it's just that there are too many women who dote on him, and he is happy to circle among the mad bees and butterflies, forgetting the way he came here, forgetting how to write about devotion and innocence.When a group of women rush at the same man with different purposes, which man will not be spoiled?For this kind of man, if you want to be with him forever, you must attack his self-confidence with a strong posture and make him feel that you are different.That's what smart women do.They know that sometimes a man can't have too many good days, and if there are too many, he will be bored and rebellious, so they adopt the method of being hot and cold for him, warming them up and giving them a sense of crisis.Of course, there are certain risks in doing so, but it is better to swallow his anger and continue to spoil him for the rest of his life.

Today, these practices of smart women have been scientifically proven.The results of a new study by the University of Tennessee found that choosing to forgive can destroy the relationship between men and women.Researchers found that when a woman forgives a man easily after he makes a mistake, he is six times more likely to repeat the same mistake.At the same time, these researchers also concluded in another study: the more a woman indulges a man, the less pleasant the relationship with the man will be.

How about it, do you want to learn from smart women and don't forgive easily in marriage?
7.How to break through the blockade of "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship"
Some people say: "The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a pair of natural irreconcilable 'class contradictions', and it is the most difficult equation in the world." The way many daughter-in-laws treat their mother-in-law is to keep a respectful distance away, and to practice that they can't afford to be provoked and can afford to hide. .The high-profile point is the tip of the needle against the wheat, adhering to the concept that either the east wind overwhelms the west wind or the west wind overwhelms the east wind, playing against the mother-in-law.But for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who live under the same roof, hiding is absolutely impossible, and attacking is also invincible. The elderly are old after all.On this issue, how does a calm woman do it?They neither follow blindly nor forcefully, but adopt gentle methods, subtly persuade, intelligently change, and gently rebel.

[-]. A calm woman will think that it is right to honor her mother-in-law

A calm woman adopts a reasonable, beneficial and restrained strategy in everything she does. In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, she must first take care of herself, and they will think that it is right to be filial to her mother-in-law.Although your mother-in-law did not raise you, she did raise your husband, so since you love your husband, you must understand how your son feels about his mother, and respect his mother together with him.You also have parents, if your husband talks back to your parents, would you be happy?So give your mother-in-law more smiles and chat with her more.If you treat his mother well, he will naturally treat your mother well.

[-]. There is nothing wrong with saying ugly words first
Before the mother-in-law comes, you'd better reach a consensus with your husband.Before living with her mother-in-law, many daughters-in-law thought her mother-in-law was good, but they were full of conflicts when they lived together.

First of all, you must know that it is impossible to live without conflicts. Even if you live with your own mother, you will be unhappy sometimes, let alone your mother-in-law?
However, there are some principled things, such as: you can’t get up early, you can’t do housework every day, you and your husband don’t have the concept of men being superior to women, etc., please communicate with your husband before your mother-in-law comes, so that he Tell your mother-in-law about the situation in advance.If in the process of living together, there are some things that you really can't bear, then please don't bear it, let your husband tell your mother-in-law.

[-]. Don’t be too affectionate with your husband in front of your mother-in-law
I have seen this advice to my daughter-in-law a long time ago.Although you think you are used to this way of communication, the elderly are old people after all, and they have traditional ideas. It’s like being in front of outsiders. Being too intimate with your husband is also a kind of disrespect to others. You say it’s your fault. Home, you can do whatever you want, it is true, but there are elderly people living in the home, so you should pay attention to this aspect.

[-]. Take care of your husband’s emotions when making plans

When you encounter matters involving your in-law’s family, especially money issues, you always have to advise your husband, but you must take his emotions into account when you give advice, and you must have skill in speaking. Don't say it directly, you have to reason with your husband tactfully, let her know that you are willing to help but can't help for some reason, and ask for more words of comfort.

Sometimes, you have no way to make decisions about some money. For example, if your father-in-law is sick, even if you don’t give the money, the husband must go around to get money for father’s medical treatment.So since you can't escape, you might as well be more straightforward when taking the money, and show a willingness to hand it over to your mother-in-law. This will not only please your mother-in-law, but also satisfy your husband, and you will be more considerate of you in the future.

(End of this chapter)