Calm women are the most elegant

Chapter 6 Concentration—A woman with concentration has charm and vitality (1)
An elegant woman must be a woman with determination.The so-called concentration is a kind of sincerity to what one loves, needs and needs, a kind of clarity about life and life goals, a kind of calmness and ease in dealing with what one encounters, a kind of calmness and composure to one's experience, and a kind of perseverance that persists despite twists and turns. Do not change the original intention.They have clear goals in life, open minds, independent personalities, and independent financial support.

On the road of life, they are free and easy flowing water.

Such a woman is a woman with a strong heart.

1.Only when a woman is determined in her heart can her charm last forever
I have been thinking about why some women just sit there without saying a word, but amaze the whole world.

For example, Sophie Marceau who is not afraid of aging and refuses marriage, such as the decent and calm Zhong Chuhong, such as Maggie Cheung who is so beautiful through the vicissitudes of life.They are all goddesses.They frustrate time.

Because they are determined.

The key to identifying a goddess lies in whether you are determined or not.

In order to better understand the meaning of determination, let me first tell a story about determination of a man.

Mingyue, the author of "Those Things in the Ming Dynasty", started reading ancient books since the second year of junior high school, and insisted on reading for a few hours every day. Except for a two-month stop during the college entrance examination that year, the rest of the days were unshakable and continued to read.Finally, after many years, I have accumulated a lot and written a good work.

This is not a particularly trendy inspirational story, but there are two things that moved me: first, it is conceivable that before Mingyue became famous, she must have lived an ordinary life like all of us. He is outstanding, but he can suddenly become a blockbuster one day. This is neither due to competition nor luck, but to rely on his own hard work. Over time, he has finally achieved a qualitative change from a quantitative change.It turns out that no matter how ordinary people are, they all have the ability to change their lives. The only difference is how long you can persist in obscurity.Borrowing the iconic words from Zuoan Reading: All success comes from accumulation.What moved me even more was a sentence that Mingyue said in an interview that year, to the effect that at that time, because I was reading history books every day, "I hardly had any friends, but because I was accompanied by books, I felt very strong inside."

Many years ago, Mingyue must have been a determined person who dared to go his own way.

No friends, this includes not only having no bosom friends but also no drinking and meat friends who eat and drink together. In other words, he can only live with loneliness in his daily life.Apart from the few saints we are familiar with, how many people can bear this state for many years?Without friends, this is the number one disaster in the world for many lively modern women!You might as well imagine an ordinary woman around you. Her life should be like this: eating, shopping, chatting, karaoke, disco, clubbing, and even going to the toilet with her friends; if she is bored, she must Will call her girlfriends, chat with men and gossip about clothes and men for an hour or two, and if she happens to have a fight with her boyfriend, the chat time will be doubled; she gets together with her friends, The content of the chat must include backbiting and all kinds of gossip in the entertainment industry; also, this woman can't be too good, because "a tree is beautiful in the forest, and the wind will destroy it", if you are too outstanding, then no matter what you do No matter how good you are, you will definitely be squeezed out by other women for various reasons. If you happen to be a little arrogant, then you are likely to be "rectified".

So, what a terrible state it is to have no friends. No one will accompany you to eat, chat and go to the toilet. Your happiness and sadness are all your own business. Your pastime is to relieve loneliness, and your pleasure is to talk to yourself. What's more, you and the people around you seem to be separated by a transparent wall, close at hand but far away.You are alone on the side of the wall watching them bustling, but here, there is nothing.

Because of this fear, most women are walking the road with the same scenery, without too much loneliness and twists and turns, but also without flowers and surprises.

Many women are ruined because they are not sure enough. They fail because they can't stand other people having what they don't.She had to have a boyfriend if others had a boyfriend, even if it wasn't suitable, she had to find someone hastily.If other people have marriage, she must also have marriage, even if her ambition is not here, she should not be left behind.She has to find a job that is similar to other people's high-paying jobs, even if she doesn't like doing that kind of job at all.In these comparisons with others, I forgot my dreams and lost my direction.Even if you have money, you are not happy.How can a person be happy without independent thinking and inner life?

If you are a woman with dreams, please don't be afraid of being too independent.Didn't you say that women are like flowers?No flower of any kind can replace another, and neither are flowers of the same kind.Some people say that beauty is beautiful because it cannot be replaced by anything.The same is true of a beautiful life. No one can replace you. To be yourself is to choose your unique beauty.

Excellence is a habit. Instead of deliberately hiding yourself too much to cater to everyone, it is better to let everyone get used to your continuous excellence.There is a price to be paid for being unique, and if it is for being better, then this price is worth it.Even if you "have no friends", you may not be lonely, painful or afraid, because at this time your "inner heart is very strong".And it is this kind of strength that will give you a steady stream of strength, enrich you, and lead you to success step by step.

However, having said that, blindly being independent is not necessarily the highest level of life, because such a maverick is probably just a performance to flaunt one's own personality.Such "uniqueness" is just another superficial shell.

I think that the real maverick should be low-key and quiet, and this kind of maverick radiates a kind of light like a night walk in brocade clothes.You clearly know what you want and work hard for it, and no one or anything outside is enough to shake your course; you move forward silently and do not show off your progress to others; you don't care about others' judgments, Ask only if you are full of heart; you are silent and humble, knowing that the ordinary is worthy of awe; you make no one a god, and you don't want to be anyone's god.

Determination refers to your heart, which is calmer than anyone else.You dare to be different.Don't be afraid of the consequences of being a maverick, just like the maverick pig in Wang Xiaobo's works did not die under the butcher's knife in the end, but grew fangs and ran happily and independently in the wilderness.To be a maverick woman, even if you "have no friends", but in your strong heart, there will be constant applause, flowers, and honey.

2.With dreams in mind, women with dreams are the most honorable
These days, when talking about ideals with women, it’s easy to be blindsided, and even questioned, "Are you sick?" Most of them will coolly and disdainfully say to you: "Don't talk about dreams with sister, sister quits."

They quit their dreams and are busy with things that they think are important and practical to them, such as engaging in popular industries, finding jobs that make more money, fishing for rich husbands, and sacrificing all of themselves to maintain their marriages.

Women always think that they are very smart and sensible, but in fact, what a sad thing this is.The passion generated by dreams is the preservative film of life. If you give up your dreams, your beauty and talent will become water without a source, a tree without roots, and ugliness and aging will haunt you from then on.

A woman with a dream is beautiful.

Regardless of your appearance, beauty or temperament, whether you are a fashionable mature woman or a budding bud, if you have a dream in your heart, you must be the most beautiful woman.

I also thought of the heart-pounding article I read a few days ago-"Can I Hug You?" "

On the first day of school, after the professor introduced himself, he asked each student to take the initiative to make a new friend. When I looked around the car week, someone tapped me on the shoulder: "Hi, handsome guy, my name is Rose, I am 87 years old, I can give you a hug?"

I laughed and replied enthusiastically: "Of course." She really hugged me tightly.

I jokingly asked her: "You are so 'young', why do you come to college?"

She replied mischievously: "I'm going to come here to catch a rich man, have a few children, and then retire and travel around the world."

At the end of the term, Rose was invited to speak at a dinner hosted for us.After the host introduced her to everyone, she walked towards the podium in small steps.Just as he was about to speak, the script in his hand accidentally fell to the ground.For a few seconds, she looked annoyed, but soon she said into the microphone: "I'm sorry, I like to drop things recently. I wanted to have a glass of beer, but I drank a glass of whiskey. I didn't expect that." The stuff is killing me. It seems that I can’t remember what I prepared, so let’s talk about the things I’m most familiar with.”

In the midst of everyone's laughter, she cleared her throat and said: "I will not stop entertaining because of old age, there is only one secret to keep people young forever - happy and successful! You must always laugh and have a good sense of humor .”

At the end of that year, Rose finally finished her college studies.A week after graduation, she passed away peacefully in her sleep. More than [-] classmates attended her funeral.People came together to pay tribute to this lovely woman who taught by example.

After watching it, my eye sockets are moist...a woman in her 80s, in the realization of her dream, finished her beautiful and happy life with a smile. Such a woman is beautiful, such a life is worth living, and such an ending is perfect of.Women's dreams are like stars shining in the night sky, with a mysterious halo.In order to realize your dream, you will continue to work hard to innovate, you will be full of confidence, you will use various methods to enrich yourself, and use various abilities to prove yourself.They grow up in perfection, become stronger, more persistent, more confident, and stay young forever.

Dreams are not far away, they can be varied, different women have different dreams, and women of different ages also have different dreams.Abstractly speaking, it is just a kind of hope, a vision, a kind of spiritual sustenance, or a beautiful and romantic fairy tale.Therefore, everyone can dream.

Speaking of the ordinaryness and equality of dreams, I think of a woman in my hometown.That happened when I was a teenager. One year during the Spring Festival, I heard a knock on the door. When I opened the door, there was a "blessing" person standing at the door—a 60-year-old man who gave I have a small piece of red paper with the words "God of Wealth" and "God of Kitchen" printed on the red paper.She said some words of blessing, I hurried to call my mother, and my mother gave her two yuan, I was surprised by her generosity.

Mom said, this is a poor woman, but also a strong woman.The woman's husband left four daughters due to illness and passed away.The daughters are very competitive and have good grades in school.Women can't bear to let their children drop out of school, so they "give blessings" to people during the Spring Festival every year, mainly to prepare a little tuition and living expenses for their daughters.The eldest daughter is about to graduate from a normal school, and the woman's life will be easier.The age of the woman is actually not very old, less than 50 years old.

When I saw a woman again, it was the spring of the 90s.A neighbor in my hometown got married, and I accompanied my mother to the wedding banquet, and happened to be sitting next to that woman, who was a relative of our neighbor.When everyone ate meat, she secretly wrapped the meat in a handkerchief.I was a little surprised, suddenly, I understood that she was going to leave this meat to her daughter.When I was moved, I quickly picked up the meat and quietly gave it to her. She was very grateful and said some words of thanks.

The last time I saw a woman was in the autumn of 2004, and I was already working in Beijing.A fellow villager told me that the woman's youngest daughter went to Tsinghua University and stayed in Beijing to work after graduation. Recently, the youngest daughter took her mother over.I had the urge to go see her.

When I meet a woman, she feels younger and in good spirits than she was ten years ago.Seeing people from her hometown, she immediately opened up the conversation box.

She said that with the support of many folks, several daughters have made great achievements.When the eldest daughter was taking the exam, the whole family gave her the best food. In fact, she ate an extra egg every day in the last month of the college entrance exam.The same is true for the second, third and fourth daughters when they take their school exams.The financial burden of the eldest daughter's schooling is mainly on the shoulders of women.The burden of going to school for the second daughter is mainly borne by the eldest daughter.When the third daughter goes to college, the second daughter can help the eldest daughter share part of the financial pressure, and the condition of the younger daughter is even better when she goes to college.In this way, the ups and downs came all the way.As she spoke, she shed tears. She said that she thanked everyone from the bottom of her heart. When her four daughters went to school, the neighbors gave them timely help. She was even more grateful to the times and society. very happy.What made her even more overjoyed was that she was nearly 70 years old, and she realized a new feeling about life.

Now, I think she must be better off.All the good things come from the dream of an ordinary woman.A woman with a dream is a strong woman.

Every dream brings tears to my eyes.Be a woman with a dream, no matter whether the dream will come true or not, you will find a different dream in the process of chasing the dream, in the alternation of the sun and the moon, and in the cycle of each flower blooming and withering. , a more beautiful self.Don't let the busy days blur our true desires, and don't let the passing time bury our dreams.From now on, please pick up paper and pen, make a dream list for yourself, and reawaken the pursuit of dreams.

learn to cook a few dishes
Learn to make up and dress up

Watch a meteor shower with your lover, or watch an epiphyllum bloom, wait and share that beautiful moment together

return to childhood

See the sea at least once and make good memories
Write a love letter to your loved one

buy myself a small house, and be alone now and then
travel to your favorite place
give a speech in public

Find lost friends from the past, including your first love
Find the person who hurt you, tell him with a smile, you are living happily now
……

Make a list of your dreams, and post it where you can see it every day and start your dream journey!

3.A persistent and persistent woman is a saint
"Men come and go, but women are always here." This is the narration of an episode of "Sex and the City".I want to change it to:
Dreams come and go, but women are always here.

Women are born to dream, but women are not born to stick to their dreams.Therefore, there are many ugly women who make do with life, but few good women who live seriously.

Dreams become sacred when they are acted upon.Similarly, in this process, women who chase their dreams will also become beautiful and elegant.A woman who insists on her dream, that kind of resolute firmness after a clear direction, that kind of inner persistence that never changes her original intention after suffering, will make her heart full of powerful heart energy, her whole body exudes a charming atmosphere, and her eyes are firm And pure.

In recent years, I have been deeply "in love" with a woman.

Don't get it wrong, it's not a lesbian, it's just the kind of admiration a woman has for a woman.

I first met her eight years ago.

Coincidentally, at that time, I had a blue-faced confidant, who couldn't resist the literary bacteria in my heart, bid farewell to the work in the system of my hometown, and went to Beijing to become a North drifter and run an advertising company.Just started, the company is very small, only three people.She was one of them, the copywriter.

Under the recommendation of this blue face, I met her.He said that the company has a "wonderful flower", with more personality and talent than me.I was quite unconvinced at the time, but after meeting and chatting, I was willing to bow down. She is a quiet person, and she doesn't even say hello to strangers.

Over the years, the company's personnel have come and gone, the office has moved and moved, the partners have changed and changed, and the business content has been adjusted and adjusted.Iron-clad battalions and flowing soldiers, the workplace is full of changes, but she alone stands forever.

She said that she hit it off with the leader, and it would be nice to work together.

She has no interest in salaried positions, she says it's good to support herself.

(End of this chapter)