Calm women are the most elegant

Chapter 28 Fighting in the workplace, I'm afraid I won't be calm (2)
[-]. Emotional instability and less talking
When people are emotionally unstable or agitated or angry, their intelligence is quite low.Psychological research has proved that when a person is highly emotionally unstable, his intelligence is only 6 years old.When the mood is unstable, what is often expressed is not your original intention, the reason is unclear, and the words are unclear, let alone making decisions. Don't believe the lie of "getting wisdom out of haste".In life and work, there are countless examples of turning against each other because of one sentence, and even causing murder.If you are in a bad mood, it is better not to speak at the time.

4.How to not be nervous when speaking at a meeting

Many women seem cheerful and outgoing, chatting and laughing happily, but when it is their turn to speak in a meeting, they are extremely nervous, which affects their on-site performance and brings unnecessary trouble to work.Those calm female colleagues are always so outstanding. Their words are appropriate, their body language is beautiful, and their opinions and suggestions are expressed seamlessly, which convinces the leaders and colleagues.You can't find a reason to be jealous, you can only be full of admiration or admiration.

You must also want to know how to improve in this area, how to become like Sister Dan Ding, right?

First of all, you must calmly recognize the true face of tension.Nervousness isn't exactly a bad thing. It has positive effects. For example, when you're tense, adrenaline increases, flowing through your entire circulatory system and making your brain more active.So if you can do whatever you want and use your nervousness as a booster for your speech, maybe your live performance will achieve unexpected success!

Most people often do not do enough preparation before the speech, so they don't know what to say and are at a loss when they give a speech.And some famous show stars, as well as household TV hosts, they never violate the rule of adequate preparation and rehearsal.They do a solid job of pitch design, planning, and material preparation beforehand.This is also one of the reasons why they are calm and calm at the scene. The more times you accumulate, the more your reaction ability and on-site performance will be greatly improved.

Next, introduce 6 workplace rules about speeches to you, and teach you to deal with nervousness.

[-]. Prepare speeches in advance within the scope of the situation
If you are not supposed to be speaking or if you are too busy to prepare, you should turn down the invitation to speak.Whoever dares to "defy the law with his own body" will have his reputation suffer.

[-]. Breathe deeply and steadily.

Deep breathing can not only relieve tension through chest expansion and blood circulation, but also achieve the purpose of relieving tension and relaxing the body and mind through the conduction of the nervous system.

[-]. Think about the audience, not yourself.

Be focused when speaking or speaking, keeping your focus on the topic and the audience so you forget about being nervous.Make yourself appear excited and enjoy the talk.Then think about how this speech will improve your reputation, and wow, everything has become so much better.

[-]. If the neck and shoulders feel tense, you can slowly lower your head to your chest, and then gently do a half-circle exercise.Incorporating these movements into your speech as unobtrusively as possible, making it a coordinating movement, will make your performance seamless.

[-]. If you feel dry mouth, bite the tip of your tongue, it will promote the secretion of saliva.You can also keep a glass of water handy to moisten your mouth at any time.If it is not convenient, you can think of sour food in your mind. Vinegar, prunes, grapes, etc. will stimulate your salivation.

Finally, if you don't want to have an accident, then you must be mentally prepared for something to happen.What's the worst that could happen?Talk to someone about your biggest fears.Usually pay attention to accumulating some methods to deal with accidents.In fact, you need to have some trouble, because then you can learn how to work under pressure and accumulate experience that will make you stronger in the future.To understand what troubles you may face and find ways to successfully deal with them:

●A tricky audience who is hostile to you
●Questions that are difficult for you to answer
●Suddenly my mind goes blank

●Someone was booing in the audience

●Sudden failure of electronic equipment

Prepare yourself mentally by pre-planning how to deal with these unexpected troubles, and your presentation skills will improve before you know it.

5.How to skillfully release your "femininity" in the workplace

Due to fierce competition in the workplace, gender differences between men and women are gradually being ignored, and women have almost lost their protected privileges in the workplace.But we have to admit that there are still huge differences between men and women.In the workplace, feminine and attractive women are much more popular than hard-boiled female men, and sometimes they can play a powerful role.

There is such a recruitment story:
A factory recruited factory directors from the society, and a woman in her 40s won unanimous praise from everyone and finally won.Let's take a look at her performance in the application process:

Question: "You are a layman, what do you rely on to manage the factory, and how do you mobilize everyone's enthusiasm?"

Answer: "I don't think I'm an outsider when it comes to managing enterprises. What's more, there are so many cadres and skilled old workers in our factory, and there are many young people who are full of vigor and courage. Please come back and arrange the young people's work, study and life well, so that everyone can work hard, play comfortably, and treat the factory as their own home."

Question: "Our factory is in a downturn. We didn't pay any bonus last year. I asked to be transferred. Can you let me go after you take office?"

Answer: "You asked to be transferred because the factory is not running well. If the factory is run well, I believe you will not leave. If you choose me as the factory director, I will ask you to stay and see if there is improvement in half a year." Say it again."

As soon as the voice fell, the audience immediately burst into applause.

Question: "Now we are talking about reducing the organization and personnel. How many people will be reduced after you come here?"

Answer: "Adjusting the structure of cadres is the general trend. Now there are too many cadres in the department. The reason is that there are few things. If there are too many things, there will be insufficient manpower. After I came, the first purpose was not to reduce the number of people, but to expand business and develop careers. , let every employee have better treatment..."

The male employee immediately perked up.Some said excitedly: "We need a leader who understands us like you!"

Before her, there were many capable men who came to apply for the job, but they were not accepted by everyone. This middle-aged woman in her 40s impressed all the employees with her unique delicacy and affinity, and won this position.

Maybe you are a female executive who complains that leadership cannot be promoted all day long. Maybe as a "airborne soldier" in the workplace, your arrival has been met with collective dissatisfaction and even provocation from male colleagues in the unit. When you suffer from lack of leadership, you may wish to change A way of thinking, give full play to your femininity, and replace toughness with gentleness, which may easily resonate with everyone, especially male colleagues.

The following six details can enhance your femininity in the workplace:

[-]. Gentle and humorous discourse to resolve men's staunch temper

A woman's coquettish and gentle qualities are the best lubricant in the face of conflict.When you disagree with the men in the office, don’t be so anxious to blush and have a thick neck. You should maintain your demeanor, maintain a smile, be calm, and even put on a low profile to resolve the deadlock.Remember, most men are soft but not hard. When you put on a gesture of willingness to compromise, he will often be softened by you first and compromise more thoroughly than you.In addition, women should pay attention to cultivating their own sense of humor, because adding moderate humor at the right time can not only resolve the deadlock, but also eliminate the tension and pressure on both sides.

[-]. Talk about topics that men are interested in, and establish heterosexual friendship

Letting male colleagues pay attention to you and even like you in the workplace definitely has a lot of benefits.When they become friends with you, your various difficulties at work will naturally be solved smoothly because of someone's help.However, this is not about flirting with male colleagues when you have nothing to do, but about keeping a sense of humor and always smiling, so that male colleagues can understand you and appreciate your charm.One of the ways to gain the friendship of a male colleague is to pick a topic that the other party is interested in and you know something about, for example, the European Cup football match, what new cars are at the auto show, and what the stock market is like; The way to build a friendship is to maintain polite physical contact with them.I'm not talking about sexual contact here.

[-]. Praise and encouragement at the right time to break through the opponent's psychological defense

Men like to be praised and admired by women, so don't bury your sweet talk as a woman.When you feel that a male colleague is outstanding, you might as well express your affirmation of him generously. Complimentary sentences such as "You are really good" and "Unbelievable" can give the other party great encouragement and courage, and it is easy to break through the other party's defense line and win the other party's friendship.Don't be stingy with compliments. After a woman's compliment, a man will become more confident, more willing to give, and more courageous to give.The higher your evaluation of them, the better they will perform, and they will be willing to provide you with various services, such as driving you for a ride, helping you get materials, etc., so that you will have more motivation in your work.

It is also a good way to improve the dignity of men by humbly asking for advice from male colleagues.Learn from the people you meet every day, even if they are drivers or subordinates, maintain a high level of interest in the people around you, and create topics that are beneficial to the interaction between the two parties. Men are absolutely happy to solve any problems for you.Men are very strong and like to play the role of caring for others. When you ask them for their opinions, they feel that they are cared for, needed and respected by others, so they are very willing to provide various opinions, and their suggestions are often very useful .This feeling is the most difficult for men to produce each other.Women's weakness is definitely an advantage in the eyes of men, and it is also the best motivation to urge them to work hard.

[-]. Hush and ask, win the trust of men

Emotion is an important link to connect colleagues.As a department head, if you want to gain a good influence, you must put yourself in a good position, treat people with sincerity, move people with affection, and strengthen exchanges and communication with colleagues; you cannot adopt high-pressure policies when dealing with those who hold different opinions , but to be good at listening to other people's opinions, to mobilize the subjective initiative and work enthusiasm of colleagues; Fully feel the luck and excitement of working with you, so that various rewards will follow, such as inviting you to be a female guest and attending a grand annual meeting; giving you full support when you encounter difficulties; Also happy to hear your opinion.The reason is simple, you have always been friendly, you are a trustworthy good woman and a good boss.

[-]. Speak based on work performance and win the admiration of men

Work performance is the weight to measure the quality of a person.Outstanding work achievements are the most convincing, trustworthy and admirable.If you want to make an enviable performance, you must be good at making decisions and being responsible; be good at innovation and be brave in pioneering.Only in this way can the ship of the enterprise withstand the wind and waves, ride the wind and waves, avoid the "dangerous shoal" and "vortex" of commercial wars, hit the water in the midstream, and remain invincible in the tide of the market economy.When you try your best to turn the tide and revitalize the enterprise with impressive performance, your influence will naturally reach the point of "a wave of arms and a crowd of responders".

[-]. Control tears and emotions to win the respect of men

In a male-centered workplace, a woman needs to develop a personal work style that is neither too masculine—cold, stubborn, decisive, aggressive, nor too feminine—feminine, emotional, passive, hesitant. Decision, this is not an easy task.The perception many men have about working women is that they don't know how to control their tears and emotions.Women who express their emotions too directly will make men feel uncomfortable and look down on them. Men will think that women cannot manage themselves and control their emotions well, so the decisions they make are not worthy of trust.If you want to cry loudly, you have the right to do so, but it should be noted that you should cry loudly in front of who, when and where.If you can use the "tear bomb" at the right time and in front of the right men, with tears in your eyes and crying in a low voice, you may be able to win more sympathy and achieve your goals.

6.Be careful when reporting work

If you think that skill and hard work alone will get you ahead in the workplace, you're a little ignorant.Ability and diligence are important, but reporting is more important than hard work.As we all know, it is better to speak well than to do a good job. Reporting to work well, knowing how to say appropriate words at critical moments, and saying appropriate words on appropriate occasions is the decisive factor for success. It will not only make your working life easier, It can even make you famous and rich.

Want to know how smart white-collar women report to work?That's what they usually say and do.

[-]. Deliver the bad news in the most graceful way: We seem to have encountered some situations

Critical moments are inevitable at work. Whenever bad news comes, girls with low emotional intelligence are often at a loss as to what to do. Emergency call for help: "It's not good, the leader, our customer changed his mind temporarily." Or "A certain company took away our customer!" If something goes wrong with such an important matter, if you do this, it is not your responsibility, It will also make your boss question your ability to handle the crisis, and if you fail, you will be scolded and vent your anger on you.

(End of this chapter)