Calm women are the most elegant

Chapter 4 Pale——True water has no fragrance, the essence of femininity is elegance (3)
When many women are not ashamed to talk about sanitary napkins, cheating, contraception and abortion in public, a father warned his daughter: It is very simple for a woman to become noble-she does not have to be a princess , wealthy background, gorgeous costumes, noble education... She only needs to do one thing, and that is to wrap herself tightly like a flower bud.

This father taught his daughter to be reserved and shy.

No matter what age, whether it is the East or the West, for both sexes, as long as a woman is reserved and shy, she will become noble in the hearts of men.

In this world, no one has given an exact definition of nobility, and people can stretch this concept arbitrarily according to the scale of their hearts.It is a prominent background, a noble status, or the wealth of the enemy country, or the beauty of the city, or it is a bronzing dress, a classic hair, and a body full of pearls.But is that really the case?Wang Xifeng has always been wearing sable skins, and she is extremely graceful.When we read novels, we can like this character, and we also think she is smart, witty, cute, and capable, but we never feel that she is noble, because she is acting and calculating every day, and she exudes the habits of ordinary people in her bones, so Jia Mu said She settled down in a naughty way.The same is true for Baochai, although she is dignified and elegant, she is known as the beauty of the country and the fragrance of heaven.But when you see Concubine Yang playing the Butterfly Festival in Dicui Pavilion, you will feel a big discount in your heart. She can stop and listen carefully, or she can change into a show.When he was discovered, he deliberately stepped heavily, looking around and shouting, and at the same time pretending to ask.

The so-called nobility does not refer to wealth and value, because once you strip it off, you will be like others, naked and nothing.

So a wise man said that nobility is a noble quality and a pure spirit.right!Although these abstract words are so ethereal, they are exactly the descriptions of restraint and cleanliness.If you want to be more specific, then look at Soong Ching Ling!Wearing plain clothes, you don’t need to change hundreds of sets of clothes, you don’t need to maintain a slim figure, and you don’t need to talk, just sit there quietly, and you will be a touch of eternal nobility in the wind and cloud of the years.You can't imagine what she would look like if she was wearing a uniform like Jiang Qing, wearing a belt, waving quotations, and holding her head high in front of and behind the scenes.Because there are some things she doesn't do, and some clothes she doesn't wear.

So nobility is deeply rooted, something that grows in the blood, restricts your behavior and limits your thinking.

Nobility is so simple, in ordinary life, it is just shy.It is precisely because of this layer of envelopment and awe that you can't say some things, and you can't do some things. This is where you are superior to others.

But this gap comes from inner determination and good education.

The reason why human beings are nobler than animals is that they put on a coat at the beginning, which is not only for keeping out the cold, but also for covering up their shame.Later, human beings invented toilets, and separated them one by one with baffles, not because they were afraid of smell, but because they were shy.Because it is impossible for people to live without privacy and openness, it is said that shame is the most important factor in determining whether you are a spiritual noble.

The reason why some people can't be noble all the time is because they still have animal thinking in their subconscious, the weak prey on the strong, and they compete with each other, including not only material things but also emotions.The shy flower of civilization is too far away from them.Hemingway said in "True Nobility": "It is not noble to be superior to others. The real nobility should be superior to your past self."

When the Titanic sank, Rosalie, the wife of Strauss, the second richest man in the world, gave up her position to her maid, and took off her fur coat and threw it to the maid: "I don't need it." It's gone!"

This is nobility, she doesn't need to fight for anything, even the most expensive life!Because her legs were restricted by her thoughts, she couldn't take the step of escape, because her life would also mean the death of another person.This kind of shyness is self-discipline, self-love, nature, and an inventory of one's soul.

Remember Zhang Youyi?A woman with "scent in the soul", when Xu Zhimo couldn't wait to pursue personal happiness and liberation and forced her to sign the divorce agreement while pregnant, she calmly wrote her name on the delivery bed.This woman with a prominent family background and a dowry of a train has never questioned him, what is human nature!Nor did he make him pay for his own children.You can pursue your romance as always, you can love and love again.I can also be as plain as water, self-reliant and invincible, silently taking care of your parents, raising your offspring, and even picking up your wreckage.I don't know which is more endearing.

When people saw that the Hiroshima Asian Games ended in Japan, there was not a piece of waste paper in the venue of 6 people, and the whole world began to exclaim that this is a terrible nation.In fact, they only did the most duty-bound things, eating and washing dishes, and flushing the toilet.I say it is not scary at all, because the real horror is that when a person cleans up his remaining material garbage, he also cleans up his spiritual garbage.

The opposite of nobility is neither baseness nor mediocrity.Because most people live a mediocre life, but this does not affect us being our own nobles.The world does not require everyone to touch China, but we can still be ashamed of ourselves.

Life is not a curtain of wind and moon, half-curved poetry; not plain clothes, cotton and linen, you will have the beauty of dust; nor must you have to live near green mountains, with pines and cypresses hanging over your door, to have a Zen mind.Because nobility does not need others to define it, but to be the most loyal self, blooming shyly and proudly in its own spring.

7.Get rid of the vulgarity, don't take money so seriously
I read a story in the newspaper about the art master Mr. Han Meilin: Han Meilin made a painting and gave it to a two or three-year-old child. The child went back happily and quickly brought the painting back for him Han Meilin signed it, and asked him why he signed it, and the child said, "This painting is only valuable if you sign it!"

It's really sad that such a young child has been seriously affected by money worship, has deformed values, and lost his innocence and cuteness prematurely.

Children who are greedy for money are not cute.The same is true of money-hungry women.

Nowadays, it is popular for women to cry in BMW cars, and despise laughing on bicycles.I really can't think of a woman who talks about money with elegance.

Our magazine also had a blind date column for a period of time.That day, a woman came to ask for marriage.

My first impression of her was pretty good.

Like me, she was wearing soft cotton Chinese clothes.Although slightly fat, but without losing the outline, the facial features are also very classical.With her hair tied up, she looks very gentle and pleasant.The family conditions are also very good. A Beijing woman, her parents own a house, and she herself owns two houses.I always feel that with her conditions, it is easy to find the best husband, and I even think she is the most competitive among this group of girls seeking marriage.So I immediately thought of a very refined and successful man and wanted to introduce her to her.

Who knew that when she opened her mouth, it would surprise me.She couldn't wait to come up and asked, "Tell me what car he drives?" I hesitated and said, "It seems to be a Renault."

"Then can you tell me what the car logo is? I can guess his worth." She asked.

I laughed in my heart, because this man spoke first, and any woman who came up to inquire about her worth would be exempt from talking.He wants to find a wife who doesn't value money so much.

From the outside, this woman is indeed very elegant, but inside, she is indeed a bit lower.

There is nothing wrong with women pursuing wealth and success and wanting to live a prosperous and prosperous life, but if money worship is serious, profit-seeking, and money is too important and too explicit, it will often be ugly.Especially pinning the dream of wealth on men and using men as money-making machines is even more vulgar.

Around us, there are rich but ugly women.They are full of luxury, and there are countless RVs, but they are not elegant at all.

The wife of Qi Huogui, the former party secretary of Dongfang City, Hainan Province, Fu Rongying, was originally the president of the Dongfang Branch of the Bank of China. She was rich and powerful.But she is greedy and obsessed with money. With the power in her husband's hands, she has amassed more than 6 million yuan in six years, and her family wealth exceeds 1300/1 of the annual income of Dongfang City.

The daughter-in-law of Liu Fangren, the former Secretary of the Guizhou Provincial Party Committee, was already a wealthy man, but she often "enlightened" her father-in-law, who held great power, "Think about your children, not yourself."There is a lot of money, but two generations are imprisoned.

Jiang Yanping, who was dubbed by the media as "Sanxiang's No. 3 Female Corruptionist", was promoted from Qing Yun, a warehouse manager, to a leading cadre at the deputy department level.But she was still not satisfied, and she embezzled more than 1000 million yuan of money in three years, and she was finally killed in Jiuquan because of her insatiable desire.

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Are these women rich?rich!Is it elegant?Not elegant!

(End of this chapter)